Shy but opinionated, quiet yet strong, openminded but know what I like and want. Value honesty, friendship, intelligence, humor and integrity highly.I have a submissive side. Please show respect and understand that just because I am a submissive with a little side, I will by no means be pushed around or submit to just anyone.I am friendly, but absolutely not interested in random cybering. If I don't know you, I will not talk in private with you or accept friend requests. I actually want to know the people I friend here. I have been known as Starglow for a period on here before returning to my original username."The world is full of suffering.. It is also filled with the overcoming." - Helen Keller"An eye for an eye makes the world blind." - Gandhi"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched; They must be felt with the heart" - Helen Keller
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I would like some more backgrounds too, some new colours etc. Fun with some new things :)
I never meant to imply that a D/s relationship is better than a well-functioning vanilla relationship. A great relationship is a great relationship, whatever "category" it may be placed within.Of course you leave yourself vulnerable in an relationship where you truly connect and open up to another person. It is impossible to enter any form of meaningful relationship and guarantee you won't get hurt. I will however, based on personal experience with both vanilla and D/s-relationships, stand by than for the most part subs leave themselves extra vulnerable. The reason I think so, is that a sub usually gives over more control to her/his partner than someone does in a vanilla relationship. By control in this context I mean things like structuring of every day life, tasks given etc. The emotional hurt can be the same from any type of relationship, but it is easier for a sub to "spin out of control" as they are relying more on their partner. (I am not saying you don't rely on your partner in other forms of relationships, of course you do, but the whole point within D/s is that more control is given over than in other relationships).Yes, I have been hurt before and I have learned a lot from it, good and bad. Has it left me more guarded? In some ways yes, and from learning and experiencing you are better equipped to deal with things you go through in the future, but you are also left with some scares that might never go totally away. We all make mistakes and hopefully learn from them. We all need to crawl before we can walk, walk before we can run. I see again and again tho those wanting to run before they can even crawl, not being honest with themselves or others where they are at in "their development". Honesty is the key I think in most circumstances. Of course there are some that are just pure abusers and they are often extra attracted to a BDSM lifestyle as it can be easier to "hide" abuse there, but that is really a whole other topic in itself.
I agree with you completely, and I would love to have those that are here with their doms and or subs continue to converse in this thread to make it grow, the more it grows the more awareness on this subject ... it is sort of a peer to peer support group . we all can talk and learn and support each other ... for one dom to step in when another dom is overstepping boundries.. I do like that Driverman and Pixie have their rules for one another posted to the public... as such even in the absence of one or the other for reasons we all know take presedence "real life" the doms that are aware of this do not over step their boundaries with her and respect her and offer their protection while her dom is away... or vise versa. if she is away, remind Driverman to ensure she is ok. to ask him about her in her lush absence... I agree that awareness on this subject and general knowledge about the lifestyle is very important. With awareness and knowledge there will be less misunderstandings, less false assumptions and hopefully fewer people getting hurt. I hope that this thread keeps growing and that many give the topics in it some thought as I think they are very important. I am far from "the perfect sub/babygirl", I do not have all the answers or all the knowledge. I do try to learn a bit every day tho, better myself bit by bit, keep an open mind yet listen to my gut instincts and always bare in mind to do no harm, to myself or others.
I completely agree that living the lifestyle responsibly is an important issue. As a sub, I know first-hand how emotionally vulnerable you leave yourself when you submit. A Dom not understanding or caring about the responsibility that comes with having a sub, can do great damage, both physically and emotionally. On a site like this, we all know there are only a few genuine Doms and subs. Most are role-players or just after a quick cyber-session, and there is nothing wrong with that as long as people are honest about their intentions. I have seen many hurt though, having been mislead, believing they are dealing with a true Dom or sub. I want to urge people to be careful before entering into any sort of D/s relationship, learn a lot about the lifestyle first, get to know the person in question well before moving forward. My two cents of advice would be; As a sub, please be careful who you submit to before doing so and understand what it really means to submit. As a Dom, please make sure the sub is a good fit for you and understand the responsibility that comes with having a sub before you accept the submission.
Congratulations, well done!
Good luck with both love & life!Sad to see you go, but totally understand. Sometimes there is a need to move on...
