Topic Gay porn
12 Dec 2011 19:21
I do on rare occasion to add a bit of variety but I'm really picky with my gay porn.
Definitely the masculine, athletic bodies are a must, not the femme guys. Even more so if it seems more like a 'straight' actor doing the gay for pay thing. That increases the kink factor.
As well, sometimes I'm just curious about the production type and story lines of different styles of porn, not out of arousal... just cause I want to see, well... what goes on in that world! This might explain why it feels like I've seen a lot of bizarre porn.
That said, it's really a hit-or-miss genre for me so I don't watch it regularly.
Topic When Lush members just disappear...
12 Dec 2011 16:35
If you have a meaningful connection with someone, it should go beyond Lush.
For the more casual 'online friends', it's just the way life evolves... and not that different than real life in some ways. People's lives cross and uncross as life changes over time. It's natural.
Topic How long des it take for you to reach "climax"
12 Dec 2011 09:48
For me... 20 minutes MAX.
With a vibrator it's way less. And if it's a Lelo Soraya, I can do it in under a minute if I'm already horny.
I don't think there are any tips and tricks... personally I've always believed that the orgasm has always involved the mind more than the body. Mental stimulation (porn, reading a story, going through your own sexual memory-vault of dirty moments) all start to tip you to the edge.
If you're distracted or your mind is on something else (ie. something non-sexual), it's going to take way longer to orgasm regardless of what you're doing to yourself physically.
Topic PLEASE NO MEN!
12 Dec 2011 09:38
Faux Lesbian Guide:
1. Banner in-all-caps "NO MEN".
2. A full gallery of nude and semi-nude photos claiming to be them. Usually they are all headless with varying breast/nipple sizes, a self-pic in the mirror collection where you see 'she' is often using a number of different kinds of camera-phones in many of the pics OR it's a gallery-set of 12 pics of the same girl which all appear to be taken at the same time in a slow-undress in amazingly professional lighting.
3. This person doesn't write stories, nor do they vote/comment on any stories on the site. In fact the 'stories' bit in the url domain name goes mostly unacknowledged.
4. Their status updates declare that they are constantly wet and horny for other girls and tease with extravagant stories of how they just had an all-female orgy the night before or they sat masturbating on their female boss's desk that day wearing a see-through shirt and no panties.
5. They spend a lot of time commenting on other girl's photos on the site in an overly "I want to suck your dripping pussy" kind of way when they don't even know them.
I think those are the beginner's basics.
I am not looking for hook-ups, but I'm here to write, so I don't have any "no men, no lesbians, no transsexuals" rules governing my profile. I just judge on a person-by-person basis. It works pretty smoothly 95% of the time. People should be more concerned with the quality of the person than by their gender or sexual identification when it comes to building a friend list, in my opinion.
Topic Do you consider tattoos to be fine art?
11 Dec 2011 15:12
The concept of 'fine art' is completely subjective. In the early days of Picasso, his work was considered 'junk' by many. It depends on what you view art as. Most people feel comfortable classifying 'fine art' based on bourgeois concepts only after artists are dead and catalogued. Many modern artists are overlooked because a large part of society classifies art based on what they learn it's supposed to look like, rather than what it makes you feel.
In my opinion Tattoo artists create urban art. Not all of them. Some can reproduce and replicate very well, but if you see what an elite level tattoo artist produces, it can be quite evocative and complex... more so when they are doing interpretations or creating designs that can exist together harmoniously (like on a tattoo sleeve or a large space).
Unfortunately most clients walk in with very specific ideas for their tattoos so most artists are confined by their demands. But many dedicated tattoo artists don't just work with ink... they use other mediums for their art. I think tattooing is a limited genre in itself.
Anyway... I think some pieces are extraordinarily beautiful.
I actually just got my first tattoo today (just something small and meaningful to me). I think the meaning behind people's tattoos are part of their beauty.
I love when people have a story behind their ink. And conversely I feel sorry for all those people that succumbed to the dolphin, starburst and barb wire around the bicep trends of the past.
Topic Sexist Female Athlete
09 Dec 2011 20:53
Topic World's largest insect just found in New Zealand
07 Dec 2011 17:08
Can you walk it on a leash?
It it house broken?
I want one so bad!
The new designer pet! Where is Paris Hilton?
Everything looks cuter with a diamond collar and a pink leash.
Topic World's largest insect just found in New Zealand
07 Dec 2011 08:00
Giant Insect ]
Former park ranger Mark, 53, discovered the giant weta up a tree and his real life Bug's Bunny has now been declared the largest ever found.
He came across the cricket-like creature, which has a wing span of seven inches, after two days of searching on a tiny island. The creepy crawly is only found on Little Barrier Island, in New Zealand. The species were wiped off the mainland by rats accidentally introduced by Europeans.
