Forum posts made by ravyn

Topic the role of the dom and sub
Posted 25 Jul 2013 12:28

This is the way I've always thought any lifestyle should be approached, and not just BDSM. But some people emphasize those labels so much that it gets to the point where that alone defines them, instead of it just being another trait like dark hair or blue eyes or brown skin. I've always thought it should never be that way, no matter how deeply involved in a lifestyle you are. My question has always been, "What are you without the title?" It never fails. Every conversation I've ever had about BDSM always comes back to this.

And in my opinion, if all you are is wrapped up in whatever side you represent, whether you're dominant or submissive, then you've limited yourself. And if you don't know who you are outside of that, how can you serve someone else as a dom/master or a slave/submissive?

Its me again :) I get what you are saying and for me personally I am much more than just a submissive. Yes its who I am, just as my gender is female and my hair is brunette. I am not limiting myself in any way. I am a willful, strong, opinionated outspoken woman who will tell anyone anything if asked and sometimes if not. I am also a mother, a student and avid reader and an occassional writer of erotica, I could go on but you get the gist. Everything about me is what makes me, well me and that includes my submissiveness. Its just one part that makes up the woman who is me :)

Topic the role of the dom and sub
Posted 25 Jul 2013 10:22

So following this logic...a master without a sub is just a dominant? So is a submissive without a master not a submissive? What then would he/she be? Because although a master has no sub, they still remain a dominant. So would a submissive not be a submissive without a master?

I ask because I have friends here who are subs, and they say they are, even if they have no master. But you seem to be saying that a submissive, by definition, isn't a submissive unless he/she has a master.

Sorry but I am going ot chime in here. I disagree with that statement (yes I know it isn't your statement Dani). I am first and foremost a woman, I am also a submissive woman without a Master, but that in no way makes me any less submissive. If one is truly submissive its a part of who they are, not just a role they play when the mood stikes (those types of subs/slaves yes, I would agree aren't submissive unless they have a Master). Just because I am without a Master, does not make me less submissive than if I had one to offer my submission to.

Topic Blowjob
Posted 21 Jul 2013 14:58

I m quite young, i m 22 i never received One And i was curious about knowing how many girls give them? Why?
When did you start And what turns you on?:)


Honestly, once you have had one, by the right woman, you will look back on this question and wonder why you ever asked it. Ride the ride its the only way to answer it.

Topic What are you into?
Posted 21 Jul 2013 14:55

People, people, people. Lets keep the thread on track. Private messaging works wonders for those things that should be kept behind closed doors. Otherwise prepare to bend over and wait for the next regularly scheduled spankings to begin. a1089

Rachel you know what I am talking about. :)

Topic Sexless Marriage?
Posted 21 Jul 2013 14:44

You do what you have to do, simple as that.

Topic What do you think about people who have no pics on their profiles?
Posted 18 Jul 2013 23:39

that they r ugly and doing us a favor by hiding it

Wow....Really? I can only imagine how well you do in the real world with that enlightening attitude.....*turns off sarcasm*

Topic Black and Whites
Posted 18 Jul 2013 23:05

Topic Jealousy
Posted 17 Jul 2013 11:11

Jealousy, like envy, greed, etc., is a destructive thing in ANY relationship (including just friends). Possessiveness is insecurity and selfishness personified. It is not - in my opinion - "just being human" - it's being childish and immature. Just my two cents, of course, you may think differently.

Jealousy may be destructive in any relationship but it is indeed a fact of life, it exists no matter how much we don't want it to. You may call it childish, but even the most secure unselfish person can feel this emotion no matter how irrational it may seem to others. Not wanting to share your Master or Mistress with another does not make one childish or petty. If the terms of the relationship are set forth in the beginning that it will be completely monogamous, and the relationship takes that turn to the man wanting to bring another woman into the mix, of course there will be many feelings and emotions, Jealousy among them. Its only natural.

