Forum posts made by highdesert

Topic Want to watch your wife fuck another man?
Posted 26 Jan 2014 15:50

A very long time fantasy of mine. We did have a 3some once, but everyone was really drunk. Would love to do it again but I don't know that will happen especially since we now have 2 children. A guy can dream. In reality, I like every fantasy of this I can think of. Sharing my wife. My wife and I sharing a cock. Me being cuckolded. Simply sitting back and watching my wife submit to another... I can't think of a scenario that doesn't appeal to me when it comes to another man...

I sometimes wonder if I should seek counseling, but it's not really something that bothers me, though I wonder if it should.

Topic "Sensual" massage?
Posted 09 Mar 2013 09:03

Clearly, from the number of questionable massage parlors and the number of ads on backpage and craigslist, many many people go to get sensual massages. If you have gone/do go, what has been your experience? Did you get a legitimate massage followed by a handjob? Did it really just feel like you had hired an escort who was rubbing your back for the first half of it? Mutual touch? Nudity? Nuru?
If you were in a relationship, did you feel like you were cheating?

I've never gone, not sure I would/could, lots of my buddies go... I am intrigued.

Topic girls whom don't like the taste of your cum, do you offer a spit bucket?
Posted 20 Feb 2013 07:26

I don't think I'd want a sexual relationship with a female with that kind of hangup. I mean, can you imagine if your guy didn't like the taste of pussy? Pretty ridiculous if you ask me, and just unlady like. Spitting is just plain mean.

Topic Cumming on her face
Posted 20 Feb 2013 07:20

I don't think it is really specifically the face, though that is often the reality. I think it's really more the idea that our orgasm is so amazing for both of us that I, the male, want to cover the female from head to toe in it and that the female wants to be completely covered in it. It's only hot if the female in question wants it though. My wife will sometimes ask me to. If you don't like it for one reason or another, just act like you don't and that should do the trick.

Topic Things in the ass, aye or nay?
Posted 19 Feb 2013 03:26

All's fair in love... I'll take whatever she'll give me, as long as it's no larger than mine, 'cause I'm not small and ouch.

Topic Anal?
Posted 19 Feb 2013 03:17

If you wouldn't watch a woman make a bowel movement then why the hell would you wanna fuck her in the ass? 1) Not lady like imo 2) Hopefully the stress that you put on her anal structures doesn't cause her to shit her panties in a family restaurant later on in life when aging and health become factors. Blunt, but hey these are thing to take into consideration.

I'd watch a woman do just about anything. I am perfectly fine with bisexual sex, why wouldn't I want to fuck my wife in the ass? She thinks it's erotic to balance on pain like that, to only be released, both literally and figuratively, to the kind of outwardly taboo carnality that only intense sex can create.

Anal get's you there out of it's very taboo nature. She has orgasmed from anal sex alone. Other times not, but I believe she enjoys the feelings of submission. She has been dp'd and I think that was just a step further.

For some of us, we're trying to create the butterflies and intense horniness we had the first time we were sexual. Notice I didn't say the first time you had sex. It could be as simple as the first time you ever touched a breast, a pussy, or a penis. That was a pretty incredible feeling. Anal sex, due I'm sure, in part to my own culturally accepted notions of sex, is taboo and can take me back to a feeling of experimentation.

Sex alone can be great and fun, but experimentation and the taboo are exhilarating with a touch of recklessness.

And it's tighter (for the first few minutes at least) and feels great, and different.

Topic Anal?
Posted 19 Feb 2013 03:12

If you wouldn't watch a woman make a bowel movement then why the hell would you wanna fuck her in the ass? 1) Not lady like imo 2) Hopefully the stress that you put on her anal structures doesn't cause her to shit her panties in a family restaurant later on in life when aging and health become factors. Blunt, but hey these are thing to take into consideration.

I'd watch a woman do just about anything. I am perfectly fine with bisexual sex, why wouldn't I want to fuck my wife in the ass? She thinks it's erotic to balance on pain like that, to only be released, both literally and figuratively, to the kind of outwardly taboo carnality that only intense sex can create.

Anal get's you there out of it's very taboo nature. She has orgasmed from anal sex alone. Other times not, but I believe she enjoys the feelings of submission. She has been dp'd and I think that was just a step further.

For some of us, we're trying to create the butterflies and intense horniness we had the first time we were sexual. Notice I didn't say the first time you had sex. It could be as simple as the first time you ever touched a breast, a pussy, or a penis. That was a pretty incredible feeling. Anal sex, due I'm sure, in part to my own culturally accepted notions of sex, is taboo and can take me back to a feeling of experimentation.

