Shy but opinionated, quiet yet strong, openminded but know what I like and want. Passionate, strong-willed, stubborn. Value honesty, friendship, intelligence, humor and integrity highly.I have a submissive side. Please show respect and understand that just because I am a submissive with a little side, I will by no means be pushed around. Babys_safe_harbor is my Dom/Daddy and also a close friend, confidant, lover and love. I am his and his alone in all ways. He has my heart and keeps me safe, is always there for me and makes sure I know every single day that I am his treasure, that I am valued by him. I am very honored to be his and will do my best to make him happy and proud I belong with him. I am friendly, but absolutely not interested in random cybering. If I don't know you, I will not talk in private with you (including whispers) or accept friend requests. I actually want to know the people I friend here."The world is full of suffering.. It is also filled with the overcoming." - Helen Keller"An eye for an eye makes the world blind." - Gandhi"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched; They must be felt with the heart" - Helen Keller"The best place in the world is in the arms of someone who will not only hold you at your best, but will pick you up and hug you tight at your weakest moment" - Unknown
BothI cover her mouth with my kiss, I uncover her secrets with wandering fingertip.I cover her breast with my palmI uncover her dreams with a listening earI cover her back with my flogI uncover her beauty with awakened desiresI cover her body with my ownI uncover her soul with softly spoken words This... Exactly this.. So beautiful..
There are very few absolutes within this lifestyle. How it is lived, has about as many varieties as couples within it. Besides the parole of "Sane, Safe and Consensual" there are few or no absolutes on how to practice BDSM. So what is the lifestyle all about?There is one core thing that holds true for all the dynamics within BDSM; It involves some sort of power exchange. To put it in a simplified way, one person (the Dom) has power over the other (the sub). But here comes the crucial part; The power should always be GIVEN FREELY by the sub, in the manner decided by the sub. A real Dom will NEVER take or force power from a sub. The sub sets the limits within the relationship and can stop things and ask for the power back within a second. Once the dynamics have been set/decided, the Dom holds power over the sub, but the power should ALWAYS flow from the bottom (the sub) to the top (the Dom). A Dom only uses the power freely given to him/her by the sub based on his/her needs and wants.It is also important to understand that being a Dom or sub is part of your personality, part of who you are, not a role you play. Much like say your sexual orientation is part of who you are, so is being a Dom or sub. BDSM isn't about sex, in fact you can have BDSM relationships without any sex at all. However, most BDSM relationships will have a sexual component as most relationships between adults do, whether they are D/s or vanilla.These are the basics of BDSM as I see it. Without understanding these, it is impossible to know what the lifestyle is about. There are tons of different dynamics in BDSM, but these things holds true regardless. Anyone else have any thoughts on this and how to best explain the lifestyle to those trying to learn about it and understand what BDSM is?
I would like some more backgrounds too, some new colours etc. Fun with some new things :)
I never meant to imply that a D/s relationship is better than a well-functioning vanilla relationship. A great relationship is a great relationship, whatever "category" it may be placed within.Of course you leave yourself vulnerable in an relationship where you truly connect and open up to another person. It is impossible to enter any form of meaningful relationship and guarantee you won't get hurt. I will however, based on personal experience with both vanilla and D/s-relationships, stand by than for the most part subs leave themselves extra vulnerable. The reason I think so, is that a sub usually gives over more control to her/his partner than someone does in a vanilla relationship. By control in this context I mean things like structuring of every day life, tasks given etc. The emotional hurt can be the same from any type of relationship, but it is easier for a sub to "spin out of control" as they are relying more on their partner. (I am not saying you don't rely on your partner in other forms of relationships, of course you do, but the whole point within D/s is that more control is given over than in other relationships).Yes, I have been hurt before and I have learned a lot from it, good and bad. Has it left me more guarded? In some ways yes, and from learning and experiencing you are better equipped to deal with things you go through in the future, but you are also left with some scares that might never go totally away. We all make mistakes and hopefully learn from them. We all need to crawl before we can walk, walk before we can run. I see again and again tho those wanting to run before they can even crawl, not being honest with themselves or others where they are at in "their development". Honesty is the key I think in most circumstances. Of course there are some that are just pure abusers and they are often extra attracted to a BDSM lifestyle as it can be easier to "hide" abuse there, but that is really a whole other topic in itself.
I agree with you completely, and I would love to have those that are here with their doms and or subs continue to converse in this thread to make it grow, the more it grows the more awareness on this subject ... it is sort of a peer to peer support group . we all can talk and learn and support each other ... for one dom to step in when another dom is overstepping boundries.. I do like that Driverman and Pixie have their rules for one another posted to the public... as such even in the absence of one or the other for reasons we all know take presedence "real life" the doms that are aware of this do not over step their boundaries with her and respect her and offer their protection while her dom is away... or vise versa. if she is away, remind Driverman to ensure she is ok. to ask him about her in her lush absence... I agree that awareness on this subject and general knowledge about the lifestyle is very important. With awareness and knowledge there will be less misunderstandings, less false assumptions and hopefully fewer people getting hurt. I hope that this thread keeps growing and that many give the topics in it some thought as I think they are very important. I am far from "the perfect sub/babygirl", I do not have all the answers or all the knowledge. I do try to learn a bit every day tho, better myself bit by bit, keep an open mind yet listen to my gut instincts and always bare in mind to do no harm, to myself or others.
I completely agree that living the lifestyle responsibly is an important issue. As a sub, I know first-hand how emotionally vulnerable you leave yourself when you submit. A Dom not understanding or caring about the responsibility that comes with having a sub, can do great damage, both physically and emotionally. On a site like this, we all know there are only a few genuine Doms and subs. Most are role-players or just after a quick cyber-session, and there is nothing wrong with that as long as people are honest about their intentions. I have seen many hurt though, having been mislead, believing they are dealing with a true Dom or sub. I want to urge people to be careful before entering into any sort of D/s relationship, learn a lot about the lifestyle first, get to know the person in question well before moving forward. My two cents of advice would be; As a sub, please be careful who you submit to before doing so and understand what it really means to submit. As a Dom, please make sure the sub is a good fit for you and understand the responsibility that comes with having a sub before you accept the submission.
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His primal growl As He pushes into her, Inch by delightful inch, Shakes her to the core, Every part of her Responding to His hunger, His desire for her, His need to claim what is His. His kisses, nibbles Leave marks on her skin, His trailing hands Not only touching her body, But leaving fingerprints on her soul. When she is with Him The ordinary becomes extraordinary, ...
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