Forum posts made by she

Topic Say something nice about the profile of the person above you
Posted 04 Mar 2014 01:43

I don't know Dudealicious well, however his profile says that he is a dog person which is something absolute in my life. And as he can laugh at their's stinky farts means that he has some humor in life :)

Topic A big thanks to LIZ for helping with the new header design
Posted 27 Feb 2014 19:19

Looks fantastic, Liz, great job and thanks!

Topic How often do you expected me to contact, if I am dating you?
Posted 26 Feb 2014 07:14

Thanks for the feedback ladies, I can see that in highsight I was probably too distant, I didn't see the need to keep contacting her on the basis that she was expecting. Pahaps the answer is, I was attracted to her, but not quite attracted enough. I find that if another person wants it to get more serioius, the instinct can sometimes be for me to worry that we're getting too deep too soon. Let's be honest, I have a slight fear of showing major commitment, when I can't decide if the girl is just a temporary thing, or if I see a real future. Maybe to some extent, I've answered my own question. The truth is, I didn't see a huge future for us, so maybe just being happy with how things were going, isn't enough.

I wonder how many other people have to wrestle with their fears of commitment, or sometimes wonder how attracted they truly are to the girl. I think if you truly like somebody, these questions never come into it. Pahaps moving on, makes perfect sense.

Personally, I think is just fear that is in us, is limiting us in pretty much everything. Now, if we manage to put control onto it or get to know our fears, we can live with them happier life.
What, I think, you made one mistake in this growing relationship (that ended too soon) is that you were pretending to be someone else. I really don't know how to sugar coat people, so I hope you won't mind me saying that.
As you said in your first post, you were trying to play it by some social standards, trying to do it right, as we tend to do when we are nervous or in dilemma what to do, but usually those games are not really working, not in adult life anyway. Even if you would be successful with the girl you were dating, the question still remains, if you would be happy with her, knowing that you were pretending (to one extend that is) that you were someone else. In my experience it is always a hassle, or he shows who he really is and she gets annoyed and upset being tricked or he try to stay the 'perfect' guy for her, unhappy because that is not who he is.
Good luck :)

Topic are prescription glasses sexy?
Posted 25 Feb 2014 06:52

Oh, absolutely!
Joji :)

Topic True Detective... anyone watching?
Posted 25 Feb 2014 06:49

I mean, it is absolutely fantastic! Hart roll, looks like it was written for Woody, and I am speechless when it comes to McConaughey. I was never really his fan, but he picked up his game and managed to carry the show. Of course I couldn't just stop with the first episode, I am hooked. Story has so many layers and I cannot wait to see in witch direction writers will take us. Lets face it, I am freshman, only 2 episodes down, still 4 to go to catch you guys, across the Atlantic, up, so don't judge my naive approach to this show :)

Topic True Detective... anyone watching?
Posted 24 Feb 2014 06:56

I saw your blog post the other day and check the series out. Looks interesting, I'll have time to watch it tonight. Will let you know how that went :)
You seem quite addicted to it ;), honestly I am looking forward to see some more of Woody. I fancy him, a lot icon_biggrin

Topic Ladies Do you Find it Rude or Offensive If Men Offer Opinion/Comment on This Forum Topic "Ask t
Posted 23 Feb 2014 03:21

Depends on how you state your answer, if and how rude you are, if you are mocking op or someone because of their answer or if you are just sharing from your point of view what op has asked...but I don't think ladies find it offensive nor rude (in general) just irritating if you are, as said before, not playing nicely.

Topic The Official Olympics Thread: Sochi 2014
Posted 23 Feb 2014 03:15

Some stats how successful Winter Olympic 2014 were by country.

edit: I was a wee too quick, lets see if the outcome of today's games will change country order. Sweden is in top 5 already.

Topic A reminder about Posting your own PICS
Posted 20 Feb 2014 06:06

Thanks for posting his pic, Nicola, and for this thread in general. I just wish for more views for it, so the ladies of the Lush can be warned. I believe you did all you could.

