Forum posts made by dancing_doll

Topic Going out of your comfort zone?
Posted 10 Jan 2012 15:11

I have a lot of new ideas (I add them to an ongoing list on my computer). For me, time is more of a factor, as well as the motivation to delve into a 10,000 word effort. When I get inspired to write, the story flows fast (usually in 1-3 days).

I like going out of my comfort zone because I want to diversify my writing portfolio and I enjoy a challenge. It can quickly become boring to regurgitate the same sex-scene over and over again. My last story, Fade to Black, was riskier for me because it involved a femdom element and a strap-on (which I don't have direct personal experience with). Typically I write more from the "slutty-female/male-dominant" perspective so it was an interesting challenge for me. I questioned how much I wanted to push the content because I could have gone a lot darker and more intense, but I wanted to make it more "femdom-lite" because I knew I would be asking readers that expect a certain kind of story from me to walk with me down a path they might not be immediately comfortable with.

For the most part I think I would have trouble writing about a concept that I haven't *at least* explored through fantasy and found to be a turn-on myself. But as you push your own limitations and start to explore fantasies and kinks that are more 'out there' than you're used to, you'd be surprised at what you might find exciting. It also helps to have someone that you can explore these concepts with too... I'll be honest in saying that the engine that starts most of my stories and brings them to life has relied heavily on this.

The general rule for me though, is that until I get to the point where the idea makes my panties wet, I won't attempt writing about it.

Topic homemade enemas
Posted 10 Jan 2012 13:33

Honestly I would just say on this whole topic... when it comes to your bodily orifices, "homemade-anything" isn't the best idea.

If you fuck this up, you can end up with serious bloating, cramping or even ruptures (hello bacterial infection!).

Just get one from the drugstore. It's not that expensive. If you want to reuse the enema-device for a quick anal-refresher, just clean thoroughly and substitute with luke-warm water. Be gentle.

There's no need to turn to the garden hose or kitchen appliances.

Seriously, it's worth the $10. Just do it.

Topic What will your sex life be like in 2012?
Posted 09 Jan 2012 16:58

"The next morning I was walking by the filthy playground in Washington Square Park..."

Yep, 'filthy playground' sounds about right. (Book: Going Down by Jennifer Belle)

Topic Why cum on your face?
Posted 09 Jan 2012 16:28

Cause it makes you feel like a dirty girl. And it goes well with dominant/rough sex.

I have to be in the right mood though. And no red-eye please.

Topic How big can a guy be before he is to big?
Posted 09 Jan 2012 12:59

I have with one guy. It was semi-enjoyable but I was kind of squirming away during the cervix-pounding portion of the events. I also had the "phantom-cock" sensations for about 24 hrs afterwards (where you're still sore enough that you can almost still feel it).

It's not about the duration of the sex, it's how it's being used. Certain positions can be uncomfortable and rough sex is definitely not cool if you're an XL-guy. Not to mention the desire to go for multiple rounds isn't very high.

I know some girls love it (pain or not) but in my opinion, to max the creative potential of kinky sex, medium is always best.

I have a friend that dumped a guy because his dick was too big to enjoy regularly. It was like an 'event' to have sex and she had to pysche herself up for it. I have a similar mindset when it comes to this, but the larger-dick experience I had was just a fling anyway.

Topic gratitude: turn on or a turn off?
Posted 09 Jan 2012 11:33

Giacomo Casanova, the greatest seducer of all times said that the best way to gain a woman's heart (or just take her to bed), is by gratitude, he used to play the gentleman at the rescue of some lady in trouble, do something for her, and eventually the lady felt so much gratitude she just gave him whathe wanted.

But in my personal experience, this has been just the opposite. The more I've done for a lady (favors, money, gifts, etc), the more she seemed ankward towards me, and eventually running away from me. I did it in a casual, nice way, not like an stalker or a perv, and always making it very clear that I expected nothing in return, but didn´t work at all.

So I wonder, what you ladies think about it? Is gratitude a turn on, or a turn off?

Yes, the silverback/golddigger code is pretty much standard fare but it depends on recognizing who is playing by this code. If you misidentify, then it tends to lead to the awkwardness you mentioned. In these scenarios nothing is technically ever spelled out, it's all based on nuances and subtleties. Usually stuff like, "Oh Greg, I'd love to go out with you tonight but I have to stay in and figure out my finances and how I'm going to pay all my bills and rent this month." Then Greg offers to help her out or write her a cheque as a 'loan' that he'll never ask repayment for so she can go out with him. When/if she agrees, it's kind of understood that she's on the hook for some kind of entertainment value. I have a friend that's lived 5 yrs of her life like this... no job, living the high life, but just with some male 'friends' that were eager to 'rescue her', and she showed her 'gratitude' accordingly... sometimes just a nipple flash or letting a guy suck her toes, or sometimes it was a full hot-tub orgy or gangbang.

