Forum posts made by ankara1

Topic BDSM without a safe word
Posted 07 Oct 2014 22:33

If it is just a gag, I use a hand signal, similar to what sprite suggested, if bondage is involved as well then I hold onto a small easy to hold bouncy ball, dropping it signals to my Mistress that I want to stop and talk about something.

Topic A little help to make a friend
Posted 25 Oct 2013 11:44

where the hell are the singing cats?!?

*Sings out of tune* drunken

Topic girls, whats ur wildest fantasy?
Posted 24 Jun 2013 06:55

only one way to find out! ;)

But.... if I did I wouldn't be able to get to the kitchen to check >.<

Topic girls, whats ur wildest fantasy?
Posted 23 Jun 2013 15:02

.... Does that mean if I don't do the dishes a unicorn shows up in the kitchen? O.O

Topic The Joker
Posted 05 Sep 2012 00:51

Heath Ledger from the films, but I think Mark Hamill done great voice acting for the joker in the batman Arkham games.

Topic Collars.. Why are they so important?
Posted 25 Jun 2012 23:35

here you go :)

*Cuddles sprite* Yay =^_^=

Topic Collars.. Why are they so important?
Posted 25 Jun 2012 23:18

I always ware my Mistress' collar, it makes me feel wanted and reminds me I am loved. I was a little worried when I first wore it, wondering if people would notice it and know what it was, but no one has, or at least they don't comment on it.

My Mistress has written a part on collars on her BDSM 101 thread on here (I can't post links yet, but it is on the second page about half way down)

Topic Den of Silliness
Posted 25 Jun 2012 08:28

Hehehe, these are funny

Topic Things a slave/submissive shouldn't say
Posted 25 Jun 2012 07:38

Aww.... I can't post links yet >.<

Topic All things kitty!
Posted 01 Jan 2012 20:53

Happy Mew Year =^_^=

(Couldn't resist it) (ke)

Topic All things kitty!
Posted 24 Dec 2011 10:09

*Walks around sprite and pounces her from behind*

Topic All things kitty!
Posted 24 Dec 2011 08:33

*bounds in at time speed, skids to a halt across the linoleum floor and smile, purring, looking a little dizzy* did somebody call me? *playfully circles kitten dancer, eyes sparkling* a little kink? sometimes more then a little! *giggles*

Sometimes a lot more

Topic All things kitty!
Posted 23 Dec 2011 10:23

*Mews happily* =^_^=

Topic All things kitty!
Posted 23 Dec 2011 03:55

*Peeks in the door*


Topic BDSM 101
Posted 17 Aug 2011 20:18

The other thing I wanted to bring up: a few times people have told me they don't think subs/slaves are their own person

I too have been told this, both in real life and on here, and, I am very sad to say, I have heard those who claim to be a Dom/me say it as well.

It is completely wrong, a sub chooses to submit, we are choosing to be like this, and as such we are being who we want to be. People telling a sub they are not being their own person and telling them to live differently are actually doing the very thing they seem to think is wrong. And all I can say is don't listen to people who tell you a sub is not being their own person as they are, just these people don't understand why people choose to be sub and think we are forced into it.

Sprite is completely right when she says a sub has the control really, many wont think like this, and it isn't immediately apparent, but even when a Dom/me is commanding a sub, the sub has to choose to submit to what they are told to do ultimately they have the final say, if they really don't want to do something then they wont, sadly there are some who don't understand the sub has limits to and may force them to do what they don't want to, if that is the case then they have crossed a line, it is no longer a D/s relationship, it has became abuse.

I will add here, as said before, limits can be split into three groups:
1. Things a sub will happily do
2. Things they will do but may require a gentle push to do, and a Dom/me must be very careful not to push their sub too far, a good Dom/me will be able to tell where their sub's limits are and what ones they will and will not cross.
3. Things a sub will NEVER do, these are set limits that a sub will never cross, no matter what. Again, a good Dom/me will know where their sub's limits lie.

Topic BDSM 101
Posted 16 Aug 2011 23:50

I am MistressS' sub, she and others have asked me to give my views as well here.

Too add to Mistress' and sprite's points on punishments, for me, the idea that I have upset my Mistress is far worse than my actual punishments. Often if I break a rule, I will actually tell Mistress I have, I see the punishment as a way of being forgiven for what I have done, I don't like being punished, but being let away with breaking a rule is far worse.

I am not good with pain, so my punishments aren't usually physical, I may be spanked occasionally, with Mistress' hand, a paddle or a crop if I really step out of line, but my usual punishment is a time out, I have to sit in the corner looking at the wall and in silence while Mistress will go about whatever she has to do, until, she calls me out of the corner, another one that I get if we are out usually, is if I have really misbehaved I am not allowed to kiss Mistress and she doesn't give any signs of affection those two while not being physical still feel really bad and I'd often wish she would spank me so it was over.

Some try to say that punishments are abusive, this is not the case, as I have said, I will often tell Mistress I need punished when I break a rule, I feel I need it, and she NEVER punishes me more than I can handle, if anything Mistress is lenient in her punishments compared to others I have seen, she hates having to punish me, and I hate having given her a reason to have to.

Edit: I have re-read this, and should add, during my times out, while I hate it, it does give me time to reflect and relax, to think on why I misbehaved and to work on being better in the future. Ultimately, I want the punishment if I break a rule, and it is for my benefit, not my harm.