Topic #prayforvenezuela
Posted 18 Feb 2014 07:05

I spread it out there as well. Good luck with every thing :)

Topic Have you come out to family/parents?
Posted 18 Feb 2014 01:18
That's for you and any other idiot that thinks that I chose to be gay! It's not easy to come to terms with it but when you're born with a limited intellect, well that must be so much harder!
The ONLY choice that I had was to be either open and honest to MYSELF or live my life as a lie!!!
Please do youself a favour and don't reply to this because I won't be so polite in future!!!!

Ha, cute.

You should know better that I do not get intimidated by threats or attempts of intimidation, beside I never said that I am straight, your assumptions are straight wrong (see what I did there happy8 ). Just because I disagree with you on the subject, or better said I do not agree with you, I have my own opinion that for time being cannot be excluded, doesn't make me homophobic, it makes me person with different opinion than yours. Just because I am leaving options open that maybe homosexuality isn't genetics, doesn't make me or any other person homophobic, I just disagree with you, it just happened that you are gay and you took it personally, and that really cannot be my issue. As one smart person said, I am only responsible for what I say not for how you hear it or receive it.

Topic Foot Candy
Posted 16 Feb 2014 08:45

Last year I bought her first shoe and couple of months ago she launched her new collection. Milenikashoes is brilliant young shoe designer and I want these three models badly, specially the flat ones, they will go just perfect on summer dresses. And that mustard color is just fantastic with those red and black details. I am in love with her style. Here is her site, enjoy :)

Topic Belgium's parliament votes through child euthanasia
Posted 16 Feb 2014 08:26

Finally. I wish the bill is accepted all over the place.
I understand why pediatricians are fighting against it and supporting modern medicine that can alleviate some pain, but unfortunately it cannot be done for all patients. If this new law will prevent just a hand full of children to ride in pain until the last breath, I am pleased. It is not human to leave one human life to suffer so much, just because it is unappropriated or immoral for some people or organisations.

Topic Have you come out to family/parents?
Posted 13 Feb 2014 06:07

You can google and research all you want but get back on the thread! There's another thread about homosexuality being a choice!!! POST THERE!!!!

Ha, it has nothing to do with google_ing, although reading what is new never hurt anyone. It has every thing to do with pure simple logic. I was intrigued in which way this thread has developed, but I have no interest in fighting every battle on forum, but thanks for suggestion.

I find it, in this era of information and science, one thinking and believing what knows, has learned in textbooks, knowledge gained from parents, as a 100% fact, I find that as something extremely preposterous, ignorant and arrogant. I am defending here one simple fact, and that is very simple statement, just because we think we know something, that doesn't mean we are right about it. Maybe there exist possibility that just maybe, there are people who know more than we do. Closing those possibilities just because we were thought differently in the past is silly to me. Science is developing in great ways, with fantastic speed and to diminish that fact is beyond my understanding. I have learned enough in my life to say and admit that I know nothing.
So, if homosexuality really is matter of choice, near future will tell us. But for sure I will not close that option just because there are people who are abusing this info or people who are afraid of this info or any other reason. At the end of the day, does it really matter who we have sex with? It shouldn't be anyone's business anyway, but for people involved in one relationship.

Topic Have you come out to family/parents?
Posted 08 Feb 2014 11:07

As far as me not being a 'science' mind, two things:

1. I have a degree that says otherwise. Working towards another that will say even more. Not saying this to brag. It's just a fact and it's not something I even mention unless it comes up. But you seemed concerned, so I thought I'd let you know. icon_smile

P.S. It'd be great if you could stick to the topic at hand without feeling the need to insult someone's intelligence. I noticed that's the tactic you use when you're out of valid/relevant points. And I understand that it's your thing, which is fine. We all need something, so I won't judge...but it really has no place here in the forum.

Please and thanks.