After Mark found the female weta he fed it the carrot before putting it back where he found her. Mark, 53, said: "Three of us walked the trails of this small island for two nights scanning the vegetation for a giant weta.
"We spent many hours with no luck finding any at all, before we saw her up in a tree. The giant weta is the largest insect in the world, and this is the biggest one ever found, she weighs the equivalent to three mice. She enjoyed the carrot so much she seemed to ignore the fact she was resting on our hands and carried on munching away. She would have finished the carrot very quickly, but this is an extremely endangered species and we didn't want to risk indigestion. After she had chewed a little I took this picture and we put her right back where we found her."
Mark, from Colorado, America, added: "We bug lovers hear a lot of people who think insects are inferior in some way because of their size, so it was great to see such a big insect. This became all the more amazing when we realized that this was the largest insect recorded."
05 Dec 2011 17:24
As Yahtzee said, I do have twitter... I don't always use it that regularly but sometimes I get more into it than others. I tweet random things, my writing, and blog posts.
I use it professionally (following/networking with writers/publishers) but also personally, tweeting about things that interest me outside of the erotica world.
I do follow-back if the person seems legit and not a tweet-bot or a total creeper.
I enjoy following the celebs, pornstars, sportsguys and interesting personalities out in twitterville. I've some 'interesting' experiences come out of it... lol
05 Dec 2011 14:06
Thanks for all your replies,I think I better keep my feelings to myself from now on,oh and I am 100% female for those who think I'm posing as a guy,thanks for your comments anyway.
Your fetish is more than acceptable here.
When you've started multiple current threads on the same topic in various places on the forum, it can get repetitive for regular members. The best thing to do is to create one thread and if it goes stale and sinks several pages back over time, you can always "bump" it up to the top if you still feel there is more to say on the topic or want to express yourself further.
I'm sure there's more to your sexuality than just 'nipple rubbing', so feel free to chime in on other threads and topics too. :)
Topic Adult Toys
05 Dec 2011 12:36
I've been waiting for you to use that molding kit I sent you. I need a prototype Dancing_Doll pussy to try out before I begin sellling it to all the guys on Lush. Hurry up already. And I'll up my offer. I'll give you 2% of the proceeds from the sell of your own pussy. That's twice my original offer!
The mold kits they sell on the market only allow for the exterior shape to be created, so there is no internal play ability.
I probably shouldn't know that fact, should I...
The mold kits work better on guys. I saw one where you can even make a candle in the exact shape of your dick. I always thought that would set the perfect seduction scene on a date. There's nothing like setting the mood than lighting up your very own cock-candle.
Topic The Sex Toy Double-Standard- is there one, and why?
05 Dec 2011 12:21
I think there is a double-standard in general. A lot of guys won't admit to owning toys or they are too embarrassed to go into a store and buy them for themselves. I'm sure there are many toy-owning men out there that hide them when a new girl comes into the picture, just the same as they hide the raunchy porn on their computers on secret hard drives.
Maybe they feel like the concept of needing any extra stimulation makes them seem less "manly" and "virile" or that certain toys will lead someone to think they are "gay."
The image of a woman writhing in ecstasy on a bed with a beautifully shaped toy while she brings herself to orgasm is a culturally-acceptable, sensual and attractive thing. Lots of porn is based on these scenarios alone.
There's a whole lot less porn out there feature a guy dildo'ing his ass of jacking his dick into a fleshlight tube or fucking a rubber-doll.
The image of the woman masturbating with a toy seems to connote unbridled lust and sexual libido where she just can't get enough and is extremely in tune with the pleasures of her body... The image of the guy masturbating seems to connote a desperate guy jerking off by pretending to be fucking a pussy because he can't get a real woman. These concepts are wrong, but I think they are conservatively held by many.
Personally I am in favour of toys for all, to be used separately and as couples. I'm not intimidated by the concept at all. Quite the opposite, I have bought male-toys before as gifts. I like to watch and play too. For me, it's all about pleasure. Fuck the stereotypes and hang-ups.
Topic Adult Toys
05 Dec 2011 12:06
from another thread, our resident expert on toys ... Dancing_Doll:
(the thread has other interesting information you may want to check out)
Also suggested by DD was the incredible We-Vibe. http://we-vibe.com/
Thanks Yahtzee... lol... I'm still waiting for the company to set up an office in Canada so I can campaign to be the real Toy Master for a living. *taps foot impatiently*
05 Dec 2011 12:01
I find that the breast-to-breast thing is more of a visual construct that men seem to enjoy and fascinate over... kind of like a porn image that guys want to imagine is immensely stimulating and exciting to women.
