Topic Is it just me, or….
17 Jun 2013 14:09
It's also the framework for any romantic fiction.
The female character is in idealised virgin. No sordid past. She's deserves good things to happen to her. He on the other hand has everything going for him but of course he's missing that final piece.
Sexually, he's worldly, she's as pure as the driven snow.
Publishers will give author guidelines like this because they know readers buy this stuff over and over again. Another publisher might insist he's a vampire.
It's lazy but a successful formula.
Topic New story alerts
13 Jun 2013 10:04
Is the story there when you go to the home page? Maybe the author noticed something wrong with it and took it down for editing.
I've noticed sometimes links can also break if the category of the story is changed
Topic It’s OK in Texas to shoot a woman for refusing to have sex! You're within the law.
13 Jun 2013 09:35
You can steer any issue you'd like toward your beefs with gun ownership and other cultural traits you hate, but this isn't really a gun control issue.
It's not really an issue about ownership, more a question of what this guy's first course of action was. It wasn't based on his knowledge of the law and the thought that he'd get away with it. It was more down to the culture of sorting out your problems with an assault rifle.
He went and got his AK47 and opened fire on a moving car in the dark for the sake of $150. Of course the worse thing is, the law has backed him up. Shop-lifters beware!
Topic HAPPY BIRTHDAY, GAV!
13 Jun 2013 02:47
Happy Birthday, Gav
Link: If carpenters were hired like coders
Topic The Gentleman's Charter
13 Jun 2013 02:19
The notion of "the gentleman" is steeped in class structure and social elitism. Success and privilege allowed men to be gentlemen but they certainly didn't get that success by being gentlemen.
Poems like Kipling's "If" and Henley's "Invictus" give an indication of the measure of a man as does the book "Self Help" by Samuel Smiles - a text book for social climbing in the Victorian era. These brought the idea that if you act like a gentleman you could be one.
Acting like a gentleman is like any other form of courtship - it's a display mechanism - peacocking. Here I am, I'm educated, well-dressed, charming and successful - I will make a perfect mate. And women are suckers for it, every time. We don't have the benefit of wearing push-up bras and heels (most of us, any way) so we have to make do by giving you believable compliments and looking like we're interested in what you're saying.
A real gentleman will make you feel like it was your idea when he dumps you.
Topic Impartiality in news reportage.
12 Jun 2013 03:51
How is allowing a platform for opposing arguments to be heard a curtailment of free speech?
From what I understand, the Fairness Doctrine was done away with by Reagan (though as ever, he probably knew nothing about it). That should be reason enough on its own to reinstate it
Personally, as as far as watching news based media on tv, I choose to watch BBC World News. The reporters/commentators there do not seem to be so rude, 'in your face', or one sided as far as reporting the news from around the world. They, to me, actually report with professionalism.
They're required to be impartial and show balance under British broadcasting regulations, though there are repeated calls to remove these.
Topic Depth of Character....is it needed?
11 Jun 2013 10:21
In my most recent story, I don't even give my main character a name. All you know of her is that she's a woman, she wears heels and she visits an art gallery - anything else about her does nothing to tell the story (what story there is). A reader will already have some kind of image in their head of what she looks like - why should I change that? She could be black, she could be blonde, it won't make a difference to what happens or enrich the story.
If I'm writing first person I'll drip feed information about the other characters to the reader, in the same way you'd notice things about someone as you get to know them. I did this with the girl in Unreserved Seating. Interestingly, I don't describe the narrator at all though and I did toy with idea of adding a twist at the end by revealing the narrator is a woman - but I don't think it needed it.
Of course remember though that you're writing for your pleasure so do what makes you happy.
Topic Where Do You Put Your Arm?
11 Jun 2013 01:25
Ok I'll let you into a secret, just promise not to tell anyone.
You know those nights when a woman doesn't want sex, she just wants a cuddle - you know, when she's on the blob. A guy will quite happily let her fall asleep with his arm under her. About half an hour after she's fallen asleep his arm will feel completely dead. He can then use his numb hand to wank himself off so that it feels like someone else is doing it.
Topic Which improvements or features would you like to see added?
10 Jun 2013 09:19
Could there be a "report this post/thread" option added? Or if there is one, have I missed it?
If there's something I think breaks the rules on the forum I click on THIS LINK to see who's around - someone usually is and I leave it up to them to sort out.
I'm not sure how adaptable the forum is as it's third party coding
Topic Gimme Some Chocolate
07 Jun 2013 13:46
One for me, one for you, one for me, one for you!
Melting into perfection!
Ok but no more slipping any under my foreskin.
Topic Who played the best James Bond?
07 Jun 2013 13:03
I think I deserve a pass on this one, especially considering I pinched the whole 'Bond Banner' from Google Images :)
Topic Who was the Hottest Bond Girl?
07 Jun 2013 09:01
I can't even choose one from just Thunderball, let alone all 23
Topic Who played the best James Bond?
07 Jun 2013 08:40
Call me picky, Liz, but the pic you've used for Sean is from Never Say Never Again - a non-Eon film ;) #pedant
Sean was brilliant but Diamonds Are Forever was the worst film up until Die Another Day
George was hopeless, his only saving grace was he knew how to have a fight with the stuntmen and he happened to be in probably the best film of the lot
Roger was the first I saw at the cinema. Yes he wasn't exactly an action hero but who else could have delivered a line like "Courage is no match for an unfriendly shoe, Countess"
Tim was brilliant and should have made more, both of his films are very watchable
Pierce got to the franchise more than a decade after he should have done, Goldeneye was great but the rest got progressively worse.