Noted. However it would be more than required if you would stick to what you ask for, beside if you do not like the way I express myself, please, by all means, you do not need to talk to me or respond to my every post. As far as I know, I haven't broke any forum rules.

2. There's nothing new about epigenetics. There's just a name for it now. It's just a sub-sect of genetics as a whole.

And from an evolutionary standpoint, it's becoming more apparent in people, animals, and even plants. Anything from one's favorite scent to favorite food to preferred weather/location can be attributed to well as many other things like SEXUALITY.

See? Full circle.

You're welcome.


Topic Have you come out to family/parents?
Posted 07 Feb 2014 11:27

Speak for yourself.

oh please, it is absolutely new researches with few rare scientist who are trying to discover 'new world' or as some people would like to say they are trying to brainwash homosexuals. So, no I most certainly do not believe that you are one of them, maybe just the one 'scientists' who supports that everything new is outrageous. Not much of a science mind I would say.

Topic Have you come out to family/parents?
Posted 07 Feb 2014 10:57

Actually, epigenetics has very little to do with hormones. It's more about how different genes are expressed, which can be due to internal factors (inner biology) as well as external factors like your environment.

That's why epigenetics can be used to support the notion that sexuality does in fact have biological roots and can be predetermined. We don't choose our genes, and we don't choose the way our genes are expressed...kind of like something else we don't choose. My 2 cents

It could be just me, but this reads the same as I said, just that you pointed out and took that argument to contradict mine. Which is fine, but neither of us are in this field of science that could discus epigenetics and how it effects homosexuals.

Topic Have you come out to family/parents?
Posted 07 Feb 2014 10:54

we don't live in the middle age, they don't burn witches

Treatment of Gays in Uganda: The Uganda Anti-Homosexuality Bill (often called the "Kill the Gays bill" in the media due to the originally proposed death penalty clauses) was passed by the Parliament of Uganda on 20 December 2013 with the death penalty proposal dropped in favor of life in prison.

The legislative proposal would broaden the criminalisation of same-sex relations in Uganda domestically, and further includes provisions for Ugandans who engage in same-sex relations outside of Uganda, asserting that they may be extradited for punishment back to Uganda, and includes penalties for individuals, companies, media organisations, or non-governmental organisations that know of gay people or support LGBT rights.

Treatment of Gays in Russia: In 2013, Russia received criticism from around the world for enacting a law that bans the distribution of "propaganda of non-traditional sexual relations" to minors, which effectively makes it illegal to suggest that gay relationships are equal to heterosexual relationships or to distribute material on gay rights.

Since the passage of the anti-gay propaganda law, the media has reported the arrest of a gay rights activist as well as a surging incidence of hate crimes motivated by homophobia including hate crimes perpetrated by neo-Nazi groups against gay minors. A law prohibiting gay pride parades in Moscow for one-hundred years has also recently been enacted. International rights groups have described the current situation as the worst human rights climate in the post-Soviet era, while Russian human rights activist Lyudmila Alexeyeva has called passage of the law against gay propaganda "a step toward the Middle Ages.

It is illegal to be gay in 76 countries. Punishments range from fines to short and lifelong prison sentences, hard labor, forced psychiatric treatment, banishment, whippings, and death by public stoning. Even in the US, there are hate groups who would, if they could, do violence against gays.

the site name alone should give you a good idea. my point is, we might not burn witches, but if some people had their way, we WOULD burn gays. now, as for gays changing, yes, they can - in fact, Arizona is setting out to prove that they can this year:

Beginning November 1st of this year, the state of Arizona is implementing a mandatory school program designed for all children grades K-12 to help homosexual males and women become straight. The controversial conversion therapy will be used in all of Arizona’s 2,325 public school curriculums and is already gathering a large amount of criticism as well as those who approve of the new program.

