Forum posts made by ladyx

Topic Brazil are going to win the World Cup!
Posted 29 Jun 2014 11:23

Nice flop, Robben.

Topic If you were to get a divorce would you get married again?
Posted 04 Jun 2014 12:35

Seems like an impossible question to answer. I have no way of knowing how I'd feel if I were ever divorced. I think I'll just try to make my current scene work for the long haul.

Topic Honestly... (Are YOU a little bit Racist?)
Posted 04 Jun 2014 09:14


The first time I undress Samantha, the first Black Girl I have ever dated, I am SPEECHLESS at the contrast of her white underwear against her skin. I LITERALLY pause at the sight of A BEAUTY I HAVE NEVER SEEN BEFORE... She looks so EXOTIC to my eyes that I am momentarily removed from a SEXUAL moment and can only look in beautiful wonder. She actually asks what's wrong...


Objectification through exoticism. Lots of people equate that with racism; I can't quite go that far with it. I think it can be really creepy (like the guys that are "into" Asian girls; try unpacking the 'why's of that fetish sometime, then go take a shower, you'll feel like you need one), and it can be innocuous and involuntary (as in your case).
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Am I a little bit racist?

Yes I am. For the different, the unfamiliar, the UNKNOWN unsettles, unbalances and asks questions I can't easily answer.

That's actually not racism, that's xenophobia.

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The word, and the accusation of, racism gets thrown out a lot. I think it's important to call things out when they're wrong, and eradicate them from the mainstream as quickly as possible. On the other hand, the dominance of PC and general loss of sense of humor about anything has taken it a bit too far. Also, as I pointed out above, not everything is racism exactly .

If I were the arbiter of what term gets used where, I think I'd reserve the charge of Racist and Racism for the truly and intentionally vile discriminatory words and actions. A lot of people say unacceptable things without knowing better (like a customer of mine who calls me "the prettiest oriental girl he's ever seen") or realizing that they're making other groups of people very uncomfortable. And we all have biases, but bias isn't necessarily racism.




Topic The President of the USA and why your Rate has to Skyrocket
Posted 03 Jun 2014 07:47

Does the explanation not make sense to you? Am I supposed to be outraged?

Topic Can interracial include blondes with redheads?
Posted 01 Jun 2014 07:37



I agree with a lot of what you put, LadyX. Firstly, I don't have an agenda. I chose not to ignore the science, which says that we are really one group rather than a mixture of groups or races.

We have to ask, why do we see other differently? Well people look different, superficially, so it would be silly to suggest that we are all exactly the same. I'm not saying that. The notion of race, like culture does have a historical background. It's not my intention to devalue the sense of belonging or identity that people have to one group or another. I'm not trying to re-write history or make people be something they don't want to be. I just want equality for everyone. While people are artificially categorized, that's not happening.

Being one race, doesn't make us dull. That's just a fact. It's how we interpret that.

For me, the word race seems to be very divisive and the root of a lot of prejudice. It's hammered out every day one way or another. I don't want to be categorized.

Your analogy of the brunette among a town of blondes is interesting. I wonder.

So, to go back to my original question. Why if skin tone is a factor that designates the notion of race, why can't it be that hair colour is an equally valid factor?

As you say, 'skin trumps hair.' That's kind of sad, but I guess from a historical, social and cultural perspective, that's the deal.

So is it fair to say that your only hang-up is with the use of the word 'race' in order to differentiate groups of people?

I think it's mainly a matter of semantics; nobody can deny that the combination of skin/physical traits and culture does separate and categorize us to some extent. Whether we call that 'race' or not is obviously a matter of personal choice and opinion.

Your point about aiming to make us all see and treat each other as equals is an important one. The good news is, if you look at the history of human civilization, we're clearly trending toward that. At no point in history have so many people of all ethnicities, genders, and orientations enjoyed equal legal and social status. Equality and progressive thought always wins in the end.

