Topic Where has Leena00 gone?
13 May 2013 20:11
Leena00 had only clothed pictures on her profile but was so stunningly gorgeous and sexy that it was breathtaking. Now her profile has been deleted - anyone know why, or where she might be posting these days?
If her profile is suddenly gone she most likely has either deleted it or deactivated it. It happens all the time, people come and people go. But, most always return at some point.
Topic Safe words online?
09 May 2013 15:56
Good question. I got here through the scroll on the Lush Home page, and was simply curious to discover what question "Safe words online?" meant. And, yes, perhaps my response sounded a little flippant and even disrespectful, which I didn't intend. I was just stating my preference, not trying to disrespect yours.
As is your right to do :) and I appreciate your clarification. We all have our own kinks and quirks so to speak. One of the greatest things we have, is the power to learn, I personally love knowledge and can't get enough of it. Whether it be the vanilla world or that of the BDSM world, there is always room to learn, anyone who says any differently, is just plain full of shit.
Topic Making a Move
08 May 2013 00:56
In your case, I'd suggest 1) re-adjusting your attitude. Don't think of it as "making a move on" them (You're probably not a Top Gun), think of it as asking someone you like on a date to see if there's mutual "attraction" and the possibility of building some kind of relationship. 2) Making a move on someone sounds like you're looking for a quick pickup, a one night stand, and bragging rights (that sux, man) 3) Be sweet, tell her you like her, ask her out to do something she enjoys doing but doesn't get to do enough 4) Don't have expectations
Very well said. Just be open and honest with her and do not have an agenda. Women can sense that and its a complete turn off.
07 May 2013 17:30
good question ... why do some women call themselves Slut?
I would imagine it depends on the connotation of how /with whom one labels themselves "slut" to. Many would call themselves a "slut" to their SO ... just because it's a little naughty, dirty and exposed.
Maybe it's because they truly think that title is not derogatory or negative - and they are proud of that title.
What she said....Context is everything with this word. You walk up to a woman and call her a slut and you are likely to get either your head knocked off or a knee to your groin. But between two people who are involved, it can be a completely different thing and completely acceptable.
Topic Safe words online?
07 May 2013 16:59
No clue. BDSM I don't do.
May I ask, then why post in here? I can understand if you are curious but your statement does not sound like it comes from a place of curiosity or possible enlightenment.
Topic Safe words online?
06 May 2013 20:38
Don't break your hip on the way to the pisser tonight, you old twat.
Really? Surely you can do this without those names. As wrong as this feels, bend over Jack lol
Topic trust after affairs
05 May 2013 15:43
Were you just fooling around with me again Jack?
Com-er you little bastard
You know, you might come across a little more credible if you were to curtail your name calling. Intelligent adult conversations can and should occur without the use of profanity.
Topic Clit or Periods
30 Apr 2013 18:05
It's a no brainer: Get rid of my body's main source of pleasure instead of bleeding for about 4 days a month.
AFUCKINGmen to that one sister!!!!!! No thought needed on this question.
Topic Would you be offended if a guy considered you a milf?
30 Apr 2013 18:03
That is quite an interesting point to me. I have a website called Sir Robert's Stories and play the role of Sir Robert when chatting with my visitors. "Sir Robert" addresses all the women as "Miladies" and, so far, I have only had positive responses. I understand that Milady is more appealing than Madam and, thus, you would not be offended if you were addressed as "Milady", is that so?
I agree with TDW I'd much rather be referred to as a MILF instead of Ma'am, That just makes me feel old and being a 47 year old woman of 2 children I don't need to be reminded of my age lol as for the terms you like to use, I particularly do not care for those either. They remind me of Robin Hood times where its said to women of royalty.
Topic Issues with chat and message functions
28 Apr 2013 15:19
Are the chat rooms still messed uo? I've been away for a few days and there not working as soon as I log in. Not sure if it's site wide or just me.
They've been working just fine. Have you tried going in and chatting since your return?
Topic Do you ever get jealous when a guy on lush flirts with someone and you thought you had something heading?
28 Apr 2013 13:12
Of course! I think it's only natural but at the same time, you have to remember where you are and to tread carefully on sites like this in terms of getting too emotionally wrapped up in someone (although there are always the exceptions to the rule). Everyone wants to think they are more 'special' than the next stud or bimbo on here and to see that that is not necessarily the case can be an uncomfortable reality check. Jealousy is just part of the dance between men and women.
Very well said and I agree. As much as we want to believe the things we are told, they really do need to be taken with a grain of salt and as Belle stated there are always exceptions but in general terms, that is the best way to approach this site or anyone on it.
Topic Third person question
28 Apr 2013 13:10
If my partner felt a need to add a third person to our bed regardless of it being male or female, he would end up my EX! Sorry, not into sharing or being shared.
I agree. As Dani said as well, it brings up feelings of inadequacies that one feels the need to add another into the bedroom. That is definitely a hard limit for me that I will not waiver on, No sharing on either sides.
Topic sexy favours...
25 Apr 2013 19:28
No. If my pussy is the only thing that can buy it, then obviously I don't need it.
Topic Why would anyone like to be humiliated and degraded?
25 Apr 2013 19:19
Just to be clear, when thinking of a dom it is not just a male preserve. Women are great at being the dom.
