Topic What things baffle you about women?
09 Aug 2013 15:00
Just a suggestion since I dont wish to spend a week just on this thread alone, could you perhaps change the question to 'What things DONT baffle you about women' please?.
The can be said and has about men, they are just as bad.
the way their brain works or lack there of
Wow.....I am not going to say what comes to my mind I am simply going to say, be careful who you say those words to, those are fighting words to some of us.
09 Aug 2013 10:48
Of Course and I have, and will again. I have made some very good friends on Lush.
Topic what is your partner preferred age
09 Aug 2013 10:41
I agree with most on here, I'm not too concerned about the number necessarily but rather how compatible we are together emotionally, spiritually and especially sexually. It's about the connection I have with the other person that is paramount and I've realized that age has absolutely nothing to do with it.
Topic Favorite Mod appreciation xoxo
05 Aug 2013 19:24
Ravyn,she is cool
Thank you Ian :) that is very kind of you.
You are also a model member whose never given an ounce of issue to the moderating staff. Thank you for that!!!!
Topic Wondering If I Am The Only One....... House in Order
05 Aug 2013 19:22
Not everyone who calls themselves a Master or a Mistress are. Their ego's lead them to believe they can concur every person who says they are a submissive or a slave. I find it amusing especially on here, to sit back and watch it all play out. It really is easy to spot those who are genuine and those who are nothing but posers, and that goes for those on either side of the D/s fence. From my years of observation on here a good majority of those who call themselves and E-Master do so for the sole purpose of e-bossing a woman around and gaining e-sexual favors from her and giving nothing in return other than his egotistical version of a e-D/s relationship. If its all fantasy for them, more power to them, but be upfront about that don't pretend to be something you are not.
It truly is a 'no' wonder why many keep who they are a secret or just take a huge step back and re-evaluate the online relationship whether it be BDSM or vanilla.
I mean no offense to the OP or anyone else whose posted before me, these are just my thoughts at this particular time (well to be honest for a long long time now) on a part of the original topic presented.
Topic found mine
03 Aug 2013 19:53
Please post here: http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst26227_All-Those-Seeking-a-MasterMistress-or-a-submissive-please-post-here.aspx
Topic Bondage pictures!
02 Aug 2013 11:52
Topic i need a womans opinion
28 Jul 2013 11:32
The last time I needed a woman's opinion was only last night when she told me to go get milk and a loaf of bread.
Sounds like you need to learn the difference between an opinion and a request/order.
I'm in a relationship, and very long story short, its got going to last much longer. Anyway i have collected quite a few sex toys, a swing and 4 point bet ties, what i want to ask is would it be a bad idea to keep the toys. all the toys i got for her are glass, i have spent a lot and grew this collection and im not sure what to do with them, she does not want to keep them. like i said, many toys and there all glass, so would glass toys be different then other toys?
Toys like this are an investment just like anything else. Lets say an engagement ring/wedding ring, would you reuse that with the next woman? I would hope not, and the same applies to the toys. Being upfront and telling her is a must and then it would be her choice. As a few have said, some of us come with our own toys and would never, ever use ones that were used on someone else no matter how clean you say they are. Nobody likes wasting money but it comes with the territory when you purchase things for another in this regard. Somethings you just don't reuse from one woman to the next.
Topic How to pick a Master?
27 Jul 2013 10:13
Picking a Master is not like trying to find a ripe watermelon. It should never be about trial and error. This type of relationship is a deep one and one that should not be made lightly or uninformed. This trial and error method people are suggesting can be a very dangerous one. There is so much more to it than sexual compatibility, yes its a huge part of it, but only 1 part of it. If you are only out to play then I suppose that type of method would work. But if this is who you are, than I strongly urge you to look deeper and realize that it starts with the relationship first and foremost. The emotional connection and bond. The minds melding as one long before the bodies do. If all you have is hot amazing sex, then there will be so much that goes unfulfilled and that will doom the relationship before it starts.
Topic Realization that you are more than Vanilla
27 Jul 2013 09:55
I was in my early 40s dating a lady that to me was a bit kinky, she liked to be spanked before having sex, I thought that was fine but a bit kinky, the longer we dated, the more she asked for, the more I thought this lady had something wrong with her but also found that I was liking what she was asking for. Needless to say she taught me lots and life has been great because of her.
