Forum posts made by tantricdrummer

Topic Are females attracted to Musicians more than normal people?
Posted 02 Dec 2011 13:24

Well I'm a drummer and I'm here to testify that its not all musicians who get the women.

The damn guitarists always get the girls because they are out in front. It takes too much damn time to pack the drums up and then go chat up the chicks.

In all seriousness, there's certainly an energy that women exude when they're in the audience and listening, especially to hand drums like tablas and dumbeks.
The base tones create a viscreral reaction at the diaphragm level.

Topic Famous Story Requirement?
Posted 18 Nov 2011 08:57

Thanks for being so responsive Nicola,

Appreciate the info, as well as the insight based on the numbers.

Yes, matching up to 1% seems to be about the right balance.
Now for the harder question about attainability of all non-incest stories.

I'm planning on writing an incest story myself, based on the wisdom of John Cusack, who said that he did his blockbuster movies just so he had the means to go off and work on the projects that interested him.

Cheers

TD

Topic Sister-in-law
Posted 17 Nov 2011 08:17

So the important thing is to know how to read this excellent advice and see that we are all trying to help your career and life goals.

There are many good reasons to fuck your sister-in-law. But in preparation, make sure you do the following

1. Have a voyeur cam installed. Jerry Springer will pay more for your spot on the show if you have some footage.
2. Anonymously call 'Wife Cheaters' and give them your wife's number as a hot tip. Plus this way you won't have that 'holy shit!' expression on your face at the intervention.
3. Practice good enounciation in front of the mirror. It would suck to set all this stuff up and then slur on national television. Also, don't slouch.

Do the deed.

I'd recommend that you do the television spots after the split happens. If not, your wife will get half.

good luck. Make sure you come and tell us how it worked for you. We're inquiring minds and we want to know.

TD

Topic Staying for the Kids
Posted 17 Nov 2011 08:07

Great perspectives here. I'll give mine, and its a personal view.

I'm staying for the kids.

The reason is that I saw research that said kids are much better adjusted if they have both parents around, as long as its not abusive.
I've also seen kids that have trouble adjusting to split schedules and split lives.
I have an arrangement with my wife that we will work on being good parents.
In our situation, we agree on that front. So some of the other stuff is not there, but that's something I'm willing to put aside for the time being if it helps my kids.

If things get to a point where there's constant fighting or tension, and it is affecting the kids, then there's no reason to stay.

So, current position is a parent partnership relationship with a set of boundaries and a baseline set of expected behaviors and courtesies.

TD

Topic Mixed race relationships...but not black/white
Posted 17 Nov 2011 08:01

I agree. I'm Indian myself, and a lot of my cousins are marrying white women.
Friends of ours have daughters marrying white guys.

So the one thing about dating is that unless the families are really progressive, the Indian girl or the Indian guy will likely not take bf or gf home to 'meet the family'.

It's likely to be illicit. I dated American and Chinese girls during college. I never told my parents.

So, question if you're asking about being accepted by your girlfriend/boyfriend's family, then don't date Asian or Indian girls.

If you find them attractive, then I can tell you that Indian women date white guys very often. Actually that's not gender biased. Indian guys date white women a lot as well, and even marry them.

TD

Topic Multi Chapters - Maintaining the Edge
Posted 16 Nov 2011 18:08

Might be that the answer is in a thread somewhere else, but are there groups of writers that put multi-chapter stories together?
Either chain writing, to see where the story leads and to keep your writing chops sharp, or using the power of multiple perspectives to have a broader set of characters who are developed more thoroughly because each contributor takes responsibility for a character or two?

Have never done it, but think it would be a great exercise.

Of course I don't know what I don't know about the pragmatic reality of trying such a thing and what the pitfalls are.

Topic Famous Story Requirement?
Posted 16 Nov 2011 18:03

A question for Gav.
So the 50K page views, is that views by users who are logged in? Or is it anonymous views?

Cos if the 1-9-90 rule is in effect, you're getting about 800K to 900K unique visitors who either dont have a profile or don't log in?

Just curious.

I was thinking about this a little more (dangerous I know).

Maybe one thing to consider is an estimation exercise.
Figure out how many famous stories you want in a month, a year.
Look at what the top non-incest story limits are and determine a threshold using that.

Of course all this is moot given you moved the bar down to 50K.

What I should do is go write some stories rather than debate the recognition system functions.

TD

Topic Famous Story Requirement?
Posted 15 Nov 2011 20:50

i mean, it really doesn't matter if you write something amazing, if you write the best straight sex or bdsm story ever written, it's just not going to hit even 50k. i thought 30k was a great target for proving a story is popular - 50k is pretty much out of reach, however, for even the best of the best here unless they write incest/taboo. i am not sure how to make it fair, i mean, i have suggestions, but i also don't want to create a system where the mods and site managers have to do loads and loads of extra work to figure out what makes a story famous in one category compared with another. perhaps the solution is for anyone who really craves that badge to post a father-daughter incest story and move on. not really sure. i mean, its tricky, i admit.

So now I see where you have to go to find the truly motivated authors on Lush.

I was curious about the badges overall, but this one in particular. I think its really neat that such a badge exists.
It's also neat to know that the great writers are doing their research and understand their audience and viewership.

I like Nicola's idea of a two tier or even multi-tier threshold for this, based on categories and previous levels of achievement. If you look at game theory mechanics and work by people like Amy Jo Kim, they will tell you that the value of badges and levels is that they have to be perceived as attainable in order to sustain the interest of the participants. Key point being perceived. The value of this badge seems to be that it is one of the few that is merit based rather than activity based on Lush. Given that, if it is seen as out of reach by aspirants, then its value to the system diminishes rapidly.

Anyway, interesting discussion and I will pop back in to see how this progresses.

Topic Which improvements or features would you like to see added?
Posted 15 Nov 2011 20:36

I'm new here and if this has been brought up then please accept my apologies.

I'm wondering if there's a way to make use of that profile info you collect on people (particularly the interests) to recommend users with similar interests to each other?

One of the reasons I'm back here is that your chat, connect and friend features are great.
But the search features for other users is limited.

It would be great to be able to:
- search for multiple interests rather than one by one
- select multiple preferences rather than just one. This way if you wanted to look for everybody that is bi-curious and straight, you could do that in one shot.

You might already have a way to find who is online and then initiate conversations with them. I just haven't found it yet.

I do realize however that the regulars are not happy with random people sending friend requests, so perhaps that's why you aren't making the 'find' aspects any more robust.

In any case, my thoughts for now. Am enjoying the site so keep up the good work.