Dean Huls who is the brain child behind People Can Change spoke with Fox News about their plan to help all the gay children of Arizona. “Since 2000 ‘People Can Change’ has been helping thousands of children resolve their unwanted same-sex attractions. We bring the gay demons out of these individuals so they can become who god intended them to be. Our success and track record speaks for itself,” Huls said. “Facing the reality that you have unwanted homosexual feelings can cause tremendous turmoil – especially as a child whose feelings conflict with deeply held values, beliefs and life goals. But there is a way out. A path that leads them to resolve rather than fight their homosexual feelings. A path to authentic brotherhood and to our innate heterosexual masculinity.”

btw, electro shock therapy is also one of the methods used to make gays go straight.

frankly, it's not a matter of someone who is gay WANTING to be straight. it's a matter of them being convinced that they are sinning, they are evil, they are wrong. it's a matter of them being bullied and persecuted and threatened until they can't take it anymore. it's a matter of them being indoctrinated at a very young age into thinking they are abnormal monsters. there is nothing wrong with being gay, so why would someone WANT to change? forced to change? yes, but not WANT.

Yes, I've said that quite recklessly, could be read as ignorance as well. I guess I am being sugar coated in my life when it comes to that specter that is.

Topic Have you come out to family/parents?
Posted 23 Jan 2014 06:18

just so you are aware:

credentials. Dr Neil Whitehead is associated with NARTH, an association of mental health professionals who operate under the assumption that homosexual individuals who want to change, can change -- with counseling (or brainwashing).

your other examples back what i was referring to - epigenetic roots.

Of course Dr Neil is advocating that homosexuals if want can change. His researches on 3 different continents has proven that homosexuality is not genetic. You can call it as pleased, even brainwashing, but we don't live in the middle age, they don't burn witches. Haven't read much about him, so cannot be sure of that either.

Epigenetics has nothing to do with genetics as you want to present it. I am not scientists but I think epigenetic has something to do with hormones and reactions between genes themselves..I think.

As far as I am concerned, neither of us can prove their right, you relying on past and possibly obsoleted facts and I on future not proven ones. Future will tell for sure.

I want to repeat myself and say it again, my believe has nothing to do with trying to insult anyone, straight or homosexual people, it is just how I feel (that sex is something fantastic, and why limit ourselves) and it is completely irrelevant for scientific world that deals with homosexuality.

Topic Our Adult Store is now Open! 10% OFF COUPON CODE inside
Posted 23 Jan 2014 06:00

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Topic Have you come out to family/parents?
Posted 19 Dec 2013 08:01

This is exactly what I brought up in another thread but it just proves we are born what we are. Everyone is not bisexual, it's the epimarkers that define us, we can accept who we are or deny it but we know it.

I don't know what you said in another thread, but in this one you didn't say much.
As I said few times, I used bisexual term to explain my theory, that we are not born to be predisposal to one gender. We are constantly changing and that by deffinition is something that you are open for all possibilities and thats why bisexualism.

Topic Have you come out to family/parents?
Posted 19 Dec 2013 00:22

total BS. please, if you're going to post such blatant disinformation, back it up with facts, and no, that doesn't mean an opinion piece by someone with an agenda.

These articles are not the ones I read while ago, will have to dig a bit deeper for them, but they will show that homosexuality is not genetic. As I was saying in all my posts on this subject, nothing is 100%, we as human species are still learning and who knows what will scientists prove in coming decades.

Topic Have you come out to family/parents?
Posted 15 Dec 2013 03:28

It's one thing to deny our desires. And of course there are people who are often in denial about their own sexuality. But it doesn't apply to the entire human race.

People who are beyond that point know what they do/don't like. Sex has no limits. Sticking to what you like doesn't mean you're limiting yourself. It just means you're embracing what you do desire. There's no sense in delving into something that holds no appeal for you. That's being something/someone you're not. And it leads to misery.

So yes, it's beyond asinine to assume that everyone desires same-sex encounters and are just fooling themselves if they say that they don't.

