Is it a love of the female form, or a repulsion of masculinity(or possibly bad experiences with men in the past)?(feel free to shoot me down here, I'm here to learn.)

Wife or g/f - No problem
Stranger - (if female) yes
Male - depends how drunk i am(and if another girl was involved)

This post has strayed from the original point, but a very interesting read none the less. As for your relationship problems:

1. The army has probably screwed you up a lil (personal opinion, take no offence)
2. Chill my friend. Those who stress the most about losing g/f tend to be the 'needy' ones, even though you don't mean to be
3. Find a hobby. From my (observational) experience, those who go from girl to girl, never seem happy. (their aim in life is to be in a relationship. Trust me on this. I have a couple of good friends who always seems miserable, and never see their friends anymore because of an obsession with their g/f)
4. A hobby keeps your ming occupied on something other than finding that perfect partner.
5. When the right girl does come along, you will not smother her, as you your priority tends to be your hobby. (if she doesn't understand this, she is not worth getting involved with)
6. Space at the beginning of a relationship is important as it feeds fuel to the fire!

This is just my small bits of advice from what i have observed from friends relationships over the years. I hope it helps.

Me and my partner share the chores around the house, although i hate doing the laundry. I mainly do the rest because she sucks at cooking and cleaning!! If you want a job done right you do it yourself. Although she could be doing a half ass job, because she knows I'll stop her from doing it in the future!

I love going down on a girl, but i guess each guy is different.

My wife regularly turns me down. I'm always up for sex, but she never seems in the mood. I can't even remember the last time she instigated sex. She always claims that I have to woo her, but that leaves it all to me, shouldn't sex in a relationship be a two way deal? It hurts when she rejects me, at least it feels like a rejection, she barely even lets me kiss her.

I've tried to raise this issue in the past, but nothing really changed. I love her to bits, but the constant rejection really gets me down at times. She seems to lack confidence in her body, which btw is fantastic, and I figure this may have something to do with her lack of sex drive.

Anyone got any thoughts on this?