Yes, I have seen many of your posts and this is not something you buy into and that is fine. Many don't. It however, does not make those who may feel that twang of jealousy such as the OP, as well as what Shery0724 wrote any less valid and it certainly does not make them childish. You speak of possessiveness being insecurity and selfishness personified, I have yet to meet a Dominant who is NOT possessive over his submissive or slave. It is also a common emotion in the vanilla world as well.

My master recently wanted me to share him with someone else :) good thing i saw yr thread at first i felt quite sad that i had to share him with someone else but i dont think i hav much of a choice:). He's the master he can di anything he wants

You most certainly have a choice. You should always have a voice. Speak to him and let him know how you feel about what he is wanting from you. Yes he is your Master, but that does not mean he can do things that make you uncomfortable. If he is not open to you being able to come to him when things bother you, then he may not be the right Master for you. Your emotional well being should be as high of a priority to him as your physical well being.

Topic Shaved
Posted 13 Jul 2013 19:36

I'd be lying if I said I didn't like the aesthetics of looking at man who shaves his nether region. There is just something about a rock hard cock that is glistening, the skin surrounding it clean shaven and not detracting from the awesome sight before me. Not feeling that tickling of hair as he slides......Damn, I digress in my response here. Ultimately he should feel comfortable in his own skin and hair so to speak, that to is very sexy.

You're the BigBossMan... Don't you have all the fuck'n answers?

Jeff, behave or else I'm gonna borrow someone's whip and turn you over my knee. a1089

Topic cops
Posted 13 Jul 2013 19:20

I would never downplay the service of a cop...ever. That's not what I was saying. I was just saying firefighters do it without the power trip that you see in some cops.

I guess that falls to the eye of the on looker lol

Topic cops
Posted 13 Jul 2013 19:08

Meh. They don't turn me on anymore than the next guy. I've never really been into the whole 'Men in uniform' thing.

With that being said, I understand a thing for firefighters more than a thing for cops. It cracks me up when cops have that false sense of authority. Like they enforce the law, and I respect that. But if I'm not breaking the law, what real authority do you have over me?

With firefighters, they have that hero thing going for them. It's a really selfless profession. To me, that's more noble ...and more attractive.

I have to agree and disagree. I agree firefighters are definitely heroes to do what they do, but so are police officers and those who serve in our armed forces. Anyone willing to put their life on the line for others is to be respected. And yes, some of them look damn fine doing it!!!

Topic Would you ever want to watch your partner fuck another woman?
Posted 13 Jul 2013 18:26

Only if you consider a nuclear explosion is an okay response to such a situation.

^^^ This. I couldn't have articulated it better myself.

Topic Happy Birthday to Nicola!
Posted 13 Jul 2013 16:56

Have a very happy birthday Nicola

Something pleasing to the eye :)

You are ready to rule the Lush world!!!!

Topic Gentlemen's Club
Posted 11 Jul 2013 18:44

I know Im not a fella but........I melt at the site of a sexy man in a suit or tux (and yes I know this image has been used as a members avatar)

Topic Kate Upton Too big to be SI swimsuit?
Posted 11 Jul 2013 18:38

The media saying she is 'heavy' (to be a swimsuit model) is the exact reason why women of the world are self conscious about their looks and weight. This could be the start of a major rant, but I won't waste my key strokes as I am sure most who read this thread know exactly what I would say if I did continue with it.

Topic Reporting Images in the Chatroom
Posted 11 Jul 2013 17:30

I've seen quite a few images being reported as of late. Please make sure you're only using the Report option when the image breaks site guidelines.


Bump :)

Topic How can i please my mistress when im gone?
Posted 10 Jul 2013 16:24

Telling you that is not something the Lush community can or should do for you. That is between you and your Mistress. I hope that before you got involved in this type of relationship that you and she talked at great length and set boundaries, discussed soft and hard limits and so forth. From your talks with her, you should know somewhat of what it will take to please her. You will learn more as each day passes with her. Each D/s relationship is unique to the two (or more if that's whats agreed upon) parties involved. Gaining that type of advice is from us is next to impossible since we do not know the dynamics of the relationship you two have.

