Topic Still playing trivia
Posted 19 Jan 2011 00:13
I really need to stop playing when I have distractions..
Topic Men fake it!
Posted 18 Jan 2011 19:00
He did tell me about it after a lot of deflecting. While engaging in activity one night after awhile he stopped and when I asked him if he had finished he took awhile but eventually he told me he couldnt. I dont mind talking about it as I think that one of the biggest problems is people dont talk about it.
After that first time he told me it turned into a long discussion about it and me comforting and telling him that I didnt want him to worry if he couldnt finish. That I just wanted him to enjoy it as much as he could.
It was a constant problem and not fun for him at all as it made him feel like less of a man and caused negative thinking. After reassurance and understanding it got better. We also found that being tired made it much harder for him to finish and also if he hadnt had enough water. So a lot of was helped with him taking better care of his body. eating better and sleeping better and the understanding from me that he couldnt help it. I saw him really struggle with it and so i people assume it is a blessing it really isnt. Not for either party because I hated seeing him so depressed about it. I guess my biggest tip is communication is the key. You always need to be open and talk about things so that the other party can help understand and help to make it a better experience .
I think a poll would be good. I would be interested to see that. because I understand that men may not want to comment on this.
Topic Men fake it!
Posted 18 Jan 2011 19:00
He did tell me about it after a lot of deflecting. While engaging in activity one night after awhile he stopped and when I asked him if he had finished he took awhile but eventually he told me he couldnt. I dont mind talking about it as I think that one of the biggest problems is people dont talk about it.
After that first time he told me it turned into a long discussion about it and me comforting and telling him that I didnt want him to worry if he couldnt finish. That I just wanted him to enjoy it as much as he could.
It was a constant problem and not fun for him at all as it made him feel like less of a man and caused negative thinking. After reassurance and understanding it got better. We also found that being tired made it much harder for him to finish and also if he hadnt had enough water. So a lot of was helped with him taking better care of his body. eating better and sleeping better and the understanding from me that he couldnt help it. I saw him really struggle with it and so i people assume it is a blessing it really isnt. Not for either party because I hated seeing him so depressed about it.
I think a poll would be good. I would be interested to see that. because I understand that men may not want to comment on this.
Topic Men fake it!
Posted 18 Jan 2011 17:19
I think you are right Woman about men not talking about it even if it is happening. I think a big problem with a lot of studies coming out that say it is a 'new problem' is that its not new problems it is just that people are talking about it more now.
I think many men would be embarrassed to talk about issues with their manhood. And as a partner you really have to be understanding and comforting and think about what they are feeling.
The guy for me told me he had thought about faking it and I told him I never wanted him to pretend. That I didnt want him to worry about if he could or not. I just wanted him to enjoy what he could and we would work through the issue together.
I would also love to hear from other men about this to see if any one here has had this issue.
Topic Men fake it!
Posted 18 Jan 2011 01:29
I've actually had experience with this.So I felt like writing on the subject. I have been with a guy who had a lot of troubles actually achieving orgasm. However he would never fake it he would just tell me he couldnt. I found that it cause a lot of emotional stress for us both. He would worry that he couldnt and I would worry about what I was doing wrong and if he found me attractive anymore. It caused him to be very upset and the doctors had no help for him at all. I think he felt like there was something wrong with him. It also made him not want sex as much for fear of not being able to finish. He explained to me that he thought I wouldnt like it as much if he couldnt finish the job. So it took a lot of serious reassurance and comforting to make him feel like it was ok. And it also took some reassurance from him to let me know that he still found me attractive.
I think its a very serious thing and it can cause emotional problems for both people.