Forum posts made by ravyn

Topic I want more.
Posted 24 Jun 2013 18:29

Thanks for the advice. We have talked about it in the past, which is how we got to this point. But things are at a stand still. He says he doesn't want to really hurt me, but I want it harder. I guess some is better than nothing, but it is kind of a tease.

If you have talked in the past then sit him down and explain your needs. He needs to understand your pain level, what he thinks may hurt you may be what you want. Pain to some is pure exquisite pleasure to another. Some don't understand the desires of someone who may be a masochist. Not everyone is cut out to be a Sadist either. You have to tell him just how hard you want it, what kind pain you are after before he can make an informed decision. But it may come down to he is not the type of person to do what a Sadist does for a masochist. I am not saying you are a masochist but it sounds like you may have some of those tendencies.

Topic I want more.
Posted 24 Jun 2013 16:10

So, I really enjoy being dominated. My husband knows and is the dominant one in bed, but just not as much, or hard as I would like. My question is what is the most constructive way of getting him to be harder on me, to require more from me, to really punish me when I need it? Thanks for the help!

If you enjoy this already with him, then you need to sit down and talk to him honestly and openly. An open line of communication is a MUST in any relationship but even more important in a D/s relationship. Tell him your limits both hard and soft and what you would like and or need from him. Communicating your needs is constructive and something he should be open to hearing just as you should be of his needs.

Without an honest open line of communication it is doomed to fail on many levels, not to mention potentially dangerous to you if you do not set the limits since you spoke of him being harder on you and reallly punishing you. He needs to know exactly what that means in no uncertain terms so things are never taken futher then intended.

Good luck and I hope you get what you are looking for.

Topic Say something nice about the profile of the person above you
Posted 24 Jun 2013 12:40

His name says he's curious, about what however that is yet to be detemined. He's friendly and may attempt writing someday.

Topic Fifty Shades of Grey
Posted 23 Jun 2013 18:28

Why can't this book just be enjoyed as a work of fiction, nothing more. I loved the series as I stated before in this thread. Is it a BDSM guide or bible? No it is not. It is nothing more than reading for fun and enjoyment. Lets not analyze this to death, this is like beating a dead horse lol.

Topic Say something nice about the profile of the person above you
Posted 20 Jun 2013 17:28

Very polite and a gentleman

Topic What's the ONE thing you really hate to do?
Posted 14 Jun 2013 16:51

Laundry and dishes come to mind.

Topic Say something nice about the profile of the person above you
Posted 14 Jun 2013 16:50

Hmm I am running out of things to say about you lol. Very polite and gentlemanly as always.

Topic The Gentleman's Charter
Posted 12 Jun 2013 21:34

A gentleman is a guy who doesn't fart, belch, scratch his butt, scratch his pecker, or pick boogers in front of women.

He also puts on a shirt when he knows the police are coming to serve a warrant on him.

A gentleman is always willing to bail his mistress out of jail with his wife's debit card.

And a gentleman knows how to live high-on-the-hog on his government monthly disability check and even buys his woman a super-sized meal at McDonald's once a week.


Haha that is awesome

Topic Does it mean she likes you?
Posted 12 Jun 2013 21:26

She is a one man woman and a real lady: no smoking, tattoos or swearing. But friendly and open and assertive at the same time.

I'm sorry but I have to ask, so in your eyes a lady does NOT have tattoos, she is a non-smoker and does not swear? Wow. I have always considered myself a lady and yes I have tattoos and I occasionally have been known to swear. Smoking is something I don't do and find it disgusting but it does not make one a non lady or a non gentleman for doing so. A lady can be many things and made up of many layers.

As for the rest of your question, I think DD answered it best.

Topic A simple question
Posted 10 Jun 2013 17:40

I was just wondering how to post pictures on profiles, chat, ect... I have been here for awhile but never learned how to do that.

Use this link for adding images to your gallery .......


This link for changing your avatar .....

I hope that helps :)

Topic Say something nice about the profile of the person above you
Posted 08 Jun 2013 19:43

Polite, well versed in good Lush etiquette and his profile is always a nice look.

Topic Ladies do you like having your ass fingered during sex or is that a no no?????
Posted 07 Jun 2013 23:59

I love it...............but anal beads are even better!!

I agree with the beads and raise you one glass plug :) even better than beads

Topic Say something nice about the profile of the person above you
Posted 07 Jun 2013 20:48

Dark, intelligent and commanding.

Topic what kind of seducer are you quiz
Posted 07 Jun 2013 13:47

Your Seduction Style: Fantasy Lover

You know that ideal love that each of us dreams of from childhood? That's you!
Not because you possess all of the ideal characteristics, but because you are a savvy shape shifter.
You have the uncanny ability to detect someone's particular fantasy... and make it you.

You inspire each person to be idealistic and passionate, and you make each moment memorable.
Even a simple coffee date with you can be the most romantic moment of someone's life.
By giving your date exactly what he or she desires, you quickly become the ideal lover.