Good Luck with your new relationship and I hope its completely fulfilling for you :)

Topic Am i really that unattractive?
Posted 07 Jul 2013 20:46

It's this kind of homophobia that keeps the human race from reaching enlightenment.

So sad.

Only when you don't understand what I said Jack. Amen does not have anything to do with homophobia. I just added the 'fucking' part for emphasis :)

Topic Am i really that unattractive?
Posted 07 Jul 2013 20:14

Oh would you two take your bromance elsewhere... It's making me feel icky.

A-fuckingMen. I agree

Topic Why so few for the guys?
Posted 07 Jul 2013 18:04

I can't speak for all women, just for myself. When I have a question to ask, I will not hesitate to ask it. I am very much a knowledge seeker, but I don't tend to just ask any ole question either. When the curiosity strikes me I will ask it and the same goes for my replies to threads. I only do so when I have something to contribute, I rarely speak just to hear myself (or in the case of Lush, read).

Topic Does it turn you on if a man is forceful with you in the bedroom?
Posted 07 Jul 2013 18:00

The turn on is just not in the force, that's just a part of it.

Topic Say something nice about the profile of the person above you
Posted 07 Jul 2013 17:43

He is extremely forum active, has some amazing poems and stories. Definitely a Lushie to know.

Topic how do i convince conservative wife into swapping any tips any idea???
Posted 07 Jul 2013 17:36

You can't 'convince' her. All you can do is bring up the subject and see how she reacts. You should be able to tell just by that.

Topic Marrying Someone Twenty Years Older Than You
Posted 07 Jul 2013 11:47

I'm in a relationship where I'm 16 years older. You guys suck but represent how the rest of the world views older women. suck!

You can't count the handful of replies here as being 'how the rest of the world views older women'. From my experience, younger men especially here on Lush want an older woman. It may be all fantasy for them and in reality they wouldn't consider it, but that is not the vibe I get.

Topic Let's Talk About Sex
Posted 05 Jul 2013 20:49

Welcome to Let's Talk About Sex!

In this room, anyone is invited to ask any question of any participant. In fact, that is the whole purpose of the room! Pictures, small talk, whispering and attempts at private chatting are not welcome here. Feel free to send friendship requests if you run into someone you're interested in talking to further.

You no longer have to wait for your turn in order to ask a question, ask one whenever you feel like it. Please try to come up with interesting questions and avoid getting on people's nerves. Questions like "will you cyber/pvt with me" are likely to get you kicked.

I came up with the idea for the room because most chat rooms don't seem to have much actual conversation about sex and aren't always good at welcoming newcomers. Anyone can jump right into it here, there are no favourites and noone has special privileges. Well met!

Please make sure that this type of room doesn't lead to questions that will break Lush terms and conditions. If you are not moderating the room please make sure whomever you leave in charge of the room is aware of the Lush rules.

Happy Chatting :)

Topic Ever fallen in love with someone you can't have?
Posted 03 Jul 2013 21:49

Not fallen in love, that doesn't happen online . But want someone I can't have?? Really trying not to right now...

I disagree with that, it is completely possible to fall in love online. As for with someone you can't have, Im sure there are many of us in that boat.

Topic how I know if she is flirting ?
Posted 02 Jul 2013 14:59

Exactly, just cut to the chase. She'll either be hitting him or he'll be hitting it.


Topic Reporting Images in the Chatroom
Posted 02 Jul 2013 11:49

Please, please remember when reporting an image you see in a chatroom, make sure its against site rules and not just against your taste or beliefs. There is an option in each room you enter to turn images off if they are not to your liking, but please do not report unnecessarily due to personal preference.

thumbup Happy Lushing

Topic Men owning toys?
Posted 30 Jun 2013 14:23

I agree with Dani, toys are NOT to be re-used with other partners. For many many reasons, if you replace the girlfriend, replace the toys, all of the toys. Otherwise find a woman who comes with her own set, then you are not footing the bill.

Topic New outlook on Cross dressing
Posted 30 Jun 2013 14:14

Moved to the LGBT Thread