Forum posts made by byronlord

Topic Why do men tell you they love you when they don't have to, or mean it?
Posted 05 Apr 2013 11:01

So that "in a relationship with" option has caused problems - wow, who'd have thought?

I've heard of similar problems about people asking stuff like "Why am i not on the top of your friend's list? lol" It's right up there on passive/aggressive lushisms with "wow. you have a lot of friends"

It happens in real life as well.

I watched the marriage of my wife's best friend fall apart after she told her husband she was going to start sleeping with other men. Then after the marriage broke up the man she was sleeping with walked off.

There are many of reasons that it happens and they are not always the same. Men are just as prone to engage in fantasy as women. Telling a woman you love them is easy. Knowing what love is, rather harder. Knowing what you mean by love is what the other person does, harder still.

If you don't believe defining love is hard, try this, describe what the colour red looks like to someone else. By which I don't mean tell me what something that is red looks like, I mean what is the sensation of redness like for you. It is completely impossible as there are no intersubjective frames of reference.

That is why telling someone that you are thinking about them, or that you hope something happens for them, or that you want to spend time with them means rather more than 'love'.

Another reason is that sometimes you thought you were in love with someone right up to the moment you tell them you love them. And that is the exact moment you suddenly realize that you don't. Hey, I was 16 at the time and we were Saddlebacking. Sue me.

Topic how would you react to a guy getting hard at a nude beach
Posted 04 Apr 2013 06:30

Finding all the negative responses to having an erection at a nude beach a little troubling. But it appears most are from people who have never gone. When answering please let us know if you have ever experienced public nudity or have seen a guy get hard in that type of setting. Thanks

??? I have to wonder about your candidness here since what you asked is discussed in EVERY nudist guide I have ever seen and the answer is ALWAYS the one you got here. So to fein surprise or dismiss the opinions in the way you do really does not give you much credibility.

The reaction you are likely to get on any of the beaches I have been to ranges from indifference to being kicked off the beach entirely. There are some beaches that I know of where something else might happen but they are strictly 18+ beaches and people go there to have public sex so your erection is not exactly out of place. But those are not what I would call a nude beach, they are beaches which permit public orgies.

Topic Do all Dominants want multiple submissives?
Posted 04 Apr 2013 06:19

i guess i just need too much personal attention to thrive in a situation like that. and being a Dom/me is hard work, doing that for more than one sub just seems like too much.

... you think there might be subs that are so demanding their Dom's need a rest from time to time? Should that surprise me?

One of the bad habits of the net is the way that everything seems to turn into what we call in the UK a dick size measuring contest. People assert that there is only one proper way to do something and if it isn't theirs then it does not count or is wrong or inadequate. The only real Lesbians are gold stars! Role play is not proper BDSM, got to live it 24/7! A/V double penetration is passe, got to be double anal or it s nothing!

Most people get on with two parents, so I can't see why having two Masters would be inconceivable. The main issue would be whether the Masters could agree on a consistent approach. Otherwise it is a recipe for, umm a sub plot for one of my novels.

Topic How Many Famous Stories?
Posted 03 Apr 2013 13:24

This was just brought to my attention by Peter_Pan.
I have 17 (seventeen) stories here that are "Famous"; that is, with more than 30,000 views each.
Is this very high? Do any other folks have more "Famous" stories than this?

Let me guess, how many of those are in the 'Incest' category?

Like peasants in Blackadder, those only count in the case of a tie.

Topic how would you react to a guy getting hard at a nude beach
Posted 03 Apr 2013 08:26

My only experience of nude beaches is the one at Brighton (UK South Coast). It's not really a family beach, but otherwise there are a real mixture of ages. I wish I could say most people go there for non sexual reasons, but a lot of gay men use it, and some of them don't seem to hide their erections as well as they should. Perhaps I'm just jealous because I'm not the cause lol. Mind you, that does give me the freedom to look without fear of being chatted up...

Which is I think one of the reasons I am skeptical about Trinket's position.

Yes there are some people who go to nude beaches without any sexual thoughts whatsoever. But there are rather obviously some who go with very sexual thoughts in mind and everyone is aware of that or why else would an erection be an issue at all?

Topic My Boyfriend Wants to Make Me His Sub; What Do I Do?!?!
Posted 03 Apr 2013 07:59

I have to disagree. There are many levels to ones submission. Not all D/s relationships are roleplay, those who enjoy the roleplay, its just that. Those who choose to live the lifestyle its a much deeper commitment and meaning than those who simply want to play the role while in the bedroom.

