Forum posts made by dancing_doll

Topic 28 year old British Mother BANNED from nightclub for dressing too sexy!
Posted 25 Jan 2012 14:30

I think we are all in agreement that her clothing choices are pretty bad. But if this is a public place and there is no dress code displayed, then banning her for her manner of dress is unnecessary. If they banned some guy because he clothes were too geeky/nerdy would that be ok? Or if some woman came in dressed like an old school marm or librarian, would she be banned for not dressing sexy enough? If her tits keep popping out or if she's flashing her beaver, then that's a dfferent story.

Any business should have the right to withhold service when they see it necessary. Banning her for her lack of style alone seems a bit of overkill.

I love that you always play devil's advocate LM.... lol

But in this case, a bar or nightclub can turn you away at the door for whatever reason they want - whether it's clothes, age, or general uglyness. The polite way of terming it is "sorry, we're at max capacity right now, please wait in the line to the right." Then the 'attractive' or 'connected people' walk right in via "VIP access" or because they are on the 'guest list' and the unwanted people can wait in line until closing time if they choose to. It's just the nature of the club industry. A popular place can pick and choose who they let inside and keep the rif-raff out to maintain exclusivity. That's what keeps the club popular - because it's filled with hot, young people, and because of that you want to keep coming back (or trying to get in).

If a person doesn't fit the demographic, they hit the B-list clubs, and so on down the line until they are chilling in the 'bar section' of their local family restaurant, like Applebee's.

It might not be 'fair' or PC, but it's just how it works in the industry.

In this case, they probably told her that she's dressed wrong because they don't want to see her standing in line night after night shivering in her plastic boots, or they were concerned about the image she projected to other people trying to get into the club, or they thought she could be "saved" by the right wardrobe choice and actually get into the bar next time. They were trying to do her a favour, but she took it as an opportunity to gain publicity in the media by whining about it publicly.

Topic It's Over
Posted 25 Jan 2012 11:53

I would not say anything... i would just move on.

Reason for this being, we generally already know when our guy-friends are crushing on us. You guys make it pretty obvious even when you think you're not. When this happens and we feel like you're getting "too into us" we will attempt to chill things down by talking about other guys and trying to avoid the awkward moment of 'friendship-interruptus'. By talking about other guys, reinforcing what a great 'friend' you've been for listening, and showing you that our interests lay elsewhere, we're trying to let you know in a subtle way that it's not going to happen.

This is a very common friend-zone deflection strategy used by women all the time.

We like our guy friends... so just be our friend . :)

If you want to date us or fuck us, then make those intentions known up front within a couple of weeks of knowing us. It saves the confusion later.

Topic 28 year old British Mother BANNED from nightclub for dressing too sexy!
Posted 25 Jan 2012 09:52

I actually had a quick browse through the photo galleries at Mode and Tramps in Worcester where she was denied after her reading her complaint that her attire was "conservative" compared to a lot of the younger girls in those clubs. Sorry to say, but no... none of the girls I saw in any club pictures were dressed like a $20 hooker.

The outfits she's wearing are the kind you find on sex-outfit websites that are "things you wear at home or at sex clubs"... Most of them have a section called "Club Wear" which she has clearly mistaken for clothing meant for "nightclubs" and not understanding you're supposed to be wearing them while on stage with a silver pole gripped between your thighs.

There are ways you can be super sexy and show a lot of skin without resorting to cheap polyester, chains, ill-fitting plastic boots and shiny pleather. These are the fun outfits you wear at home where you don't care if you get cum and lube all over them because you can toss them away later, not something you wear in public where you're looking to make a first impression on strangers.

Topic What to do when Aunt Flo shuts the party down?
Posted 25 Jan 2012 09:20

If there is a specific weekend that you really want to be free for every month, I'd just get a couple boxes of the pill and do a back-to-back cycle and then go off early (your doctor will help you with the best time to go off)... this will basically just 'reset' your cycle. Then you can go off the pill if you don't like it, and continue from there.

I've done back-to-back cycles (ie. not going off for the one week in between) if there has been a vacation or special weekend that's scheduled during P-time. I wouldn't advise on doing it often and screwing up your cycle constantly, but a one-time "reset" shouldn't be a big deal.

In the meantime, you can always stick to anal and oral... or find a guy that doesn't mind getting a little messy.

