Topic Getting "Negative" Numbers
25 Jun 2012 13:05
I have no doubt that we have amongst us one, two, possibly three degenerate trolls who get a thrill out of low scoring work that is much superior to anything that their small mind could contrive.
I just wrote in the Rage Cage about this. I accept that everyone does not have the same taste or reaction to various stories. I think that if you leave a low score because there is something you see that can be improved, you should communicate that to the writer. Perhaps constructive criticism would be helpful for their next story. If it is just not to your taste, leave it alone. If it is, as ArtMan describes above, from a negative place of envy, spite, or just ignorance, stop it. It is not nice, not fair, and clearly indicative of your own inadequacies.
Topic The Rage Cage
25 Jun 2012 11:26
I understand that we all have our own likes and dislikes. I write with a wonderful friend and we have similar taste and world views that are perhaps not shared by all Lush members or those who take the time to read our stories. I accept that with humility.
What I do object to is someone who leaves a score of 3 anonymously. If you have some constructive criticism, let us know where we can improve. I suspect, however, that a low score that is left without a message accompanying it, even if as a private message rather than a posted comment, is one that comes from a different place and not a nice one.
Is it envy, spite, or is it the opposite of schadenfreude - oops, is that too big and foreign a word for you? It means feeling happiness for someone else's misfortune. The opposite, my cretinous friend, would be not being able to stand someone's success or happiness. Is that clear enough for you?
My mother used to tell me that if you have nothing nice to say, not to say anything at all. I will not go that far. If you have something to say, have the courage of your convictions and say it. Don't just pee in someone's soup anonymously.
By the way, this has not discouraged either of us. We will keep writing. You can continue to live in that little mean world of yours and you are welcome to it.
Topic Intelligence is overrated? IQ trumped by EQ, MQ, and BQ.
20 Jun 2012 09:47
I agree that intelligence is not a guarantor of success in life. EQ and MQ are necessary components of a decent human being. Intelligence without these could be sociopathy. However, let us not contribute to the general anti-intellectualism in society by saying that intelligence is unimportant. IQ is not its only measure, but surely the general dumbing down we are seeing is not a good thing.
I recently saw something on television about young men falling behind young women on every measure of success. Part of it was attributed to their considering reading to be unmanly.
What we all need to be is decent, bright, inquisitive and well-rounded human beings. Ignorance has no redeeming value.
Topic Your Favorite Quotes
20 Jun 2012 08:48
We plan, God laughs.
And, regarding attention seekers: She has to be the bride at every wedding and the corpse at every funeral. (Oscar Wilde)
19 Jun 2012 13:09
Where are the Grammar Nazis?
They are the mods verifying stories here on Lush.
Topic Which improvements or features would you like to see added?
18 Jun 2012 17:49
Now that we have the ability to sort messages into folders, it would be helpful to do so several at once as with deletions rather than having to do them one by one. I am certain that we all have a lot of them to file.
Topic Interest in You v. Your Writing
18 Jun 2012 11:47
I think that writing is an avenue for creative expression. My poetry comes from real emotions, but they may be remembered rather than current ones. The prose that I have written with Alphamagus comes from experience, imagination and fantasy and is therefore different than the poetry. The restaurant story is set in one that I like very much, for example.
I think in general writing must have some piece of you in it to be authentic, but it need not be autobiographical. It can tell in a story some insight that you have come to about the human condition with characters other than yourself.
I cherish my privacy (and anonymity on Lush) and do not share my intimate self or emotions with the world. For me that is unseemly and indiscreet, but we must each do what is comfortable for us.
I know that the poems have helped expiate some emotions for me and that has been very healthy. The stories are fun to write, perhaps because my writing partner makes it such a pleasure and they are intended to be playful as well as sexy and romantic.
The whole real me will never be on view on Lush.
Topic What says Summer to you?
18 Jun 2012 07:40
PIMMS, strawberries and cream, smoked salmon, the sound of leather on willow, cut grass, thunder storms and rain, the mad dash for cover, the sweet smell after the rain
I love these.
Topic What says Summer to you?
17 Jun 2012 14:58
Bare legs, breezy linen clothing, wild curly summer hair (no point straightening it in the humidity), and long summer evenings eating and drinking at outdoor patios. Invitations on friends' cruiser out on the lake. Somehow summer is the sexiest season of the year.
Topic How do I make a story banner?
17 Jun 2012 08:39
Thank you, DD.
Once created and saved as a download, how do you get it into your signature line? Should it be in .jpg form?
Topic OOOH! Message Folders!
16 Jun 2012 07:35
Great feature finally here.
I'd like to see a "move selected to folder" next to the "delete selected" button
Please, pretty please, Gav. So we do not have to move every message individually.
Topic Should creationism be taught in schools?
15 Jun 2012 10:24
I agree. Parents who want their children to get a religious education should send them to religious schools, whatever the creed or denomination. The US is not a Christian country any more than most other countries in the developed world. They are all diverse and becoming more so. Church and state are separated constitutionally in most places for a good reason. Freedom is not to have religious instruction imposed in school or as the default mechanism in a society. Freedom of religion includes freedom from religion, if that is your choice.
If you want an example of how a theocracy works, look at Iran and how it adheres to democratic principles.
Topic Offspring of Lushites
14 Jun 2012 17:17
NakedChef + ChefKathleen = ChefChef or NakedKathleen
Topic Like/dislike button on comments/forum posts/pictures
14 Jun 2012 11:11
Only site I've seen it on is facebook, and then they only have a like button and it's for lazy people. I don't think many people would want this place turning into a facebook like place. *Shivers at the thought*
"The New York Times" has a "recommend" button with a thumbs up symbol in its comments sections attached to articles. I don't think we need it here. If you have an opiinon about a subject, it is not difficult to write a line or two.
Topic What did you have for lunch?
11 Jun 2012 12:48
Caprese sandwich: fresh mozzarella, tomatoes, basil and arugula on ciabatta bread. Delicious.
Topic The Rage Cage
11 Jun 2012 09:54
Why do some people imagine themselves to be endlessly interesting - as if we are fascinated by their every thought and feeling? Is there no thought that can remain unexpressed? Is there no situation, no matter it impacts those involved, where its effect on them must not be announced and commiserated with? You are really not that important or interesting. Not funny or intelligent. Just narcissistic and attention-seeking.
Topic What Is Your Favourite Dessert?
10 Jun 2012 10:11
I do not have much of a sweet tooth, but these always tempt me:
Creme brule and really good chocolate cake