I thought that is what I was saying there. It is a deeper commitment but what I don't think gets sufficiently acknowledged is that it is a huge commitment for the D and not just for the s.

However it is not quite clear what the boundaries are here and maybe that is what they should be considering. It is not a choice between roleplay in the bedroom and 24/7 D/s. Maybe they might want to move to D/s in the bedroom rather than roleplaying it. Or D/s in the whole house during the weekends or even the whole week. See how they both feel about it and whether they want to extend those boundaries.

Topic how would you react to a guy getting hard at a nude beach
Posted 03 Apr 2013 07:44

I wouldn't take children to one either. Unfortunately some people do.

i think it depends on the beach actually. I would not take my children to Baker Beach in San Francisco but I might take them to a family centered resort.

Topic how would you react to a guy getting hard at a nude beach
Posted 03 Apr 2013 07:42

trinket wrote:
Nudist beaches are all about the freedom of not wearing clothing, NOT about anything sexual at all.

If you are going to a nude beach to perve at naked people, then you shouldn't be there. That makes you a pervert. I'm not saying some people don't go there to perve, I'm saying that is not the purpose of nude beaches.

Do you have a different view of what nudist beaches are for Byron?

I am simply rather skeptical of the vehemence of the denials. Everything that happens in our culture is connected to sex. And that is even more so in countries like Saudi Arabia where people think about sex far more, not less.

So the idea that people are cavorting around nude and it has NOTHING AT ALL TO DO WITH SEX... well I think folk are being a little over-defensive and not exactly accurate.

There is however a big difference between going to a nude beach to enjoy the sight of beautiful naked bodies and going there to letch at them. But it is a rather more subtle difference than I think you allow. Its the difference between buying a girl a drink in the bar while you are chatting her up and slipping rophinal in it. There is a line there but I don't think it is drawn quite where you claim.

Topic My Boyfriend Wants to Make Me His Sub; What Do I Do?!?!
Posted 02 Apr 2013 14:58

My boyfriend and I have always had a very creative and satisfying sex life, and I've always been open to trying new things, but I was a little apprehensive when he told me he wanted me to become his submissive. He's always been assertive and dominate over me, and I like that about him, but I guess the thought of giving myself to someone utterly and completely kind of scares me.

My question is what is to be expected when becoming a sub? What's it like to surrender your body and soul to someone? How do you keep from losing yourself in the process? And doms, how does it feel having that much control over someone? And how can you tell when you've taken too much from them?

I would wonder about it from the other side as well. Does he really understand what he is getting into? The fact that he would ask you rather than wait for you to ask him maybe suggests a misunderstanding.

I have no use for a sub because I have more than enough to do looking after a wife and two kids. A sub is basically asking you to micro-manage their lives for them. That is a non-trivial investment in time and energy. Roleplay is a time limited commitment.

Topic how would you react to a guy getting hard at a nude beach
Posted 02 Apr 2013 07:42

Nudist beaches are all about the freedom of not wearing clothing, NOT about anything sexual at all.

Hmmm, yes, really. I know that is what everyone says. I am not at all sure that it is true.

But there is a particular etiquette to be observed even at an orgy, or rather especially so at an orgy. And there is an etiquette for a nude beach which is you cover up an erection.

Topic Would you date a Porn star?
Posted 01 Apr 2013 04:51

Only if she didn't insist on me doing superman - I don't think my back would hold out.

Date yes, but whats she going to do after her looks fade? Its kind of a short term career that.

Topic name a tv comedy programme that you never laughed to
Posted 01 Apr 2013 04:39

Almost all of them as I don't watch television much. American sitcoms with canned laughter are just not interesting to me.

I do read comic strips though and there are quite a few there that seem to be completely devoid of interest of any kind. Zippy the Pinhead was considered a cult when I was at MIT. But to me its just an Emperor's new clothes situation. People pretend to find it interesting because it is considered uncool to point out that it is just crap.

Topic Why is girl-girl erotica so hot?!!
Posted 31 Mar 2013 20:41

I'm a female and I far prefer hetero porn to girl/girl. I probably watch a bit of everything at some point, but I would say at least 85% of it is hetero based. Honestly - the 'soft and sensitive' lesbian porn tends to put me to sleep.

To be fair, there is a lot of really lame/generic porn out there that comes in all sexual orientations - namely the fake orgasm, no eye-contact, vacant sex-bot style of sex. It's easy to avoid those, however, unless one's porn habits are relegated to the kind of stuff that plays on the movie network and fringe TV channels after 2am.

