Topic Ethical nonmonogamy
20 Oct 2016 11:19
This is a great question. I applaud you for maintaining a faithful monogamous marriage. We've been married 22 years with two of those years open. I can truthfully say that once you step over the line that it is hard to go back. We've had mixed reviews. First of all, no matter what people say the risks are high. The other thing is that unless your marriage is rock solid don't concider it.
However it really is not cheating. It is quite the opposite. We were not different than most couples. Sex and love were interchangeable. But after an infidelity on both our sides we discovered through therapy that our love for each other had not dimished. Now we have more trust and confidence in us as a couple than ever before. There is no temptation to cheat, and our relationship is open and honest.
Another thing is that if you choose to have an open marriage, it doesn't necessarily mean sex with others. It can mean something as simple as openly discussing one another's fantasies without judgment. When we did this we were amazed we found out we had more in common than we ever knew. So now we don't suppress anything.
The risks though are astronomical. That is why they have swingers clubs in virtually every town. It lessens the Heath risks with all being tested. Does jealousy exist? Of course. It is basic nature.
It's the fantasy of what so many writers fantasize about I caution. Picking up strangers is not only risky on the health side but on the relational side too. What happens when some random wacko starts stalking your wife or husband. It happened to us. Some of the scariest times of our life.
Most psychologists will rightfully steer you away from open marriage. The failure rate is beyond traditional marriage. If it were possible to step back... We probably would. But as I said... When you step over that line it is a giant leap.
I agree that the Matrimonial Risks are higher in an Open Marriage, especially if you somewhere along the path decide to make the change.
I knew, I would cheat and therefore Open Marriage was the only option available to us. An additional consideration is that we have never lived in any other manner. That may not be true of most others.
Topic Ethical nonmonogamy
20 Oct 2016 10:56
I am really happy for you 1nympholes You have found love and a person you want to spend your life with, and you can continue to be who you are and live your life the way you want and need to. If my wife wanted to life her life like that, I would be happy to let her, but she do not. She want us to be monogamous faithful to each other, and so be it.
My question is really: If you shold meet me, with my wedding ring, and we found out that we wanted to have sex, would you worry or care about the relationship between me and my wife, if she was all right with this?
Do you get questions about your wedding ring when you want to play? Is the fact that your husband is OK with it, of importance to your lovers?
Or is it as 69kisses96 states, a matter strictly between the husband and wife. If I want to play with you, it is my responsibility to think about the consequences for my marriage, not your concern?
Remember it is about sex and not about love and faithfulness. I think we are very faithful to each other. I just have this little burning sex need that seems only to be satisfied in one way with sex with someone else. That does not mean I am dissatisfied in our sexual relationship in any way.
I am not concerned if a person has a ring or not. If everything were being fulfilled at home, then he/she would not be here. Would they? You know if your man or your woman has that itch only one thing can solve it.
I have had people lose interest in visiting a more private place, once they realize that I am married. Some have even question if my spouse knows I am out and available? My standard answer is "That is between me and my spouse and is a non-factor this evening."
Should you tell your husband/wife or should you know that the person you are with has advised their spouse? There can be no standard answer and why do you need pre-approval we are not going shopping for a new home.
It should be between each couple to define the degree of disclosure. Very likely at one time or another one of the couple is going to cheat.
Topic First lesbian experience. ..
18 Oct 2016 19:55
My first Lesbian experience was with my best girlfriend in the Foreman's House when our property was part of a large estate. Maggi was my best friend and is today.
We had done a lot of kissing and groping but this afternoon suddenly we were both naked and mouth to clitoris and clitoris to mouth. I thought I tasted good, but "Oh my God how another girl can taste!"
Shortly thereafter I found boys too.
I am not a Lesbian, but for sure I could never give up one for the other.
Maggi is it not about time for your visit?, Should you read this.
Topic Work Fantasy
18 Oct 2016 19:37
Who says David is right? Evaluate the risk and decide if she is worth the liability or probability of getting sued over (if you own the company).
Topic how true is this??
18 Oct 2016 10:30
You may be right, but it is not always the case. We have a family friend that asked this woman out when he was 25 and she was 38. She declined due to age, he asked again. But got the same result. The third time she agreed to have a drink with him. But it is to be understood just a drink and it would go no further.
They have been married for over 53 years and I have never seen a woman who is loved so much. We all want to be loved like that.
I know she was the exception, but you only need one good guy or gal.
My Dad remembers her when he was young and says she may have been the most beautiful woman he ever saw. He better not let Mom here that!
Beauty could not have been a factor or could it?
Topic Big clitoris
16 Oct 2016 21:55
Mine's an 'outie', and somewhat prominent, but not really any larger than average. It's extremely responsive though.
How could I know if Bethany's is more responsive than mine. Either I missed the point of this is a very silly thread
Topic Strongest orgasm
11 Oct 2016 00:34
Which gives you the strongest orgasm?
masturbation by partner
other means (please elaborate)
In order to obtain proper information, please only gals give responses here.
Guys can give their responses in the Ask Guys section.
Hard to select just one, but it will either be with a special person or with another woman's man.
Topic Scenario: What would you say?
10 Oct 2016 19:36
After my hysterics are over , which may take a good portion of an hour.
You know and he knows, and our Lush Brothers and Sisters all knew I am going to do just what he invited me up here for.
Of course, I do not have the built-in excuse of three Martinis. Never Drink Booze when I am out man hunting.
Topic cleaning up
09 Oct 2016 12:30
Missed a capitalization of first word and I think you meant 'their' not 'there.' To answer your question, I prefer a wash cloth.
You are being picky. I bet that you and most of our fellow Lushies understood the question just fine.