Topic Today in Pictures (post a picture representing your mood)
Posted 24 Jan 2012 20:01

Topic It's Over
Posted 24 Jan 2012 18:52

Aww... sorry to hear it didn't work out hornyboy.

The Friend Zone is infamous and very hard to work your way out of in general. Try not to feel too bad about it... most guys have experiences like this and it just helps them to see the signs and subtleties with the next female friends they start to crush on.

As much as it hurts, at least the 'awkward conversation' didn't happen, and you can technically still be friends. Although you are now going to become her sounding board and advice-guy when it comes to talking about her new love interest. If you still want to stay friends, I'd try to steer the conversation away from that topic in general going forward. If not, there's no harm in just moving on in general.

Topic Healthy snacks
Posted 24 Jan 2012 17:44

RX, if you can find this brand of dried mango, you have to try it... but it has to be this brand specifically. I've tried others, and they end up too sugary... this one is just right. The sweetness level and flavour is very natural. I buy them by the bags and keep them handy whenever I feel like a snack that will satisfy my sweet tooth as well. And it does taste like a dessert-item... almost like natural candy.

I like to keep a bag of these and another bag of almonds in my bag if I'm running errands after work or on weekends. I prefer grazing on healthy things and having smaller meals... that way you're never really hungry or likely to overindulge.

I also like adding a bit of dried ginger to my granola (and throw in some dried banana slices and raisins too). If you mix in some nuts, you have a tasty granola/trail-mix that you can reach for as well whenever you're craving a snack with some flavour.

Topic Lush "etiquette"
Posted 24 Jan 2012 13:12

Read the person's entire profile before sending a friend-request or assuming anything.

Topic Sexting/cybersex: Is It Cheating?
Posted 24 Jan 2012 08:13

depends on the rules. if your partner knows about it and has given you their blessing. no. if you are lying about it, then yes. it's that simple. i'm not judging, btw, but it's pretty much black and white.

This is the correct answer.

Topic Courtney Stodden's Tweets. Is she a lush member?
Posted 24 Jan 2012 08:02

To me, she looks 'high' in most of her vids, but being a good christian girl who saved herself for marriage, I'm sure she's just high on love. puke

Topic 28 year old British Mother BANNED from nightclub for dressing too sexy!
Posted 24 Jan 2012 07:17

Wow, she looks way older than 28!

I dunno... maybe she's going to the wrong nightclubs. She's dressed perfectly for a fetish party or a swingers club, but too skanky for an upscale place. Clubs/bars have the right to refuse anyone that doesn't fit their desired kind of clientele, so I don't fault the club.

It may not be that they think she is too 'old' as much as they think she just looks too trashy or too much like a 'working girl' looking to solicit new clients at the club. I'm sure if she picked a more lowkey outfit, she'd get behind the velvet ropes no problem. People need to work with the system.

Topic Are your Nipples the Ultimate Barrier?
Posted 24 Jan 2012 06:57

I'm thinking maybe something medical was going on, either with her nipples or the surrounding area.

Or maybe she has a baby at home and is still nursing/leaking?

Or maybe she has implants or recent surgery or something going wrong there.

It's truly a strange thing to say to a guy, unless they're trying to avoid/hide something they'd rather not need to talk about during a one-nighter. That sounds far more plausible to me than someone just having 'sensitive nipples'... never heard of that to the point that you'd tell a guy not to touch them at all.

Topic Does anyone actually crave cum?
Posted 23 Jan 2012 13:09

Yeah, when I said I like protein shakes in the morning, that isn't really what I had in mind... tard

The Cum-Jug... lol... great title for a story though.

Topic Does anyone actually crave cum?
Posted 23 Jan 2012 12:58

Doll, you're just in time for Happy Hour.

If you chug the first glass, then I'll down the second... promise! geek

Topic Does anyone actually crave cum?
Posted 23 Jan 2012 12:35

I don't crave cum.

I do crave fucking... and cum usually goes along with it, which is great, but I don't get a craving to swallow a glassful of cum on it's own and definitely not from "random guys"...

I think the desire/excitement about swallowing or cum-play goes along with sexual arousal in the moment . When you're turned on, you want it (definitely!), but you'd never just wake up and randomly desire and feel satisfied by pouring yourself a tall frothy glass from the cum-jug in the fridge. It doesn't really work that way. At least not for me.