As far as labels go, some people hate them. And they have their reasons. As for me, I don't care. I'm bisexual because I've experienced and enjoy both sexes. To me, saying I'm bisexual is no different than saying I have brown eyes or curly hair. These are not just facts. It's a part of who I am. Saying my eyes are green when they're brown wouldn't be true to that. Although I appreciate green eyes in others, my eyes will always be brown. It doesn't make me any less open to other eye colors.

It's no different with sexuality. Just because someone doesn't experience sex and sexuality the same way you do doesn't mean they're limiting themselves. And as I've said before, it's asinine to apply your experiences with your own sexuality to everyone else. It just doesn't work that way.

ha, we nare not in 5th grade, I don't need people to go my way for all cause.
Obviously I am not making clear myself enough. The whole point of calling human race bisexual is because people do not desire same sex encounters, they are free to do whatever. Lets say you are lesbian, never been with a guy, never desired a guy. You are proud to be lesbian, you fought gay people battles. So, you meet a guy, but you don't see him as option because you are who you are. What I am saying is, peoples minds are tought, trained. Of course I am not saying you being a lesbian is something you trained yourself into, but sticking with it is. 8and please don't read this that I want to de-gay anyone)
people believed for a fact that earth is on giant turtle's back, and that was a fact. They believed it as absolute truth, until they were courageous enough to explore. We thought that agression is in our DNA, which has been proven that we learn how to be aggresive. We are changing on daily basis, why not give ourself a chance to explore when it comes as pleasurable as sex is. That is all I am saying. I am not judging no ones sexual choices or preferences, I am just saying that maybe there is more than we think we know.

Topic Have you come out to family/parents?
Posted 15 Dec 2013 00:10

I am going to chime in, a bit late but I think valid opinion simply because of age, maturity and experience.

I think we all can be attracted to members of both sexes without cause. Does that make us bisexual or gay/lesbian? No. When it comes to sexuality I think attraction is mutual. I can say there are a number of men I am attracted to. Sexually even. Having said that, and having 'experimented' when I was younger, I prefer NOT to act on that feeling. That doesn't mean he/they are less attractive.

The same goes for ladies. There are a number of ladies I am very close to, attracted sexually to, but I choose NOT to act on those urges. Why? Simply because I prefer the friendship without the burden of dealing with the sexual situations that occur after.

But I think the human race as a whole can and should get over their ingrained (wonder where it all started - I would like to smack the shite out of them) inhibitions relating to human sexuality. Come on people, sex is good.

Exactly. It makes me wonder if people feel safer with all the lables we have on us? Do we really need to belong to certaing grup to feel loved, secured and appreciated?

Topic Have you come out to family/parents?
Posted 14 Dec 2013 23:53

So saying all of humanity inherently fits into one category is a bit asinine.

No, lable, separate and limit ourselves, is a bit asinine.

Topic Have you come out to family/parents?
Posted 14 Dec 2013 23:49

so, if a person is attracted to someone of the opposite sex, if that's what their essence wants, they are still bi-sexual, even if their essence is ever attracted to a member of the same sex? i'm really not sure how that works. care to explain that a little more in depth?

