About albertagirl
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I am 55, and separated and I am what could be labeled an extreme bbw. I am here to make friends, read and chat, I appreciate the requests for friendship, and on that note you have to know, my hips and butt and stomach are very large and my breasts are not perky, if you still want to be my friend then send the request. I really enjoy reading the stories here on Lush, job well done to you all, you are all very talented. I read just about everything, and enjoy most everything I choose to read.

Name:
albertagirl
Sex:
Female 
Age:
57
Sign:
Libra
Relationship Status:
Single
Location:
The Great White North, Alberta, Canada
Interests:
My interests are varied I have many hobbies, I play computer games, read sex stories, chat, read sex stories. I like chatting here, the people I have met so far are really nice.
Favorite Books:
My favorite author is, Patricia Cornwell, I fell in love with her Kay Scarpetta stories, I used to enjoy Stephen King then he scared the hell out of me and I havent been able to read any of his books since... strange lol.
Favorite Authors:
too many to mention
Favorite Movies:
I enjoy laughter so I watch a lot of comedy, there are a few out there that bring tears that I really like, such as "pay it forward". I'm not into the violent or horror movies at all.
Favorite Music:
I like classic rock, easy listening and my favorite is country.
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Latest Forum Posts
Topic: Watching a man suck a cock
Posted: 24 Oct 2012 21:36

Watching a man sucking a cock or watching 2 men going down on each other is a total turn on and a learning experience, just as nobody knows a womans body like another woman the same holds true for men, only they know what really feels good and a woman can only guess at. Love to watch

Topic: BDSM 101
Posted: 16 Jun 2012 01:21

After reading some of the comments on here I was reminded of a little gem that was passed on to me by a friend, I did not write this but i think can be a helpful thing for subs to read especially those that are just beginning. I know others will disagree with this and thats fine, I just found it interesting and in most cases very true, and wanted to share it




The best way I’ve heard submission described was at M/s conference in 08. Submission is not following your Master. It is preceding him, clearing the path, and reporting back to him on any pitfalls or problems you see ahead. It is trusting him, to guide and navigate, to keep you safe.

The most common way I’ve heard Dominance described uses words that I wouldn’t use to describe a dog. Especially today – there are a LOT of anti-Dominant posts, and a lot of “Submissives Deserve XYZ” posts. But one thing I’ve almost never heard…what do Dominants deserve? Where is our "10" list?

1. Know your Responsibilities.

Dominants have responsibilities. We hear a LOT about that in our community. We have the responsibility to be forgiving and understanding. We have the responsibility to be strong and independent. We have the responsibility to be wise and patient, and to be controlled and in control of ourselves and our partners. We have to accept accountability for whatever happens with the submissive. We have the responsibility to take responsibility (and accountability) for both our actions, and (often) our submissives’ actions.

Well, submissive responsibilities exist too. (No, not “suck my dick daily” kinds of responsibilities. Those are play rules, or relationship kinks.) Responsibilities in submission are supposed to include communication with your Dominant. Having patience with the relationship. Working to build trust with your partner. And having realistic expectations of the relationship, while understanding the meaning of discretion when things need work. You know…all the stuff below?

2. Remember Patience?
Patience is a virtue, virtue is a grace, and grace is a little girl…

When you start dating someone – you don’t ask them to marry you the first week out. Nor the first month, or (hopefully) the first year. So why are you in a rush to be “collared” immediately? Why is there this pressure to invent a myriad variety of “collars” to validate every single status change in the relationship? Date. Hang out. Talk.

The same with fetishes. I understand you are a HUGE anal slut. But let’s build up to that. Yes, I can probably put together a scene with 23 different ass sensation toys, and a half dozen different positions, with FancyRopeWork (tm). But why? Let’s share other experiences. Let’s learn each other before moving into what should be a permanent relationship.

It takes time before a dominant becomes YOUR Master. It takes time for us to learn your little idiosyncrasies. It takes experience to recognize your body language, and to be able to intuit your fears and your feelings. There will be false starts, and stops, and pitfalls, and awkward situations. If you actually want a relationship with your Dominant…be realistic about it. (see #3)

Expecting us to immediately rock your world...it happens sometimes. But most of the time, it takes time and effort before we know you well enough to really rock out.

3. Have Realistic Expectations .

You aren't perfect? Well, neither am We. We’re learning every day. A good Dominant (one who will eventually be worthy of the title “Master”) is constantly working on those imperfections, through self-help, personal exploration, educational classes, and reading. Expecting a 29 year old to pay for all your dates, have a fully equipped dungeon, be the perfect boyfriend, help pay your rent when you’re behind, god-like lover, and be a Master-of-All-Toys is, frankly, naive.

It takes a lot of work to build a relationship - and that relationship has to be built from both ends. We understand that you are sacrificing a lot when you surrender your body - often, so are we (see #9). We are as giving as we can be of our time, our money, and our emotions. It hurts us just as much when we're dropped, dumped, manipulated or lied to. But, you may have noticed, we don’t have “Dominant support” groups, by and large. So while you’re risking more of your body and heart on the front end – we’re risking a hell of a lot of our soul and our mind on the back end.

