25 Mar 2015 10:21
I genuinely clicked on this thread thinking it was a query about broadcasting...oops!!!
Topic I masturbate - and apparently that hurts my husband
24 Mar 2015 15:16
This is a really tricky one Metilda, and I can really understand you anger and indignation. And am glad that you know you could vent safely here and be understood.
As the others say, this is really your husband's issue not yours; not only the meds (which another poster gave really good advice on), but his growing older, less healthy and being less sexually active as a result. It sounds like he's taking out his emotional frustration and perhaps fear of aging out on his younger and sexually vibrant wife.
His outbursts are not helpful. Stopping you from masturbating won't solve his problems and will only put further strain on your marriage. To be honest he needs to come to terms with what is happening in his own mind and body, rather than project it on to you. Only then can you start to move forward together.
Topic Has anyone here had orgasms from...?
24 Mar 2015 09:29
yeah, I can easily reach orgasm from having my breasts touched, and also from no physical contact at all. That can range from aftershocks (after being with a guy), having erotic thoughts, kundalini yoga chakra breathing or just a random energy surge! *shrugs* Not that I'm complaining.... ;)
Topic Who is your favorite movie character ever?
23 Mar 2015 16:02
Some fantastic suggestions in this thread! Along with a lot already mentioned here are my ideas so far:
Squadron Leader Peter Carter (David Niven) A Matter of Life and Death
Charlie Newton (Teresa Wright) Shadow of A Doubt
Holly Martins (Joseph Cotten) The Third Man - and Orson Welles was quite good in this too! ;)
Cyrano de Bergerac (Gerard Depardieu) Cyrano de Bergerac
Rev. Harry Powell (Robert Mitchum) The Night of The Hunter - ok, terrifying and memorable might be better than favourite!!
Maxim de Winter and The Girl (Laurence Olivier and Joan Fontaine) Rebecca
Tracy Lord (Katharine Hepburn) The Philadelphia Story
Topic What are some feminine things girls do on a daily basis?
23 Mar 2015 15:09
I'm so glad Marina C mentioned clothes and colour schemes as I was thinking along those lines too. Skin tone and hair colour are important indicators not only just of colours but shades of that colour that flatter you, That's brilliant idea to go shopping with some girl friends, not only will their advice be invaluable, but just watching how they shop, touch clothes on the racks, and chat to each other about clothes will really help you in terms of seeing how women behave in an everyday very feminine situation, rather than us just telling you!
Also as any woman will tell you accessories are really important. Women are really good at those little details, like what colour tights to wear with a certain outfit, what shape/colour handbag, style of shoes etc etc. Again, girl friends will be a great support for that, or you can always ask us girls on here!
Topic Is it okay for the guy in your life to call you "bitch"?
22 Mar 2015 16:33
It's an interesting speech thing. Self-referring or "between the girls", it's okay, otherwise I think it's too much of the "thugs & ho's" attitude. Respect, not derogatory name calling, goes a long way in life.
This is it exactly. I don't mind a close girl friend jokingly calling me a bitch - or vice versa as we actually mean the exact opposite. But a man? It would have to be about context as everyone says, "Oh my god, you're such a sexy bitch" might be ok depending on the circumstances and degree in rapt adoration of tone. But his bitch? Well, if he wants to lose his balls...
Topic What are some feminine things girls do on a daily basis?
22 Mar 2015 14:46
I'm really trying to think about this in a helpful way and follow on from the other poster. Not only do I wrap a towel around my chest (rather than my waist) after a shower, I would also also automatically wrap my wet hair in a towel, turban style. I would use a lightly scented shower cream, and always moisturise after a bath or shower. I cleanse and moisturise my face every morning and every night, and although I don't wear a lot of make up I would never leave the house without wearing jewellery (usually a necklace and earrings to go with whatever my outfit I'm wearing). Not only would I sit with my legs together, I would tend to cross my legs and if I'm wearing a skirt, I would smooth it down over my thighs before I sit.
Do say if anything else would be helpful to you!
Topic ladies, do you think its weird if your partner likes to use sex toys on you?
22 Mar 2015 12:49
ladies, do you think its weird if your partner likes to use sex toys on you?i mean does it make you think he is an impotent? or could you actually like it?
Like the other posters, I don't find it weird at all. I was just wondering from the wording if the questioner thinks its weird?
And again, like most women on here I have my own toys and its always a further source of pleasure to use them when with a partner too, if he's comfortable with that
Topic I am Bi-Polar/Manic Depressive. (I suffer from a mental illness called Cyclothymia.)
19 Mar 2015 16:07
But I'll offer a rather silly if true analogy. Imagine you are a bottle of Pepsi Cola. You bumble about doing the thing Pepsi Cola bottles do... And THEN somebody or some thing WITH NO WARNING pops your cap and suddenly there is an explosion of fizz everywhere. (That's what it's like...) Not a great analogy I know, but even for those of us who suffer, it's a TERRIBLY hard thing to understand or explain.
Not a silly analogy at all, but a spot on description of how this horrible illness can explode at any moment. Having seen this happen to someone close to me over the years I have never come across an adequate description let alone one that captures this so brilliantly.
Heaven knows how much you suffer with this grim and isolating condition. But first and foremost you are an amazing writing talent!! All power to you dear Steph! xxx
Topic "I have a boyfriend!"
16 Mar 2015 17:23
The only time I have used that line was at a dance evening when a non-dancing guy (brought along by his mates to get him out of the house) who I was chatting too in the friendly way I do with everyone, suddenly asked me out on a drink. Obviously as a date. While I was desperately searching for polite excuses I suddenly remembered that I actually DID have a boyfriend (to be fair to me we'd not being going out for long) and gratefully seized on that and it worked without offending the guy. I did mention it to my boyfriend shortly afterwards and he was very laid back about the whole thing!
Topic sex as exercise
15 Mar 2015 15:16
So I'm actually wasting my time with the walking, yoga and and dancing? Actually, sod that, time spent dancing is never wasted.... ;)
Topic Happy Mother's Day (UK)
15 Mar 2015 13:51
My elderly mum loved her card I'd spent ages choosing and her bouquet of freesias and roses. I agonised over it his year, as the flower company I use normally do her wedding bouquet colours, but they have re-jigged their range a little and the girl I got on the phone was on her second day at the job and was getting horribly flustered. So I had to compromise!! Was so relieved she liked the results!!
Topic white women dating black men
15 Mar 2015 12:56
Why do a lot of white women prefer to date white men?
Exactly Danny!! As a straight, single woman I'll date any man I find intelligent, interesting, fun and sexy. Even if he is green. Mind you, I always had a bit of a thing for Kermit... ;)
Topic lesbians and bisexual girls/women
14 Mar 2015 18:02
I find the question odd and I'm a straight woman!! The explanations above make great sense as to why bi and lesbian women would join a sex site. But again that's nothing whatsoever to do with men. So why ask the question?? *scratches head*