This is exactly why some of us have stayed hidden for so long.
Topic would you be a boyfriend for a girl who wants to save her virginity till marriage?
25 Jul 2013 18:57
i agree, i don't think marriage is a big deal either except in my case so i can make love.
Oh dear......the urge or desire to have sex should NOT be your driving force to get married. Trust me when I say this, the promise you made to your mom is one she should never have asked you to make. Losing your virginity is a personal thing and it should only be your decision. Speaking as a mother of two, I would never advise my kids who are 20 and 24 now, to wait until marriage. In a perfect world, yes that may be ideal for some, but you really do need to know you have sexual compatibility with the person you plan to spend the rest of your life with or however long you plan to be married. Living in a sexless or less than desirable sexual pleasurable marriage is no way to live. I speak from over many years of experience on this. Love is an amazingly wonderful thing but that to will fade with there is no sexual compatibility. I am in no way promoting sexual promiscuity, but I am a firm believer in knowing your partner and making sure you are compatible on many levels including sexually related things.
I pose this question to you, what if you do wait, and you and the man you marry consummate your marriage and you find that its not all you thought it to be? Losing ones virginity is not always a pleasurable thing despite what you might read or hear.
If waiting is truly what you want to do for YOU then by all means do it, but waiting because you promised another, I would seriously reconsider. You mentioned how you touch each other now sexually in your previous posts, do you think your mother would approve of that kind of before marriage contact? Do you feel guilt over those actions? Remember, this is your life, and you need to live it as it best suits you.
Not one person in this community can tell you what to do, we can only advise and spark conscious thought. I hope you find the answers you seek and can live with the decision you ultimately make.
I know my response was a bit off topic from your original question. Any guy you are involved with should respect the decisions you make regarding your body, if he leaves then he isn't worthy of you to begin with.
Topic What's your opinion on abortion?
25 Jul 2013 16:47
This is a woman's right to choose what she does with her body and NOBODY elses. Period. Plain and simple. NO government or anyone else has the right to dictate that. Its between her and her concious.
Topic the role of the dom and sub
25 Jul 2013 14:23
Brat is such a relative term, don't you think? But it is no relative of mine.
P.S. It's so cute when you get all protective.
Oh indeed it is a relative term and I do think you are related, just as Roy he's said it many times :)
Now behave, I am trying to get some work done here at work!!!
Topic the role of the dom and sub
25 Jul 2013 14:11
I totally get where you're coming from, and I respect that so much.
And I'm flattered that you have a crush on me, but this following me around on the forums has got to stop Ravyn. I'm taken, as you well know.
You are such a brat Dani lol It is not my fault you keep posting in a section that I find near and dear to my heart and often frequent.
Yes I know you are taken but as you well know I don't swing on this side of the fence I want cock not pussy :) so Roy..........she is all yours, and you better be good to her or else
Topic the role of the dom and sub
25 Jul 2013 12:28
This is the way I've always thought any lifestyle should be approached, and not just BDSM. But some people emphasize those labels so much that it gets to the point where that alone defines them, instead of it just being another trait like dark hair or blue eyes or brown skin. I've always thought it should never be that way, no matter how deeply involved in a lifestyle you are. My question has always been, "What are you without the title?" It never fails. Every conversation I've ever had about BDSM always comes back to this.
And in my opinion, if all you are is wrapped up in whatever side you represent, whether you're dominant or submissive, then you've limited yourself. And if you don't know who you are outside of that, how can you serve someone else as a dom/master or a slave/submissive?
Its me again :) I get what you are saying and for me personally I am much more than just a submissive. Yes its who I am, just as my gender is female and my hair is brunette. I am not limiting myself in any way. I am a willful, strong, opinionated outspoken woman who will tell anyone anything if asked and sometimes if not. I am also a mother, a student and avid reader and an occassional writer of erotica, I could go on but you get the gist. Everything about me is what makes me, well me and that includes my submissiveness. Its just one part that makes up the woman who is me :)
Topic the role of the dom and sub
25 Jul 2013 10:22
So following this logic...a master without a sub is just a dominant? So is a submissive without a master not a submissive? What then would he/she be? Because although a master has no sub, they still remain a dominant. So would a submissive not be a submissive without a master?
I ask because I have friends here who are subs, and they say they are, even if they have no master. But you seem to be saying that a submissive, by definition, isn't a submissive unless he/she has a master.
