Forum posts made by dancing_doll

Topic mirror whore
Posted 20 Feb 2012 16:15

Yes... I am attracted to all shiny surfaces... the car windows, mirrored walls in bars and restaurants, the reflection off glass doors on a patio or shop windows, even the back of your reflective metallic-lensed sunglasses as you're talking to me. I can't help it.

I don't think I make it too obvious... but I'm definitely aware of the opportunities for a quick glance or discreetly checking myself out. Embarassed

Topic men masturbating for women
Posted 20 Feb 2012 13:11

In general...

If I'm really into the guy, then yes, I love watching. It's a huge turn-on.

If it's a random guy, then no - it's not arousing at all.

If it's a guy that I don't know but is one of those rare super-hot physical specimens of testosterone with a beautiful cock and a chiseled body, then yeah I could get into it.

Topic What would be the best thing for breakfast in bed?
Posted 20 Feb 2012 06:16

Long slices of fresh papaya, drizzled in honey. A bit of vanilla yogurt and berries. Poached eggs. A slice of whole-grain toast. Fresh-squeezed OJ on the side.

Then it's up to you to provide the morning's sausage. glasses8

Topic long inner labia
Posted 19 Feb 2012 21:33

From Urban Dictionary:
burger out of the bun
Large floppy labia that hang "out of the bun". Like a hamburger that has meat patties that hang outside. The opposite is burger in the bun.
Once I took her panties off I realized she had "burger out of the bun".

Yeah, I've had this convo with female friends once... going around the table of "who had what." The girls that had 'burger out of the bun' pussies didn't seem particularly concerned about it being an unattractive feature, but they are self-confident girls in general.

Having petite "porn-friendly" lips myself, I'm not sure if I would feel self-conscious if I had a meaty pussy. My honest guess is that I probably would if it was on the extreme side. It would have to be exceptionally disproportionate for me to consider any kind of surgical alterations. I really see that as a last resort - if you're going into porn or are an exotic dancer, then I can see the concern, but I really don't think most guys care that much if they're with a girl that they're into or find hot enough to get naked with in the first place.

But I've always been of the mindset that if it bothers a woman a lot and makes her self-conscious enough that it affects her sex-life, then get them trimmed. I don't see it as any different than a woman getting her nose done, implants or some other surgery to boost her confidence when it comes to feeling attractive.

Topic Today in Pictures (post a picture representing your mood)
Posted 18 Feb 2012 19:50

Topic Ashamed of Something You've Written?
Posted 16 Feb 2012 18:21

I would never push myself to write something that I found made me 'physically sick' or 'ashamed' because of the content. That's just not a challenge that I think anyone should have to entertain when it comes to the erotica genre. If you don't find the story exciting to you, as the writer, the I think it would translate into a certain kind of conflicted awkwardness in the undertones, even if you got the storytelling basics right. That doesn't mean that you have to have direct experience with the sex acts in the story, but you have to at least find the subject matter arousing on some level.

Personally, I'm not ashamed of anything I've written, but I do have a couple of stories that I won't publish as part of my Dancing Doll portfolio because I think they are a bit too 'extreme'. That doesn't mean that I'm ashamed of them, but more that they don't fit the site guidelines or a little more hardcore than my readers are used to when it comes to what I typically publish.

Some people only write to publish. I say - write what inspires you - and then decide if you want to share it with others. And don't try to force yourself to be kinkier than you are when it comes to content. Know yourself and write what turns you on.

Topic diets
Posted 16 Feb 2012 17:44

I'm pretty careful about staying within a couple of pounds of my ideal weight throughout the year.

If I've gained a few during times when I've been injured, post-surgery, or just drinking too many alcohol calories over the winter, then I just decrease the carbs and increase the cardio exercise.

Unless someone is looking to lose significant weight, most people shouldn't need any formal diet plans - just tweaking what you normally eat and getting more active should take care of things in a gradual/healthy way. The fad diets are notoriously unsuccessful anyway.

Topic thanks all
Posted 16 Feb 2012 17:36

Yes, every girl is different.

