Topic How you got interested in BDSM, with questions
02 Dec 2012 20:18
How did you get interested in BDSM? - Have always been facsinated with bondage and restraint even as a teenager, not sure why?
What factor of it attracted you to it in the first place? - It started with the damsel-in-distress scenarios (like on those old 80's TV shows) that first grabbed my attention long before I knew what any of that was even when I had no idea what dom/submission was. As for the dom/sub pat, the attraction for me is the romance and the trust, built up in the foreplay
Where you always submissive? - Always had submissive "tendancies" in the bedroom, at least. Plus, there is just something so sexy and erotic about pleasing her, and seeing the desire and pleasure within her.
Where you always dominate? - Only by nature of my job as a military officer, but outside of work I'm laid back and care free unless a serious (i.e. life-or-death) scenario presents itself so it's not in my blood by nature, unless it has to be.
Where you always switch? - I'd say I'm something of a 90% sub/10% dom
If so how did you come about it? - Just something that developed over time, and gradually but slightly increased in strength
Do you think you were always into it now that you are in the lifestyle? - Again, it started early with me so maybe. I like the variety; sometimes dom, sometimes sub, sometimes vanilla. All depends on the time and place and scenario!
Bonus question: What have you learned about it and what do you like the most? - I have to say, what I love the most about it, is discovering my own likes and dislikes as well as those of my playmate. Gently pushing each other's boundaries and limits, exploring what my partner wants. Most of all, watching my playmate grow in discovery and confidence. I think there is a certain somebuny here who knows exactly what I mean! ;)