Forum posts made by sweetpenny

Topic Are you currently having an affair?
Posted 31 Jan 2013 14:14

That depends on the definition of 'affair'?

Topic whip or paddle
Posted 29 Jan 2013 09:01



That raises some questions for me.

1. Did you refuse because he had gone past your limits and you were squicked?

2. If the answer to 1 is yes, did you have a safeword? Did you use it?

Consent is key to these kinds of activities. Both parties need to feel that they can perform these activities safely. The dom needs to trust that the sub continues to consent, perhaps in the face of behavior (crying, screaming, etc) that would ordinarily be counter-indicative. The dom can only rely on the fact that the sub has *not* called out the safeword, and can really only feel safe to proceed if he feels that the sub *would* call it out if they needed to. At the same time, the sub needs to feel safe to use the word. They must trust that if they use it, that the dom will take them out-of-scene (which includes clearing all restraints) and immediately offer after-care in a context without hierarchy, and further that there will be no future repercussions from using it (with the possible exception that there will be no repeat of whatever caused them to use the safeword to start with).


I missed this. Sorry for not responding sooner.

I did not use my safeword. I tend to avoid them as I feel they can really be a mood killer. The man whom I was with did realize that I was having a difficult time and he lightened up after that. It was his first time using a paddle so I think that was the problem.

Topic A Sad Day A Hard Goodbye
Posted 22 Jan 2013 08:18

Big Hugs

Break-ups are never easy. The relationship between master and submissive can be quite intense, so I'm sure you're feeling a great loss right now. It's nice that you can still be happy for her. I wish you the best of luck.

Topic whip or paddle
Posted 16 Jan 2013 19:18

I've never been whipped, but I have been belted and paddled. I found the paddle to be much harsher than the belt. I remember rolling off his lap and sitting on the floor, protecting my bottom, and refusing to go back over his knee :-)

Topic Masturbating wife
Posted 15 Jan 2013 10:03

Women are multi-orgasmic, so sometimes we feel we are not quite finished when our men are.

Topic Body Hair on a guy
Posted 15 Jan 2013 09:58

If she doesn't like your back hair and you're open to removing it, then go for it. Just watch out for ingrown hairs!

Topic How To Write Good
Posted 13 Jan 2013 19:25

I really enjoyed this!


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Topic Do you enjoy being bitten?
Posted 10 Jan 2013 19:56

I like soft bites on my neck, earlobes, lips and clit.

Topic Must we woman accept?
Posted 10 Jan 2013 19:50

A guy dressing down at a restaurant wouldn't be a deal-breaker for me. I don't really care one way or the other. It would bother me if he was my date at an important work function though.

Topic do you....
Posted 10 Jan 2013 19:44

Love it!

Topic The real reason why girls don't voice chat/voice message with online programs?
Posted 30 Dec 2012 15:05

Sharing my voice or my picture requires trust. I don't give my trust easily to strangers on the internet.

Topic Please answer in just a single word
Posted 30 Dec 2012 14:56

Happiness

Topic What type of sex toys do you own?
Posted 20 Dec 2012 18:57

Hitachi magic wand
eroscillator with multiple attachments
butt plug
clit pump
duotone balls
clit/nipple clamps
vibrating panties with remote

Topic How big a gap in years would you consider ok for a sexual partner?
Posted 12 Dec 2012 09:59

If he can turn me on, then I won't care about his age. That being said, I tend to be attracted to people very close to my own age, no more than a 10 year gap in either direction.

Topic married ladies
Posted 12 Dec 2012 09:17

In every marriage there are peaks and valleys. Right now, we're at about 4 times per week.

Topic have you ever been part of double penetration?
Posted 25 Oct 2012 14:00

I did it once. It wasn't very comfortable - maybe because both guys were very big. I'd try it again though.

Topic drinking urine
Posted 24 Oct 2012 10:49

Urine: The body's own health drink?

Topic What's the wildest thing you've ever done in a clothing store changing room?
Posted 24 Oct 2012 10:44

I went into a dressing room with a stranger once. I tried on a few sexy outfits for him and he signed his name on my breasts.

Topic Have you ever has sex with someone you know you shouldn't have?
Posted 24 Oct 2012 09:37

Yes. I was a TA at my university and had sex with one of my students.

Topic Are all american girls shaven??
Posted 24 Oct 2012 09:10



Wait.... Brazilian girls don't brazilian wax?

To me, waxing is still by far the best method.

I recently switched to laser. I haven't seen a hair down there in 2 months.

Topic How many women like to roll over to be alone after sex
Posted 23 Oct 2012 06:37

I was like that before I met my husband.

Topic do married women use denial of sex as a weapon..to either punish or get what..they want?
Posted 23 Oct 2012 06:31

I think these guys are cheaters and trying to make themselves feel less guilty about it by blaming their wives. That being said, it is not uncommon for a woman to lose her sex drive while she is raising kids. Pregnancy can do it (it can also have the opposite effect!). Breastfeeding can do it. Being exhausted can do it.

Topic Authors, If you could recommend only one of your stories, which one would it be?
Posted 22 Oct 2012 17:56

My personal favorite is Now I Own You , but it is very BDSM which is not for everyone. The Story I Never Wrote is better for all crowds.

Topic "House style" for BDSM stories
Posted 22 Oct 2012 11:35

I've written stories both ways. When I write in the first-person -- from the perspective of the submissive -- then sometimes I like to use uppercase letters. I feel it can be more dramatic. When the writing is in third-person, then I always prefer lowercase. It seems more correct that way since the narrator is not a character in the story.

Topic Approaching 150K members, $150 Amazon Voucher up for grabs!
Posted 22 Oct 2012 11:16

October 27

Topic The man is a lot overweight and not the best looking but you hear....
Posted 21 Oct 2012 11:32

Most women do not choose men based on their cock size.

Topic How tall is too tall for a man?
Posted 16 Oct 2012 08:50

I prefer 5'10 - 6'2. I have gone as high as 6'5, but it felt awkward.

Topic what do you think of?
Posted 30 Sep 2012 10:17

I often things of naughty things I've done or want to do.

Topic What made you try Anal?
Posted 23 Sep 2012 17:40

My boyfriend wanted to do it and I was enamored with him, so . . .

I was also curious and adventurous.