Topic Facebook and your rights to privacy
16 Aug 2011 08:58
I don´t see the big deal. When I put my information up on the internet, I didn´t expect to keep all of that information private. That´s why I am not someone who updates my facebook page about every little thing that has happened in my life
Topic London Riots
16 Aug 2011 08:55
Time for the unemployed ranter. I'm unemployed and it's not that I'm not looking for a job or that I've had such a bad education that I can't find a job. I'm frustrated with not working, I'm pissed off that I'm firing off applications every day and getting no replies, but rioting about it? Never! I've been brought up better than that and I have pride in my country. Sure I don't live in London, so I'm not fully aware of the general feeling there, but I'm sure it's mostly the same around the whole of Britain.
Anyway, to bring it back to the rioters, I think that it's as I mentioned: The rioters are not proud of the country in which they live. This is not a racial attack, but just look at the colour of the people who are rioting - not many British faces, are there? To some immigrants, it's just a place to stay and to some others it's home. Those of them that are citing reasons of "not feeling part of the community" are idiots. Don't they see that by rioting they are ostracising themselves further? If you want to be part of the community, be part of it, join in, contribute, be BRITISH.
I don´t agree with what you are saying about most of them not being British. Just because they aren´t white, doesn´t mean they are immigrants, and aren´t British. I think in General, Brits are a lot less patriotic than other nations. I don´t cadone the rioting, and really don´t think it is a protest and people aren´t going to acheive anything, but I have said that before. I understand "not feeling part of the community," especially in a city like London. There are a lot of class differences. London is also massive with so many different groups of people, I think it´s hard for people to feel a sense of community at times.
Topic BDSM 101
16 Aug 2011 08:39
I have been in a few D/s relationships, both online and in person. I have had experiences with Doms who use BDSM as an excuse to abuse and take advantage of people who are submitting to them. I am definitely glad to see this thread.
I have been in almost 24/7 relationships and I know they are something I never want to be in. Although I can be very submissive sexually, I am a rather independant, dominant person outside of the bedroom. I have jumped quickly into relationships which were disasturous. There aren´t really any set rules in a BDSM relationship, just like there aren´t set rules for a vanilla relationship. Different things work for different people.
To add to oint number 4: Trust is a massive part of a D/s relationship, and discussing things like limits is very important. Just because you are submissive to someone doesn´t mean that they can do anything to you. Boundaries are really important. It´s a two way street. A sub should respect their Dominant´s boundaries as well.
Topic London Riots
12 Aug 2011 06:12
I no longer have one job because they destroyed the restaurant I worked at. It was stupid. They had to bring 16,000 policemen onto the streets of London to keep it quiet. Ridiculous.
I hear a lot about how all of this is for the social injustices we have in England. The lower classes feel that have no chance in life, unemployment is high...etc So what do they do? They go and destroy shops, which can longer employ people, because they simply no longer exist and cause hundres of thousands of pounds worth of damage. It´s not a protest, these actions are not against the government. It´s just a bunch of yobs wrecking their local communites, most of which aren´t the upper class one, but the ones they live in.
Although I don´t see how this is really a protest, I think it has brought up a lot deep rooted issues in our society. We live in a country that has free schooling, and relatively inexpensive university fees (until next year). We have free health care and more social programs than most other countries. I don´t have much sympathy for people who aren´t working hard to acheive any sort of qualifications or to obtain the sort of lifestyle they want. I understand it´s difficult, but I don´t think a lot of people even try. Maybe I have spent too much time in the UK, in countries where most people don´t go to school and can´t afford food.
I think among my generation, in London at least, people have just gotten a bit lazy. Last year I was working ridiculous hours on minimum wage in a job I hated. I made almost exactly the same as a friend who was getting unemployment benefits. I have another friend who is getting unemployment benefits and has started working a part time job. When they asked him to do more than 9 hours a week, he refused, because then he would lose his checks. There is no reason why he wouldn´t be able to get a full time job. He has a good education, two bachelor degrees and all sorts of experience. This is the downside - there are always going to be people who exploit the system.
I just think there is absolutely no excuse for the things that are happening now. It´s just people who want to go on a shopping spree and wreak havoc.
As for guns. Thank goodness not many people have them. Can you imagine how bad this would have been if most rioters had guns?
As for self defence. In England you can only use force equal to that used upon you, or you can be charged with assault. So, if you are being raped then you can legally stab them or whatever. There have been a few courtcases where people have shot intruders in their house. One man was convicted for manslaughter after shooting an intruder in the back, reason being that if his back was turned than he couldn´t have been an immediate threat.
Things have calmed down a lot. I have spent the past couple of days cleaning up my friends apartment. His office (which he owns) was completely burnt down, and his house was broken into.
Topic When is the best time to submit?
12 Aug 2011 05:12
I think titles are super important. Come up with a creative one.
Stories with creative titles catch my attention more than "I Fuck Mom - Part 75"
Topic London Riots
08 Aug 2011 23:50
Buz don´t worry London is relatively safe, just avoid certain areas. We have protests all the time, mostly very peaceful. Don´t worry about riots.
