Topic what do you do when she doesnt give head but you really like it?
15 Jan 2015 14:26
Like the others said, accept it. Whether you love this person or not you should not for any reason badger them for any kind of sex if they don't want to partake! Talking about it can be a way forward but often it seems that can just end up being a passive aggressive way to coerce somebody.
Someone on this thread left the comment "On the one hand, if she really likes you, I would think she would do it anyway, just to please you", to me that is not a good enough reason. You should do it because you want to, not purely because you want to please someone or make them like you. We put so much importance on sex that it seems it can be easy to forget that both partners need to be happy with the act. First comes being comfortable and wanting to do something, then comes doing it to please someone else.
Topic Guys is this normal?
20 Dec 2014 17:13
-retracting my post after reading the update, I don't think what I had to input is applicable with the new info!
Topic should women be allowed to be topless in public?
23 Nov 2014 12:22
I find breasts as attractive as the next person but the notion that women's nipples are somehow too offensive or indecent (insert adjective here) to be seen in public just astounds me. I do believe that breasts are classed as "secondary sex characteristics" rather than a sexual organ, others include pubic/facial hair growth and growth of the adam's apple. Isn't it funny that we chose to sexualize and breasts and make women cover them, but don't encourage men to cover their adam's apples and beards. Though I've said that before and been met with the comeback "but tits are just sexy!", so who knows...
As for some of the comments about rape being more likely if women are to go topless in public I disagree entirely. Rape happens whether a person is fully clothed or naked. Bad people do bad things and the amount of clothing between them and what they want will not prevent it. Perhaps it makes victim blaming more easy but it's not like society struggles with that in the first place, we love blaming the victim rather than the one who did the crime.
I would hope that if seeing breasts became common place, when not sexualized i.e. not in a magazine used to objectify, then they might be seen for their primary function: nourishing infants, and regarded in the same way as we see male nipples. - Just another body part, that can be sexy during sexytime.
I may have gone a little off topic here, but personally I don't think it should be a problem for women to go topless in public, by that I mean anywhere it is acceptable for men to be topless. I'm not thinking of whilst at a fancy restaurant or having a stroll around town. When it comes to rape people need to know that no matter what s/he does it is NEVER the victims fault. Always, always, always the fault of the perpetrator, and while teaching rape prevention and what to do if it does happen is good and useful, we need to focus more on the idea of teaching why not to rape! In conclusion, why shouldn't we whack our tits out?
Topic what's on your t-shirt?
01 Nov 2014 07:37
Blackbeard having a tea party... :D (Blackbeard's Tea Party is a really awesome band)
Topic Post a pic of "Tan Lines"
27 Oct 2014 07:44
Eurgh, the worst kind of tan line ;)
Topic How many languages do you speak?
26 Oct 2014 06:21
That's not a purely English thing, it isn't any better in Germany. I learned French for a few years in school as an elective, but I can hardly recall anything. I speak German (my native tongue) and English, and I can understand bits and pieces of Spanish that I picked up on holidays. If someone speaks slowly, I can often get the gist of Dutch, Danish, Swedish and Icelandic, probably because I'm fluent in all German dialects and they tend to have a lot of similarities, but I'm unable to say a single sentence in those.
Yeah, I realise it's the same situation in lots of places but I do feel like other countries push students more when it comes to languages, it seems most people have some grasp of English but I know very few English who can say more than "hello" in another language. Perhaps I'm biased, my university in England is a tiny one, in my largest class there are only 21 people! Here (France) I'm at a "small" uni but I have lectures with up to 200 people.
Topic How many languages do you speak?
26 Oct 2014 03:31
English is my mother tongue, I speak French and Spanish - studying them at uni. I'm learning some Portuguese alongside and trying to teach myself Arabic. Its proving to be incredibly difficult though.
I understand some Italian, Catalan and Portuguese because quite a lot is similar to French and Spanish.
I did 5 years of German in high school but it wasn't really my métier, I only remember a few phrases now.
The way the schools teach languages in England, or my school at least, leads languages to become rather unpopular. I know very few people outside of my studies who are interested.
Topic Do you think women look good with nipple piercings and their clit pierced?
23 Oct 2014 09:27
I love nipple piercings, got my right one done a couple of months back, guys seem to like it! I like them a lot on other girls, fun to play with. Though I prefer when just one nipple is pierced. Clit piercings make me cringe, I look at them and all I see is pain! It's some brave women getting that done!!
Topic What Are The Most Memorable Movie Scenes That Have Stayed With You Always?
13 Oct 2014 15:44
Hotel Rwanda, there are many scenes which I'll not be forgetting from that film but most memorable for me is when they drive down a road and realise they're driving over massacred bodies. Felt so sick.
A slightly happier but bittersweet scene is when Celie sees her sister and meets her children as adults at the end of The Color Purple. The novel got me worse but the film's pretty hard hitting too! Don't often cry at films but I sob like a baby throughout that entire film every time!
Topic Let's Talk About Scars
11 Oct 2014 04:13
I don't have an issue with scars, on myself or on others, it's just another part of you. They're kinda interesting, though all of mine are just from stupidity, jewelry box falling on my head, burning myself on an iron, falling out of bed... I only have one long fairly obvious scar though, the rest aren't that visible so perhaps that's why I'm not so fussed.