Sex alone can be great and fun, but experimentation and the taboo are exhilarating with a touch of recklessness.

And it's tighter (for the first few minutes at least) and feels great, and different.

Topic Where do you look for porn...with some plot
Posted 19 Feb 2013 01:21

So, not the kinda stuff that is 50% lesbians and the other 50% is soft core. My wife wants the hardcore straight sex, anal, dp, facials...you name it. She would just like some actual descent plot to go along with it. And I feel for her. I'd like it to. But I just have lower standards and I can get turned on when the wind blows a certain direction.

So the real question: When is Dancing Doll going to open a production company?

Topic Are breast implants a turn-off or turn-on?
Posted 15 Sep 2012 05:47

Not only do I find it a turn-off, and no I would never sleep with that person because of it, but I don't that I'd much want to be friends with a person so vein as to modify their body in such a way. I really think they are revolting and the women who get them are pretty damn ugly on the inside.

Topic Circumcission
Posted 02 Sep 2012 09:03

Sorry if this is a little less of a turn-on forum topic, but it could really help me out..

So... I am circumcised and my son, 2, is not. I am starting to teach him how to clean himself and he is becoming pretty aware of penises, coming into the bathroom when I am showering or taking a leak and pointing at mine, saying "penis" and then at his and saying "same!!!!" (just kinda cute)

We didn't for the whole abuse/nature argument, but now I am having second thoughts after reading some of the posts on the threads in the ladies forum. So some questions for those that are not circumcised...

Have you had any health related issues because you are not circumcised?
Have you had woman be turned off or on by it?
Do you wish you were circumcised?

And for those that are... I am a little disappointed that my mother and father made the decision to do that to me. Do you feel the same? Do you not give it any thought? Do you think it is an advantage or disadvantage for any reason?

Topic circumcised or uncircumcised?
Posted 02 Sep 2012 07:35

This has me thinking. My son is uncircumsised and I am circumsised. He is 2 now, and sees me in the shower often because he is curious and actively seeks both me and my wife out. He even looks at me and points and says "penis", looks down and points and says "same!". Kind of cute really. In any case, we didn't for the whole natural/abuse reasons, but this is going to be an awkward subject to broach pretty soon. Of course my wife and I are responsible for keeping him clean right now, but obviously, and I never really realized it until reading this thread, some special care will be necessary for my little man. God I hope he finds a woman that doesn't give a shit or even finds that a turn on. It's weird to think about your 2 year old sons future sex life, but a boy's/man's own penis-awareness is an enormous part of their own self-awareness especially in their teenage years.

Topic How do you make a guy cum when you're giving him head?
Posted 10 Aug 2012 04:45

I can only speak to what I like... so. I definitely enjoy the feeling of deep throat or at least an attempt at it. I also enjoy the feeling of control of holding her hair, and luckily my wife likes that, though one of my exes did not at all. Including the balls in some (careful) massaging, including the pud as well. Suck, stroke with the hand, massage the scrotum...

But nothing makes up for enthusiasm and a woman that you can tell REALLY wants to get you off with her mouth. I have talked about it with MANY men, and we can tell when a woman wants nothing else than to have your cock in her mouth and when she is just doing it to be nice. Now, I have been able to get off from the later, but I certainly prefer it when the giver loves what they're doing.

Topic Roleplaying scenarios
Posted 05 Aug 2012 20:57

I appreciate the responses so far. Most of the scenarios she likes are one's of her being dominated by an older man, with her playing the 18-21 yo. Unfortunately does not watch porn, but it's interesting hearing that women might not be into fantasizing quite like guys do because the only porn she ever will watch is very specific. Needs to have a plot. Needs to have two men and one woman. Needs to have DP... We acted on that once but not since then, mostly because of her reluctance to peruse on the internet (which I totally get, I really do, and I don't push her on it at all). Trying to fulfill that fantasy can be exceptionally awkward and difficult. Maybe it will happen again. Maybe not.
But back to roleplaying. I think I was not quite specific enough. She likes roleplaying, or at least so it seems, plenty, but she just does not have the ideas for scenarios. Luckily for me, mine have sufficed for the last 12 years. That being said, I worry that my imagination alone is not enough to keep us both interested for the rest of our days. I only look to guidance here for the possible muse that I might need to create scenarios that are specifically arousing to women in general, and therefore, hopefully, my wife as well.

I know, everyone's different, and there are women out there that like to be choked and spit on til orgasm, just as there are men out there that need a cheese grader or a stilleto to the balls to cum. And there are men and women out there that will be FULLY sexually satisfied for their whole lives having sex with only one person in the same position, with little foreplay. I only hope that's not my wife and she simply does this kinda crap to satisfy me....