If we’re with you, and making an honest effort…respect that. We respect you (even when we’re calling you cunts while whipping your ass) for your ability to take pain and suffering and then turn it into something amazing. We recognize your talents and efforts. Please, recognize ours.

4. Consistency.
It’s a real roller coaster ride to have a submissive who is one person in the morning, another at night, and a complete third when she skips her meds (see #7). And roller coasters are fun…but they don’t make for great daily activities.

We’re going to do the best we can to enforce the rules consistently. To respond to your needs as much as we can, when we can. To be the same Dominant on Monday that we are Saturday night. What we ask in return? The same thing from you. Make the effort (see #9) to follow those rules. Don’t give us the A#1 effort Saturday night at the party, and then just coast on the relationship for the rest of the week.

There’s something to be said for a sub who is the same Monday through Sunday in her level of devotion, her level of commitment, and her level of caring. We honestly don’t care if that level is low, medium, high, or barely existent. We’ll work with that – that’s what a Dominant does. We motivate, we train, and we guide. But if you’re giving us a different persona and a different level of submission every other day… the greatest Master in the scene couldn’t deal with that 24/7. Neither can we.

5. Discretion within the relationship .

Yeah, so. Going online and chatting in a slaves group, or on Fet, about how your Master doesn't scratch your itch, or how you're so disappointed he didn't do SexyMoveA#1 last night? That's not cool. We don't (believe it or not) go around gossiping with every Dominant we know about how tight your ass was last night, or how funny you looked sobbing after an emotional edge play scene. Please have the same courtesy - don't assume that just because you're the submissive, you can talk about anything in our relationship that you want to and call it "submissive sharing". If you have a genuine issue in the relationship - we should be the first person you talk to about it. Not your online friends. See #10 about that.

This is not an endorsement of abuse. If you are being abused (physically, emotionally, financially, psychologically, sexually, etc.), for the love of God, go to your local shelter. Your nearest victim advocate. Or the closest police station.

But please bear in mind – below that particular level? Relationships will always have problems…talking to your partner solves a LOT of them.

6. Trust. (No really, actual trust, not "earn it or else" trust)

No, this doesn’t mean trust me immediately from word one. That would be insane.
But this ties in with #8 and #9. You’ve heard the old adage “trust takes time”? Well, trust also takes effort. And communication (see #10). From both parties. Trust is a two way street. If your Dominant has to constantly prove that he’s worthy of your trust, then why are you with him?

I was once with a woman who had me convinced that it was a Dominant’s job to constantly be earning and re-earning trust. I heard the mantra of “a Master /earns/ trust” at least once a day. The entire relationship was one long marathon of constant effort to “earn” her trust by doing everything she wanted, and never disagreeing with her. It took a slap ‘round the head and shoulders by a senior Dominant and very trusted friend before I realized that I was being used.

7. Sanity.

This is a no brainer. But unfortunately, it rarely gets spoken of in our lifestyle. If you have depression, bi-polar, manic episodes, or have been described by previous friends, dominants or family members as a "wild and crazy" type...the odds are that you, in fact, need therapy. Possibly medication. There’s no shame in that – a HUGE percentage of people in this modern world have psychological issues that need to be addressed with pills or therapy. Please seek it BEFORE approaching a dominant. We, in return, will attempt to do the same for our own issues. Entering deeply emotional and effort-related relationships should be done AFTER the mental health issues are addressed and under control.

8. Stop Recycling the Past.

Your last Dominant hurt you. Or didn't measure up. I understand that, personally. My last submissive didn't either (see #7). But that said...this is us, starting fresh. I certainly want to know if your last Dom was abusive, hurtful, or cruel. You need to know if my last submissive was, too. That's part of the whole "communication skills" thing in #10 and it will affect how we interact. I do NOT, however, need to hear a daily address list of the A-Z of everything you ever disliked about him...or a weekly update on how I compare to him. Considering that I probably don't do any of the former, and don't care about the latter. This is a new relationship. You wouldn't enjoy me constantly comparing you, out loud, to my last girl. You wouldn't enjoy an intimate partner constantly comparing you to their last lover. I don't enjoy it either. Keep the past, in the past.

9. Honest Effort and Understanding.

You want us to know how hard submission is? Well, we want you to know how hard Domination is. We have to think in three dimensions about the emotional and psychological impact of everything from our tone of voice to our tools, from our clothes and cologne to our cock and cunt hair. It's exhausting at times, and just like submissives...sometimes we burn out. Sometimes we're too tired to be SparkleMasterLeatherDom/me. And just like we are expected (by our Dominant brothers and sisters, if not by our submissives) to be consistently understanding and supportive of slaves rights and feelings...we deserve a little consideration ourselves.