Your abilities to make dreams come true is strong. So strong that you are often the love of many people's lives.
Your ex's (and even people you have simply met or been friends with) long to be yours.
No doubt you are the one others have dreamed of... your biggest challenge is finding *your* dream lover.

That test is a complete crock in its answer choices. I did not even answer two of the questions and it still came up with that drivel. Reminds me of the good ole Magic 8 ball lol Crap shoot of answers

Topic Why do men ask for the truth then hold it against you later?
Posted 07 Jun 2013 10:48

Why do women get pissed and refuse to tell us why?

People, men and women forget themselves and put their pride in front of their love. Is being right or vindicated worth angering the one you love?

Not all women do that, I will gladly tell anyone man or woman if I am pissed and why.

I didn't expect my question to cause all this.... Forgive me for asking... As I had stated, I wasn't doing anything but trying to understand a problem in my life and it seems that it became a big joke...

Nobody is making a big joke of your topic. There will always be some lightheartedness on a site like this, its just the nature of the beast. You are getting some good feedback in here :)

Topic Describe yourself in one word
Posted 07 Jun 2013 10:34


Topic Welcome and be nice to new members
Posted 07 Jun 2013 10:30

This thread really isn't a good ad for the chat rooms. I was thinking about joining in but was nervous as i'm quite shy. And if even lush regulars like Buz are getting ignored then they don't sound like the place for me. I think i'll be like Buz and stick to forums and private chats with friends. Rant over with.

Don't give up before you even start. Not all rooms are hard to chat in. If you sit quietly and don't try to interact then yes, you will most likely get ignored or get a hello or welcome and that is it. You get what you up into it for the most part. There is no need to be shy this is not face to face :) Busy rooms are a little harder as things do get lost and the slower rooms people might be busy in whisper or pm in which case you might not get spoken to either. BUT if you go into a room and say hello to everyone there is a good chance you will get a response. :)

Topic Say something nice about the profile of the person above you
Posted 07 Jun 2013 10:24

Honest and forthright a guy worth interacting with.

Topic Ladies...does it bother you?
Posted 05 Jun 2013 17:42

The thought of two guys does not bother me at all. Men are just plain sexy. As for threesomes with 2 men, no that does not interest me but neither does one with another woman and a man. I don't share at all.

Topic Say something nice about the profile of the person above you
Posted 05 Jun 2013 14:16

Sprite always knows when its time to get in her cage :) and often behaves badly just to make that happen. She is kind to all and is one of Lush's most prominent writers.

Topic Say something nice about the profile of the person above you
Posted 05 Jun 2013 13:45

Geez I feel like Im stalking you lol What can I say about him? Hmm...All around great Lushie and one people should get to know :)

Topic Say something nice about the profile of the person above you
Posted 05 Jun 2013 11:42

He should add to his story collection while he filters through the forums dispensing his good words to the lovely members of Lush.

Topic If you could bring one band or solo artist back from the dead, who would it be?
Posted 31 May 2013 22:36

On behalf of my mom.......Elvis

Topic Balls are $1250 a piece
Posted 31 May 2013 22:28

You sound like you are looking for permission or justification to cheat on your wife. Ultimately this is YOUR choice to make and as for your kids and her turning them against you, keep in mind kids grow up to have their own thoughts and opinions. They learn by what they see. They may not realize if they are young that you left because their mom was overweight and you were no longer attracted to her BUT they will understand when they are older. Things will be noticed and said and at times those things that are not said are more powerful. Bottom line is, kids are not stupid. They will find out if you cheat and you wont have to worry about your wife turning them against you, you will have successfully done that all on your own.

There had to be something there more then physical attraction in the first place for you to get married and have kids. Stop being so shallow and remember that with age, people's body and chemistry change. If you love her and are IN love with her then you owe it to your kids to work it out somehow. If you do not, well then part ways now and move on. Your kids will respect that decision more in the long run then knowing dad couldn't keep in his pants and felt his own pleasure was above their welfare and happiness.

All you will earn is the dickhead dad award. Do you really want that? As for the cost of your 'growing a pair', you've successfully shown you indeed do not possess any nor a spine.

Bottom Line.........Balls $1250 each, Character, Morals and most of all...Loyalty.......Priceless

Topic Do many women really like semen ejaculated on their face?
Posted 31 May 2013 20:11

generally i find cum intentionally ejaculated on my face to be disrespectful.

I agree. There are much better places.

Topic Say something nice about the profile of the person above you
Posted 31 May 2013 16:17

She certainly knows the appeal of a well-tailored suit :)

Indeed I do........makes me weak in the knees :)

Topic Say something nice about the profile of the person above you
Posted 31 May 2013 14:16

He loves this thread and is always polite and kind to other members :)

Topic Say something nice about the profile of the person above you
Posted 30 May 2013 19:21

Love the name and her avatar is quite nice as well.

Topic fuck me, suck me, pass?
Posted 30 May 2013 17:51


Topic Would you date a bi guy?
Posted 30 May 2013 17:36

No I would not.