That said, (and not necessarily referring to you with this, but) there's something about the campaign for blended culture that rubs many (including me) the wrong way. A statement like "there's only one race: the human race", so often thrown out reflexively whenever the subject of race is brought up, feels like not only a blanket dismissal of the real differences among people but also strident political correctness in action. If we want to do away with the 'race' buzzword that's fine I suppose, but let's not kid ourselves by assuming that we all share a singular experience here on earth, or that the sum of our defining physical traits- such as skin color, hair texture, eye/nose/lips shape, and identification with all who share those- could be substituted with hair color for the same effect. The other component to this has to do with the fact that the suggestion is often made toward people whose ancestry is traditionally subjugated people. And now that nominal, legal equality has been established, we’re supposed to surrender our unique sets of heritage for the sake of “one race: the human race”? No thanks. I realize you’re not suggesting any such thing, but all the same, it needs to be said, since the fallacy that I’m addressing (one race, human race, we’re all the same inside) is expressed so often, as if it’s the only acceptable point of view.

You mentioned that you'd rather see the classification of 'culture' rather than 'race'. The only issue I have with that is that there is an undeniable physical trait component to that. It's not just the physical aspect of course (unless we’re talking about the ‘interracial’ category of porn and erotica, in which case it’s almost 100% physical), but being Han Chinese is always going to be, and appear, very and rightfully different from being Scandinavian. Being a white person raised in Japan by ethnic Japanese parents is far different from being ethnic Japanese raised in Japan by the same parents. My experience as a half-Asian half-Black is quite different from those of different ancestry. These differences should be recognized and celebrated rather than marginalized.

Maybe ethnicity is a more palatable term for some than race.

Topic Can interracial include blondes with redheads?
Posted 31 May 2014 16:38

But I think regardless of the parsings of science one way or the other, we do see each other differently. We notice and experience the differences with regard to race far differently than merely different shades of hair. The "why" of that has much to do with differences of history and culture, and of course generalizations are made, just as with any scenario broader than the individual person.

So if your agenda is to make us all see each other as part of one big group instead of separated into many, then I think the intentions are admirable. But the reality is that different ethnicities do, by and large, view and experience the world differently. Our working assumptions, inherent values, and points of view tend to differ (again, in generalizations, exceptions abound). We don't all share a life experience and we have very real differences. It doesn't have to be a bad thing, either. In fact, I find the idea of "one world, one race, one universal existence" nightmarishly dull.

It could be that I'm way off base; maybe you're not attempting to prove a point about what you feel to be arbitrary designations regarding race, and truly wonder why hair color and skin color don't carry the same weight in terms of classifying different people. If so, then imagine the difference between being the only white person in a town of black skinned people, and being the only brunette in a town full of blondes. Inevitably, the former will be a much more intense experience than the latter. It's how we're built as a species. Skin trumps hair, and the skin comes with it's own history and baggage, for better and worse.

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 30 May 2014 12:53

....it can all simply be legislated away.

Again, where is this talk about politicians, big brother, and legislation coming from? Nobody's suggesting anything of that sort. This is about society and what those in it find acceptable from one another.

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 30 May 2014 12:31

//www.youtube.com/embed/8I8_fxj5ZTA

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 30 May 2014 12:01

Let's leave personal discussions about other members out of this thread and off the forums please.

Thank you.

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 30 May 2014 11:44



Look UP. They are not entirely to blame but in this instance their own poor choices WERE a contributing factor ( A LARGE contributing factor in this instance. ) And hence, YES they DO share the blame...for THEIR own actions and faulty decisions NOT for the subsequent actions taken.

Thanks for clearing that up; this makes you part of the problem. I'm glad to hear that you've spent time protecting the defenseless in some form or another. In this case, you're shrugging with apathy. You hate that she got assaulted I'm sure, but because she didn't carry a weapon, wore sexy clothes, and drank liquor, she can take her complaints someplace else. Maybe next time she can make herself less of a target, right? Boys will be boys!

Typical retrograde misogyny: obsession with the sexuality of the victim, indifference toward the violence itself. You've made this clear. The biggest favor you could do for yourself would be to have some self-awareness. Namely, that you only selectively concern yourself with the vulnerable.