Personally, I am very happy with this decision. It is not a category for me at all and I feel it is, by far, the category that danced the most on the line of harmfulness. (I understand others feel differently, and have valid arguments why other categories could be seen as harmful as well. I am not interested in doing that debate here, this is just a statement of my personal opinion.)In short, this is a privately owned site, so if we agree or not, we have to respect the choice made.
With a broken heart Her tears run down her cheeks, Shocked, Devastated, How one moment in time Can change everything. She never imagined It would end this way. He was her ever after, Or so she thought. Cruel twists of fate Made it differently. She can’t do things half-way, Part time. If she can’t be dedicated, Give what He deserves, What He wants and needs, She can’t take...
Added 23 Mar 2015 | Category Love Poems
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His. We. Us. Seemingly small, Insignificant words. Yet as they are spoken, They tear down walls, Sink into her soul, Disarming, As she comes apart, Unable to withstand Their power. Tiny words of promise, Stirring deep within, Speaking to her very core, A longing, A need, To belong, To be loved, Desired, Not alone, Someone by her...
Added 12 Mar 2015 | Category Love Poems
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A look In His eyes Speaks more Than a million words, Silent, Yet louder than thunder, Heat, Demanding, Passion. The touch Of His hands Sends trembles, Sparks of fire, Through her body, Burning, In need, Desire, Anticipation. The sound Of His voice Like liquid velvet, Her knees weak, Breath uneven, Falling to her knees, Respectfully, Gracefully, Belonging. His weight...
Added 04 Mar 2015 | Category Erotic Poems
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He sees her Like no one else. Right from the start He saw past the outer things, And saw the real girl, Not a circumstance. He sees her Like no one else, Knowing when she gets Needy and clingy She is just a bit insecure, Wanting his closeness and comfort. He sees her Like no one else, Seeing a form of beauty Where she sees An ordinary, Plain girl. He sees her Like no...
Added 08 Feb 2015 | Category Love Poems
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Heat radiating off her. A hunger, a need Ravaging through her body, her soul. Her body cries out for his touch, Her soul for the connection between them As two lovers become one. A thirst totally consuming, Like the desperate search of a traveller, Lost in the desert, For an oasis. She wants him, she needs him, The release of energy, the pleasure of ecstasy ...
Added 06 Feb 2015 | Category Erotic Poems
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A single candle Flickers in the dark, Its mesmerizing dance Drawing her in. Memories Of her lover’s touch Evoked. The warmth Reflecting off the candle, Like the skin Of her lover, Pressed against hers, Warming her. The candle’s heat And brightness Only paralleled With what she sees In his eyes, As their bodies join In unison. Strength of memory Almost too much To bear,...
Added 02 Feb 2015 | Category Love Poems
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Surrounded by the darkness of night She waits for her love. Listening out for his footsteps approaching, A smile forming on her lips, As she hears him coming. He joins her under the covers And pulls her in close, Kissing her softly, Stroking her hair. “Hi babygirl” he whispers. He feels her breath on his skin, As she greets him lovingly. The stress of a long day melting away ...
Added 28 Jan 2015 | Category Erotic Poems
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The tension, anticipation, Is almost unbearable As he slowly moves over to her With a burning intensity in his eyes. He traces his fingertips Over her collarbone, down to her chest, And the lightest of touch Sends sparks of electricity, Shooting through her. She shudders, And feels her panties grow moist, His fingertips circle her nipples. Picking her up, He presses her...
Added 22 Jan 2015 | Category Erotic Poems
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One intense look from You And I melt, Utterly, Totally. A single sentence spoken And I’m under Your spell, Tingling, Wanting. You show me Your desire, Making me burn, Flaming, Needing. You awaken me totally, Every nerve, Trembling, Gasping. When we make love There is no doubt, I am Yours, Completely....
Added 17 Jan 2015 | Category Erotic Poems
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A smile on my lips As you reach out a hand, And pull me in, Wrapping me up in your arms So lovingly, Lifting me up, Holding me close to you. I melt into you The feeling of coming home, Belonging, Every time we are together. Sharing our hearts, Our thought, our passions. Overcome with joy That you want me, Just as I am. Letting each other in ...
Added 16 Jan 2015 | Category Love Poems
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