Topic Is everything okay babe?
28 Sep 2013 03:41
Just wondering. Women are able to include a man in their world more easily then men can. Face it, we're easy. But, rather than be with someone who cares and thinks of you in every way, women seem to prefer being alone or waiting. To be with someone that's a momentary turn on, rather than be with someone who cares. Not a beta male, or push over, just someone who actually cares.
Back story: I'm totally in love with a lady at work. She's a single mom, my age, beautiful. In my eyes. I've invited her to lunch, nothing. She doesn't go to lunch with others either. I've looked out for her when she's sick/down. Never leaned toward anything more than just lunch in order to get to know one another. Nothing. I know it's a dead end road. But, what is in her head? The proverbial question of most men, married or single, if they actually care. We've talked frequently, and we get along well, and like me, she's probably home now sitting alone as I am.
Problem: excuse my frankness, but I usually don't shit where I eat, but she is persistently on my mind, like now. She's very timid, and very shy although she is always dressed fashionably. She never leaves the office, so she doesn't dress for attention, she just has self respect and she always looks great. And, no, she does not have a boyfriend, or steady, we've talked about that. Two adults, single parents, I'm totally confused.
So, how do I make it better?
p.s.: Video found by inspiration from personal assistant.
I can't tell you what's in her head, but I can tell you what's in mine.
I was introduced to a man by a mutual friend a few months ago. He's also divorced, has kids, lives in the same town, funny, kind, active as I am, and thoughtful. However, I am not physically attracted to him in any way shape or form. There is absolutely no spark for me. It's just not there and it's not something that can be forced. Even with beer goggles on there's nothing. (I'm serious) I mentioned from the beginning that I am not interested in a relationship, but he doesn't seem to be taking the hint and mentioned to our mutual friend that he would like to pursue things further. This has now caused me to back off being friends with him. I'm not trying to lead him on, but I'm also not jumping into a relationship with him just because we're in parallel places in our lives. So, as you said, I will be alone and waiting for someone I have a connection with and not just someone who is around and available. So that's how it works out in my mind. I just want to add that my "alone and waiting" is spending a huge amount of time with my kids, family, and friends and enjoying my life for the first time in a long time. This has been a fabulous summer "alone."
Also, once upon a time in the land of my youth, I dated a co-worker. That shit went bad fast. Learned my lesson and never ever ever made that mistake again. Don't know about your friend, but this is definitely why I don't shit where I eat.
Take care and good luck.