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Judging by me numbers

November 2nd.

Guess i'm a follower this time,

Nope, never heard of it.

82 *shrugs* i like this idea :D

It's something my sub and I have discussed. But a decision like that would be made by both of us one way or the other, i would not feel right trying to subject her to something that may be a limit.

Personally one is enough, but you never know for sure *shrugs*

as far as the two masters thing, it sounds more like the "superior" Dom is loaning out this person to another . It sounds almost like me letting my friends borrow a possession of mine on my terms. They can use it, just make sure they put it back when they are done and that they respect my wishes.

he is allowing another to use something that ultimately belongs to him.

purely speculation of course but that's how it made since in my mind when you explained it.

I've also heard of couples sharing a sub before.where the sub is to serve both of them (however that is mostly in fiction stories, only talked to maybe 2 people who claimed this style was for them though)

I haven't read this book, been hearing about it though. i'll do my best to answer your questions.

How much does the dominant person really truly enjoys the inflicting pain in others?

-It really depends on the person, I personally enjoy dealing pain to a certain point, but only the pain she wants to experience as well as a bit of pushing. I don't like breaking her by hurting her I know i've seen in alot of stories here.

Is it a normal thing to have a BDSM relationship without feelings involve?

-Again i think it depends on the person. For me personally its a relationship, i care very much for my sub and my first priory is to make sure she is protected and safe from harm. I can't image having a relationship of the D/s dynamic without feelings, but to each his own.

Do you think a lot of people enter this lifestyle because of a painfull background and this is the only way to cope with reality?

-I wondered this same question for a long time when i started my journey into BDSM. but a lot of the people I've met seem to have no more baggage than the normal person. I have also met my fair share of people who have some intense baggage but you'll find people like that in every social group.

What about the rules?

-Again here it depends on the person. Personally, the time's we've talked about her coming to stay with me, we have discussed getting her a cage to sleep in and about different rules. Some of them people might find funny, but they exist so that my girl can get used to following the rules that matter.

Do you live by this rules all the time? i mean you never have a break from them? you never can just talk to the other person like you do in a normal relationship?

- use of the word normal doesn't bother my any. While it might offend some people, most people understand that the dynamic of the relationship is not a traditional one.
The rules i set for my girl are not ones she is allowed to turn on and off. now i don't limit how she can talk to me or when she can speak her mind. it's a relationship and with that communication is key.


If you are a dominant and you see this girl or guy you want to take as a sub and that person is really not into the lifestyle do you try a relationship or no?

- depends on the person, i'm not restricted in needing to be a dom in order to be happy for the right person i'd have no problem having a traditional relationship



Hope i was able to help, always enjoy answering questions lol.

When i was just starting out as a Dom, i went through a phase where i inhaled every ounce of information i could find on the subject of BDSM and D/s (there's alot out there, and alot of nonsense)

I stumbled across it then

As far as what it does, i think it's more of a fun fantasy than anything that actually matters. I've seen the occasional picture of a sub getting a tattoo or a collar with their number on it/them. It seems fun, not something i personally care too much about.

Its an interesting idea though.

*clears throat*

hey everyone, names Cam been in the lifestyle for approx. 5 months now

its always been something i wanted to try and seemed right, but never thought i'd get the chance or find the right person.

Very happy i found someone like my girl.

Let me also follow suit with Dude and say very happy to see this space.

I'm a top

I am currently involved with someone who was once a good friend of mine, new to this way of doing things. learning more everyday looking forward to seeing all of the posts in here.

I think door two.


*answers are subject to change