I rode bicycles, horses, did gymnastics and used tampons while growing up and losing my virginity still hurt like hell. sad1

Topic Does hair on a man's body matter that much? (ex. back,chest,shoulder,etc.)
Posted 16 Feb 2012 08:18

Ok, here is the same man: which version of this man do you find more attractive?

I think the answer is clear. When it comes to body hair, I take the PETA slogan stance that 'fur is wrong'.

If you are a hairy person, at least make sure you aren't sporting a back-sweater. I think back-hair is a universal turn-off. As for the chest, I prefer it smooth 100% of the time, but I think some men can pull off a light smattering of hair on the upper-chest and have it look ok.

To me, maintenance of body hair is just indicative of good grooming. A furry guy makes me think he'll end up being furry *everywhere*. confused1

Topic Revealing Clothing
Posted 15 Feb 2012 13:15

I dress according to the venue/occasion.

If I'm going to certain after-hours clubs, I will dress in what I call "classy slutty"... (the 'classy' bit is because it's high-end/expensive clothes so that somehow makes it sexy-slutty instead of just cheap-trashy...). And it's FUN to dress like this sometimes!

In general, if I'm going out I'm usually just sexy/trendy but nothing too extreme. I dress a little sexier if I'm with a guy because you don't have to worry about getting hit on constantly just based on what you're wearing.

I like guys to look/admire - but don't assume the girl is looking to hook up or will be an easier mark just because she's dressed in 'revealing clothing.' It's also not an invitation to grab at a girl as she's walking by you at the club or make douchebag comments. It's very much a look/don't-touch policy.

Daytime-wear is a little different. I like to turn-heads but you don't need to wear anything revealing to do that.

Topic Have you ever had your heart broken but still needed them?
Posted 15 Feb 2012 12:49


I've had my heart broken and even gone for a second round with an ex, but those were cases where my heart was broken because I was sad that the relationship had ended, not because he had "crushed" me or "stomped on my heart".

I have some ego and a lot of pride. For me, it all comes down to respect. I get that people make mistakes in relationships but when someone truly maliciously disrespects me in a relationship, I'm done. There's just a certain threshold that shuts down all interest for me, and it happens very quickly when it does... just like a light-switch (even when it comes to a long-term relationship).

I cannot hold any love/hope/desire for someone that I don't feel has respected me or the relationship we had. You can break up with people (we all do), but if you fuck it up and needlessly hurt someone just because you're an immature douchebag, then it makes it very easy to get over them, in my opinion. Once it's done, it's done. I don't look back or have any wistful feelings of 'what if...' It's instant closure for me.

Topic Today in Pictures (post a picture representing your mood)
Posted 15 Feb 2012 07:52

Topic Happy Birthday to Callisto
Posted 15 Feb 2012 07:19

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Happy Birthday, beautiful girl!
I hope you celebrate in style and have a wonderful (and kinky!) year ahead!
Ashleigh XO

Topic Today in Pictures (post a picture representing your mood)
Posted 14 Feb 2012 07:27

Topic Club Zafia....
Posted 14 Feb 2012 06:48

Topic how long should a guy last in bed
Posted 14 Feb 2012 06:16

Offhand, I'm thinking that you probably need to use more lube... that might be why she's uncomfortable after a while.

I think the important thing though is to ask or figure out why she's getting sore... is she too dry? (you needs more lube). Do you have a bigger dick and are maybe pounding her cervix too hard so she ends up sore? (you need to modify the positions you use for sex). Or is there something else going on? (might be a medical issue).

Communicate... ask... and then go from there.

If you're just doing straight-fucking for an hour, then maybe you need to vary it up more... ie. fucking in different positions with breaks in between including things like oral, foreplay, fingers, kissing, sex-toys, 69, massage, and fun stuff like edible oils/candlewax/popsicles/cream etc. I like a guy that lasts a long time, but the whole sexual experience isn't just about duration of intercourse... you'll want to mix it up, and maybe give her a few breaks as you go so it's not high-impact intensity fucking the entire time.

But yeah... she should be placing importance on getting you off as well whether that ends with a blowjob or even a handjob if she's too sore from intercourse. If she ends up just saying "I'm sore" and just abruptly wants you to stop and you have to finish off by yourself while she falls asleep, then that's not cool.