I think a lot of people are feeling the stress of the economy and people that live in the lower economic areas are feeling that they don´t have the chance to move up.
Topic London Riots
08 Aug 2011 16:17
I guess I don´t have a particular question for this, but this is something that´s happening close to home. Over the past few hours things have gotten fairly out of control in London. I was in East London and saw some violence there, then came home to West London and saw even more craziness. I was having dinner a few roads from my house, sitting outside. A group of about one hundred men gathered outside and started throwing things at cars, and police cars. They were attacking people. Someone threw a pole through a police van. I happened to be eating in a middle eastern restaurant. We were quickly given our bills, I was talking to the waiter and he said it´s the sort of thing he sees back at home, and something he never expected to see here. I had to have my parents rescue my friend and I. Apparently the mall near my house has just been set on fire.
For those of you who don´t know what´s going on. There was a protest in Tottenham about the shooting of a suspected mobster by policemen. It got really out of hand and turned into a riot. It went on for a couple nights. Today riots have started popping up all over London, and things seem to be escalating and getting out of hand. You can go a few streets away though, and you would never know this stuff is happening.
I am a little shaken after some of the things I have seen, but am absolutely glued to the news. It´s a little scary, it´s doesn´t seem like there is a reason for a lot of it. It started off as a protest to the shooting, and against the police, and people who feel like they aren´t given chances to move up in society are getting some power, but it has turned into gratuitus violence.
I live in area of London that has a lot of crime, and I think something like this shows a lot about the mentality of our society. Where things like this are okay.
Topic Born Free?
08 Aug 2011 06:37
My views of zoos are similar to many of the above. One of my favourite zoos is just outside of Belize City. All of the animals are in their natural habitat, basically some fences were built around sections of the rainforest. The enclosures are so large that sometimes when you go, you don´t see much, because the animals usually aren´t right up against the cage. There are some marine parks that I know of that do a lot of research and are humane. They don´t really do any animal shows though.
I used to live in Cabo, and there was a company in town that would let tourists swim with dolphins that were in cages. None of the trainers had any sort of background in marine conservation or anything like that. They were just there purely to entertain people. I thought it was absolutely horrible.
Topic Bee Sting Sex
01 Aug 2011 01:05
I knew a woman who liked to put nettles into her girly bits.
Won´t quite sting like a bee, but can´t imagine it being all too pleasant either...
Topic Bad Date Bingo
29 Jul 2011 08:12
Worst date ever with a control freak.
I once went out on a date with a chinese guy. He took me to a chinese restaurant. I wasn´t all that bothered when he ordered the food, but when it came to the drinks he ordered for me. The worst part was when our food came and I had to use chopsticks. Normally I cope very well, but that night I didn´t and knew I was going to make a big mess, so I just asked for a fork so I didn´t have to worry about picking up small shredded things with sticks. This guy wouldn´t let the waitress bring me a fork, said I needed to learn to eat properly.
Topic What the f$@k is wrong with people these days!!!???
22 Jul 2011 12:13
I VERY FIRMLY believe that if you are on government asst you should lose the right to reproduce. mandatory chemical sterilization. when you want to reproduce, pay for it yourself!!!
What happens if one day you aren´t on government assistance?
Topic Should gay men be allowed to donate blood?
19 Jul 2011 07:06
I tried to give blood in the UK once, and was turned down. There reasoning was that alothough I have been tested frequently, I was in a high risk group for HIV. Although they screen all blood there is some super small percentage that it can be missed, especially if you have recently contracted that, or other blood bourne illnesses.
And I am a straight woman, but:
I´ve had sex with men who have had sex with other men (both oral and anal)
I had been in Africa within a certain time period (I didn´t have a blood transfusion, but I had had protected sex with someone living in Africa)
I´d had acupuncture, and had my ear pierced done within four months of trying to give blood (also can´t give blood if you´ve had a tattoo in that time period)
I had been in a country that had malaria within six months of trying to give blood
I had been given money for sex (another question was about being given drugs for sex)
I had injected drugs a couple years previously (new syringe and had been tested since then)
I´d had sex with someone who had injected themselves with drugs
Yet, I don´t ever remember being asked if I had had unprotected sex with a heterosexual man.
Actually I won´t ever be able to give blood because of certain medication, and because I have had a blood infection in the past.
I get that they want to minimise the risk of passing on blood bourne illnesses. I don´t think it´s a bad thing to be overly cautious. So if a gay man has had unprotected sex within a certain time period, then they shouldn´t give blood. But the same should go for a heterosexual man or woman. There´s a risk, and things like HIV aren´t going to show up immediately after you´ve contracted them.
So yes, I think gay men should be allowed to donate blood.
Topic Favorite beach/tropical location
16 Jul 2011 15:59
I love Malaysia, but it´s a bit far for you.
Belize has some beautiful beaches. Caye Caulker is a lovely place. Has some good night life too.