From what I have learned thus far women are referred to as Domme or Mistress, the term Dom does in fact go towards being male not female.
Topic About to sign training contract, but do Doms want multiple subs?
25 Apr 2013 17:08
Alright...here I am trying to understand this lifestyle...and failing miserably. Contract? Does the contract come with a money back guarantee? I totally understand the trainees apprehension to have to deal other subs. I kind of like the "exclusive" aspect of my relationships, myself. And I kind of have a hard time calling anyone "Sir" (besides the traffic cop that pulls me over). As much as I try to understand this lifestyle....I guess I'm just not cut out for it. I have read the posts that say it takes a real strong person to enter the dom/sub lifestyle and I guess you're right cuz it's going to take a real strong person person to put up with the humiliation and physical abuse dom's seem bent on dishing out.
*Sighs*...I guess I'll just have to be satisfied with my guy using his brains and sensuality to seduce me, his animal instincts to satisfy me and his love to bond with me as we lay in our pool of vanilla bliss.
Oh...I would take out an insurance policy with that contract, honey. I'm sure Lloyds of London can help you with that.
Yes, you are correct this lifestyle does not seem to be for you. You are under the misconception that submissives/slaves and Dom's are into humiliation and physical abuse. That is NOT the case. Yes, there are those out there who have that need for humiliation but it is certainly not for everyone. As for your claim of physical abuse, there should NEVER be any of that in any type of relationship.
Each submissive/slave's needs are going to be different and not every Dom/Master out there will be able to fulfill those needs. It like any other relationship takes the right combination of parties involved to make it work. Communication and more communication is the only way it stands a chance of working. A contract is one of those forms of communication and each party puts for their needs and desires, limits, hard and soft etc. It's for the good of both parties to have such an agreement and yes, as Talon said the submissive/slave must be able to stand strong in communicating those to his or her perspective Dom. Thus, the strong person comes into play.
Please do some research if you are interested in the lifestyle before you keep making blanket statements as you did above that are simply not true. Not every person who is into this lifestyle is bent on humiliation and or physical abuse. It just adds to the misconception that many such as yourself have about this amazing lifestyle. I have no problem with honest intelligent questions. You may disagree with things just don't do it in a belittling or negative way.
To the OP, as Talon said, stand strong in your contract negotiations, Do not settle for something that will bring discord down the road. If your wants, needs and desires do not fit this particular Dom, then he is not the one for you. It is not something easily found and should NOT be easily entered into.
Good Luck to you.
25 Apr 2013 16:50
Wow. My parents did all of that to me growing up to break my bad behavior. I can't believe I was such a SAM.
Haha Dani you are awesome :)
Topic forced to or used...
25 Apr 2013 11:52
Any subs here enjoy being forced to do acts or enjoy being used? I mean enjoy the acts for themself not as a part of a realtionship?
The word forced should never be used in a D/s relationship or in any relationship for that matter. Submission is what you are looking for and that is done willingly and with knowledge (hopefully) of what that means, and most certainly forethought, if you don't have the knowledge of what you are truly getting into, then please get out while you can. Everything done in a D/s relationship is done as a part of that said relationship.
Topic Good guy or Bad guy
24 Apr 2013 17:50
Would you like to go out on a date with good guy, who opens door for you and do other nice things to make you feel special.
Or you prefer bad guys with "i dont give a F**k" attitude and kind of a abusive behavior.
Also tell us your best experience on date, and AFTER IT... ;)
I doubt you will find any self respecting woman who would rather have the latter fella. Call me crazy but its strong hunch.
Topic Dom/Sub: Is that all there really is to you?
24 Apr 2013 11:06
Thanx for being so nice Sprite. I feared that I was going to be bombarded with insult because of my unsophisticated post. :) I understand the safe word concept (was explained to me recently). So thats cool however some profiles say I can only talk to you if I have permission. Or, I can only cyber with you if I have permission. Or, I can't cyber at all because I'm not allowed. Doesn't sound like they have or want any control at all. And then you see pics of BDSM/Dom or porn of the same. My gawd...I call it 'rape by permission'. It's so violent. The lingering feeling, to me, is the sub is just an object with three fuck holes that are all going to be abused. Maybe there is much more to it than that but you lost me already.
This community for the most part does not sling insults at those who do know understand or agree with the lifestyle just as we hope that how we choose to live is treated with the same respect by the vanilla world.
Sprite explained things very well as always. It takes a very strong individual to submit to another just as it takes a strong person to accept that gift and treat it with the utmost respect and love. Those who mail you asking you to be their sub or if you want a Master, are merely playing, they know nothing of how things really work in this lifestyle.
As Sprite said, the submissive sets the tone in the D/s relationship. We can end it at anytime. Those on the outside will never truly understand what his type of relationship is like or what is involved. Each one is different.
The sub is not an object with three fuck holes that are going to be abused. The submissive sets the limits as to what he or she is willing to do. The Master/Mistress's job is to test and push the soft limits and not cross the hard ones. Each person has different needs and desires and all those things are discussed fully.
True D/s relationships are not about abuse. Knowledge is key and power in life and with this type of relationship its imperative. Nobody should enter this lifestyle easily or hastily.