I don't understand why some people hate stretch marks so much, especially from pregnancy. They're kinda inevitable, and they just make you look more like tiger. Awesome. :P
I wouldn't say if I find them attractive or not, they're just there. Make people look more lived in. I have a problem with eyes and throats though, scars in those areas I can't really look at without feeling sick, but generally speaking I don't have an issue, it's just skin.
Topic Girls, how was your first blowjob experice?
30 Jun 2014 10:59
It was an interesting experience, I was 18 and I had been curious about doing it for a while but never had the guts to do so. I met a guy at a festival who was a lot more experienced than I was, bit piggish about it but I learnt quite a lot from that. He knew what he liked and told me what to do. I'd been reading lush stories for a while so I had a fairly good idea of how to go about it, but he helped a lot. I wasn't too nervous, more excited for the challenge! He was about average in size, and the whole thing probably lasted a little more than 5 minutes, there was a lot more cum than I'd imagined! At first I hadn't realised he was cumming - there was no real warning! The first bit dribbled down my chin, managed to swallow the rest though. He told me I was very good at it, didn't seem the type to give compliments to make a girl feel good about herself, but I put that down to his help.
Topic What colour are your eyes?
06 Apr 2014 06:36
Mine are grey-green. Though in a certain light they look more blue, like in my display picture (:
Topic Lights Off Sex - Why do some women prefer it?
15 Mar 2014 10:55
The only time I have sex with the lights out is when I wake in the night and I want some. No point turning the lights on then! Sex in candlelight is lovely, I like that a lot but I do like the lights on, it's nice to see exactly what's going on! ;)
Topic What's for dinner tonight?
15 Mar 2014 10:47
Wine. Wine is what's for dinner tonight, and lots of it. Not looking forward to tomorrow morning ha ha.
Topic Have you ever caught a guy staring lustingly at your boobs or ass
14 Mar 2014 15:52
I've caught people looking at my body that way several times, I've never been flattered by it. Once I turned round and saw a guy behind me who was about to grab my ass whilst his friend was watching and laughing. That disgusted me to be honest. I'm not a fucking object. For me it's not a compliment to stare at or try to grope my body. For one thing, it's mine! The other reason is that it's sexual harassment.
I understand that some women find it flattering and a bit of an ego-boost, but it's never really been my kind of thing. I would much rather a person appreciate me for my personality than my appearance, particularly as that is how I try to view others.
Topic does sex feel better without a condom?
18 Feb 2014 06:40
I feel it makes a huge difference. I'm on the pill and the guy I'm seeing and I are exclusive so he doesn't wear a condom with me, but whether I'm on the pill or not, if I sleep with someone I don't really know he must wear a condom. It feels so much more intimate without a condom to me, I enjoy sex a lot more. Plus you don't have to awkward fumbling around with condoms, you can just dive right in, so to speak. :P
Topic Breastfeeding in public
18 Feb 2014 06:33
Using breasts for their primary purpose? How terrible! Ha ha.
For me this picture just about sums it up:
http://upload.lushstories.com/820696662-feminism breast feeding.jpg
It's absurd to me that a woman should be judged for feeding her child, as though people have forgotten that the function of breasts is to feed a baby.
Topic who honestly likes to give blow jobs
15 Feb 2014 10:51
Of course. If I don't like doing it then I just won't. I know to say no if I don't want to do something or I feel uncomfortable.
I enjoy giving blowjobs because I like giving pleasure to my partner, it turns me on to know that he is enjoying it, and I like the action itself. It's a very intimate thing and I really like that.
Topic Have a slight Obsession for Game of Thrones??
14 Feb 2014 07:18
Game of thrones the seconde time is still better then many other shows the first.
P.S.: You might have noticed. It's more then a slight obsession.
Haha yeah definitely, but I've already watched all of Game of Thrones three times... I really don't think I should do it again!
Topic golden showers
13 Feb 2014 15:46
Not something that hugely appeals to me, but if my partner wanted to then I wouldn't really have an issue with it.
Topic Have a slight Obsession for Game of Thrones??
13 Feb 2014 15:44
Definitely... I haven't allowed myself to watch the trailer for the new season just because if I watch it I'll end up watching all of the current episodes again...
Topic Rough sex and your tits
12 Feb 2014 08:17
Yes, I enjoy all that, but there has to be a little care... Someone once bit my nipples so hard they bled and the rest of my breasts were covered in painful bruises. That wasn't sexy, it was just horrible!
Topic Where do you meet your sex partners?
10 Feb 2014 15:50
I usually meet people through friends, either on nights out or at festivals. I don't usually just go for some complete stranger, usually it's someone I've been introduced to by a friend. Never had a "random encounter", I don't think I would trust someone enough if I'd just met them in the street or whatever.
Topic How do you feel better after a bad day?
09 Feb 2014 13:01
Talk about it to the girls I live with over a drink. As students it's not hard to persuade them to have a drink (;
That or a bath, music and an early night usually.