Re the taste/texture... I've never had a problem with either but maybe I've just been lucky with my "sample population". There is definite excitement in bringing a guy to orgasm, and I enjoy the feel of the little explosive spurts in my mouth (or elsewhere in or on my body).

I'd say that for any guy who is really curious about taste/texture or where cum fits into the big picture, that he should try some of his own. You'll get a feeling for what it's like and the reasons for enjoying it when you're horny but not as an event on its own.

Topic Massages.....
Posted 23 Jan 2012 10:13

I will admit I do have a bit of a massage kink.

Arousal very much depends on the masseuse and the 'setting' though... like a sports massage or deep tissue massage in a well-lit room can often feel more 'medical' than sensual.

There is this one massage I get at a spa which I don't think any woman could help getting super turned-on by. It's dimly lit, candles, music, and after the unbelievable full body warm-oil massage, you're laying there on the bed with just a tiny white cloth folded across your nipples and a little one in a triangle in your pelvic area, and a hyro-therapy machine is used - which is like a long metal rod moved over you, cascading warm water all over your body... soaking the little cloths. And then later, warm oils and lotions are massaged into your skin. And!...the massage guy is super hot too. lol He must get propositioned all the time. I've never made a move, but I'm always wet and when he gets into the buttocks-massage and starts massaging up my inner thighs, I do find my legs moving slightly further and further apart... probably more than they really need to be.

Hmm... this thread is making me feel like I need another spa day now. drunken

Topic LittleMissBitch says hello Lush!
Posted 23 Jan 2012 09:58

Sad news on LMB's dog. She found it's remains in the house. They didn't realize the dog had been left inside.

Oh no. So very sorry to hear this. How awful for the family. :(

Please give her my very best wishes and lots of XO's.

Topic What do you think of Hank Moody (Californication) type of guys?
Posted 23 Jan 2012 09:44

I will admit that yes, I do tend to be naturally attracted to this type of guy.

How well it would work long-term is another story though. Usually these guys are better for a fling or short-term thing.

Topic Do you like to be solicited for casual sex by strangers in bars?
Posted 23 Jan 2012 09:37

I wonder why women always hit on me in clubs and bars when I am with my wife. It is annoying to me and it really pisses my wife off. Just a couple of weeks ago some woman stuffed her phone number in my pants pocket while I am walking through the crowd with my wife. My wife saw her do it and confronted her on it. The girl tried to say she did not realize we were together. I don't see how in the hell she did not see that we were holding hands as we were walking by. I have discovered that women in bars/clubs are much more aggressive toward me now that I am married than back when I was single. What's up with that?

Because you are now a challenge, therefore more attractive.

As far as the original question goes, the rule tends to be that the more opportunities for sex a girl has, the less excited she gets to take them. Girls getting constantly hit-on in bars for casual sex is pretty much standard fair. You get hit on standing at the bar, on the dancefloor, waiting in line for the bathroom... it's not a novelty. For me, it drives my guard way up and contributes to a necessary stand-offish attitude, especially in a club where guys are more and more aggressive and proactive about making their 'pitch'. The easier you can get it, the less you want it. I very rarely have ever gone for a one-niter from a bar/club.

In Buz's case, because he's not projecting the "I need to find a girl to fuck" energy, he becomes even more attractive to girls. A hot guy who isn't trolling the bar for chicks, and just looks like he's having a good time and being chill becomes much more of the 'novelty'. Not sure if these girls are seeing his beautiful wife, but some of them probably don't care either way. They're into the challenge, and for some - 'stealing the hot guy' from the girl he's with can become something of a game.

Topic How old is too old for you?
Posted 22 Jan 2012 12:29

All my relationships have been pretty close to my age (actually they've all been about 4 yrs older). I think 10 years older is acceptable. I find 20 years older to be super-creepy.

I have had an older guy outside my age-norm, but I wouldn't do it again and it was just a fling. He was just a rare exception to the rule. Just like sometimes you have to make an exception to the rule for a hot younger guy, but again, it's not my usual trend.

Topic Sucking on breasts/nipples
Posted 22 Jan 2012 11:56

Is he doing the breast-sucking as an activity on its own, or is it just something that's part of sexual foreplay and leading/involving other things?