) I have said that IF they chose to set themselves up as defenseless targets, that is their RIGHT. And it is MY RIGHT NOT TO! Two entirely different meanings.

Women have the right to be raped. Freedom in 2014 America: savor it.

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 30 May 2014 11:21



Go look at the quotes dear Felix chose to bring in here from MANY months ago on the subject of pics and vids... THAT was what I was talking about (and HE wells KNOWS IT!)

What you don't get is that the same logic applies here. Your argument was that you don't have sympathy for those who give others private photos and memorabilia that later get used against their will. That it's their fault for being stupid and slutty, therefore stupid sluts get what they deserve? Am I doing justice to your point of view here? If not, please explain.

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 30 May 2014 11:11


No I'm explaining my PERSPECTIVE while being slandered by a small minded, belittling jerk so obsessed with this agenda that he utilizes every dishonest means of "discussion" known to man while being aided and abetted in so doing by a few individuals who would prefer to bitch and moan rather than take ANY responsibility for their own safety and security. All, in the purely childish belief that "Big Brother" should be responsible for every aspect of their lives and some how legislate a perfect world for them to live in!
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ok. Having said that, can you clarify the following for us please?



Oh I see so NOW you're saying that WOMEN are NOT adults but children? And as such are NOT responsible for THEIR OWN DECISIONS? Hmm THAT IS an interesting mindset.

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 30 May 2014 10:59



The fact that you interpreted my words that way is more telling of your mentality than mind. Getting raped is never someone's decision.

You ignored this part of my post. You want to clear up what you meant or are you standing by your statement that women should be responsible for their own decisions when they are abused, raped, harassed, made to feel fearful etc?

Glad you brought this out into the light. I also eagerly await the response.

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 30 May 2014 10:54



You're not really impressing anyone and nobody cares about your life's work. Your worldview is still extremely warped and counter-intuitive. There are certainly things people can do that can and will solve a lot of these issues, but people like you are preventing that from ever happening.

By the way, CAPITALISING random WORDS for NO reason is REALLY annoying and I think I speak for EVERYONE else in THIS thread when I SAY that you should STOP, it DOESN'T get your POINT across any better than TYPING NORMALLY.

It may be annoying but he's just following the Standard Style Guide for Mansplaining ®

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 30 May 2014 10:52



Go read the above post then try again. I don't CHOSE to live in a fantasy world, I accept that there ARE things that cannot be changed and others that will require TIME AND WORK to change. I DO NOT deceive myself into thinking that some politician can wave their hand and magically pass legislation that will transform the two legged animals walking amongst us into law abiding angels. Yet MY world view is "fucked up"? Really?

The funnier part being that the vast majority of my life's work has been protecting the weak and innocent FROM said predators.

I can read the above post 15 times, it still looks the same to me, chief.

Who has suggested that politicians can magically change anything? Who suggested anything can happen overnight? Of course it takes time and work. Some of us are proposing what that work is consisting of, and what do you say about it?

(shrug) "you can't change people, you can only stop being a victim."

That's not a fantasy world, that's apathy in the face of evil and indifference to others' struggles.

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 30 May 2014 10:38



WHEN are you going to understand that while what you say is true, it involves changing OTHERS and is therefor impossible? The ONLY person you can EVER change is? YOU Life isn't fair, reality often BITES and I agree that those facts suck. And, your point is? I chose to REALIZE that reality is not something I CAN change and that I can only DEAL with. CAN changes be made? YES, but it won't happen TODAY.So for NOW I HAVE TO accept WHAT IS no matter how much it SUCKS! WORK towards these goals of changing mindsets? YES! BY ALL MEANS! But, that does NOT change TODAY'S reality nor does making myself NEEDLESS a victim or even a POTENTIAL victim of the animals we all KNOW live among us a reasonable alternative.