But... if you start trying to play this code on someone that doesn't work this way, yes, it leads to awkwardness and suspicion and it tends to send the person running the other way. I have always disliked guys that try to work the 'rescue theme' or flash their money prematurely. It either means they are hoping you're a golddigger type (insulting) or it means they have emotional issues about needing to 'save women' and be 'heroes' and thinking this will make you fall for them hard (stalkerish).

Everyone does little nice things for each other at the beginning of a relationship or friendship but it should be a two-way street and should be appropriate to the level of the current relationship... otherwise yeah, major turn-off.

Topic Kids Using Vodka Soaked Tampons To Get Drunk...
Posted 07 Jan 2012 18:51

They do it because it gets them drunk/high faster and on a more potent level because it goes straight into the blood-stream (thin membranes in the ass, pussy and nostrils) and bypasses the gastic juices and digestion process that breaks this stuff down on some level and disperses/slows the effects.

I've heard of people shoving E, MDMA into their ass and snorting vodka (all for the same reasons).

I've never done it myself... I'm pretty patient when it comes to party favours. I don't mind the wait. And I like to keep it classy. glasses8

Topic porn in phone
Posted 07 Jan 2012 15:34

I can see having some dirty pictures hidden away on your computer but on one's phone? That does not seem like a good idea.

These days most dirty pics are taken by a phone-cam and attached by text-message to the recipient so they tend to accumulate on your phone unless you download them to your computer later.

Topic Mirrors
Posted 06 Jan 2012 15:04

I absolutely love mirrors and have a floor to ceiling at the end of my bed too. Watching is such a turn on.

Topic small cocks
Posted 06 Jan 2012 14:49

Best tattoo a woman can get... a ruler on her inner thigh. clown

Topic 18yr old mom shoots intruders into her home. One killed, one flees.
Posted 06 Jan 2012 13:19

Whatcha talking about Jeff? D. D. and I are in complete agreement on this one. You never know - she may even finally agree to my invitation to take her to the gun range for an afternoon.

Let's see... what kind of offer would be apropos? She can have an hour dominating me, and lashing my poor, tender buttocks with whatever cruel instruments her beautiful heart desires, in return for an hour spent with me, punching holes in paper bad guys...

Whaddya say, Doll? Sound like a fair trade? evil4

Uhmm... I think you get to win on both of those, Nudie. a1089

Funny how the pro-gun advocates always seem to secretly love submitting to the rough stuff. So, what size weapon do you want me to be packing? And do you mind if I carve it out of ginger? icon_biggrin

Topic What's your erotic weakness?
Posted 06 Jan 2012 13:02

Tongue, bites, sucks and kisses along my neck and collarbone.

My neck is my most sensitive non-obvious erogenous zone by far.

Topic Why do some women??
Posted 05 Jan 2012 14:55

Think they need a man or partner to be happy and "complete"?.

Because Walt Disney brainwashes us from an early age that one day 'our prince will come' and that is the only prelude to happily ever after. Otherwise you get cast as the ugly spinster step-sister or the homely chick that sews the beautiful dresses the princess will wear while she frolicks in the meadows with her royal boy-toy. No girl really wants to see herself as a supporting actress in the big fairytale of life.

Then, as girls leave their Disney'fied adolescent years, further bolstered by teen-love melodrama like the Twilight Saga 'life is not worth living without my man' sentiments, girls get sucked into the giant marketing machine called the bridal industry which convinces us like confectionary candy, that we *must* wear white one day while everyone swoons in our wake.

I know some girls that 'shopped' their husbands the way they do a new car or a pair of boots. True love often takes a backburner because let's face it... true love is rare... and we live in an impatient society.

Topic How many times have you cum in a day?
Posted 05 Jan 2012 13:29

Honestly? After a dozen I got bored (and dehydrated).

3-4 is more the norm.

Topic if you were really horny
Posted 05 Jan 2012 13:25

In a cupboard? Not without elite-level contortion work.

Yes (and done that) to the other questions.

Topic 18yr old mom shoots intruders into her home. One killed, one flees.
Posted 05 Jan 2012 12:49

I was *totally* waiting for you to make a comment on that! lol

She's 18 yrs old, living alone in a shady trailer park with an infant. I'd probably want to be packing more than pepper-spray in that situation too, whether guns were legal or not.

Topic What do you consider "Cheating"?
Posted 05 Jan 2012 09:06

If you have an explicitly confirmed commitment to monogamy and you know the expectations up front of what they would or would not want you doing, and then decide to play in secret (with hookups, sexting or whatever), then I guess... technically... that is cheating. But the level of cheating is all shades of grey... just like most people's expectations of relationships.

Topic Intimidation
Posted 05 Jan 2012 07:27

I have written several stories but have been too intimidated to even submit them. Whenever I read a story by Dancing_Doll or Sprite or one of the other very talented authors, I realize that what I wrote is just not worthy to be seen by anyone but me, LOL. But I still get enjoyment writing them so not a total waste. Maybe someday

Ok, now you have to post it, Nikki!

People are just as excited to see what's going in a specific Lushie's mind and you already have many fans and people who want to know.