If it becomes the high-light of the sexplay or he just does this as an almost 'non-sexual' activity... like when you are watching TV or something, then yeah maybe he has more of a fixation/fetish with it. I remember a scene in an old movie where the girl was drinking a glass of milk at the breakfast table and then just let it spill out of her mouth all over her breasts and nipples and the guy was just drawn in to suck her breasts. It actually looked very sensual/kinky.

I wouldn't worry too much about it either way though, unless the concept of it makes you feel uncomfortable etc.

Topic Most Embarrassing Orgasm You've Ever Had
Posted 22 Jan 2012 11:44

Ladies, have you ever had an orgasm/been brought to orgasm by someone/something in a situation you didn't necessarily want or expect it in (ie. during a MD exam, etc)?

Yes, I quite often had orgasms during exams - especially the ones with essay-questions. Don't laugh, it's true. The underlying tension/anxiety and feeling that I might not finish writing in time before the bell rang or it was "pencils-down" tipped me over the edge many, many times. Not that I complained. I was always adept at the hands-free orgasm and boring lectures and classes were my mental playground. If I knew I had a big exam that day, I would often throw a fresh pair of panties in my bag in the morning. lol

I can't say I was ever 'embarrassed' by it though... I always thought it was an awesome secret skill to have! drunken

Topic What type of man turns you on test
Posted 20 Jan 2012 12:29

Buff bad boy
You scored 50% masculine, 53% athletic, 18% exotic, and 38% refined!

You like your men with a boyish or feminine face but a manly body. You like him to posess bad boy looks while still maintaining some innocence. He looks like the all-American kind of hunk and I bet you love someone like.......Travis Fimmel.

Topic If you were Aladdin...
Posted 20 Jan 2012 10:49

I want my dog back, and with a healthy lifespan as long as mine.

Topic STD - the initial conversation between you and him/her
Posted 19 Jan 2012 17:38

If I had herpes or HIV, I wouldn't be waiting until we were into the groping/foreplay phase before bringing it up. I think it's important for everyone to know the facts up front.

It's a tough question because chances are high that it's going to disturb a lot of people, unless they are somehow already falling hard for you and willing to overlook anything. Then again, herpes is pretty common as far as the actual stats go, so maybe a lot of people would be cool with it as long as condoms were used (which I should mention doesn't completely protect you from transmission, even between outbreaks).

One of my girlfriends has it and she tells the guy on the second or third date and she doesn't do the one-night-stand thing since she was diagnosed. I have another friend who has it and she told her super understanding nice-guy man and now they are married with a kid.

Some people obviously are inclined to "work around the issue" as well as they can - maybe if they are really into the person already.

For me... I dunno... Unless I was feeling like this was potential marriage-material guy, I think I'd just take a pass. I think it would play on my mind and bother me enough that I would be very sexually inhibited/distracted because of it. I definitely wouldn't risk it for a casual relationship, no matter how hot he was.

As for how I'd react... I'd be PC-friendly about it in the moment. I'd thank him for sharing the info, commiserate over how hard it must be for him, and then tell him I needed to 'think it over' etc. and digest the info. Then... yeah... I'd just try to do a fade-out or let the curtain fall shortly thereafter. If it was me, I definitely wouldn't blame a person for not wanting to take the chance or get involved. It's a mature adult health-related decision that everyone needs to make individually - without pressure or guilt.

Topic Today in Pictures (post a picture representing your mood)
Posted 19 Jan 2012 13:49

Topic When Lush members just disappear...
Posted 19 Jan 2012 12:56

it's recently been pointed out to me that Dancing Doll IS the evil twin! drunken

Ahhh... the amnesia you sustained after our dramatic cage-fight in the womb has clearly worked exactly to my plans... Muahaahaa! stirthepot

Yes! I am your long-lost evil twin sister! And the internet has reunited us at last! clown

Topic To Say or not to say.
Posted 19 Jan 2012 09:03

Speaking of the Friend Zone, you may also enjoy this thread... My 2 cents

Topic Who Would Play Them?
Posted 18 Jan 2012 22:30

Johnny Depp

Topic Who Would Play Them?
Posted 18 Jan 2012 18:53

Russell Brand icon_biggrin