Topic Roleplaying scenarios
Posted 05 Aug 2012 08:23

So, maybe once a month or so, my wife and I put aside a couple of hours for roleplaying and sex. This is one of my favorite things to do sexually. The one thing that's troublesome is that I am always the one to come up with the scenario... It's not that I mind really, it's just that she "doesn't really have any imagination" or so she says...

About a month ago we were watching the showtime series "Hung". Not a bad show, not my favorite, but interesting. The premise is a very well endowed newly single male PE teacher in incredibly good shape that NEEDS money to be able to keep his house. He ends up in bed with a woman that thinks she can put his talents to good use... Ok ok, so what. Well at one point a client complains to his "pimp" that he did not provide her with her chosen fantasy. The "pimp" says that "that's a male fantasy, not a woman's fantasy" as if he is supposed to know the difference.

So, what is a woman's fantasy and what's the difference? I know I should be able to figure this out, but I have a high sloping brow and am less than adept at such subtleties. Sure I could go on the rest of my days playing out scenarios where my wife is the young woman applying for a personal assistants job, or the student that got caught masturbating in the locker room and I'm the principal. She says she likes those and that's great, but I want to make sure that at least some of the time I am coming up with scenarios that appeal to the female libido, even though I feel like she should be able to do that on her own... In any case, any help would be more than welcome.

Topic Tied Up
Posted 29 Jul 2012 01:56

I'll try anything once, twice if I don't hate it. Never really participated much in bondage anything. And I am usually dominant in bed, so it would be a departure, but still, I would give it a go. As far as who, my wife, but she's not a lushie.

Topic slim petite women/girls
Posted 29 Jul 2012 01:54

Never really been into it. My wife is voluptuous, and was even more so (she's lost about 30 lbs.) when I met her. Most of the women I find attractive are voluptuous. Not to say that I can't find a petite woman attractive, but it's certainly not my ideal. I like a woman that screams "FERTILE". Not that I am obsessed with impregnating (I only have one kid) but I think my instinct does play a big role in what I find attractive. To each their own. If we all liked the same thing, that would suck for everybody.

Topic Do you men find woman menstruation a turn on or does it turn you off?
Posted 11 Jul 2012 04:23

I used to simply deal with it in the interest of having sex, but after a couple of years of issues my wife had with different birth control pills, I developed what's best described as a phobia of having blood on my dick. It sucks, and I worry that my wife thinks that I find her revolting during that time of the month, but it's really not her... It's me, and the sight of blood on my dick.

Topic Watching your wife/partner with another man
Posted 08 Jul 2012 06:28

Yes, Yes, and Yes.

Topic Do you like a girl that watches porn?
Posted 08 Jul 2012 06:20

Probably the single biggest disappointment in my wife's and my sex life is the fact that I love porn and she detests it. It sucks donkey balls.

Topic A FFM threesome in a LTR good or bad idea?
Posted 08 Jul 2012 06:17

Just because I would love to have my wife and her 3 best friends take turns blowing me until I cover all of them with 10 gallons of my cum doesn't mean that i expect it to happen. Just start letting him know that you really don't think you could do it.

Topic Eating a girl???
Posted 08 Jul 2012 06:08

Both. I like it because she loves it. I also like exploring her body with my fingers. Nothing is really taboo in my sex life any more except if she doesn't gain pleasure from it. If she likes it, so do I and vice versa.

Topic Would You Be Prepared For The Long Haul?
Posted 08 Jul 2012 06:02

Never have said anything hurtful about looks per se. But onto the bigger question, I probably would not be around long enough to find out. People's worth is, in large part, defined by their own feelings of self worth. That doesn't mean that I want some uppity bitch, but to try and be with someone with no self confidence would be out of the question, no matter what she looked like. I have been with a number of exceptional looking women (my wife is one of them... YEAH!) as well as some not so exceptional. The one's that were not great looking had great big personalities and a lot of confidence.

Back when I was a teacher, there was a new 3rd grade teacher that I and ALL of the other male teachers had a crush on. She had big beautiful 22 yo breasts, but other than that... not much going on,and I mean that her body was so-so, and her face...meh. The personalty on her though... confident but modest, a bit sassy, super nice and a touch flirtatious. She also just had the air about her that she would be very easy to make the transition from conversation to making out with. My good friend ended up dating her for a number of years and they recently broke up. She has 0 problem with guys, and it's all in the personality.

Topic Question for the "straight" guys
Posted 08 Jul 2012 05:53



he said blow job dear...not anal sex a.k.a sodomy

The biblical and legal definition of sodomy (of sodom) is sexual activity that can not result in procreation. Fellatio, cunnilingous, anal sex, manual foreplay... you name it.