Truth is... it doesn't do much for most women in terms of sexual stimulation.
But yeah, girls can fake it on a porn vid or a sweaty dancefloor to get the attention of simple-minded gawking men.
Topic Club Zafia....
23 Nov 2011 14:49
Topic What body type on men do you favour?
19 Nov 2011 17:58
Fit, athletic, lean muscle, nice shoulders, V-shape build, smooth chest would be my ideal.
Bodybuilders, flabbios and man-orexics aren't my thing.
Topic Famous Story Requirement?
18 Nov 2011 10:55
Now for the harder question about attainability of all non-incest stories.
I have a non-incest story that's currently over 60,000 views, so it's technically possible.
Topic Club Zafia....
17 Nov 2011 13:45
Topic Famous Story Requirement?
11 Nov 2011 12:26
Just thinking out loud but maybe it should be 100,000 views for incest stories and 60,000 views for non-incest stories to get the Famous Badge now.
I just did a quick glance at the most viewed stories in the most popular story categories and unless I'm reading the stats wrong, at the moment there is only one story on the site that would actually qualify for the Famous Badge that is non-incest... and even that story is about a mom/daughter threesome. LOL
10 Nov 2011 14:03
I know I have more intense orgasms ever since I got my Soraya than I do with my other toys so maybe this would be even wilder.
Oh my god, I know!
Best. Toy. Ever.
Well, so far anyway ...
Topic Porn on Flights?
10 Nov 2011 07:05
I'm still trying to understand why someone would want to watch porn on a flight, surrounded by random travellers, screaming kids and with the semi-nauseating after-smell of the meals they serve on flights lingering in the cabin.
Not exactly arousing...
10 Nov 2011 06:40
It's totally on my wish-list but I haven't tried it yet. The vids from the Howard Stern show definitely make it look like one fun ride!
Topic How To Name Your Characters
10 Nov 2011 03:19
Though try stay away from dated old fashioned names in a moden setting e.g. Mildred
This is so true. The names we choose can definitely 'date' us as writers in terms of our age. I find most writers of erotica pick names that they naturally are attracted to or are/were popular in their generation.
I've read a few stories on this site, supposedly written by 20 year old hotties, where the characters names are way out of whack with anything a 20 year old would choose for a 'young, sexy character' and more in line with someone who was picking popular names from his/her own generation about fifty years back.
Of course there are always exceptions when it comes to using a non-trendy name here or there, but if you are writing about a whole group of friends or sex partners with similarly dated or old-fashioned names in a modern story, I think it raises a few eyebrows.
Topic Innate Bisexuality
09 Nov 2011 19:05
I think that for the most part, people get uncomfortable with anything outside of the socially acceptable norm of dominant males and submissive females. And even if they are secretly turned on by going against the grain, a lot of times men will still be reluctant to be open about it.
The typical male character in an erotica story is a dominant, alpha male who knows how to take charge in the bedroom. While I think that most people will find this image universally appealing, the deeper you get into outside-the-box kink levels, the more explorative you start to become about pushing past these basic stereotypes. Stories that make the guy submissive to some degree (whether it's cuckold, strap-on, bisexual experimentation, femdom or all the way to humiliation/sissy femdom) make the average straight guy... uncomfortable. That's why I wrote my story, Fade to Black, in a way that would touch upon this issue and the fact that straight dominant guys can tap into a whole other side of themselves if they are open-minded about it. I've had really positive reaction to the story so far, so definitely no complaints from me. I actually think i had more of a 'gaak-response' to my cuckold/cum-eating story that I posted a few months ago.
I think that many times the comments about not liking a particular kink in a story but still enjoying the story anyway speak to the fact that if a writer spins a good tale, fans will be willing to follow you down whatever rabbit hole you venture into. I follow some authors that write outside my own personal kinks/interests but their talent at writing and storytelling is what draws me in, not the sex acts themselves. In some cases I've actually become intrigued about certain kinks that I otherwise wouldn't have found particularly erotic so it definitely helps to open your mind that way.
If someone is bombing a story with a bad score because the sex act wasn't their brand of kink, then just chalk it up to a narrow-minded misguided reader. Most people should be looking at story tags before reading to make sure they know what they're getting into so there isn't any excuse for that.
But yeah, overall I think guys are more rigid in their sexual boundaries than women are (in general) and maintaining that dominant/straight image is much more of a societal pressure than anything women can understand. We live in a world where bisexual girls are celebrated (as long as they are the femme lipstick variety, of course) and the idea of a bisexual man is supposed to be a myth (men are either straight or gay with no in between allowed). I think people's reaction to stories reflect those assumptions. The idea of a bisexual guy OR a submissive/switch guy still freaks a lot of people out because they're harder for the average person to label and understand.