Forum posts made by minamiranda

Topic how many of you women do webcam sex with male lush members
Posted 18 Apr 2011 23:58

Hands up if those of you who answered guilty are now getting friends requests from guys who mention the webcam thing.

I'm starting to feel insulted. Just because I've done it once doesn't mean I'll do it with anyone.

Topic how many of you women do webcam sex with male lush members
Posted 16 Apr 2011 16:12

I haven't done it, but I have been asked a few times...

Is it good? (is that a silly question?)

If you get a decent mental connection going with the person then yes.

Topic how many of you women do webcam sex with male lush members
Posted 16 Apr 2011 02:37

Guilty...and first time.

Topic Metrosexual
Posted 16 Apr 2011 02:36

Uhm, well, I like Highwaymen and Pirates, but there don't seem to be too many of those around...

Topic if one girl
Posted 15 Apr 2011 14:10

I'm sorry, this makes no sense...can you clarify?

Do you mean, can you batter a woman's self-esteem down enough for her to accept a date off someone she wouldn't normally go for?

Topic Why do the nice guys always get passed over when girls are looking for a guy?
Posted 15 Apr 2011 14:06

Guys without a strong sense of self get passed over. Note this does not mean 'completely selfish' - immature people may confuse the two. Challenge us first - the worship can come later.

Must agree that Secretary is an awesome film and has saved me many an explanation of my preferences, and why.

Topic Deep Throat
Posted 15 Apr 2011 14:02

Done it once...can't do it for long. Also I'm a singer and scared of damaging something.

Topic Foot & shoe Sex
Posted 15 Apr 2011 14:00

get a selection together and wear them at intervals throughout the evening. It can be interesting to see the variety people will respond to.

No Ugg boots though.

Topic G spot?
Posted 15 Apr 2011 13:56

I didn't believe in it either until a boyfriend found it by accident...first Vajayjay orgasm ever. Bloody amazing. THAT's how you know when you've found it - there's no mistaking it. Sadly - it has eluded me ever since. But I know it's there...

I think some women have a bit more success using something firmer than fingers, but if you are sensitive in certain places that may not be the way to go. It helps if you have a guy who is happy to help you 'explore uncharted territory' - would probably be a huge turn-on for him.

But otherwise, don't worry about it too much. Nature has given us other ways to get off and we're all different. I think it's so important not to assume others' sensual experiences should work the same for you - that's a one way ticket to sexual neurosis. We are all snowflakes....

Topic Goddess online: offline - not so much...
Posted 15 Apr 2011 13:49

Thank you for all the thoughtful and understanding replies. Going to try to mix the two up a little bit - perhaps be a bit more restrained online, and a bit more wild offline, and see if I can't find the happy medium that way.

Topic Goddess online: offline - not so much...
Posted 10 Apr 2011 11:04

Lush is a great place to explore who you are and you'd like to be. It's not decieving, it's like practicing in a flight simulator before you get your hands on a real plane - it doesn't matter if you crash so you can attempt that loop-de-loop with no fear.

That's an amazingly apt analogy, and very reassuring.

Aw Sunny... :( well, there is strength in being alone (doesn't feel like it though)

Topic Goddess online: offline - not so much...
Posted 10 Apr 2011 11:03

Hmm... I'm very much the same offline as well as online.

In your situation, I think I would say that the real inner you is the one that exists online. After all, you clearly enjoy sharing your sexual side in this environment, so it does exist authentically within you. I'm thinking that probably you end up repressing this side of yourself in real life because of expectations of others, or maybe there's a shyness factor or concern about how you will be perceived or maybe even judged.

We all have to wear different masks in our public lives and be social chameleons in different environments, but I think I would only be concerned if you can't be "the real you" with your closest friends or significant other in a private environment.

Goddamit you're good. Big Hugs

Topic Sexless Relationship
Posted 10 Apr 2011 10:25

My sex life suddenly went from three times a week to zero in 1996
The reasons vary:
Sometimes it's because of her meds


Oh hell yes, meds - especially ones for depression and similar things damn well ought to be marketed as contraceptives. They cosh the libido well into submission. You can lie there for hours trying to get yourself off and it just won't happen. Same goes for the Depo injection - brilliant. No chance of children at all. Because you're two stone heavier and your hormones are having their own party to which you're not invited.

Someone earlier in the thread mentioned the concept of renewable marriage - I believe Wiccan Handfasting ceremonies are renewable yearly. So, if all goes well, you get to have a romantic ceremony and party with friends every year, and if it doesn't go well, there's no divorce drama to struggle through. I honestly think it's genius.

Topic Goddess online: offline - not so much...
Posted 10 Apr 2011 10:14

Ladies, do you ever feel this way or do I need to look at my self-esteem?

Online - I totally cut loose. I am erotic, expressive, daring, confident, get into some wonderful and naughty conversations with men. It feels like an equal playing field and I feel like a woman through and through.

Offline - I feel like a complete imposter. I'm prudish, nervous, self-critical and if any of my nearest and dearest knew what I was up to they'd either fall over themselves laughing or disown me completely.

But...

Which one is the real me? Is the net my mask and everything I am here is dependent on being online? How can I combine the two...I would hate to be misrepresenting myself, I'm not into deceiving people at all.

Your thoughts please, as to what's going on?

Topic Why swallow?
Posted 10 Apr 2011 10:03

Because some of us are related to Lilith, the first Vampire, and the holy essence of masculinity nourishes us.

Topic Are they getting more comfortable or just a mind game?
Posted 10 Apr 2011 09:56

We should ask Judge Judy. Maybe she'll come out with some more Alien Talk.

