Forum posts made by lovely_lady

Topic Word association game
Posted 19 Jan 2011 00:15

look

Topic Still playing trivia
Posted 19 Jan 2011 00:13

I really need to stop playing when I have distractions..

Topic if you had the person above for one hour what would you do x
Posted 19 Jan 2011 00:12

enjoy all that attention and pay back the favour :)

Topic Hug, kiss or ????? the person above you.
Posted 19 Jan 2011 00:11

hug

Topic Misquote the person above you.
Posted 19 Jan 2011 00:10

If i smother you in chocolate, will anyone be pleased?

Topic Misquote the person above you.
Posted 19 Jan 2011 00:02

if you take all the chocolates you wont please anyone.

Topic Post groundless lies about the person above
Posted 19 Jan 2011 00:00

Henry thinks that vegemite is the best thing EVER!!! He has it on toast at least twice a day and sometimes eats it right out of the jar.

Topic Post groundless lies about the person above
Posted 18 Jan 2011 20:47

Par takes me shoe shopping and finds me the best looking shoes. He keeps all the right shoes and decorates his house with them.

Topic Post groundless lies about the person above
Posted 18 Jan 2011 20:44

Par has 120 pairs of shoes and his obsession is getting so bad his family is thinking of having him committed.

Topic What Are You Wearing?
Posted 18 Jan 2011 20:40

A pretty blue dress! :)

Topic if you had the person above for one hour what would you do x
Posted 18 Jan 2011 20:37

have a drink or two or three...

Topic If You Woke Up With The Person Above You What Would Be The First Thing You'd Say?
Posted 18 Jan 2011 20:36

Not hush??? You want me to talk a lot ?? ;)

Topic If You Woke Up With The Person Above You What Would Be The First Thing You'd Say?
Posted 18 Jan 2011 20:34

Is it morning already?

Topic Around the world.
Posted 18 Jan 2011 20:33

Eagle

Topic Men fake it!
Posted 18 Jan 2011 19:00

He did tell me about it after a lot of deflecting. While engaging in activity one night after awhile he stopped and when I asked him if he had finished he took awhile but eventually he told me he couldnt. I dont mind talking about it as I think that one of the biggest problems is people dont talk about it.
After that first time he told me it turned into a long discussion about it and me comforting and telling him that I didnt want him to worry if he couldnt finish. That I just wanted him to enjoy it as much as he could.
It was a constant problem and not fun for him at all as it made him feel like less of a man and caused negative thinking. After reassurance and understanding it got better. We also found that being tired made it much harder for him to finish and also if he hadnt had enough water. So a lot of was helped with him taking better care of his body. eating better and sleeping better and the understanding from me that he couldnt help it. I saw him really struggle with it and so i people assume it is a blessing it really isnt. Not for either party because I hated seeing him so depressed about it. I guess my biggest tip is communication is the key. You always need to be open and talk about things so that the other party can help understand and help to make it a better experience .
I think a poll would be good. I would be interested to see that. because I understand that men may not want to comment on this.

Topic Men fake it!
Posted 18 Jan 2011 19:00

He did tell me about it after a lot of deflecting. While engaging in activity one night after awhile he stopped and when I asked him if he had finished he took awhile but eventually he told me he couldnt. I dont mind talking about it as I think that one of the biggest problems is people dont talk about it.
After that first time he told me it turned into a long discussion about it and me comforting and telling him that I didnt want him to worry if he couldnt finish. That I just wanted him to enjoy it as much as he could.
It was a constant problem and not fun for him at all as it made him feel like less of a man and caused negative thinking. After reassurance and understanding it got better. We also found that being tired made it much harder for him to finish and also if he hadnt had enough water. So a lot of was helped with him taking better care of his body. eating better and sleeping better and the understanding from me that he couldnt help it. I saw him really struggle with it and so i people assume it is a blessing it really isnt. Not for either party because I hated seeing him so depressed about it.
I think a poll would be good. I would be interested to see that. because I understand that men may not want to comment on this.

Topic Men fake it!
Posted 18 Jan 2011 17:19

I think you are right Woman about men not talking about it even if it is happening. I think a big problem with a lot of studies coming out that say it is a 'new problem' is that its not new problems it is just that people are talking about it more now.
I think many men would be embarrassed to talk about issues with their manhood. And as a partner you really have to be understanding and comforting and think about what they are feeling.
The guy for me told me he had thought about faking it and I told him I never wanted him to pretend. That I didnt want him to worry about if he could or not. I just wanted him to enjoy what he could and we would work through the issue together.
I would also love to hear from other men about this to see if any one here has had this issue.

Topic Around the world.
Posted 18 Jan 2011 16:04

Springwood

Topic If You Woke Up With The Person Above You What Would Be The First Thing You'd Say?
Posted 18 Jan 2011 06:47

I was hoping you would say that.

Topic Hug, kiss or ????? the person above you.
Posted 18 Jan 2011 06:42

Big Hugs

Topic If You Woke Up With The Person Above You What Would Be The First Thing You'd Say?
Posted 18 Jan 2011 06:41

Morning. Hope I don't get locked out. :)

Topic Word association game
Posted 18 Jan 2011 04:30

decrease

Topic Misquote the person above you.
Posted 18 Jan 2011 03:27

You completely showed off while on your horse.

Topic if you had the person above for one hour what would you do x
Posted 18 Jan 2011 03:23

perhaps a little Pour Wine and then a little Pint Drunk

Topic Hug, kiss or ????? the person above you.
Posted 18 Jan 2011 03:19

Hugs

Topic Around the world.
Posted 18 Jan 2011 02:04

granville

Topic Men fake it!
Posted 18 Jan 2011 01:29

I've actually had experience with this.So I felt like writing on the subject. I have been with a guy who had a lot of troubles actually achieving orgasm. However he would never fake it he would just tell me he couldnt. I found that it cause a lot of emotional stress for us both. He would worry that he couldnt and I would worry about what I was doing wrong and if he found me attractive anymore. It caused him to be very upset and the doctors had no help for him at all. I think he felt like there was something wrong with him. It also made him not want sex as much for fear of not being able to finish. He explained to me that he thought I wouldnt like it as much if he couldnt finish the job. So it took a lot of serious reassurance and comforting to make him feel like it was ok. And it also took some reassurance from him to let me know that he still found me attractive.
I think its a very serious thing and it can cause emotional problems for both people.

Topic Things that just piss you off
Posted 18 Jan 2011 01:19

People who take advantage of their friends or family.