Sorry but I am going ot chime in here. I disagree with that statement (yes I know it isn't your statement Dani). I am first and foremost a woman, I am also a submissive woman without a Master, but that in no way makes me any less submissive. If one is truly submissive its a part of who they are, not just a role they play when the mood stikes (those types of subs/slaves yes, I would agree aren't submissive unless they have a Master). Just because I am without a Master, does not make me less submissive than if I had one to offer my submission to.
21 Jul 2013 14:58
I m quite young, i m 22 i never received One And i was curious about knowing how many girls give them? Why?
When did you start And what turns you on?:)
Honestly, once you have had one, by the right woman, you will look back on this question and wonder why you ever asked it. Ride the ride its the only way to answer it.
Topic What are you into?
21 Jul 2013 14:55
People, people, people. Lets keep the thread on track. Private messaging works wonders for those things that should be kept behind closed doors. Otherwise prepare to bend over and wait for the next regularly scheduled spankings to begin.
Rachel you know what I am talking about. :)
Topic Sexless Marriage?
21 Jul 2013 14:44
You do what you have to do, simple as that.
Topic Black and Whites
18 Jul 2013 23:05
17 Jul 2013 11:11
Jealousy, like envy, greed, etc., is a destructive thing in ANY relationship (including just friends). Possessiveness is insecurity and selfishness personified. It is not - in my opinion - "just being human" - it's being childish and immature. Just my two cents, of course, you may think differently.
Jealousy may be destructive in any relationship but it is indeed a fact of life, it exists no matter how much we don't want it to. You may call it childish, but even the most secure unselfish person can feel this emotion no matter how irrational it may seem to others. Not wanting to share your Master or Mistress with another does not make one childish or petty. If the terms of the relationship are set forth in the beginning that it will be completely monogamous, and the relationship takes that turn to the man wanting to bring another woman into the mix, of course there will be many feelings and emotions, Jealousy among them. Its only natural.
Yes, I have seen many of your posts and this is not something you buy into and that is fine. Many don't. It however, does not make those who may feel that twang of jealousy such as the OP, as well as what Shery0724 wrote any less valid and it certainly does not make them childish. You speak of possessiveness being insecurity and selfishness personified, I have yet to meet a Dominant who is NOT possessive over his submissive or slave. It is also a common emotion in the vanilla world as well.
My master recently wanted me to share him with someone else :) good thing i saw yr thread at first i felt quite sad that i had to share him with someone else but i dont think i hav much of a choice:). He's the master he can di anything he wants
You most certainly have a choice. You should always have a voice. Speak to him and let him know how you feel about what he is wanting from you. Yes he is your Master, but that does not mean he can do things that make you uncomfortable. If he is not open to you being able to come to him when things bother you, then he may not be the right Master for you. Your emotional well being should be as high of a priority to him as your physical well being.
13 Jul 2013 19:36
I'd be lying if I said I didn't like the aesthetics of looking at man who shaves his nether region. There is just something about a rock hard cock that is glistening, the skin surrounding it clean shaven and not detracting from the awesome sight before me. Not feeling that tickling of hair as he slides......Damn, I digress in my response here. Ultimately he should feel comfortable in his own skin and hair so to speak, that to is very sexy.
You're the BigBossMan... Don't you have all the fuck'n answers?
Jeff, behave or else I'm gonna borrow someone's whip and turn you over my knee.
13 Jul 2013 19:20
I would never downplay the service of a cop...ever. That's not what I was saying. I was just saying firefighters do it without the power trip that you see in some cops.
I guess that falls to the eye of the on looker lol
13 Jul 2013 19:08
Meh. They don't turn me on anymore than the next guy. I've never really been into the whole 'Men in uniform' thing.
With that being said, I understand a thing for firefighters more than a thing for cops. It cracks me up when cops have that false sense of authority. Like they enforce the law, and I respect that. But if I'm not breaking the law, what real authority do you have over me?
With firefighters, they have that hero thing going for them. It's a really selfless profession. To me, that's more noble ...and more attractive.
I have to agree and disagree. I agree firefighters are definitely heroes to do what they do, but so are police officers and those who serve in our armed forces. Anyone willing to put their life on the line for others is to be respected. And yes, some of them look damn fine doing it!!!