Forum posts made by ravyn

Topic Collared submissives
Posted 11 Feb 2014 13:20

Topic Looking for a BDSM Book or Story
Posted 11 Feb 2014 13:01

Google is a great resource to find what you are looking for :)

Topic Can you really ever stop loving someone after a relationship is over?
Posted 15 Jan 2014 15:52

It really depends on how your relationship ended and what kind of feelings you had for that person at the time, as well as what brought the relationship to an end in the first place. Falling out of love with someone after being with them for over half your life mixed with other things felt as it came to an end. For me, yes its possible to stop loving someone. There will always be a connection especially if you have kids with them. You can love someone as a human being or as the father or mother of your children. Some relationships end where neither love the other anymore, and its often one sided. Its really a question that is as individual in each situation as it is to the two people involved.

You can choose to move and live, or you can be stuck in the past with the what if's. It's a hard thing to do, I know am living it now. The hardest thing is to trust again, if you can figure that one out, then you truly are one step ahead of the rest of us.

Topic Say something nice about the profile of the person above you
Posted 15 Jan 2014 15:41

A very well filled out and thoughtful profile.

Topic who wants to get dominated?
Posted 31 Dec 2013 16:09

"My reputation precedes me" etc are not MY words they're in the op so you might be better directing those comments at her. As for your right to give your opinions it's a two way street, you seemed quick enough to jump on others when they gave theirs'. I'd suggest you reread the whole thread to refresh your memory!

I am all for free opinions, my only point was that many are quick to judge someone for the question they ask in the forums. It makes people apprehensive about posting and asking questions.

Topic who wants to get dominated?
Posted 31 Dec 2013 01:35

WHAT! Well I wasn't going to post until I read yours.
What gives you the right to criticise other members? Did you read the pile of crap in the op? My reputation precedes me, other doms respect me but I'm not here to blow my own trumpet!
Get real, she's asking to be shot at! If she was that good she'd have subs queueing up and not having to post ads for her services .

I have the right as any other member to state my opinion. I did not criticize I merely stated my opinion. If you do not like it, then that is your prerogative. I stand by my post, as for your reputation preceding you, I have no clue of who you are or what you claim to be. Respect is earned not given freely, if you feel you are respected by other Dom's, if that little tid bit is what helps you sleep at night, then more power to you.

Topic Happy Birthday Ravyn!
Posted 20 Dec 2013 21:48

Thank you all very much :)

Topic Destined to be single?
Posted 11 Dec 2013 16:15

We should have a special section, just for the 'Lush Tragics'.

If you have nothing constructive to input keep your fingers off the keyboard and stay out of threads you have no interest in contributing to.

To the OP, you may feel alone now while being on your own, you will find someone that is the right fit for you the key is to not close yourself off to the possibility of what you might find.

Topic Would you say that this is part of the BDSM Lifestyle?
Posted 11 Dec 2013 11:16

It sounds to me like you are more interested in finding out where you fit with your particular kink or desires. To be honest, I wouldn't worry so much about where you may "fit" in any one lifestyle. If its something you live 24/7 and its apart of who you are then call it a lifestyle. If its just something you enjoy doing even if its every time and just kept it to the bedroom then I would say you definitely have a passion for that particular kink. You like the bondage part of BDSM and you also appear to be a masochist. Just embrace what you enjoy and don't worry so much about labeling what it is.

Topic Long Distance
Posted 09 Dec 2013 22:23

Communication is key......

Topic who wants to get dominated?
Posted 30 Nov 2013 22:20

It seems the many of the long time posters as well as some of the relatively new ones like to get snarky to brand new Lush members. I have seen this over and over in the various threads on Lush. This site is open to all members and that includes the forums. It would be nice to see the new members not get blasted for starting a post that some deem not important or unworthy of discussion. Just because there is a forum post doesn't mean someone needs to reply in it. Read it and move on, there is no need to make the member feel badly for posting, all that does is make people think twice before starting a thread. Lets make them feel welcome to the community instead of pouncing on them for a post you may not agree with :)

Topic im new here im looking for sluts
Posted 28 Nov 2013 22:53

With an opening topic like that, it speaks volumes that you are new. You might do some homework before you make posts like that. There are many good resources here on Lush as well as off.

Topic What is your favourite kind of sex toy?
Posted 20 Nov 2013 14:45

I can't pick just one. I like to use a combination of toys. Glass, pain enhancers, anal plugs and the Hitachi wand are my favorites.

Topic vibrators?
Posted 20 Nov 2013 14:42

I've purchased stuff both online and in a shop. Nothing embarrassing about it. Embrace who you are and what you want and go for it. Just make sure you buy quality items otherwise you will be throwing money away when they break. If you shop online take the time to read reviews, they really can be helpful. Shop alone or with a friend, either way it can be fun and don't worry about what anyone else thinks :)

Topic May I ask a specific question about the giving and receiving of pain?
Posted 07 Nov 2013 22:20

More deeply, may I inquire to your respective subs what it is about the pain and punishment you endure that you crave and enjoy?

The woman I am writing of is not living in a submissive lifestyle per se' but she will be expected to enjoy giving pleasure to all whom seek it from her, and my presumption is that there are those people who do derive pleasure from the giving of torment, just as there are those who find pleasure and strength in enduring it.

I would like to address the part in bold. If you plan on writing about a submissive woman, the wording that she is expected to enjoy, what you need to understand is that a woman who is submissive already has the desire to enjoy, the desire to please as well as the need for both. Those who role play this will never truly understand they can only live out the fantasy of what they think it is and I don't begrudge anyone that. I am just giving my 2 cents on a few points in your post.