You're aiding and abetting rapes, and acts of violence, and patriarchal and misogynistic society, by your attitudes, by your assumptions about women, and by your apathy in the face of evil. Is that what your time in the armed forces taught you? To shrug when confronted with evil? It's what you're doing now. You're shrugging at a world that allows this to happen to women, and you're asking women to shrug too. Outrageous, but also sort of a pitiful lack of intellect as well as empathy.


Poor guy, you don't even know how fucked up your worldview is.

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 29 May 2014 17:28


What Rapist? What exactly are you talking about? The kid stabbed a bunch of people and shot some too. Where does rape come into this. OH !!! Main Stream Media.... Got It Ok.... Whatever You mean the 47% of rape accusations that are completely false? Those rape accusations??? Hmmmm.......

Citation please. Still haven't seen that link, Rob.

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 29 May 2014 14:57


I'll make this my last post on this thread as I don't want you acid bitterness to disrupt it. Or a Moderator to shut it down.


Not to worry, the thread will not be shut down.

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 29 May 2014 14:39


My way of thinking?
That it should be easier and less traumatic to report offences?
That sympathy should be with the victim?
That men focussing on false accusations are refusniks?
That society needs to have the true number of rapes, slammed in their face to change things?
Which part don't you agree with?

None of those are the problem, exactly.

I'd say the problems with your way of thinking are:

Shaming victims for not always seeking prosecution.
Implying that simply living with the pain and shame of one's own ordeal rather than going public is aiding and abetting rape culture.
Threatening to revoke sympathy for victims unless your way of dealing with it is followed.
Creating a "we should decriminalize rape" straw man, for reasons I've yet to figure out.

To sum it up: the all too common obsession with the victims and how they do or do not act after the fact rather than the fact that the rape occurred to begin with. You're far from alone, Derek. Lots think just like you do.

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 29 May 2014 13:22


You have part quoted out of context, and you know it!


Not really. You implied (sarcastically or not) it as a possible suggestion, in the process of being incredulous for no reason. I'm unsure how you got there; hence, I asked.

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 29 May 2014 12:34

maybe decriminalise it? Nice! If so don't complain when it happens because they are all walking around scot free.


How did you get that suggestion out of anyone's comments? Illuminating though, that you truly lack sympathy for anyone who can't find the motivation to put themselves forward publicly after such an ordeal.

Sounds like you really should take the suggestion offered and stop commenting before you're inadvertently any further off base.

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 29 May 2014 12:18


Good job I'm not American, lol. I've just read it, and the first 12 amendments, complete with all the non pc references to Indians. Heavy reading setting up a country.


I'm sure it was.

You presented two options as if they were contradictory legal sets of rights. FYI- they are not.

"lol"

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 29 May 2014 10:30



Millions of people can't even afford to register a car, much less a gun.

We're talking about real world problems that will need real works solutions. Passing a law, knowing ahead of time that is an unworkable law, is insane. It's living in a fantasy world. If we're going to live in a fantasy world, just have Magic Jack make a magic wand out of a unicorn horn, and wish all the nasty evil guns away. evil4

I don't think a registration requirement is an unworkable law. People who choose to be lawless will be felons if and when they're caught. You won't have 100% compliance but when do we have that anywhere? People drive around without insurance or registration, people violate parole, people refuse to pay child support: that doesn't make the existence and attempted enforcement of those requirements insane.

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 29 May 2014 10:16



I'm a firm believer in training but my main argument against requiring it would be that the cost would put self defense out of the reach of poor people. Unless we teach it in public schools like we do with drivers' ed. I'd be all for that.

I see too many hurdles to be overcome regarding registration for it to work. They tried registration in Canada with (I think) around a 15% success rate. They just recent passed a registration bill in Massachusetts, and the results seem to be similar to those experienced in Canada. A recent newspaper article claimed something on the order of 80% of all police officers in the state are now felons because even they refuse to register their firearms. How would you enforce it? Repeal the 4th Amendment and allow the police to go house-to-house searching for guns? Do you imprison the millions of conscientious objectors? 85% of 350 million... that's a lot of cells to be built.

