Topic Cunnilingus and men
04 Mar 2014 05:17
I understand all of the comments and complaints ladies, but do you ever talk to your partner during sex and tell them what/how/where/ and when you like it? Just a thought!
This is another problem.
Many men take offense when you try to encourage, point out what you like better.
I had a bf who would use so much teeth that I literally bled, and was incredibly sore after. When I said something ("I like it when you use your teeth, just maybe not quite so much") he got very angry, told me that he would do it how he liked, and if I didnt like it then that was too bad. Sadly this attitude is a fairly common one, maybe not that extreme, but the "I know what I'm doing, I'm great at it because someone once told me so" attitude.
To a degree I think we create part of the problem. Because many men don't go down that often, we tend to heap praise on your heads as soon as you do. We are praising the action of gong down, rather then the actual process. So many men then think that the way they are doing it is right, it must be for the woman to have praised you so right? or they apply a one style fits all template to all women.
Topic Old lurker, new member
04 Mar 2014 05:09
Different definition of Lurker then. To me, a Lurker is someone who just kind of watches from the outside fringes, never joining in.
Comes from my days on the old UseNet (alt.soc...., alt.rec...., etc)
If they got a different definition of Lurker here, I didn't know about it.
I was a lurker for quite a while before I joined as well. My definition of the word was the same as yours, as I have only ever had this one identity.
Welcome to Lush, I hope you find what you are looking for here.
Topic Talk to your love one about lush and why your on the site.
04 Mar 2014 05:06
Quite a few of us are very open with the people in our lives about being here. Don't assume everyone is hiding their activities.
Also don't assume all are here for chat or other sexual reasons. some of us are here to write and post our work.
Topic My Writing Goal For...
03 Mar 2014 06:41
March goals: write my school papers. Survive class.
Maybe get this story out of my head.
Topic Question about grammar style
03 Mar 2014 06:39
In the example you use "I was sat..." I can pretty much guarantee that a gerund or the past-participle of another verb is going to turn up pretty quickly, probably the next word - and it's more than likely going to be the most important verb of the sentence. In this case it's going to be something like - thinking, looking, discussing, wanking. For me "We were sat discussing... " is far more elegant than "We were sitting discussing..."
I think its what you are used to. Here in the states, you would pretty much never say "we were sat." in fact we would probably get marks off in class for writing it thus. Additionally, I find it sounds clunky. I much prefer "we were sitting."
Topic Men chest
02 Mar 2014 10:28
#2. Smooth with defined muscle. Why? I'm just not a fan of chest hair. Not sure why that is - it's just what I've always been attracted to.
The guy I'm currently seeing has chest hair and its all I can do to not to wax it myself.
Topic What's for dinner tonight?
28 Feb 2014 17:23
braised some cooked sausage and cabbage together in a bit of apple ale, then finished it by tossing apple chunks in and sauteing everything quickly. Yum!
Topic How Important is Sexual Openness in a Relationship?
28 Feb 2014 17:16
The big problem is we are all different and to be open you need trust. Trust doesn't come automatically, it grows and has to be earned. There's no way that you go out on a first date and say "I'm into fisting", you'll end up with a lot of first dates if it even lasts that long!
Once you've built up trust then you can introduce fantasies and fetishes but you have to encourage your partner to open up as well.
Another thing is you are rarely born with them, they develop and can change constantly. You can grow out of a fetish as easily as you can develop a new one. I think this will become more widespread through the internet, we have access to things we never knew existed and the more adventurous will want to try it.
For myself, I was very vanilla when I was young but grew to be willing to try out lots of kinks partners had. They may or may not have done anything for me but I've never been asked to do anything that I refused, although there are things that I wouldn't do.
I do think that starting out vanilla when you are young is a very good thing. I cringe a little when I see posts by young people saying I am 18 and really into How do you really know if you havent fully experienced the vanilla also?
For myself, I started out pretty vanilla, now Im rather open to whatever, and love rainbow sherbet.
Topic What turns you ladies on the most?What gets u really horny?
24 Feb 2014 07:35
can u give me an example of what u mean?
what would u do after reading that?
I love it when you don't use real words, but rather a mixture of symbols. Who needs punctuation and grammar anyway? It makes me hot and ready to drop my panties immediately for any and all guys.
Topic which human satisfies your sexual cravings?
24 Feb 2014 06:09
lets see tonight I'm in the mood for chinese, no maybe thai. Or instead, I'll just go for the southern.
Wait, you weren't asking about dinner...
I dont order sex like takeout. I tend to choose my partners for reasons other then their "flavor"
Topic Small Dicks ... yes? no?
24 Feb 2014 06:03
It's not the dick I'm attracted to. It's the man the dick is a attached to.
Topic sharing your facebook password
20 Feb 2014 11:23
No, I would not. Everyone is allowed some independence in their own relationship. Password protected social media is private domain. While I have nothing to hide, that's not really the point. I think there is greater trust in allowing your partner some privacy without feeling like you need to check up on them via their facebook, emails, cellphone logs, twitter etc. If you feel you need all those passwords, there is some basic level of trust that is already missing in the relationship. I wouldn't give up mine and I wouldn't want his.
I wouldn't want his password, and I can't see why he would want mine.
20 Feb 2014 11:21
Not my cup of tea, but if you and your partner enjoy it, go for it.
14 Feb 2014 07:55
MANY male golfers will find it MUCH easier to relate IF they ask themselves a simple question... HOW MANY DRIVERS OR PUTTERS do YOU OWN? LOL For ME, the answer is: A LOT MORE THAN I REALLY NEED!
but a lot less than I really want
I love my shoes.
Topic men on lush
14 Feb 2014 07:52
People who lead off with the "are you horny" "hey babe lets chat" or some other cheesy line get ignored by me.
Topic Why Curlygirly is so awesome!
14 Feb 2014 07:05
She's good as gold and this place just wouldn't be the same without her.
I could agree with that
13 Feb 2014 13:36
I've been looking into this more and more and think I'm going to try it. I've debated starting with whole30 to start.