I'm still in undergrad working on a double major in Writing and Telecommunication and Film. I have seen more movies than I can count spanning the entire history of cinema. I'm a huge fan of a book series called the Dresden Files. I'm the kind of person who keeps the friends he makes for a very long time. If you're looking to chat about Doctor Who, Breaking Bad, or anything else I’m happy to do it. The last few years I’ve studied BDSM and what it means to be a Master from many faces around Lush and other communities. I'm very proud and confident of that fact and always look forward to passing on that knowledge to others who are curious as I was. I also try to be polite because I feel it costs me nothing to do so, so I thank you for taking the time to read this section.
My sub is collared. Which for us was a HUGE step in the relationship, it was a definitive "we both want to see this thing through to the end" total commitment. For us that means that she wears a collar or keeps it as close as she can at all times. Even in public.We have an innocent looking bracelet for family functions and public outings, something that for us says "she is mine" no one is the wiser.We also have a leather collar that can be worn in private. It's soft royal blue and white, leather with a small padlock on the back and a D ring in the front. that's the at home collar. Something I learned very early on in my BDSM journey is that it's not always about the flashy leather or huge padlocks. (although lets be real, those ARE pretty awesome)I know a couple who use their wedding bands to represent that feeling of being owned for the sub. As well as others who symbolize ownership with a tattoo. As long as the person wearing the collar feels owned what it looks like on the outside is secondary. As a side note, i used to work in retail and in my two years working there i saw three people who were wearing collars. Can't say if they were into BDSM or not, since there are some folk who wear collars as a fashion statement. It always made my day to see them (Although, I never spoke about them with the people i saw, to me it's not any of my business.) To wear a collar that looks like a collar in public takes some serious guts. People notice them, the giant Bell one girl wore hanging from hers made sure no one in the store missed it.
hhmm*Insert overly complex equation here*Judging by me numbersNovember 2nd.
Guess i'm a follower this time,Nope, never heard of it.
82 *shrugs* i like this idea :D
It's something my sub and I have discussed. But a decision like that would be made by both of us one way or the other, i would not feel right trying to subject her to something that may be a limit. Personally one is enough, but you never know for sure *shrugs* as far as the two masters thing, it sounds more like the "superior" Dom is loaning out this person to another . It sounds almost like me letting my friends borrow a possession of mine on my terms. They can use it, just make sure they put it back when they are done and that they respect my wishes. he is allowing another to use something that ultimately belongs to him. purely speculation of course but that's how it made since in my mind when you explained it. I've also heard of couples sharing a sub before.where the sub is to serve both of them (however that is mostly in fiction stories, only talked to maybe 2 people who claimed this style was for them though)
I haven't read this book, been hearing about it though. i'll do my best to answer your questions.How much does the dominant person really truly enjoys the inflicting pain in others?-It really depends on the person, I personally enjoy dealing pain to a certain point, but only the pain she wants to experience as well as a bit of pushing. I don't like breaking her by hurting her I know i've seen in alot of stories here.Is it a normal thing to have a BDSM relationship without feelings involve?-Again i think it depends on the person. For me personally its a relationship, i care very much for my sub and my first priory is to make sure she is protected and safe from harm. I can't image having a relationship of the D/s dynamic without feelings, but to each his own.Do you think a lot of people enter this lifestyle because of a painfull background and this is the only way to cope with reality?-I wondered this same question for a long time when i started my journey into BDSM. but a lot of the people I've met seem to have no more baggage than the normal person. I have also met my fair share of people who have some intense baggage but you'll find people like that in every social group.What about the rules? -Again here it depends on the person. Personally, the time's we've talked about her coming to stay with me, we have discussed getting her a cage to sleep in and about different rules. Some of them people might find funny, but they exist so that my girl can get used to following the rules that matter.Do you live by this rules all the time? i mean you never have a break from them? you never can just talk to the other person like you do in a normal relationship?- use of the word normal doesn't bother my any. While it might offend some people, most people understand that the dynamic of the relationship is not a traditional one. The rules i set for my girl are not ones she is allowed to turn on and off. now i don't limit how she can talk to me or when she can speak her mind. it's a relationship and with that communication is key.If you are a dominant and you see this girl or guy you want to take as a sub and that person is really not into the lifestyle do you try a relationship or no?- depends on the person, i'm not restricted in needing to be a dom in order to be happy for the right person i'd have no problem having a traditional relationship Hope i was able to help, always enjoy answering questions lol.
When i was just starting out as a Dom, i went through a phase where i inhaled every ounce of information i could find on the subject of BDSM and D/s (there's alot out there, and alot of nonsense) I stumbled across it thenAs far as what it does, i think it's more of a fun fantasy than anything that actually matters. I've seen the occasional picture of a sub getting a tattoo or a collar with their number on it/them. It seems fun, not something i personally care too much about.Its an interesting idea though.
*clears throat*hey everyone, names Cam been in the lifestyle for approx. 5 months now its always been something i wanted to try and seemed right, but never thought i'd get the chance or find the right person. Very happy i found someone like my girl.
Let me also follow suit with Dude and say very happy to see this space.I'm a topI am currently involved with someone who was once a good friend of mine, new to this way of doing things. learning more everyday looking forward to seeing all of the posts in here.
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