I find 'fear that people will choose to be lawless' a poor reason to not pass a law. If people choose to be wackos who interpret law different from the way our elected legislators do, then that's on them. Civilized society will be over here, they'll be over there I suppose. You enforce it by offering a grace period to either register or turn in guns. Beyond the grace period, if you get caught with an unlicensed gun, you go to the slam, and lose the ability to ever own one legally. You can't go door to door gestapo-style, but you also don't just declare a state of "welp" and take no action at all.

If people can afford to drive a car they can afford to take the necessary registration steps to train and register as a gun operator and owner. I agree that poverty is a problem, but any way you slice it, the guns need to be accounted for.

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 29 May 2014 09:32



Limitations are already in place. If someone can tell me what other limitations they want, exactly, then we can talk about whether they would work or not.

But tell the everyday, ordinary people who use a firearm in self-defense that guns "aren't needed" in their lives. Conservative estimates place defensive use of firearms "somewhere between 250,000 and 370,000" times per year.

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Granted. I wouldn't say nobody uses them in self-defense. I've done so myself in the past.

Cars and drivers are registered. We should register guns and gun-owner/operators. Classes should be taken and passed before registration is complete and authorized. Registration should be subject to revocation the same way drivers licenses are.

That's the limitation I would propose.

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 29 May 2014 09:19



Compare automobile fatalities with firearms fatalities, and you'll see that cars are far more dangerous than guns. Remove suicides from both columns, and the difference gets even more lopsided.

All but a statistically negligible percentage of automobile deaths are accidental. Almost nobody seeks to murder by vehicle. Vehicles are a matter of basic transportation.

Well over half of all total murders are performed by firearms, not even counting assaults of other sorts by gun. Except for the odd mountain man who shoots his own dinner by necessity, guns aren't needed in everyday life. Nobody needs a gun to get to work, or to buy groceries, or to get medical care, the same way that cars are often needed. People may feel they need a gun, out of fear for their surroundings, but that's a different subject.

But all of that aside, moderates will agree that some limitations are in order.

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 29 May 2014 08:52



I say again, freedom is NOT free ! It has a price.

$1.05 to be exact.


//www.youtube.com/embed/tzW2ybYFboQ




Sorry, had to do it. Thank me later.

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 29 May 2014 08:44



I've already addressed this. Regulate guns like we regulate driving. Make sure one is fit to carry a gun before being allowed to own/operate one. Make only certain types of guns available. Register every gun. Have a record of every new owner of said guns. Require insurance. Report guns as lost or stolen. Suspend or revoke gun licenses as necessary. Government mandated safety features. Extra licenses or different license classes on high capacity guns. Inspections. Etc.

It's been pointed out so often that it's a cliche, but still: It makes zero sense that one has to jump through way more regulatory hoops to buy and operate a car than to own a gun. Anybody that proclaims themselves to be a moderate has to concede that the "right to bear arms" does not and cannot come with zero conditions whatsoever.

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 29 May 2014 07:56

In a tizzy of media fury, the latest supposed mass gunman/internet weirdo serial killer has emerged with a new angle: “Men’s rights” and “misogyny.”

okay, so let's see if I'm following you correctly:

The US government, which is a puppet organization run by the (choose your own conspiracy: Jew Bankers, Tri-Lateral Commission, Freemasons, Bohemian Grove Participants, UN, New World Order), put forth a fake criminal to commit fake crimes in order to rile the women (47% of whom claim a bunch of fake rapes because they're dastardly and can't be trusted) and give the media something to justify their Proctor and Gamble advertising bills? Makes sense. I mean, after all, they can't pretend to lose a Malaysian airliner more than about twice a year.

Topic Elliot Rodger kills 6, injures 13 others. Is it rape culture, guns or something else?
Posted 29 May 2014 07:47


You are correct all true. I have posted many links to all facts. Not an argument. There is a war on for your mind and they won! Must be the Fluoride

Sorry, I missed the link where the FBI corrected the 40% error in their rape statistics. Can you post that again, please?