Growing up, I always wanted to be like my brothers. I had two older brothers. I was the daughter my mother wished for. Sadly, her wish only came partially true. I remember my mother discussing me with the other mums.
“She’s just a tomboy. It’s just a phase she’s going through.”
And then there were the arguments.
“No, girls play with dolls, not guns," or, “Don’t play in the mud, you’ll get your dress dirty.” And my all-time favourite, “girls don’t pee standing up, only boys do that.”
My Sindy doll wanted to go on adventures with Action Man, not sit around in the doll’s house waiting for him to return from whatever exciting and dramatic mission he’d been on. Girls' toys were so boring. A dolls house, a kitchen set, a cash register. I wanted the Action Man, the guns and the dartboard.
When I was younger, I thought I was the same as my brothers. We all hung out together, building dens in the garden. All three of us used to get bathed together on a Saturday night. It was like a conveyor belt as we were dunked, soaked, shampooed and towel-dried in front of the fire. I do remember a sort of curiosity about penises, as in, ‘why do they have one of those and I don’t?’ but that was as far as it went.
Until I hit puberty.
I didn’t fancy boys the way the other girls in my class did. I felt my eyes roll as they discussed how cute so and so was or how she’d love to kiss what’s his name. I just wanted to hang out with them. Tomboy was a useful smokescreen but the arguments still raged.
“No, I won’t wear the pretty pink dress. I want to wear my jeans.” This was then swiftly followed by “No, I don’t like long hair, I want it cut short.”
Thankfully, they relented on the hair. The excuse that it was hard to dry and control after swimming seemed to work. But school was the worst. I’d look at the boys uniform in envy. They could just wear trousers while I was forced into a green crimplene skirt and grey knee-length socks. My ugly knees and pale skin exposed to the world.
I think I was first called “a fucking lezzer” when I was sixteen years old. My lack of interest in fancying boys had become more and more noticeable as the years went on. This, coupled with the short hair, tee-shirt, checked lumberjack shirt and jeans look for every occasion and lack of interest in girly things had me labelled the town dyke very quickly. And therein the confusion reigned. I did fancy girls but in my head, I wasn’t a lesbian. I knew I was a boy.
I began to hate everything that reminded me that I was a girl. Even my name was stupid. I’d shortened it, much to my mother’s horror. Matty. It had a nice ring to it. I thought it sounded so much better than Matilda. I wrote Matty Brown on the cover of my school books.
It didn’t do anything to stop the jokes, the snide remarks or petty insults, so I withdrew. I braved the outside world five mornings a week to make the way to school and as soon as I could, I was back in my room again. My plan was simple. Survive school, get the grades and escape to a university far far away and study English Literature.
I looked at the university application form. I could apply to five universities. First, I got out the atlas and turned to the map of Great Britain. I looked at the scale and marked my compass out to three hundred miles. Placing the centre of the compass over Norfolk, I drew a circle. I counted the cities. Not much had survived my exclusion zone, there was just a chunk of northern Scotland and the tip of Cornwall left.
I recalibrated. Two hundred and fifty miles. I could now see five University cities in my acceptable zone; Aberdeen, Dundee, Glasgow, Edinburgh and Plymouth. I turned back to the UCAS coursebook. All five of them offered an English degree course. I read Edinburgh University’s prospectus.
“Explore elements of English literature such as myths, fantasy, crime and popular culture. Our academic team includes novelists, poets, scriptwriters and academics.”
I liked the sound of that. I’d read several of Ian Rankin’s Rebus novels and on that basis, gave Edinburgh the number one spot.
For the next six months, getting the A level grades required became my only focus. I barely left my room. I studied, I ate, I slept, I went to school. When the exams were over, I just lived in my room.
I’d taken to wrapping a bandage around my boobs. I didn’t have the biggest boobs in the world but there were still bumps in my tee-shirt. I got the idea after watching the film ‘Shakespeare in Love’ and how Gwenyth Paltrow wrapped her boobs to pretend to be a boy. Once wrapped, they gave a passable imitation of a flat chest under my clothes.
I stood and admired myself in the mirror. My hair was now cur in a flat top and I loved the feel of the bristles at the nape of my neck. I pulled on my white tee shirt and let the checked shirt hang open. My Levi 501s hung low. The open shirt helped hide the slight swell of my hips. I was lucky I wasn’t naturally curvy and the virtually starvation diet I had kept myself on stopped any fat spreading to my boobs or hips.
I went to the school to collect my results. 2 As and a B. I was off to Edinburgh. The next few weeks went by in a daze. I sent off the birth certificate, filled in the acceptance and accommodation forms and finally, I was on the train. As the train made its way up the east coast, towards York, Newcastle and finally Edinburgh, my mind wandered as to what would happen. I still couldn’t believe it. I was off on my own, to somewhere nobody knew me. Time to start again.
I stood in the line for matriculation. We slowly shuffled forward. There were various tables arranged around the room. As well as the Registration stand, there were Bank stalls set up to lodge the grant cheques, there was a poster sale, and a stall manned by the Students Union. I glanced around and shook my head in amusement. The different banks were trying to get everyone to lodge the cheques in their bank with offers like a free alarm clock or book tokens.
Finally, I reached the front of the queue.
“Brown, Matty Brown,” I told her.
She flicked through the list and checked the application form.
“English Literature?”
I smiled. Yes, it was all happening. With a whirr and a buzz, the printer slowly printed out my student ID.