Which is what I think drives the girl/girl thing. Good male porn models are pretty rare. Most porn is made by people who see their male audience as seedy sleazeballs and they hire actors that fit that stereotype. The girl is obviously not turned on by the guy and is faking it. The guy obviously doesn't have the slightest interest in the girl.

There is some good hetero porn out there, but it is pretty rare.

Topic The two way highway known as oral sex.
Posted 31 Mar 2013 20:16

I'm a firm believer in the give and take. How can you expect someone to give it and not want something back?

I think it is very different for men and women. I actually prefer to give than receive.

For a man oral sex is an appetizer, for a woman it is often the main course. So when a man doesn't reciprocate he is doubly neglecting his duties.

Topic Sales Tax
Posted 30 Mar 2013 08:32

The right loves sales taxes because their whole goal is to provide the largest return possible for their shareholders while bilking the rubes who vote for them. " LB

do tell , how does a business that collects the tax make a profit ?

The GOP runs as a business. Koch brothers give them money, they pass bills to lower their taxes and let them do whatever they like to the environment. It is known as transactional lobbying. Sheldon Adelson is the same, he faced possible jail for the bribes he paid to set up a casino in China. Giving $200 million to the GOP made the prosecutors back off lest they be accused of retaliating.

The Koch Bros and their ilk love the idea of a switch to a sales tax as it would reduce their taxes at the cost of everyone else. Romney has already managed to reduce his tax bill to 15% and you can be sure the rest of the GOP shareholders are the same.

Meanwhile the Republican politicians think that all they need to do is find another group for elderly white men to hate and they can maybe win another election cycle. Only that has stopped working. It is no longer OK to hate Latinos or Gays.

Topic New cock pump
Posted 30 Mar 2013 08:17

I know a urologist that specializes in men's sexual health and he prescribes, so to speak, penis pumps to older gentleman that have erection problems. Evidently there are several ways they treat erection dysfunction from the viagra type medications, and injections, to penis implants. Evidently the injections go right into the penis. That sounds awful but I guess it works. He said that with the pump they usually take a pill, then pump their penis up and then slip a rubber cock ring on to hold the blood in.

I guess guys if we live long enough we'll be finding out first hand about all of these procedures.

I think there are two separate issues, one is the use of a pump to get an erection, the other is to make the penis bigger. There are good anatomical reasons to expect the first to work and the second to not.

Topic Savings In Cyprus are Under Attack, now the USA
Posted 29 Mar 2013 12:16

Found this out firsthand not long ago. I'm 22, and if my circumstances were slightly different, I'd qualify for an FHA loan, which gets me in the door for about 3% of the total cost. So on a $150,000 home, that's just $4,500 down. The FHA is widely available, and geared toward both first time buyers and high-income/low-cash-reserve buyers.

Byron's point is well taken, but the large-scale problem of foreclosures and defaults has more to do with the predatory $0-down and ARM loans. If and when I go the FHA route (assuming it's still available, of course), I'll keep a few thousand on hand, hopefully, and if the worst happens, then the worst happens. But there's no way in hell I'm going to amass 30k before I buy a house, nor will I buy something shitty just to get that 20% number down to something reasonable for me. If that's what the market coerces me to do, then I'll happily rent, just as I do now. Given the choice though, I've seen the light: it's better to buy.

The problem that arises with zero downpayment loans is that they allow house prices to spiral out of control because nobody is actually grounded. Houses are usually a constrained resource so there are always more potential buyers than sellers. There isn't enough housing stock for people to buy their own at 22 so the question is not whether you will be able to buy but how people like you are going to be squeezed out of the market.

During the bubble the almost the only people who could get a house were those people rash enough to over-extend themselves with a mortgage they couldn't afford. A 20% downpayment may seem to be an unfair means of rationing houses but it is a lot more stable than the previous attempt.

The other problem with zero downpayment loans is that they enable all sorts of anti-social speculation. Sales of new condos being a case in point. The school next door to us closed down and the building was turned into condos. The cheapest 2 bedroom condo cost more than I paid for our 7 bedroom house. The most expensive 2 bed condo was three times the price of the five bed house on sale across the street from the development.

The developer knew that the prices were ridiculous. But the reason he thought he could get that much was that pretty much every condo development in the area was sold out before the project was complete as speculators piled in to buy properties and then 'flip' them at a tidy profit due to the appreciation in house prices while the project was being built. The speculators didn't know or care what the places they were buying were actually worth because they thought they would be selling them on to a bigger fool than them. So people who wanted to buy a place to live in just saw the prices going up and up.

