Forum posts made by sweetpenny

That raises some questions for me.

1. Did you refuse because he had gone past your limits and you were squicked?

2. If the answer to 1 is yes, did you have a safeword? Did you use it?

Consent is key to these kinds of activities. Both parties need to feel that they can perform these activities safely. The dom needs to trust that the sub continues to consent, perhaps in the face of behavior (crying, screaming, etc) that would ordinarily be counter-indicative. The dom can only rely on the fact that the sub has *not* called out the safeword, and can really only feel safe to proceed if he feels that the sub *would* call it out if they needed to. At the same time, the sub needs to feel safe to use the word. They must trust that if they use it, that the dom will take them out-of-scene (which includes clearing all restraints) and immediately offer after-care in a context without hierarchy, and further that there will be no future repercussions from using it (with the possible exception that there will be no repeat of whatever caused them to use the safeword to start with).


I missed this. Sorry for not responding sooner.

I did not use my safeword. I tend to avoid them as I feel they can really be a mood killer. The man whom I was with did realize that I was having a difficult time and he lightened up after that. It was his first time using a paddle so I think that was the problem.

Break-ups are never easy. The relationship between master and submissive can be quite intense, so I'm sure you're feeling a great loss right now. It's nice that you can still be happy for her. I wish you the best of luck.

I've never been whipped, but I have been belted and paddled. I found the paddle to be much harsher than the belt. I remember rolling off his lap and sitting on the floor, protecting my bottom, and refusing to go back over his knee :-)

Women are multi-orgasmic, so sometimes we feel we are not quite finished when our men are.

If she doesn't like your back hair and you're open to removing it, then go for it. Just watch out for ingrown hairs!

I really enjoyed this!


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I like soft bites on my neck, earlobes, lips and clit.

A guy dressing down at a restaurant wouldn't be a deal-breaker for me. I don't really care one way or the other. It would bother me if he was my date at an important work function though.

Love it!

Sharing my voice or my picture requires trust. I don't give my trust easily to strangers on the internet.

Happiness

Hitachi magic wand
eroscillator with multiple attachments
butt plug
clit pump
duotone balls
clit/nipple clamps
vibrating panties with remote

If he can turn me on, then I won't care about his age. That being said, I tend to be attracted to people very close to my own age, no more than a 10 year gap in either direction.

In every marriage there are peaks and valleys. Right now, we're at about 4 times per week.

The size of his brain.

I did it once. It wasn't very comfortable - maybe because both guys were very big. I'd try it again though.

Urine: The body's own health drink?

I went into a dressing room with a stranger once. I tried on a few sexy outfits for him and he signed his name on my breasts.

Yes. I was a TA at my university and had sex with one of my students.

Wait.... Brazilian girls don't brazilian wax?

To me, waxing is still by far the best method.

I recently switched to laser. I haven't seen a hair down there in 2 months.

I was like that before I met my husband.

I think these guys are cheaters and trying to make themselves feel less guilty about it by blaming their wives. That being said, it is not uncommon for a woman to lose her sex drive while she is raising kids. Pregnancy can do it (it can also have the opposite effect!). Breastfeeding can do it. Being exhausted can do it.

My personal favorite is Now I Own You , but it is very BDSM which is not for everyone. The Story I Never Wrote is better for all crowds.

I've written stories both ways. When I write in the first-person -- from the perspective of the submissive -- then sometimes I like to use uppercase letters. I feel it can be more dramatic. When the writing is in third-person, then I always prefer lowercase. It seems more correct that way since the narrator is not a character in the story.

October 27

Most women do not choose men based on their cock size.

I prefer 5'10 - 6'2. I have gone as high as 6'5, but it felt awkward.

I often things of naughty things I've done or want to do.

My boyfriend wanted to do it and I was enamored with him, so . . .

I was also curious and adventurous.

I do this a lot. It helps me fall into a deep happy sleep.