“There you go. You’re best opening the bank account and lodging your cheque today as it will take a couple of days for the money to come through.”
I nodded and made my way to the bank stand. It was only as I was opening the folder to get the cheque that I looked at the student card.
Matilda Brown. I felt the tears well up in my eyes. I sat on a chair and pulled the forms from the folder. Everything was in the name of Matilda Brown. I felt my brave new world begin to crumble. It was as if the fresh coat of paint was being washed off to reveal the old Norfolk version of Matilda ‘lezzer’ Brown.
I’d sat with my head in my hands for god knows how long when I realised someone was talking to me.
“Are you OK?”
I looked up. A young woman with big brown eyes and dark hair in a bob was looking at me, her head tilted to one side. I wiped my eyes with the back of my sleeve and nodded.
“I’m fine. Honest. I just had a bit of a shock.”
“Do you mind if I sit down?”
She slid into the seat beside me without really waiting for an answer.
“I’m Elspeth,” she continued. “I’m one of the Student Union volunteers. We’re here to help you freshers find your way around.” She looked at me. “What’s the problem?”
For some reason which I can’t explain, and for the first time ever, I told someone all about me and my miserable life in Norfolk. How I’d changed my name to Matty. How I was determined to be a boy and how the student card had my full birth name and made me a girl. She let me talk, and when I had finished, she just smiled and held my hand. It felt good to have finally shared with someone.
“Did you speak to the Admissions desk?”
I shook my head. She grabbed me by the arm and pulled me up.
“Come on, we can get this sorted out.”
The queue for Admissions had gone by the time we got back. The lady was just handing a folder to the last person when we showed up.
“Hi Joan,” Elspeth began. “There’s a wee bit of an issue here. Matty here wasn’t expecting his birth name on all the documents. Is it possible to change everything?”
I stood there, gobsmacked. 'Could this be happening? Was it really going to be that easy? No, of course not.'
“Well you see, Matty sent us all the documents, birth cert, etcetera and name filled out with his birth name.”
“I just thought I had to have the same name as my birth cert, “ I blushed. “I thought putting Matty in brackets meant you’d use that.”
“Well, it has to be the name on your birth cert for your official documents. For example, your degree certificate when you graduate. If you want a different name on that, you will have to change your name legally, by deed poll.”
My face fell and both Joan and Elspeth noticed. Deed poll... legally... that would take forever and what about Mum and Dad?
“However,” Joan went on. “You can change your name on your student card and the name on the class register. Those are not legal documents.”
My heart soared. I could feel tears threatening to run down my cheeks again as I saw Joan and Elspeth both smiling at me.
“So, is it Matty then?” Joan enquired.
“Actually, can it just be Matt?”
A couple of clicks of her mouse later, a new student card was slowly making its way out of the printer and Matt Brown was in town.
“I’ll need to come with you to the bank here and explain that your bank account will be in the name of Matt Brown but your cheque is made out to Matilda. I’ll say it’s just a clerical error.”
I could feel the grin spreading across my face as I stood with Elspeth as Joan explained to the bank teller and soon my bank account was opened. I turned to Elspeth who was still standing beside me.
“Thank you so much.” I felt tears threaten for the third time. “You’ve saved my life, honestly.”
She smiled back and swept her hand through her hair. She was really cute. ‘Stop it,’ I thought. 'You’ve only arrived. You can’t go trying to get off with every girl you meet.'
“Well, if you are serious about saying thank you. You can always buy me a pint tonight in the Students Union. I’ll see you at the Freshers Disco... Deal?”
I grinned. “No bother. I’ll see you there.”
“About 10 pm. In the Potterrow Building. That one over there.”
She pointed through a window across the square to a low white building with a domed glass roof.
“I’d better go rescue some other hapless fresher,” she giggled before skipping off back to the Students Union stand. I watched her walk off. Her arse was wiggling in a pair of tight jeans. She looked back, grinned and waved then carried on. I felt my grin threaten to engulf my face.
I was living in the Halls of Residence. I pulled the key from the folder and excitedly opened the door to my room. A single bed, a desk and chair with study light, chest of drawers and wardrobe. It took thirty seconds to fully recce the room. I sat down, grinning. My new home.
I practised in the mirror.
“Hi, I’m Matt.”
“Hello. I’m Matt, I’m doing English.”
“Hi, my name’s Matt.”
“No, just Matt.”
“Hi, yes, I’m Matt, I’m from Norfolk.”
I smiled.
“No, not Matty, and definitely not Matilda. Just Matt.”
I walked out of my room and down to the communal kitchen/living room at the end of the corridor. There was a gaggle of about ten guys and girls mingling, trying to cook toast, make coffee and heat pot noodles.
One of the guys looked up and saw me.
“Hiya. Welcome to chaos. I’m Dave by the way.”
“Hi, I’m Matt. I just arrived.”
“Hi Matt, do you want a coffee?”
I nodded a ‘yes, please’ but inside my heart was singing. I was accepted, just like that. No weird looks, bitchy comments or rude gestures. Just, “Hi, Matt.”
Over the course of the next couple of hours, I got to know most of the rest of the people on my floor. We were a mix from all over the UK and beyond. There were a few Scots and an Irish girl but I was surprised by just how many English people there were. It turned out that Edinburgh was very popular. It was one of the Russell Group of Universities and it caused great amusement when I told them I’d only applied to come here as it was far away from home.