Everyone goes through the same nerves and uncertainty though (ok, well most of us do anyway). It's not that the site is intimidating in any way, it's just sharing something personal. It took me years before I finally let a few friends read things I'd written (non-erotica). Trust me, once you get the feedback and get over the initial leap of faith, you'll be much more confident and motivated to write more. This was partially the lure of posting online for me. It felt safer than handing a story to my best friend and expecting to get reliable critical advice and opinion and not have to worry that she was going to think I was a sexual super-freak.

Topic 18yr old mom shoots intruders into her home. One killed, one flees.
Posted 05 Jan 2012 07:13

From what I hear it was some creepy stalker guy in the neighbourhood that had been harassing her for a while and was zero'ing in on her now that he knew her husband had passed away and she was alone.

If the cops can't get there in time, then yeah, do what you gotta do.

Topic porn in phone
Posted 04 Jan 2012 15:15

I keep and like to look at the personal sexy/dirty pics I get sent when I'm bored during the day or feel like a little mental fantasy.

The commercialized porn I save for the laptop so I don't have to squint at the screen.

Topic Intimidation
Posted 04 Jan 2012 11:15

For me, it depends on the stories and how personal they are or how controversial or hardcore the content is. When I'm uncertain as to how it will be received, I tend to press 'submit' with some healthy nerves and then go get a 'lil drunk while waiting. I quickly settle down once the first few comments come through or when a close friend reassures me that it's a good one.

For the stories I haven't gotten nervous about at all ( Bitches in the Basement and Sex Rehab Diaries: Kylie's Confession come to mind), it's more because I'm confident that the content will be a universal hit among readers. With your standard sweaty gangbangs and anal threesomes, I know I haven't pushed the envelope too much so I just assume ahead of time that people will enjoy the storyline and the sex.

With some of my more experimental fair ( Sex Rehab Diaries: Stacey's Confession and Fade to Black ), I just keep my fingers crossed and hope for the best.

Interestingly enough, I think the one I was most nervous about was The Cabo Connection . I remember finishing a whole bottle of wine waiting for that one to be approved. LOL

It makes sense to have the intimidation factor involved anytime you share something that you've written. Erotica is very personal in that it tells you a lot about the author, their kinks, the way their mind works and the way they probably enjoy having sex. It's the ultimate form of literary exhibitionism.

Topic whats your favorite toy
Posted 04 Jan 2012 10:38

Lelo Soraya. If I find something better I think it may kill me!!

+1 on this post.

I agree Nikki, I literally cannot imagine anything better. The orgasms are so intense and looong, I swear my eyes roll back in my head! lol

Plus I had my first squirt with Soraya, so it'll always be special to me. haha

Topic Describe yourself in one word
Posted 03 Jan 2012 18:21


Topic straight/bi/gay
Posted 03 Jan 2012 18:05

DamonX is a handsome SOB.

There, I said it.

I would love to pork his gorges Lush girlfriend.

There, I said it.

Is it likely to happen.


Am I gay or bi or confused?


Yeah, yeah that's what they all say, "I just want to pork the girlfriend!". Then, next thing you know I'm sitting in the corner painting my toe-nails and you're chasing Damon in circles around the bed at 4am. I know how this scene goes... clown

Oh, and incidentally, if I agree to photoshop a poster and do the online marketing for that movie you're shooting, can I get a 5% cut in profits?

Topic Nude pics
Posted 03 Jan 2012 13:12

The general rule is: A naked upper body is hot; A close-up of your dick is not.

Women want to assume that there is an actual guy behind a profile and not just a flesh-covered dildo.

Show a torso shot with a towel wrapped around the waist, a side profile pic or discreet/casual in sunglasses, jeans and a t-shirt. Women are more interested in seeing a generalized impression of what you look like rather than a medical close-up of your dick.

Topic Let's be nicer/friendlier to newbies?
Posted 03 Jan 2012 12:08

Nicer? Whaddya mean?! We're always nice to the new kids at school!

lol... well said everyone. It's a good new year's resolution for all forum players. 3601

Topic Today in Pictures (post a picture representing your mood)
Posted 03 Jan 2012 10:23

Topic Announcing our Winter Break Competition Winners
Posted 03 Jan 2012 09:00

Congrats to the winners and to everyone who entered! 3601

Topic Help with the details - Women's Suits
Posted 02 Jan 2012 12:03

I wouldn't touch any shell or cami made of satin, ruffles, or anything shiny, overly lacey or provocative.

Buy a quality suit, and let the tank/shell look like the kind of daytime top you could easily wear without the jacket. It should not look like lingerie.

I don't know anyone under 40 who wears stockings or hose in the summer, but if you're wearing a skirt in the winter with boots, they look great.

And please... no pantyhose with open-toed shoes or sandals (personal pet peeve of mine).

Topic Preggo?
Posted 02 Jan 2012 11:46

If you got your regular period in december on schedule as you mentioned, then I think you're pretty safe. You cannot have your period and be pregnant at the same time. You can, however, in rare instances have some light bleeding/spotting during the first trimester but this is not typical of period-bleeding. Hopefully you'd be able to tell the difference. If you're still stressed then grab a pregnancy test to put your mind at ease.