20 Apr 2015 11:34
One of my best friends will not give Manchester its proper name, but refers to it as "The Scottish Play". But then he is from Leeds.... ;)
Topic Sounding Board Needed
20 Apr 2015 07:22
You seem to have handled a very delicate situation with your friend with all the sensitivity and kindness one human being can offer to another. You have let her know your feelings very gently, and it really is up to her to accept that. But it sounds like you have done your best to maintain the even keel of that friendship.
As for your relationship, fingers and toes crossed that you get the chance to meet up for real, and soonest!!! :)
Topic Happily Married?
18 Apr 2015 11:09
This is a fascinating topic, mainly due to the honesty and thoughtfulness of the responses. Although I'm single at the mo, when I was in a relationship my rule of thumb on Lush was to avoid any conversation that I wouldn't happily show my boyfriend, which seemed to work for us. But then, I'm mainly here for the stories and writing anyway.
As the posters above have said, lines gets blurred in a life long relationship when one partner loses their desire for sex. Lush must seem a safe place for the other partner to express themselves, and that is very much about their discretion and the basic happiness of the relationship. As the success of a very long term relationship is not necessarily sex-dependent.
I think things get more problematic if a long term relationship is not happy, and someone comes on Lush seeking some sort of sexual compensation. I also wonder about some younger attached Lushies who come on here not for the stories or friendships but specifically for sexual release. One does ponder over the longevity of their real life relationships.
Topic Corpsing during sex
17 Apr 2015 14:35
That's such a great story Joanne!! What a perfect gent at the wrong time, bless him! Really made me giggle!!
And yes, I have been know to get the giggles during sex, thankfully at the same time as my partner, otherwise it might be awkward..... ;)
Topic How much do you divulge?
06 Apr 2015 15:46
Sorry guys! I couldn't find the similar question in the Ask The Gals thread. But I am an extremely private person so I tell no one about my personal life. With someone I'm intimate with, I answer any questions as honestly as I can.
Topic The Rage Cage
05 Apr 2015 13:55
Maybe I'm just stupid, but I really don't understand ego-driven condescension. Perhaps its a form of imbalance or even illness? Very destructive anyway
Topic U.S. Politics - Religious Freedom Bill
04 Apr 2015 06:33
Really?? I assume by that you agree entirely with Storm Dog's views, which is your point of view which you are absolutely entitled to. I would say that everyone has applied their own logic to this debate, and I have read each post with open-minded interest and respect. I take note in that light that Storm Dog "does not come on here to talk politics", which is absolutely fair enough, of course. However we are all whole people on here, not just sexy avatars! And we all are mingling with a wealth of different life experiences. As a community of adults that stretches over many countries we can only grow and flourish by listening to each other...
Topic Do women really fantasize
02 Apr 2015 14:58
This is, in my opinion, a perfect example of a very significant difference between male and female sexuality - I'm generalising, obviously, but:
Women often fantasise about things they'd never actually want to do, while men don't.
When I was in my teens, my first girlfriend would never tell me her fantasies. I assumed at the time that she was just shy, but I suspect now that she thought (probably correctly!) that I'd assume she would want to act them out. It was only when I was in my 20s that another, more confident, girlfriend set me right about this - she was happy to tell me her fantasies, but made it clear that that's all they would ever be. It was quite an eye-opener, but a lot of things immediately started to make sense!
I suspect that many men remain unaware of this aspect of female sexuality, and it can certainly cause problems in relationships.
Hell, I think things like this are so important, they should be taught in school!
Absolutely spot on!!
Topic Do you consider yourself to be slutty?
02 Apr 2015 14:36
I do not think slutty is the word I would use. Maybe sexually comfortable or sexually confident would be better. Now there are days I feel just down right sexy but I can't say that I would look in the mirror and be like "I look like a slut" and keep walking. So slutty no, sexy yes.
This pretty much says it for me. Especially as my outer persona is demure and matter of fact, and the casual observer would never guess at the volcanic sexuality just below the surface...
25 Mar 2015 10:21
I genuinely clicked on this thread thinking it was a query about broadcasting...oops!!!
Topic I masturbate - and apparently that hurts my husband
24 Mar 2015 15:16
This is a really tricky one Metilda, and I can really understand you anger and indignation. And am glad that you know you could vent safely here and be understood.
As the others say, this is really your husband's issue not yours; not only the meds (which another poster gave really good advice on), but his growing older, less healthy and being less sexually active as a result. It sounds like he's taking out his emotional frustration and perhaps fear of aging out on his younger and sexually vibrant wife.
His outbursts are not helpful. Stopping you from masturbating won't solve his problems and will only put further strain on your marriage. To be honest he needs to come to terms with what is happening in his own mind and body, rather than project it on to you. Only then can you start to move forward together.
Topic Has anyone here had orgasms from...?
24 Mar 2015 09:29
yeah, I can easily reach orgasm from having my breasts touched, and also from no physical contact at all. That can range from aftershocks (after being with a guy), having erotic thoughts, kundalini yoga chakra breathing or just a random energy surge! *shrugs* Not that I'm complaining.... ;)
Topic Who is your favorite movie character ever?
23 Mar 2015 16:02
Some fantastic suggestions in this thread! Along with a lot already mentioned here are my ideas so far:
Squadron Leader Peter Carter (David Niven) A Matter of Life and Death
Charlie Newton (Teresa Wright) Shadow of A Doubt
Holly Martins (Joseph Cotten) The Third Man - and Orson Welles was quite good in this too! ;)
Cyrano de Bergerac (Gerard Depardieu) Cyrano de Bergerac
Rev. Harry Powell (Robert Mitchum) The Night of The Hunter - ok, terrifying and memorable might be better than favourite!!
Maxim de Winter and The Girl (Laurence Olivier and Joan Fontaine) Rebecca
Tracy Lord (Katharine Hepburn) The Philadelphia Story