Daniel, along with Tim, is the only other proper actor to play Bond. His Bond is far removed from Fleming's vision but then this is the 21st century
I'll have to go with the original - Bob Holness
Topic How do you pronounce it?
06 Jun 2013 03:29
Without an etymological root - it being and acronym as crazydiamond points out - there is no right or wrong way of saying it.
I'd go with the hard "g" along with the only other word in English to begin with the same three letters GIFT
Topic Who and Whom
01 Jun 2013 13:08
Another way to remember is the difference between who and whom is the same as the difference between he and him
You'd say "he is shopping" not "him is shopping".
Topic Character and plot development in erotica
01 Jun 2013 12:04
From your outline it would seem to me that the eroticism comes from his internal struggle rather than any relationships he has.
The characters you introduce should be as throwaway as his attitude to sex.
You already have two leading characters: what he is and what he wants to be. The conflict between them could be a powerful source of eroticism.
Just a suggestion of course. Look forward to seeing what you've come up with
Topic New recommendation symbol
30 May 2013 07:11
So basically if you don't like the mod's writing, then you're not going to read something they recommend? Yet another reason why I think the system is fine as is.
Someone's writing and their tastes are not necessarily the same. I don't write many poems, but there are some writers who write them exceptionally well and have been given an RR by me for that. Also, I'm neither a lesbian, nor do I write lesbian stories, but I've given an RR to a story containing lesbians, a good writer is a good writer regardless of the subject. The tags, the category and the tagline should already give you a good idea of whether the story is something you would enjoy reading if you're browsing through the RR section. I don't see what a mod's writing has to do with what you think of their taste.
I'm saying that if I read stories that you recommend and I find them to be not exceptional (IN MY OPINION) I'd probably be less inclined to follow your recommendation in future. If on the other hand I read them and liked them I'd be more inclined to think "Oh wow, OWA recommends it, she generally likes the stuff I do". You could even extend it so readers could follow individual mods recommendations in the same way that we can follow authors.
Good writing isn't solely about content and categories: some authors prefer long, sweeping, intricate plot-lines others have a poetic, adjective-heavy style - both of which i can take or leave but I can respect that other people may love that stuff - including mods.
Topic New recommendation symbol
30 May 2013 06:42
Stories are given RR's because the mod thought they were exceptional or particularly well written. That's what the award says, is there really a need to say more?
Besides if the mod wants to say more, they can put it in the comments section of the story.
From what I understand, it's one mod's definition of "exceptional and well-written" rather than a consensus as with the Editors' Choice. If I'm looking at a story that's been recommended by someone whose writing I like, I'd be more inclined to read it than one that was recommended by someone whose writing style I don't enjoy so much - and there are mods who fall into both categories for my tastes. I'm more inclined to go and see a film recommended by The Independent than a film recommended by Nuts Magazine.
As this is a personal recommendation from one person, that recommendation should be personalised - like a book jacket or a film poster. Anything to encourage someone to click it open.
Topic New recommendation symbol
30 May 2013 06:16
I think this is similar to my idea above...
maybe it could include the mod's comment as a "roll-over" to say why it's recommended - in the same way you'd see critics' praises on the back of a book.
What could be wrong with that?
Topic Sagging breasts?
30 May 2013 05:59
Once you're at the stage of her bra coming off there's not a lot that's going to "break the deal".
If it was your decision to lose weight then well done on your progress, but you really must try to stop yourself from transferring one body anxiety to another. Don't lose all the confidence and self-belief you've gained from feeling more comfortable about weight and replace it with the thought that men won't like your boobs.
Certainly don't judge your boobs against impossible images in magazines or against those well-upholstered ones you see everyday - you know as well as any woman that the correct, well-fitting bra will make up for any number of so-called imperfections
Topic Lush V2 Bug List
30 May 2013 01:48
Of course I am not sure if this is a bug, but I will report two things.
First is that I cannot see avatar on any member page (and this is just aasumption) with the real avatar. It could be that has something to do with pixles? I cannot see avatar of overmykneenow and I was just visiting Liz's page and there I cannot see Sprite's avatar..
Second thing is that when I scroll down on profiles page, video is covering of navigation bar. When I get to the video gallery, part how wide is vido coveres navigation bar.
It is a bug, I've noticed it before, it happens when someone changes their avatar from a jpg to a gif - you must have added me as a follow in December when I had an animated avatar - the link on the follows still thinks the image is a gif rather than a jpg. It's thecause of the broken image link on yours and Liz's page. If you want to, you can fix it yourself by un-following and then re-following (I won't be offended ;) )
Topic Help...I've been arrested by the grammar police
30 May 2013 00:55
The only time I've been irked by a verifiers edit was when one of them changed the proper spelling of "travelling" to the US corruption that is "traveling".
I'm more than aware that this is my problem, not theirs.
Topic Do Tattoo'd women turn you on?
28 May 2013 10:59
I've never thought of a woman as sexy because she had tattoos, however i've certainly been turned off by some designs on women