I was recently living in Cabo San Lucas, there are some nice beaches. There are some totally remote beaches off the beaten track that are lovely and incredibly romantic, and you never see anyone. Diving is nice too :) There are some fabulous restaurants, and hotels. San Jose is nearby and has a really nice arty/hippy vibe. I can always recommend some good hotels and things off the beaten track.
Topic Internet macho man and/or B.I.T.C.H. - But in real life situations, you actually ...
09 Jul 2011 08:34
When it comes to violent interactions between two people, I am not going to physically step in. Well, because I physically couldn´t help. I will most likely call the police though. But sometimes it does shock me when people don´t step in. When I was about 14, I was in central London in the middle of the afternoon. A man grabbed me by the wrist, and tried to drag me into his car. I was shouting and screaming from help, and no one did anything. There was even a group of 6 or so very well built men who just stared for a few seconds then walked on.
I am living in Mexico right now. The other day I was at work, and in the front of the shop. Out the window I saw two men knock down a guy in his early twenties and start beating him up. My reaction was to call the police, but a mexican I work with shut the front door and closed the blinds. Then told every one to get away from the window, so we wouldn´t be witnesses. He said he thought they could be police, but wasn´t sure.
Topic Nipple Play
27 Jun 2011 08:53
My nipples aren´t very sensitive, so if someone is kissing or licking me very gently, I can´t feel much, and it doesn´t excite me a whole lot. I like my nipples to be bitten gently and not so gently some times. I also occasionally like clamps and such. I like it to be part of foreplay as well as a part of sex.
27 Jun 2011 07:40
This has been discussed a few times before. It´s not a massive turn on for me, but if my partner is into it, then I can be as well. I don´t like peeing on anyone, but find it incredibly dirty when someone pees on me. I just don´t like it in my mouth
Topic At the restaurant or @ home...do you -
26 Jun 2011 19:07
I have a wire that goes behind my teeth. Stuff gets stuck in it sometimes, and I have to use a toothpick to dislodge it, or brush my teeth. I do do it in private though, because I don´t think it´s very attractive.
Topic Chat Etiquette
25 Jun 2011 19:54
Quite often I am doing a hundred things while I am online. Whether it´s writing emails, verifying/reading stories, writing, catching up with friends back home...I don´t always catch messages immediately and quite often when I notice someone has sent me a message they have already logged off.
There are also times I get inundated with cyber messages, they are tiresome, especially since I am not going to cyber with anyone. There are times I get fed up with this and when "7indick4u" or "needhotpussy" open a chat box, I usually assume they are wanting to cyber and don´t always answer if I am currently in the middle of something.
Topic When is big too big?
25 Jun 2011 10:24
Kind of to add to what MMonroe said, I have somewhat small boobs. I always wore a 36A, very occassionally B, but the cups never fit comfortably. When I got fitted for a bra, I was told to wear a 34D because my breasts are a bit far apart. Wearing larger cups fit a little better.
Topic Secret Lovers
25 Jun 2011 08:41
I wouldn´t say I am "locked" into a relationship at the moment, because we will be splitting up when I move away in a few weeks. We have been together around four months though. He moved here while his wife stayed in their home country while he gets a job set up here. She´s joining him in August. Although we have been living together, our relationship has been kept a secret from our colleagues and friends. It´s really difficult at times. I love him, but things aren´t ever going to work out for us. I also feel like a terrible person for doing this to his wife.
I have been in other secret relationships. When I was 16, I met a man who was 11 years older than me. He was hindu and Indian. Neither of us wanted to tell our families. After I realised our relationship was a little more than just sex, I wanted him to meet my friends. He was too embarassed about our age and cultural differences that he refused to meet my friends, or even tell his friends about me. So for two years, we met secretly in hotels on the weekends. We never once went to dinner together, or out to do anything. We went to the cinema once. I ended up pushing some of my friends away, because I had to set aside a lot of time for him. I lived in London and he lived in Leicester. I would usually have to meet him somewhere towards where he lived. It was a horrible relationship to be in.
Topic Smoking ban
23 Jun 2011 19:22
Found it! This one definitely wouldn´t encourage me to stop.
This is an interesting website. It shows the warnings in different countries.
Topic Smoking ban
23 Jun 2011 19:17
Those aren´t all that bad. The one that I find really off putting is of a dead fetus, warning it´s harmful to smoke while pregnant. I have seen that one all over central/south America and Asia.
There´s one I find quite odd here. It has a picture of a dead mouse on it, and no written warning. I tried to find a picture of it, but couldn´t.
Topic Smoking ban
23 Jun 2011 18:55
Did you hear that they're going to be putting gross and disgusting pics on packs soon to discourage kids? Heh, would have made me more curious and I would have bought a pack sooner.
Do they not do that in the states already?
Some of them are really off putting, it never stopped me from smoking when I did though.
Topic What do you do to stay fit?
21 Jun 2011 17:58
I usually run everyday, but lately have been having some kidney issues and it´s a little too painful. So I am taking super long walks.
I also scuba dive, but since I am only freelancing at the moment, I only get out a few days a week instead of everyday.