10. Communication Skills.

Domination AND submission. Master AND slave. Top AND bottom. Please note the "and". You AND me. . The "and"? That has a lot of meaning. It means that just as much as you expect us, the Dominants, to communicate with you about your training and performance...we expect the same. We deserve the same. If you have concerns - you need to talk to us, not post it on line. If you feel hurt, you need to sit down and have a heart-to-heart with your Dom, not slam them to all of your friends. If you honestly believe that your Dom has problems? Talk to them about it. Be a big girl/boy/boi/slave/slut/whore/bottom/queer/toy/androgyne.

But if you can't communicate at least as well as you expect your Dominant to communicate to you? If you aren’t making the honest effort (see #9) to become a better communicator? Then you're the problem, not the Dom.

Topic: What's your erotic weakness?
Posted: 04 Jan 2012 22:51

nibbling my thighs and the backs of my legs, turns me to jelly every time.

Topic: how do you define the word 'slut'.?
Posted: 04 Jan 2012 22:47

enjoying their sexuality, no matter what others think, they decide, who, when, where

Topic: Where was the craziest place u had sex in?
Posted: 04 Jan 2012 22:31

in a bathtub filled with green jello, the green takes a long time to come off both the skin and and the tub and it was hard as hell to get it all out of the tub and... other places

Topic: Why are males so obsessed with anal sex
Posted: 31 Dec 2011 16:23

To say all men are obsessed is simply not fair...
but there are some that seem to be, so to them I say ok you want anal sex here's the deal you let me shove something in your ass, maybe a big vibrator or a shampoo bottle and you let me fuck your ass, then the next time you want to fuck mine your on.

Topic: Ladies, would you masturbate in front of...?
Posted: 26 Dec 2011 11:06

masturbating in front of someone that your in a relationship with is great, I cant think of a better way to tease that person then to have them watch me enjoying myself with them and the same goes the other way I love to watch them too

in front of strangers, maybe if I knew they wouldnt hurt me or that I wouldnt see them again

In front of another woman, I dont know I have never though about it

Topic: Whats in your mug?
Posted: 12 Dec 2011 08:12

coffee

Topic: Whats in your mug?
Posted: 10 Dec 2011 06:10

Coffee

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Stories Published By albertagirl
My unknown lover

The incessant ringing of the phone pulls me from the shower, I pick it up, and after saying hello, I stop and listen close. That deep southern drawl pulls me in again. “You may not believe this,” he says, “But I can see you, I know exactly where and how your standing. You’re standing with your hand on your hip, trying to look out the window without getting too close. Wondering if you will...

Added 15 Jun 2012 | Category Masturbation | Votes 12 | Avg Score 4.92 | Views 4,167 | 5 Comments

Fun on a lazy afternoon

When I hear your car in the driveway, I come to the door to greet you, as I always do. Today something is wrong, you're moving slow and carefully like you are in a great deal of pain. “What's wrong?” I ask, “What did you do?” You just look at me and shake your head. “Yeah, ok, so I ask a lot of stupid questions.” I said, “but that's only because I failed the home study course in mind...

Added 15 Oct 2011 | Category Straight Sex | Votes 11 | Avg Score 4.91 | Views 5,865 | 6 Comments

Once upon a Saturday

It's Saturday afternoon and I decide I need a little R&R, get out and get away from the hustle and bustle of the city and Rick my boyfriend, he has issues today and I'm just not ready to deal with them right now. I'm just gonna hop on my motorbike and see where the highway takes me first ride of the season. If I go 2 hours out and 2 hours back home, I should still have time to get ready...

Added 05 Jun 2011 | Category Quickie Sex | Votes 12 | Avg Score 4.75 | Views 7,483 | 10 Comments

Dream Lover

I see you standing there on the beach, looking so straight and tall in your surfing gear. Yes you are a handsome specimen. Your hair all wet and windblown, your back straight. I see you smiling at me your hand raised in a wave of greeting. Oh my, you take my breath away. I turn to remove my clothing. I feel you come up behind me and put your arms around me, I feel your breath then your lips...

Added 24 Feb 2011 | Category Straight Sex | Votes 11 | Avg Score 4.73 | Views 3,827 | 7 Comments

I love to tease

As you come in the door, I come around the corner, dressed in an oversized shirt, and a pair of satin panties. You look at me and smile. You take me in your arms and pull me close, and gently kiss me, your lips soft and sweet. Our tongues meet and we explore each others' mouths. I grab your hand and pull you into the room. I take off your shirt, and undo your pants, letting them drop to...

Added 24 Jan 2011 | Category Masturbation | Votes 17 | Avg Score 4.88 | Views 9,306 | 15 Comments

My Sexual Awakening

My Sexual Awakening I open my eyes this morning and I look at your sweet face as you sleep, I smile and stretch. I have this desire to wake you and arouse you like you were last night. Your gorgeous cock was so hard, so big, and fit perfectly inside my pussy. You have touched me like no other man. I resist the temptation for now. Instead, I slide out from under the covers and head into...

Added 13 Jan 2011 | Category Straight Sex | Votes 11 | Avg Score 4.91 | Views 5,994 | 9 Comments

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