About DXM


I'm a ex-pat Brit living in the United States. I'm single, which is probably for the best as I travel pretty extensively for work.

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I like to travel a lot, especially when I'm doing it for non-work reasons. I play music (sax and guitar), and love seeing live music wherever I go. I'm a voracious reader, a great cook and awful food snob, and I do love a good wine or spirit.
Favorite Books:
This will surely be an incomplete list, but off the top of my head: 100 Years of Solitude, Ishiguro's The Unconsoled, The Unbearable Lightness of Being, Infinite Jest, The English Patient, Where the Wild Things Are, and Go Dog Go.
Favorite Authors:
Those noted above, though maybe especially Milan Kundera, Garbriel Garcia Marquez and Kazou Ishiguro. In terms of erotica (aside from Kundera), I like Megan Hart quite a bit, and Jane Hirshfield's erotic poetry makes me think she knows me better than most women I've actually met.
Favorite Movies:
Movies don't really stick as much with me, so my favorites are always great ones I've seen really recently. Right now that would include food-based movies like The Trip, Eat Drink Man Woman and Sukiyaki Django.
Favorite Music:
Very, very eclectic. Jazz, alternative, blues, classical, it doesn't matter much. I really, really love music.


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Topic: Rejoice!
Posted: 04 Dec 2012 08:10

Cheers! And might I say, what a relief!!!

I was becoming concerned that my future children and grandchildren would not be able to contribute part of their earnings to enable ridiculously lavish lifestyles for those of sufficiently high-borne blood who don't really do anything.

Topic: Advice before submitting a story
Posted: 04 Dec 2012 07:53

Overmyknee, I wouldn't have thought of that in a million years. I'll try it. Thanks.

Topic: Book recommendations
Posted: 03 Dec 2012 21:38

Read both Wold Hall and Bringing Up the Bodies by Hilary Mandel, and they were both amazing. But I most recommend Michael Chabon's Telegraph Avenue, which I'm in the middle of right now.

Topic: Advice before submitting a story
Posted: 03 Dec 2012 14:28

Thanks, I'll try that.

Topic: An evi leprechaun curses you, and you can only do one sex position forever...
Posted: 03 Dec 2012 14:01

During this blessed Holiday time of peace on Earth and goodwill to men, shouldn't it be an Evil Elf?

Regardless, if I have to choose one for the rest of my life maybe cowgirl. I like it a lot, and I'll still be able to do it when I'm 70 and my back is going.

Topic: wearing your ladies silk undies
Posted: 03 Dec 2012 13:58

If it would truly excite her, sure. But I would be lying if I said I wouldn't feel damn silly.

Topic: Advice before submitting a story
Posted: 03 Dec 2012 13:56

On the proofreading note, a question: Does anyone have advice on how to effectively proofread for typos? When I reread something I've written my brain can pick out things like verb tense, overuse of a particular word, or phasing that sounds clumsy. But for whatever reason if I make a simple typo - say, "lake" instead of "make" - when I go back and reread it, my head puts the sound "make" in my head and I don't catch it no matter how many times I reread.

Does anyone else have this issue? If so, how do you deal with it?

Topic: "The story must have an ending?"
Posted: 03 Dec 2012 13:27

Wow, what a great thread this is. Other than underscoring everything MorganHawke said, my two cents here from here and there:

CumGirl: The Bartelby point is an excellent one, and it's one that used to bug me a lot. I reread it last summer for the first time since high school, and it worked better for me this time round. The difference for for me was that before I thought of it as a story about Bartelby and his odd "I would prefer not to" quirk. Now when I read it I view it as a story about the actual narrator, whose fascination with Bartelby subtly paints a picture of a man on the verge of becoming aware of the pointlessness of his life's drudgery, but who tragically never quite gets there. I don't mean to suggest that this is what Melville had meant, but I found it worked as a more complete tale when I viewed it as such. And I loved that I had to take the time and bandwidth to puzzle out the right interpretation for me. For whatever that's worth.

bustyreadhead: I think a lot of writers do in fact start from the ending. But a lot of times on your path back to your original point, you find you've ended up somewhere entirely different.

Once again, this is just a great thread.

Topic: mouth, ass or pussy?
Posted: 03 Dec 2012 10:25

All are fabulous (as are in hand, between breasts, etc.), but there's no doubt that pussy is queen. You asked why, and I think the best way I can put it would be that it is specially designed by either God or millions of years of evolution to go with my cock.

Topic: Ever managed to convince a girl who didn't want Anal to try it?
Posted: 03 Dec 2012 10:20

I've convinced a woman who wasn't sure whether or not she wanted to try, but I haven't (and don't think I'd try) to convince a woman that didn't find the idea appealing.The thought of doing something sexual with a lover that just wasn't into the thing we were doing doesn't seem particularly fun.

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One Man's Wife is Another Man's Playground

[Note: This is part short story and part therapy session. The events here are certainly fictionalized to a great degree, but they are based on a very real life experience - one that I am not entirely proud to announce is mine. As I was saying to a Lush friend yesterday, sometimes when I reminisce about past sexual exploits it's to unpack things about myself that I'm not so sure about....

Added 01 Dec 2012 | Category Straight Sex | Votes 17 | Avg Score 4.71 | Views 5,716 | 6 Comments

Breaking Up Isn't Hard, I Am

“I have to say, this really has to be my very favorite breakup ever.” I stretched out my body, so that my fingertips just touched the headboard and my toes touched the base of my bed. Then I rolled back over, so that my thigh was draped over Kate’s legs. As I propped myself up on one elbow, I watched my other hand slowly whisk across her breasts and stomach. “I’m totally serious,” Kate...

Added 29 Nov 2012 | Category Straight Sex | Votes 8 | Avg Score 5 | Views 4,306 | 1 Comment

Some bets are worth losing

Don’t get me wrong - it’s not that I’m not normally a competitive person. I am. Sports, business, gambling, hell even playing chutes and ladders with my nephews I always want to win. So I absolutely am competitive. It's just that whenever I get together with Sherry, those competitive juices go into complete overdrive. To be fair, she's the exact same way with me, and this often makes...

Added 27 Nov 2012 | Category Straight Sex | Votes 17 | Avg Score 4.88 | Views 5,941 | 9 Comments

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