For sure I will try.
Okay, lets for a second forget about all the labels that we gave ourselves and just hear me what I am saying.
On this planet it is all sorts of us, each one of us if slightly different than the next person, what we like and to who are we attracted to is very personal and intimate. Sometimes that is just the way people smell, how they say hello, move their hair away from face and so on. The same way we are attracted to people sexually, sometimes there is sexual chemistry between two sometimes is just one way, what I was trying to say is that if people would be open enough to accept the fact that they are attracted to a person and not to a gender, world would be much happier place to live in. Sure we have preferences, those preferences are mirror of who we have become in life and we are still changing with every decision we make. So, saying that we are all bisexual being that all of us have our options open, we did not limit ourselves only on tall blond guys (because that is what we are usually attracted to, or at least we think) because we are free to choose who we want to be with no matter of our previous partners. I am bisexual. I have never been with a woman. I am attracted to them, but timing in life was just not right. I am attracted to tall, skinny, geeky guys, but my partners in 60% were blond alpha guys, I was with them, eventhough I prefer something else, but that didn't matter.
Lets take you for example, you are married so its a bit odd to talk like this, but I am not suggesting anything, just making example. You are married, for life. Your life with your partner will change you, you will become a person different than you are now. But don't you think that in 30 years time, you might be knocked out by someone completely opposite than your SO is, just because of those changes.
We don't have other term for bisexuals, thats why I am using that term to express my views. I think no matter on our personal prefferences, we can sometimes end up with someone who we at least thought it would be possible and be happy. That is what I am saying, why limit ourselves with labels when we are changing constantly and our preferences as well.
On a side note, when I talk to people about bisexuallity, very straight alpha dudes have most difficulties to hear this theory out.

Topic Have you come out to family/parents?
Posted 14 Dec 2013 10:04

Please believe me on this point, there is no credible scientific study that proves homosexuality is a choice. It's not because I and many thousands if not millions of gays would have chosen it. It is naive to say we have a choice because that means all heterosexuals also had a choice and they could choose to be gay!

This is what I am saying. If people would be brave enough, courageous enough to listen what exactly their essence wants, they would choose to be with a person they are attracted to it. For now, my mind hasn't been changed, I still believe that human race is bisexual.

Topic Have you come out to family/parents?
Posted 14 Dec 2013 10:02

She's lost the plot.

Is this about me? If so, please if you have something to say about me say it to me. I will not tolerate this kind of a childish behaviour, especially on this very serious matter.
And I didn't lose the plot. We are all here defending our views with arguments and examples, we are all learning constantly and our views if our mind is open enough can be changed. Very serious shit, to me at least.

Topic Have you come out to family/parents?
Posted 14 Dec 2013 07:01

total BS. please, if you're going to post such blatant disinformation, back it up with facts, and no, that doesn't mean an opinion piece by someone with an agenda.

I don't get it, why blatant? Being gay is not a bad thing, its nothing special, it is just who you are attracted to and have sex with. Of course there is really bad history how gay people were treated and still are in certain places of the world but is 'just' about sex, it is nothing wrong mentally, emotionaly or physicaly about gay people. And as said before as soon as I will find time, I will search for documents I read while ago about being gay is not DNA issue but a choice. And of course that doesn't mean just an oppinion with someone with agenda, but a scientific document.

Topic Have you come out to family/parents?
Posted 14 Dec 2013 03:43

Your decision not to have children is just that, a decision. You could always change your mind at a later date. If you'd said that you were in love with somebody that wanted children and you were unable to have them that would be slightly nearer to a gay coming out but again you could always adopt.
I am gay, it's not a decision I made, nature did that for me! I could have lived a lied and played straight but I would've been miserable for the whole of my life. The only decision a gay man or woman makes is whether to live openly or not.

Correct it was my choice, but coming out is coming out, beside in some latest researches it has been proven that being gay is a choice. As soon as I will find time I will dig around internet, but you can do that as well.
I have said this before in the forum, I lived my whole life in believe (and still do) that human race is bisexual. You are getting attracted to a person not to their genitals. I labeled myself here first time in my life as straight because I have never been with a woman, yet. I did that because when I had my bisexual sign up, ladies were comming quite strong on me, and I wanted to avoid that. I see now, that people around Lush have option not to lable themselves, I just need to find that.
The black issue is nothing to do with this thread, black people do not come out as being black! The only thing I would say is that quite often a black gay guy has it a lot tougher when they come out, that's only what I've seen and heard from guys I've known.
So remember what you said was your choice, me being gay wasn't mine!
Someone made comparison in this thread, so we are going back and forward with it, beside if it is true that being gay it is not choice, than that comparison should be working in your case.