The other pernicious effect is 'home equity loans'. A lot of people lost their houses because they borrowed against the equity of the house rather than paying their mortgage down. When I bought this house the deeds showed that the previous owner had done just that. All of the money (and more besides) had gone to the bloodsucking cult they were members of.

Topic Have you ever wanted to be with someone and knew it could not be
Posted 27 Mar 2013 13:00

Of course.

Lara Croft (because she is fictional)

Angelina Jolie (because she went for Brad instead :(

Topic Should kids in the untied states have to say the pledge of alligence in school
Posted 27 Mar 2013 11:08

I agree. The kids should have to say a prayer to Allah every morning, and learn a sense of value for Allah. Oh, wait, you meant your god, didn't you? Which god should you force students of every religion to pray to, exactly? There's several thousand, at least.

Don't forget the Flying Spaghetti Monster!!!

Topic Sales Tax
Posted 27 Mar 2013 07:58

Sales taxes are beyond question regressive and especially so in the US where due to an oddity in the way mail order sales are taxed, Internet sales are considered to be 'tax free'. According to the states they are not but almost nobody pays the taxes due on their Amazon purchases.

I spend more at Amazon each month than the rest of my shopping put together. And most of my in-state purchases are of exempt items like food. So even though the sales tax and the income tax in my state are roughly the same on paper, I pay more than ten times as much in income tax than sales tax.

The right loves sales taxes because their whole goal is to provide the largest return possible for their shareholders while bilking the rubes who vote for them. Glenn Beck's goal is to sell as many gold coins as possible for at least twice the melt down value. Clarence Thomas wants his wife Ginny to collect as much in consulting fees from the companies he works for on the court. Karl Rove wants to keep that river of gold from Adleson and the Koch brothers flowing through his coffers so that he can divert as much as possible into his pocket in management fees.

All the talk of the trilateral commission and black helicopters and such is all just deliberately crazy talk to discredit the notion of conspiracy theories as stupid and far fetched. Meanwhile they rob blind the rubes who vote for them and spend their time trying to get elected.

Topic Should the sex offender registry laws be changed?
Posted 27 Mar 2013 05:10

I think that there is a big problem with these laws because they are passed as if they are a referendum on sex crime rather than as an honest attempt to achieve a policy goal. They sound like a good idea in theory but the violent sex offenders that are purportedly the target of the laws are a tiny proportion of the offenders they affect. Slapping a life sentence on any offender is something society should think very hard about. I don't think the representatives think at all.

Topic North Korea
Posted 27 Mar 2013 04:51

Actually I do not believe your statement about a war with North Korea being fought with F/A-18, Nuclear Armaments, and Aircraft carries to be correct. The reason for this because of NK own nuclear arms. Crude though they may be, nuclear technology is still desired for the legitimacy it give to nations that posses it (reference Iran), and it's (obvious) destructive/lethal capabilities.

That is the reason that an escalation to nuclear weapons is considered likely. North Korea has a crude nuclear device but does not have the ability to put it on a missile. So the response would be to try to knock out the North Korean army and their nuclear facilities as soon as possible. That would mean using nuclear weapons.

China is not going to allow that of course. But they don't want to engage in a war with the US. So their best option right now is to liquidate the leadership of NK in a coup d'etat.

Topic Savings In Cyprus are Under Attack, now the USA
Posted 25 Mar 2013 09:06

Very true Lurker! You point out the benefits of the 20% down bank policy. However, 1st time homebuyers do not have 20% (100,000 X .2 = 20,000 cash!). What 22 year old has $20K cash? And, that is a modest home for a suburb in St. Louis. The FHA does provide lower down payments (3%), but one does have to pay PMI until reaching the 20% equity requirement.

The problem with 0% down is loaning money to riskier consumers. Obviously, a retail bank would require the purchase of PMI. Higher risk = higher defaults/higher interest rates.

My generation is called the boomerang generation. Many go to college and end up moving back home because they cannot afford a house and have to save money. Rental is an option, but financially one builds no equity. Personally, I believe in a culture of ownership, not rental.

If someone does not have $20K cash then they probably should not be buying a house at all. Most 22 year olds should not be buying.

Buying a house is a big financial commitment. There are costs that you would never expect when you are renting.

The big problem for your generation is that most of you overpaid for a college education that was overpriced to start with and you probably won't see a return on. I have no idea why college costs so much. They pay the staff almost nothing and the students pay top dollar

Topic Would you let your partner have a once-in-a-lifetime fuck with a dream date (without you)
Posted 25 Mar 2013 05:01

So you get this call. Your partner is at some event miles away and they happened to meet Angelina Jolie and/or Brad Pitt in a bar (or substitute your partner's favorite). For whatever reason, they are really into your partner but only if you agree to it. What do you tell them?

