Nice flop, Robben.
Seems like an impossible question to answer. I have no way of knowing how I'd feel if I were ever divorced. I think I'll just try to make my current scene work for the long haul.
The first time I undress Samantha, the first Black Girl I have ever dated, I am SPEECHLESS at the contrast of her white underwear against her skin. I LITERALLY pause at the sight of A BEAUTY I HAVE NEVER SEEN BEFORE... She looks so EXOTIC to my eyes that I am momentarily removed from a SEXUAL moment and can only look in beautiful wonder. She actually asks what's wrong... Objectification through exoticism. Lots of people equate that with racism; I can't quite go that far with it. I think it can be really creepy (like the guys that are "into" Asian girls; try unpacking the 'why's of that fetish sometime, then go take a shower, you'll feel like you need one), and it can be innocuous and involuntary (as in your case).. Am I a little bit racist? Yes I am. For the different, the unfamiliar, the UNKNOWN unsettles, unbalances and asks questions I can't easily answer. That's actually not racism, that's xenophobia. -The word, and the accusation of, racism gets thrown out a lot. I think it's important to call things out when they're wrong, and eradicate them from the mainstream as quickly as possible. On the other hand, the dominance of PC and general loss of sense of humor about anything has taken it a bit too far. Also, as I pointed out above, not everything is racism exactly . If I were the arbiter of what term gets used where, I think I'd reserve the charge of Racist and Racism for the truly and intentionally vile discriminatory words and actions. A lot of people say unacceptable things without knowing better (like a customer of mine who calls me "the prettiest oriental girl he's ever seen") or realizing that they're making other groups of people very uncomfortable. And we all have biases, but bias isn't necessarily racism.
Does the explanation not make sense to you? Am I supposed to be outraged?
I agree with a lot of what you put, LadyX. Firstly, I don't have an agenda. I chose not to ignore the science, which says that we are really one group rather than a mixture of groups or races. We have to ask, why do we see other differently? Well people look different, superficially, so it would be silly to suggest that we are all exactly the same. I'm not saying that. The notion of race, like culture does have a historical background. It's not my intention to devalue the sense of belonging or identity that people have to one group or another. I'm not trying to re-write history or make people be something they don't want to be. I just want equality for everyone. While people are artificially categorized, that's not happening.Being one race, doesn't make us dull. That's just a fact. It's how we interpret that. For me, the word race seems to be very divisive and the root of a lot of prejudice. It's hammered out every day one way or another. I don't want to be categorized. Your analogy of the brunette among a town of blondes is interesting. I wonder.So, to go back to my original question. Why if skin tone is a factor that designates the notion of race, why can't it be that hair colour is an equally valid factor?As you say, 'skin trumps hair.' That's kind of sad, but I guess from a historical, social and cultural perspective, that's the deal. So is it fair to say that your only hang-up is with the use of the word 'race' in order to differentiate groups of people? I think it's mainly a matter of semantics; nobody can deny that the combination of skin/physical traits and culture does separate and categorize us to some extent. Whether we call that 'race' or not is obviously a matter of personal choice and opinion. Your point about aiming to make us all see and treat each other as equals is an important one. The good news is, if you look at the history of human civilization, we're clearly trending toward that. At no point in history have so many people of all ethnicities, genders, and orientations enjoyed equal legal and social status. Equality and progressive thought always wins in the end.That said, (and not necessarily referring to you with this, but) there's something about the campaign for blended culture that rubs many (including me) the wrong way. A statement like "there's only one race: the human race", so often thrown out reflexively whenever the subject of race is brought up, feels like not only a blanket dismissal of the real differences among people but also strident political correctness in action. If we want to do away with the 'race' buzzword that's fine I suppose, but let's not kid ourselves by assuming that we all share a singular experience here on earth, or that the sum of our defining physical traits- such as skin color, hair texture, eye/nose/lips shape, and identification with all who share those- could be substituted with hair color for the same effect. The other component to this has to do with the fact that the suggestion is often made toward people whose ancestry is traditionally subjugated people. And now that nominal, legal equality has been established, we’re supposed to surrender our unique sets of heritage for the sake of “one race: the human race”? No thanks. I realize you’re not suggesting any such thing, but all the same, it needs to be said, since the fallacy that I’m addressing (one race, human race, we’re all the same inside) is expressed so often, as if it’s the only acceptable point of view.You mentioned that you'd rather see the classification of 'culture' rather than 'race'. The only issue I have with that is that there is an undeniable physical trait component to that. It's not just the physical aspect of course (unless we’re talking about the ‘interracial’ category of porn and erotica, in which case it’s almost 100% physical), but being Han Chinese is always going to be, and appear, very and rightfully different from being Scandinavian. Being a white person raised in Japan by ethnic Japanese parents is far different from being ethnic Japanese raised in Japan by the same parents. My experience as a half-Asian half-Black is quite different from those of different ancestry. These differences should be recognized and celebrated rather than marginalized.Maybe ethnicity is a more palatable term for some than race.
But I think regardless of the parsings of science one way or the other, we do see each other differently. We notice and experience the differences with regard to race far differently than merely different shades of hair. The "why" of that has much to do with differences of history and culture, and of course generalizations are made, just as with any scenario broader than the individual person. So if your agenda is to make us all see each other as part of one big group instead of separated into many, then I think the intentions are admirable. But the reality is that different ethnicities do, by and large, view and experience the world differently. Our working assumptions, inherent values, and points of view tend to differ (again, in generalizations, exceptions abound). We don't all share a life experience and we have very real differences. It doesn't have to be a bad thing, either. In fact, I find the idea of "one world, one race, one universal existence" nightmarishly dull. It could be that I'm way off base; maybe you're not attempting to prove a point about what you feel to be arbitrary designations regarding race, and truly wonder why hair color and skin color don't carry the same weight in terms of classifying different people. If so, then imagine the difference between being the only white person in a town of black skinned people, and being the only brunette in a town full of blondes. Inevitably, the former will be a much more intense experience than the latter. It's how we're built as a species. Skin trumps hair, and the skin comes with it's own history and baggage, for better and worse.
....it can all simply be legislated away. Again, where is this talk about politicians, big brother, and legislation coming from? Nobody's suggesting anything of that sort. This is about society and what those in it find acceptable from one another.
Let's leave personal discussions about other members out of this thread and off the forums please. Thank you.
Look UP. They are not entirely to blame but in this instance their own poor choices WERE a contributing factor ( A LARGE contributing factor in this instance. ) And hence, YES they DO share the blame...for THEIR own actions and faulty decisions NOT for the subsequent actions taken. Thanks for clearing that up; this makes you part of the problem. I'm glad to hear that you've spent time protecting the defenseless in some form or another. In this case, you're shrugging with apathy. You hate that she got assaulted I'm sure, but because she didn't carry a weapon, wore sexy clothes, and drank liquor, she can take her complaints someplace else. Maybe next time she can make herself less of a target, right? Boys will be boys! Typical retrograde misogyny: obsession with the sexuality of the victim, indifference toward the violence itself. You've made this clear. The biggest favor you could do for yourself would be to have some self-awareness. Namely, that you only selectively concern yourself with the vulnerable. ) I have said that IF they chose to set themselves up as defenseless targets, that is their RIGHT. And it is MY RIGHT NOT TO! Two entirely different meanings. Women have the right to be raped. Freedom in 2014 America: savor it.
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