Topic Just Curious ... Would You Vote for This Man for President of USA
Posted 10 Apr 2011 09:54

No. On the basis he's not Christopher Walken.

Topic US Government Shutown Looms. What do you think will happen?
Posted 10 Apr 2011 09:53

I'm reading this on forums all over the net...but, being a UK Citizen and a bear of very little brain, does somebody have the time to explain to me what's going on, in simple terms?

Topic How is it possible to be in love with my wife but no longer feel any sexual attraction toward her
Posted 10 Apr 2011 09:46

Wow. Uhm. Well there's lots of things that can affect this -

Could it be as simple as familiarity breeding contempt?
Sex became routine and you're not sure how to spice it up?
Maybe, just maybe you've got 'too close' and have stopped seeing her as a sexual being and more an extension of yourself?
Or is there a thrill at tasting forbidden fruit...when something is available on tap we tend not to want it as much so go looking elsewhere - Thrill Of The Chase?

This would definitely be time for a chat with a sex therapist IMHO.

I know that one technique they use with this kind of thing is to place the couple on a no-sex-for a month ban, the idea being that a reverse psychology kicks in and when the month is up you can't keep your hands off each other.

Or maybe even one of you going away for a little bit so that you start to miss her and the desire comes back that way?

Does she know you feel this way? Please don't cheat - what if this is just a temporary thing and you lose her forever?

Topic Home brewed terrorism
Posted 08 Apr 2011 05:07

I figure that the FBI only need to be involved when nobody knows who's sending the letters?

What a dumb broad.

Topic Fantasy Celebrity Threesome
Posted 08 Apr 2011 04:58

Christian Bale and Trent Reznor. Johnny Depp is providing the lube.

Topic Post groundless lies about the person above
Posted 07 Apr 2011 01:33

is a secret agent working for the Russians, and is knocking off David Cameron while Nick Clegg watches.

Topic Say something nice about the profile of the person above you
Posted 07 Apr 2011 01:14

CellarDoor's profile is interesting, visually attractive and she shares similar tastes to me. So I hope she accepts my friend request.

Topic how many people from uk
Posted 07 Apr 2011 00:58

Wales. Would rather be in Birmingham.

Topic Italian researchers to dig up the Mona Lisa model's remains
Posted 07 Apr 2011 00:56

Yeah, just because you've been dead for hundreds of years doesn't entitle you to any less dignity. Some countries might not agree, though. I know that in some countries your gravesite is rented, and when the family stops paying you get uprooted and thrown in a pit. dontknow Thank you Bizarre magazine!

And I don't buy the DNA argument. After that length of time there won't be much left, and since when can you reconstruct a face based on DNA? I know it can be done using skull fragments, but not DNA, unless someone wants to correct me

I see no particular mystery around the Mona Lisa's smile, either. The first time I ever got a good look at that painting, it seemed to me Leonardo was trying to depict the radiance of a pregnant woman and succeeded. You can tell by the way her hands rest on her bump.

Topic Are men's bodies repulsive (or beautiful)?
Posted 07 Apr 2011 00:43

When I am emotionally involved with a guy, every part of him is beautiful. It's funny how our minds influence what our eyes see.

But there's no denying some guys are naturally more statuesque than others. Brandon Lee and Christan Bale come to mind. OH CHRISTIAN BALE!!!!!

I read a great analogy that made a lot of sense about the relationship of emotions to physical attraction, I found it very reassuring and I hope you guys do too. basically, think of the comfort toy you had a as a kid. Chances are it was worn out, fur missing, maybe missing an eye. But would you have it any other way? Would you love it any less?

Topic are human beings natural monogamist or just a social imposition?
Posted 07 Apr 2011 00:38

I'm loving this thread, the answers here are so thought-provoking.

I agree with Dancing Doll, I'm a believer in emotional monogamy. But I feel physically we are not designed to receive all our needs from just one person, and it's a choice we must make for ourselves as to which path we choose.

For myself, I could not split my soul into parts and share them amongst partners, I would need to give 100% each time. So serial monogamy is my thing. And there is one person in the world for whom my feelings have never, ever, changed, but sadly he can't be with me.

I believe polyamory can work, but the people involved need to be very secure in themselves, and not possessive. Possessiveness and territorial issues are just as natural as polyamory if we are going to compare ourselves to other species, so saying polyamory is natural rather highlights the flaws in nature.




Topic "The Code"
Posted 07 Apr 2011 00:06

Hey, I'm not judging you, hun - every circumstance is different. As some people above have said - on some occasions if you do find a sensitive way of approaching the friend about it, she might well say 'go ahead', and may well appreciate that you took the time to consider her feelings by asking. Actually, to go out with the guy I'm talking about, his ex was a friend of mine and I did ask her permission, and she did say okay. Lol she did warn me he was an asshole though - I should have listened.

Topic Why do men find it offensive when a woman is submissive?
Posted 07 Apr 2011 00:00

I hear you. Had way too many boyfriends who were freaked out by it. But I think it's down to a lack of understanding as to what submission means. I think a lot of guys stereotype D/s behaviour based on society, porn and unimaginative friends so it's up to us to explain what it really means .

Some guys possibly see it as welcoming disrespect for women? I, for one, can see why that would freak out some men.

Topic "The Code"
Posted 05 Apr 2011 21:23

I follow the code for close friends unless they encourage me to go for it (which happened once, but she is an exceptionally non-jealous cool girl and those are rare). For the most part I try to avoid it because of the drama it always has the potential to cause. They need to come up with the female version of the saying 'bros before hoes'... maybe 'chicks before dicks'...?

Sisters before Misters.