Topic Can hiding your lush activity from your wife/husband/partner be considered cheating?
Posted 25 Mar 2013 04:41

Well can it? Or does it depend on what kind of activity you have her?

Judging from divorce filings, yes!

But so can looking at another woman/man. The fact that some things can be considered cheating does not mean that they are or should be.

I have to say that if you do anything you know your partner doesn't know about because you know he/she "wouldn't understand and or appreciate" you are cheating. I have been on the wrong side of this and learned the hard way. I know this isn't going to be a popular sentiment but it is what it is.

And judging by your age, well maybe your partner is from the era when sex was never mentioned and looking at porn was considered a really big deal. Views have thankfully changed.

If he couldn't even allow you to imagine being with someone else, well that is rather sad.

Topic North Korea
Posted 24 Mar 2013 13:55

It is up to the people of North Korea to change their government. Foreign intervention is useless without the support of the people of the country being invaded as was shown by The Bay of Pigs invasion of Cuba, the Soviet invasion of Afganastan, the US invasion of South Vietnam, the US invasion of Iraq and many other invasions and occupations.

If the North Korean people ever do revolt the results will depend on which side the North Korean military support, the people or the government. In Lybia, the military supported the people for the most part and Qadaffi was overthrown. In Syria, the military is supporting the government for the most part and the government still stands.

And even if the revolution is successful when it comes is no guarantee of democracy or freedom.

More likely it is up to the government of China.

North Korea is acting out because China refused to back them in the Security Council which is in turn because they are fed up of North Korea which is an economic basket case and an embarrassment.

At this point the regime is getting rather too embarrassing. Which is actually a quite logical thing to do if you are a North Korean party member. Having the Chinese ome in and rid you of your vile govt. is probably your best way out. If you try to do anything yourself you are going to be sent to one of their gulags. About 20% of the population ends up in a gulag at some point. Less than half survive.

So provoking the Chinese to perform a coup or invade or otherwise rid you of the corrupt government probably looks like a really good idea. It is what I would do in that position.

Topic Would you give up cigarettes to legalize marijuana?
Posted 22 Mar 2013 19:48

Of course.

Smoking is a filthy habit and the less of it the better. Not sure what marihuana is, perhaps it is how people spell marijuana after they have had too much of it?

Topic Should kids in the untied states have to say the pledge of alligence in school
Posted 22 Mar 2013 19:27

Well that's why we have seperation, to keep religious institutions from having the authority to go around killing people. That was the right call for the king to make in my opinion, sounds like he was protecting the minority British subjects from the majority of other British subjects. I don't know anything about that specific trial though so I'm only going by what you said. It seems like the king took some of their freedom away after they took away the freedom of that girl by killing her. I must have misread something because it seems like a prime example of protecting innocent people from religion unless you mean it as an example of the church being cleansed from a bad batch of apples.

That was one concern. But the reason they split from the Church of England in the first place was they thought the state had contaminated the church. Beginning with Constantine actually.

The New Testament has a whole slew of rather obvious edits. For example where is the rest of The Acts of the Apostles? It was being written after the fact so why end on a cliff hanger? It would be like having a history of Napoleon that ended on the eve of the battle of Waterloo.

Later edits were worse. One of the early popes got Mary Magdalene confused with another Mary and gave a homily about her being a prostitute. He had completely the wrong Mary but nobody could tell the pope he was wrong and the Catholic church stuck to that interpretation till 1961.

Topic Should kids in the untied states have to say the pledge of alligence in school
Posted 22 Mar 2013 16:36

Actually the idea in that was to protect the state and the people from tyranny by religion as well as keeping religion safe.

That was a concern but not the only one. The non-conformists original complaint was against the established church as being corrupt. The Quakers were concerned that the new state would have an established religion and return to persecuting them.

Persecution of the Quakers is one of the factors that led to the revolution, albeit indirectly. The reason Massachusetts lost its privilege of self government in the first place was the execution of Mary Dyer for her faith. The King ordered the colony to hold no more trials for religious offenses and when the colonists refused put the colony under direct control.

Topic Should kids in the untied states have to say the pledge of alligence in school
Posted 22 Mar 2013 04:34

Psssht. No. When I was in school, we didn't have to say it, just stand there and be quiet if we refused to pledge. I think that is fine and stands in line with who we're supposed to be.

Want to teach patriotism? That's another thread.

There is actually this thing called the constitution that means that it is illegal for a school to require it.

My church and Ben Franklin fought for the first amendment to protect the church from corruption by the state.