Topic Support Gold membership....
22 May 2013 10:27
Very nice thread Summer, and you are correct Lush is a very worthwhile site to contribute to.
Topic Where do you wear - your heart?
22 May 2013 10:26
Mine is securely lockd in a box, which is locked in a safe which is surrounded by 50' high walls of steel. At this point, nobody has or will have access to it anytime soon.
Topic How do I tell my wife of 20 years that I am interested in sucking cock and more with men and that I have already done it.
22 May 2013 10:13
There's more to it than her getting over you being bisexual. It also involves you telling her that you want to have sex with another person. If you've always been monogamous and she sees that as an important part of marriage, this is the bit that has the potential to be more hurtful and upsetting than you saying that you crave cock.
Imagine telling her that lately you have the strong desire to sample new pussy. It has the potential to evoke that same knee-jerk reaction that spirals into insecurity, doubt and suspicion as she now starts wondering what you're doing on the side and whether you're pursuing extra-marital activities.
Yes, the bisexual aspect of it is huge, but don't discount the impact of her potentially feeling that she's no 'enough' for you sexually and that you want other sexual partners. I know it's not exactly the same as hetero-cheating since she doesn't have the sex parts you are interested in but if she views sex as intimacy and fidelity as a key part of your commitment, then it's going to have an effect on her.
As some others have mentioned, you might want to start with just the fantasy of it or the idea of you both being involved in a MMF threesome but initially state that you're not planning on acting on it - you just like the kinky idea of it as a fantasy. You might also want to bring this up during the heat of the moment so that if she doesn't react favourably you can just blame it on you getting carried away while having been extremely turned on. Sitting her down in a serious way and confessing it will probably be more apt to freak her out. Feel out the situation first before you jump.
I agree with DD 100%. No woman wants to feel inadequate or not enough. Doesn't matter if the man is after another woman or man, the feelings are the same, "why aren't I enough". Think very hard before you broach this subject with her as it may turn your world upside down. If you are prepared for that change, then talk to her about it, otherwise I would test the waters somehow as DD suggested.
Topic Do Women Like To Suck Cock In Public?
22 May 2013 10:06
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That is some funny stuff Buz, thank you I so needed a laugh today :)
Topic Where has Leena00 gone?
13 May 2013 20:11
Leena00 had only clothed pictures on her profile but was so stunningly gorgeous and sexy that it was breathtaking. Now her profile has been deleted - anyone know why, or where she might be posting these days?
If her profile is suddenly gone she most likely has either deleted it or deactivated it. It happens all the time, people come and people go. But, most always return at some point.
Topic Safe words online?
09 May 2013 15:56
Good question. I got here through the scroll on the Lush Home page, and was simply curious to discover what question "Safe words online?" meant. And, yes, perhaps my response sounded a little flippant and even disrespectful, which I didn't intend. I was just stating my preference, not trying to disrespect yours.
As is your right to do :) and I appreciate your clarification. We all have our own kinks and quirks so to speak. One of the greatest things we have, is the power to learn, I personally love knowledge and can't get enough of it. Whether it be the vanilla world or that of the BDSM world, there is always room to learn, anyone who says any differently, is just plain full of shit.
Topic Making a Move
08 May 2013 00:56
In your case, I'd suggest 1) re-adjusting your attitude. Don't think of it as "making a move on" them (You're probably not a Top Gun), think of it as asking someone you like on a date to see if there's mutual "attraction" and the possibility of building some kind of relationship. 2) Making a move on someone sounds like you're looking for a quick pickup, a one night stand, and bragging rights (that sux, man) 3) Be sweet, tell her you like her, ask her out to do something she enjoys doing but doesn't get to do enough 4) Don't have expectations
Very well said. Just be open and honest with her and do not have an agenda. Women can sense that and its a complete turn off.
07 May 2013 17:30
good question ... why do some women call themselves Slut?
I would imagine it depends on the connotation of how /with whom one labels themselves "slut" to. Many would call themselves a "slut" to their SO ... just because it's a little naughty, dirty and exposed.
Maybe it's because they truly think that title is not derogatory or negative - and they are proud of that title.
What she said....Context is everything with this word. You walk up to a woman and call her a slut and you are likely to get either your head knocked off or a knee to your groin. But between two people who are involved, it can be a completely different thing and completely acceptable.
Topic Safe words online?
07 May 2013 16:59
No clue. BDSM I don't do.
May I ask, then why post in here? I can understand if you are curious but your statement does not sound like it comes from a place of curiosity or possible enlightenment.
Topic Safe words online?
06 May 2013 20:38
Don't break your hip on the way to the pisser tonight, you old twat.
Really? Surely you can do this without those names. As wrong as this feels, bend over Jack lol
Topic trust after affairs
05 May 2013 15:43
Were you just fooling around with me again Jack?
Com-er you little bastard
You know, you might come across a little more credible if you were to curtail your name calling. Intelligent adult conversations can and should occur without the use of profanity.
Topic Clit or Periods
30 Apr 2013 18:05
It's a no brainer: Get rid of my body's main source of pleasure instead of bleeding for about 4 days a month.
AFUCKINGmen to that one sister!!!!!! No thought needed on this question.
Topic Would you be offended if a guy considered you a milf?
30 Apr 2013 18:03
That is quite an interesting point to me. I have a website called Sir Robert's Stories and play the role of Sir Robert when chatting with my visitors. "Sir Robert" addresses all the women as "Miladies" and, so far, I have only had positive responses. I understand that Milady is more appealing than Madam and, thus, you would not be offended if you were addressed as "Milady", is that so?
I agree with TDW I'd much rather be referred to as a MILF instead of Ma'am, That just makes me feel old and being a 47 year old woman of 2 children I don't need to be reminded of my age lol as for the terms you like to use, I particularly do not care for those either. They remind me of Robin Hood times where its said to women of royalty.
Topic Issues with chat and message functions
28 Apr 2013 15:19
Are the chat rooms still messed uo? I've been away for a few days and there not working as soon as I log in. Not sure if it's site wide or just me.
They've been working just fine. Have you tried going in and chatting since your return?
Topic Do you ever get jealous when a guy on lush flirts with someone and you thought you had something heading?
28 Apr 2013 13:12
Of course! I think it's only natural but at the same time, you have to remember where you are and to tread carefully on sites like this in terms of getting too emotionally wrapped up in someone (although there are always the exceptions to the rule). Everyone wants to think they are more 'special' than the next stud or bimbo on here and to see that that is not necessarily the case can be an uncomfortable reality check. Jealousy is just part of the dance between men and women.
Very well said and I agree. As much as we want to believe the things we are told, they really do need to be taken with a grain of salt and as Belle stated there are always exceptions but in general terms, that is the best way to approach this site or anyone on it.
Topic Third person question
28 Apr 2013 13:10
If my partner felt a need to add a third person to our bed regardless of it being male or female, he would end up my EX! Sorry, not into sharing or being shared.
I agree. As Dani said as well, it brings up feelings of inadequacies that one feels the need to add another into the bedroom. That is definitely a hard limit for me that I will not waiver on, No sharing on either sides.
Topic sexy favours...
25 Apr 2013 19:28
No. If my pussy is the only thing that can buy it, then obviously I don't need it.
Topic Why would anyone like to be humiliated and degraded?
25 Apr 2013 19:19
Just to be clear, when thinking of a dom it is not just a male preserve. Women are great at being the dom.
From what I have learned thus far women are referred to as Domme or Mistress, the term Dom does in fact go towards being male not female.