Topic If your man doesn't satisfy you, would you tell him?
Posted 08 Jul 2012 05:34

To those that have tried to no avail... good God, I am so sorry. That sucks. I am of the personal opinion that if he isn't doing it for you and doesn't care about your pleasure, you have every right to get it elsewhere, whatever that may entail.

I don't know how this is not an ongoing dialogue in just about every relationship. How does a couple keep things fresh and interesting if they don't talk about sex and their desires often?

Topic Threesome question
Posted 08 Jul 2012 05:20

I personally have no hangups on the issue, already done the MMF thing once and would really like to do it again, accept much more sober this time.

I think a good place to start would be in the bedroom with a dildo... ask him to use it on you as your giving him head. If a dp is your desire, then go that route. Get his mind open to the idea. Start reading stories about it or watching porn that features two guys. Bring it up after he already has a clue that it's coming.

Topic MILFS
Posted 01 Jun 2012 06:27

I'm always more than a little surprised when younger guys profess an interest in me as a MILF.
To be honest I cant understand why.
Is it the fantasy that turns you on, and when or if you were given the opportunity to live out the idea of being with a ' MILF' would a younger man really want to be with someone whos certainly not in the first flush of youth?. Pregnancy does things to a womans body the least of them being stretch marks and please dont even begin to talk about what breast feeding does to the perkiness of breasts. :)

So for all those guys who put up their hand and say "yes Please" when the word Milf is mentioned how many of you are actually reacting to the fantasy versus the reality of being with an older woman?

Man oh man. Someone needs to get down there and worship you for a while. My wife has stretch marks and I already commented on the tatas, but I think she looks fantastic, and judging from your pics, so do you.

Something else that I haven't seen come up is a MILFS willingness to please. And no I am not talking about being subserviant. They have had to (for most anyway) dote on a little one for hours and hours every day, tending to their every need. My wife has become much more affectionately pleasing ever since my son started sleeping predictably. Not only has her sex drive gone up, but she finds more and more pleasure in pleasing me. YEAH!

Topic MILFS
Posted 01 Jun 2012 06:15

hello1 After a woman has a child, she has shown the world that, not only does she look fertile, she is fertile. It's not that moms are more attractive, but moms are more attractive than they would be otherwise because they're moms.

I have experienced this with my own wife. She's back to her pre-baby weight and she is fucking hot. Sure, the boobies sag a little more now... but she's whipped herself into shape nicely and get's lots of attention. She has reported getting far more attention when she's out with our son than she ever got alone.

Then again, my sister in-law takes my son out sometimes and reports the same, so, again, not the woman herself, more what the child represents.

Yeah MILFS!hello1

Topic Why are you covering up your keister?
Posted 01 Jun 2012 06:08



Don't worry, it isn't always so, just when I'm having 'one of those days', you know, the ones where a girl'll look in the mirror and announce 'I look fat'.

Today I'm wearing a shirt tied up (got a new naval piercing to show off, dont you know!) and tight tight jeans - it's alright guys, crisis averted! It's all okay for today!

Maybe I'm alone on this, but big hips are evidence of a woman's fertility and overall ability to have children. In the end, that's what we as men are programmed to look for. To me, it's damn hot.

My wife is big hipped. I love them. Besides, something to grab hold of when going at it from behind.bates

Topic How important is a man's height?
Posted 01 Jun 2012 05:57

I have a dear friend that is 5'4" and seems to be on the same boat as Damon's. But with this friend it's hard to say what came first, chicken or egg. He is short so he has a low self esteem. He's short and has low self esteem, so he rarely gets laid or gets dates. He has a low self esteem so he has never tried to get a good job, so, at 30 yo, he still lives at home. He doesn't have a good job, and he still lives at home... so he rarely gets laid. And it snowballs. I love the guy. Have known him most of my life, but it can be a downer going out with him.

I am 5'8" on a good day. My wife is 5'7". I think it was a combo of a descent enough face and a ridiculous amount of confidence that ever got me laid in my single years. At this point I am successful in my chosen career and get attention from women for that alone. I would bet that if I was even an inch or two shorter, it would have been a whole lot harder. Alas, confidence can go a long way in getting women to give you the time of day.

Topic Guys your feelings on pubic hair on women
Posted 29 May 2012 05:15

I really like how my wife keeps hers: Top of the ass crack to top of the clit is shaved. Then there's a V of hair at the top of the clit that is well trimmed. Don't really know why she keeps it other than to keep from looking pre-pubescent, but it works for me.Pint Drunk