Topic I know this sounds really dumb but... (about Valentine's Day)
Posted 13 Feb 2012 12:03

if it helps, i'm in a relationship and i hate VD (Valentine's day). it has some really ugly memories attached to it. Not only will i not be talking about it, but i'll be actively bitter and curl my nose up in disgust about the whole affair. in fact, please don't bombard me with VD notes or spam my wall about it or even remind me about it on tuesday, cause you're likely to get a response you're not expecting.

Oh, and i'm serious. this little rant is not just for amusement, i f'ing hate Feb 14th.


+1 on all counts of this post. It will always be a black-hole on my calendar.

Topic Do you think having a girl and a boy could save a sinking marriage?
Posted 13 Feb 2012 10:40

I don't think the gender of the kids matters - adding kids to a messed up marriage is always a bad call.

I get where you are coming from with certain cultures though. Some cultures still put high value on having a boy child, so maybe if they are unable to, or keep having girls, it puts a strain on the relationship. Not saying this is the way marriage should ever work, but the pressure is still there in many cultures/countries.

I do know a guy (the successful yuppie type) who said the only reason he got married at all was to procreate. He said he would have remained a single bachelor if he wasn't planning on having kids. When his wife had major fertility issues, he was seriously considering bailing on the marriage because of that. He just saw marriage as the necessary means to getting to have kids. When she was finally able to conceive after a long struggle, in a way I guess it did *technically* save their sinking marriage... Well for now, anyway. lol

Topic What is you views on having a fwb or fuck buddy?
Posted 13 Feb 2012 07:08

Actually I find that men are the ones that end up emotionally involved and wanting more in a FB or FWB situation.

In these scenarios there are usually specific reasons why I would never go for a full-blown relationship with a FB and no matter how great the sex might be, it doesn't really change my feelings on it.

On the other hand, I've had FB's get jealous and territorial about me and start to complicate a good thing.

Topic Sex toys
Posted 12 Feb 2012 16:08

Reminds me of something Bam-Bam on the Flintstones would carry.

LOL... omg, yes! This is exactly the perfect description for it! Like you could seriously bludgeon an intruder with it if you had to use it for self-defence.

Topic Sex toys
Posted 12 Feb 2012 13:00

I have a hitachi magic wand and it is pure magic!!!!!!!!!!! Use it on my partners too and they love it. I dont have a Wi-vibe but would like one!

I have had the Hitachi demo'd for me on soooo many occasions at the Toy Store, but I always end up buying something else. I really *want* to like it, but I just can't commit.

I have a few friends that rave about it, but it just seems so heavy and bulky. I'm amazed at how popular it remains in porn though. It must give an intense full-body rumble compared to a finely tuned instrument like a Lelo vibrator.

I can't imagine with Hitachi and Lelo Soraya sitting in front of me that I would ever be opting for the plug-in wand.. but hey, maybe you have to really try it to appreciate "the magic"... dontknow

Topic do you actually like to cyber
Posted 12 Feb 2012 12:48

I am 100% sure that I would not enjoy it without a real connection with the person. I'm sure I could fake it if I had to, but I'd probably be painting my nails at the same time or watching TV in the background. I often wonder if a lot of people are doing the same thing when they cyber with random/faceless people that start up convos like, "hey, Im horny, wan 2 cht." Like I assume someone out there is actually saying yes to those offers at some point, right?

There's only been one person I've had a real connection with here and cyber-soaked my panties for, but we've long since taken things beyond Lush, so I definitely don't come here for the cyber. Like Sprite said though, it can be damn hot when you're in synch.

In general though, in terms of fantasy-spinning and hot-chats, I find phone/cam more intense and fun than online-cyber if you're long-distance.

Topic ok i just need help here..what do u guys and girls do with the gift ur ex gave u after you'll br
Posted 12 Feb 2012 12:19

I still wear/use a lot of my gifts from exes. Sometimes I'll think "oh yeah, I remember when he bought me this ring etc." when I first look at it, but if I like the ring, I'm still going to wear it. I also still have my pink Burberry teddybear that an ex gave me sitting on a bedroom shelf.