Topic camel toe.. turn on or turn off?
08 Oct 2016 13:49
Or, alternatively... Yeah, I'm a fan!
It is not possible to not be turned on by this view. Since we have a good idea the kind of body it is attached.
Topic Guy and Gangbangs
07 Oct 2016 13:26
The only reason a guy may be uncomfortable with that would be if he was worried about whether or not he'd be enough for you after that. His thinking process would be, "Well if she wanted multiple dicks before and I can't give that to her then will I be enough to make her happy?" Any guy who is disgusted or judgmental of the gang bang would be bad news for a relationship, but a bit of discomfort may result from a bit of insecurity on his part. If you notice that he is uncomfortable talking about it, just make it clear verbally that he is the one you want and that sex with him is just so much better than anyone else. (Yes, even if it's not true sometimes) Guys are surprisingly self conscious about being enough to satisfy their significant others (well, if they actually care about you and aren't just in it for the sex).
You do understand, there are some women who are not going to be satisfied by any one man. No matter how good he is. If you are married to one like that you will just need to deal with the fact.
Topic Tattoos:yes or no?
07 Oct 2016 00:43
Girls, why would want to Uglify what God made so beautiful?
Yes, I was Young and Dumb once too.
One was about 2/3 inch and the other was about 2 1/2 inches.
There are gone now and removal is very expensive if you do not want to live your life with a scare.
Topic The number question
07 Oct 2016 00:13
Just because I am blonde you try and confuse me.
Are we talking about an evening?
For the entire year of 2016 so far?
Or a Lifetime?
I think Samantha Jones asked in that fashion.
07 Oct 2016 00:02
Is Oral foreplay or sex?
In any case, I like Oral, I want Oral and some say I demand Oral. Now that includes both giving and receiving.
Equally important with men and women.
Now that is Foreplay that could last and last.
Topic Contact after date
06 Oct 2016 15:15
It has been a long time since if have been in the dating world and then I did not date a lot.
But I am a different woman now.
So you siting home thinking "I thought it went well" But "He must not have had the same thoughts".
Well you could both be sitting there think "What could have been"
If you call him and just to say "Hi that was fun". He will either say "Yes it was, how about Wednesday for drinks".
In the worst case, he may say "You are nice,but I am not sure you and I are a good match."
At least you know and if nothing is risked nothing can be gained.
That is if you think you are worth the risk and he is worth the risk too.
Topic Cam/C2C Showing/Watching
05 Oct 2016 23:46
I have posed nude many times but I do not think I have any interest that kind of site. Especially at my age.
Further, I do not believe there were any sex videos of me made, but one never knows and where they could be posted.
Topic The number question
04 Oct 2016 23:53
hahaha... from my 17 to 31.. i have fucked many men. goes over 200+
Real partners maybe 20-25
That is an interesting number!
Topic Ladies, would you masturbate in front of...?
03 Oct 2016 20:17
I would happily, for a guy of interest
For a Stranger under the right conditions, yes I have
For another female, I have a new friend I would love it if she would masturbate for me until she could no longer climax. But how do I approach the subject?.
Yes, I would do the same for her if she would ever ask.
02 Oct 2016 23:43
I am a Mother of two bright successful young women. But the term MILF is like someone scraping their nails on a chalkboard to me.
If she is a Mother and is attractive and still has a good body, plus you would like to Fuck her, why can you not just say so?
Alas, I may be the only one that is bugged in this way.
01 Oct 2016 23:59
A small guy can be as good as larger guy, but there is no guaranty with either. I do think smaller men do work hard to be sure she has a great time. A very thick guy can be just wonderful, but he can just too darn thick sometimes. But you know me I am always ready to test the waters.
Especially, his first ejaculation I think I can feel him plastering the walls of my play room. But after that, I could not tell you that I can feel it. Best if he has not cum for a few days too.
30 Sep 2016 19:51
Sometimes I think Bethany and Meggsy could be my out of wedlock daughters Well maybe not.
But between the two there are just about right.
The one thing I would add is when I go into a Petite Mort it is always from G-Spot Stimulation.
Topic usual number of orgasms
29 Sep 2016 23:48
True there are no unfriendly Orgasms. But if were are going to try to quantify the size and quality.
Would it be three mini's equal a Normal Orgasm
Then it must take two Normal to come close to an OMG What Was That?
That was what we learned in Human Biology 101 wasn't it?
Topic How Often
29 Sep 2016 19:25
Gosh Bethany, you have a great Butt.
Topic How Often
29 Sep 2016 19:23
Most days if I am alone and then there are days not at all.
Of Course, there are complete mornings I will masturbate with my girlfriend online.
If Robb had been away and we needed to catch up or if I had been out the night before, you understand. I am sure. Not so much!
Topic Guy and Gangbangs
28 Sep 2016 20:13
Most of you know that I am highly sexual, had many partners, threesomes, groups, and GangBangs. More than a few of them too. However, if you are not in an Open Marriage as I am. It could be different.
Several guys say "what is in the past is in the past. I am not sure you guys are being completely honest, mostly with yourself.
Did your lover as she asked you to pass the Salad finish her sentence with "I had a gangbang once!"
Or were you demanding a Journal of her past Sexual History?
The first communication seems very unrealistic and not very believable.
In the second case, are you sure you do not have a problem if she has done what you wanted to do and never did?
If you are in the second group will it not always be there and will the question be "When is her Next GangBang?
My husband never questioned me about what I had done or even what I would do in the future with or without him. Plus he could not be dumb enough not to know. In Fact, he is rather brilliant. You see it is not the Worlds Best Kept Secret.