As for the question as to why we crave and enjoy certain types of pain and punishments, that is an individual thing for each. No two are alike. Pain for some can be an amazing feeling, its more than a rush. It can be freeing when done correctly and between two people with the highest level of trust to know it will never be pushed past certain limits. Having that one person who can read you and know what you need before you ever utter a word, to be taken to that place where everything just stops and you feel. Some call it subspace I call it my happy place. The reasons a submissive craves this will also vary with each person.

Forgive me if this came off as babbling, I am overworked and tired and I hope I make sense here. If not feel free to send me a pm if you wish to know more from my perspective as a submissive woman.

Topic Time to Ban and Burn confederate flags
Posted 23 Oct 2013 18:34

No, it shouldn't be banned/burned. Everyone has the right to be an idiot/bigot/whatever else they choose to be. Everyone knows (or should know) what the Confederate flag represents. What it really represents. Choosing to blatantly ignore this and wield it anyways is a personal choice/right...and shouldn't be revoked just because we don't like it. I'll always see slavery/oppression when I look at a Confederate will many others. I've no doubt in my mind that the guy wielding the flag in the above image was doing so for all the wrong reasons. But he has the right to do so. I'm not in the business of trumping on rights just because someone does something totally against my beliefs.

People have the right to be jackasses. And I have the right to call said people jackasses.

I agree and couldn't have said it better myself.

Topic what r ur limits?
Posted 20 Oct 2013 22:20

Mouthy broads make me reach my limit pretty quickly.

Oh honey if you thought that was me being mouthy, you clearly do not know me :)

Topic what r ur limits?
Posted 19 Oct 2013 21:50

It would be most helpful if you were a tad bit more specific in your inquiry.

Topic Bondage pictures!
Posted 02 Oct 2013 15:51

Topic strangers
Posted 02 Oct 2013 11:25

Only if his first name was Jason and his last name was Statham. clown

Hell yeah I agree with you there!!!!!

Topic What to do?
Posted 01 Oct 2013 11:52

Im a baby girl submissive. My question is how do you deal/react when a Dom (is not your Dom just a Dom) starts accusing you of things that you never did.

How do you fight back with out stepping overboard?

What you have to realize is that there are so many on here who like to play the role. On Lush that is what 99% of the so called Dom’s are doing. Just because someone says they are a Dom/Master does not make it so. Trust your instincts and you won’t go wrong in dealing with them.

Here is my opinion on this and you can take it for whatever you wish. If you and your Dom have discussed things and you know what you can do and can’t then anything that any other man on here says to you does not matter. The block button will be the best friend you could have. When those men try and exert their “power” over you, just laugh at them and block them. Trust me, if you laugh at them and they get mad, it’s a sure sign they are nothing more than a wannabe. Or if you are like me, have a little fun with them first. Any true Dom would not treat you in that manner and if they do, just merely remind them that whatever arrangement, agreement or understanding you and YOUR Dom have is between the two of you and it’s not for him or anyone else to be questioning.

Just because you are submissive does not mean you have to be a doormat for others. You still have a mind and a voice; don’t ever be afraid to use it especially in your own defense. If your Dom does not have an issue with what you are doing, then you really have nothing to worry about.

Topic What to do?
Posted 30 Sep 2013 21:18

He probably thought/realized you were leaving a trail of crumbs leading to your cookie for the other doms to follow.

Jack, be nice. Throwing insults to the OP is not really constructive. Her question is a valid one and worth discussion by those who have something constructive to say on it.

Topic That Perfect Someone..
Posted 25 Sep 2013 20:00

If you're not with them then they aren't the perfect person for you, no?

For me I thought a girl was perfect but then I realized she didn't think I was so perfect. To be honest I don't think there are perfect people for anyone anyway. If you keep trying to get that perfect person and before you know it your life will pass you by and you'll end up alone .

Okay Jack lol hell is freezing over. I agree with you for once.

Topic Vibrators
Posted 25 Sep 2013 19:46

If there was anything I disliked about my vibrator, I wouldn't own/use it.

^^^ this

Topic How different are Fiction doms from real doms?
Posted 22 Sep 2013 20:32

Oh boy where do I start. Dani said a lot of the same things I would. The fakes are so damn easy to spot. Occasionally one might slip through ones radar but that could be more about ones feelings for the person rather than their domination over them. Many factors play into the D/s relationship. But anyone who pays attention can spot the wanna-be's a mile away and Lush is full of them. Its rather amusing at times to observe them in their habitats here on Lush. Those who are in your face about them being a Dom, 9 out of 10 times aren't.

As for the books we read, its merely the writers perspective or perhaps experiences or maybe even desires they may have had or have. 50 Shades is by NO means reality it was nothing more than a good read, for me at least. I took it for what it was a fictional story. A masochist will see it differently than the average reader, a Dom will view it differently as well. Submissive's/slaves will also view it differently depending on what type they may be.

As Dani suggested spend time in the various rooms on Lush and you will be able to answer your own question in a short amount of time, especially if you take the time to read profiles of those you observe. I have personally witnessed this as well as experienced the sole called "fakes" when they try and approach me. Its quite amusing :)

Topic the ultimate relationship level..
Posted 18 Sep 2013 15:39

Lol. Revange! Love ridiculous games. He has yet to beat my 'honey, I let the kids paint your sports car' prank. I took pics if their artwork, and used my photo edit program to layer it on his vehicle's photo. It was pretty damn real looking, took a long time - totally worth it.

^^ That is just awesome :)

Topic Collared submissives
Posted 12 Sep 2013 16:23

Topic Pit Sex
Posted 12 Sep 2013 15:28

Wow......Now I can say I've heard it all.

Topic Bondage pictures!
Posted 11 Sep 2013 14:23