I put it in both for a reason to get the feedback as this is a bit of a pressing issue. It applies to both catagories since I'd like the female opinion in particular

You also said he was "emotionally abusive and a total ass despite being muscled pretty boy". What does one have to do with the other? Based on my experience there is a better chance he would be a conceited ass if he is a pretty boy, not despite that fact. Just curious about your take on this

I mis-phrased that, I talk to one of her friends and she/we figure she has pretty boy syndrome even though he's a total ass. Her friend backs me up but its like urgh

OK apparently i wasn't clear, both of us are 'online bfs' he's just closer than me, and there are plans i just had to postpone due to school and money etc. He's seeing her early next month and I'll see her hopefully in Feb. But he's like the dom type ordering spankings, she cant do this or that, oh you broke a rule im not talking to you for X days etc.

First off I'd like a disclaimer that yes I want peoples input/advice, but PLZ reign in the hate please, I don't need to be called an idiot or the girl a slut etc.

Now that that's out of the way here's my issue. For what ever reason I started a relationship with this girl (online/phone i'll admit) and it was non-exclusive. Initially it was fine, we chatted had fun (no I wasn't getting laid) and now things have gotten more serious, we talk even more, help each other when something is wrong, cried, tell each other I love you regularly its great. But there's another guy involved... I've brought it up, what would you need from me to make us exclusive and she says she doesn't know, that he's her bf too and she loves him. Thing is he's also emotionally abusive and an ass despite the fact that he's a muscled pretty boy. If there's something I left out let me know but how do I get her to be with Me without giving an ultimatum?

First off I'd like a disclaimer that yes I want peoples input/advice, but PLZ reign in the hate please, I don't need to be called an idiot or the girl a slut etc.

Now that that's out of the way here's my issue. For what ever reason I started a relationship with this girl and it was non-exclusive. Initially it was fine, we chatted had fun (no I wasn't getting laid) and now things have gotten more serious, we talk even more, help each other when something is wrong, cried, tell each other I love you regularly its great. But there's another guy involved... I've brought it up, what would you need from me to make us exclusive and she says she doesn't know, that he's her bf too and she loves him. Thing is he's also emotionally abusive and an ass despite the fact that he's a muscled pretty boy. If there's something I left out let me know but how do I get her to be with Me without giving an ultimatum?

Well apparently my old one was too 'generic' so now i use the nickname a friend gave me here on lush :) You now who you are