To me, these are just objects that I like...

If something has too strong an association then I just store it away or give it to a friend.

Strangely enough I actually feel more uncomfortable about using gifts from a guy whose heart I broke rather than the other way around. Might be related to residual guilt etc.

Topic Chasing a married or engaged woman
Posted 12 Feb 2012 07:11

Some guys will go for engaged or married women because they know she's probably looking for no-strings fun or a dirty fling, so it's a low-maintenance hook-up. As well, there is the kinky factor of fucking another man's fiance/wife which can be a turn-on.

Is it morally wrong? Technically, yeah.
I don't really fault the the single person though - it's up to the attached person to make intelligent decisions.

One of my best friends is married now and always wears her huge, sparkly diamond engagement ring and it does not slow down the guys that approach her at all. She doesn't try to hide it at all, but she does cheat on occasion - like girl's vacations, her personal trainer, or a random hot bar guy.

They all explicitly know she's married but don't care. Why should they care if she doesn't? Everyone knows it's just fun sex, so asking a guy to have the moral fortitude to consider the feelings of a dude they've never met while his girl is half-naked in their lap is asking a lot... especially when it's just going to be a random or occasional hook-up and both parties know this up front.

The reality is... some people will cheat, and some people will take advantage of this.
This isn't the 'popular answer' but it's the real one.

Topic Ragdoll versus MSL
Posted 11 Feb 2012 16:49

*Waiting patiently for men to start replying to this one.*

C'mon guys! lol

Personally, as a girl answering this Q, I don't like MSL unless I'm actually in-L or verging on it - it feels awkward otherwise.

If it's just hot, dirty, sweaty fun, then Ragdoll all the way!

Topic Pads or tampons?
Posted 11 Feb 2012 16:44

* Topic has been moved to Ask the Gals section.

To answer the OP, I'm a tampon girl and have been since I first started. I still can't imagine using the kind without the plastic applicator though...or the cardboard applicator ones. *cringe*

I prefer Tampax Pearl of all the brands.

Topic Coke versus Pepsi? The Grudge Match
Posted 11 Feb 2012 10:57


Topic Would you let your GF/Wife/Current partner bite u during intercourse?
Posted 11 Feb 2012 09:52

You have to know how to bite, without leaving a real mark - that goes for both guys and girls.

I love a little well-timed bite, both giving and receiving... nothing excessive though. I had one guy that used to bite me a lot... it was hot in the moment, but then I'd end up with marks and bruises for a week or two, which was always annoying in terms of trying to hide them later.

Topic Cock Size, What's Small?
Posted 10 Feb 2012 13:18

I am no size queen, but have been with a guy that had a cock about the size of an ob tampon. There is a lot to be said about it's not the size it's how they use it. But in this case, no pleasure was to be had with that one.

I agree Lola. I had a tampon-sized guy too, and trust me, there was nothing he could have done in the way of 'using it' that would have made much of a difference.. LOL ... I still remember that "oh no!" feeling when I first put my hand on it.

I do think some guys are too small, but they are few and far between and I think it just depends on how important that feeling of 'fullness' is to a woman's sexual pleasure. Some need it, and others are fine to get off more on oral-sex or the overall pleasure of being with that lover in particular.

I've never told a guy he was too small, but I did think it with the tampon-guy, but that was a vacation-fling so it didn't really matter as much to me at the time.

Topic orgasm
Posted 10 Feb 2012 13:10

Eyes rolling back in your head, eyelids fluttering, body writhing, toe-curling, semi-conscious state with a series of hot-electric explosions in your pelvic region where you almost disassociate from your body for a short time. In those moments you don't care what you look like, or what you sound like. It's just the pure momentum of the pleasure and muscle contractions and spasms in your pussy and the throbbing of your clit that you ride out until the sensations finally fade away.

Quite fun, actually. icon_biggrin

If you're unable to orgasm through hand masturbation, you might want to experiment with a tub faucet, a small/cheap handheld clit-stimulator like The Pocket Rocket, or even wearing a tight pair of jeans with a pillow between your legs, rubbing back and forth. You'll get there eventually... :)