Forum posts made by dancing_doll

Topic All women say looks don't matter
Posted 13 Sep 2011 10:01

Wow, who said that looks don't matter for women? Maybe for gold-diggers but then they have their eye on a different kind of prize, right?

As others have already said... don't set your sights on a woman that is out of your league (physically). People tend to do best when they are dating at their own level of attractiveness. If you want a girl that doesn't focus on looks, then you need to be a guy that doesn't have the same tendency.

As for the whole "the assholes always get the girl and treat them like shit and women love it" thing... There is a level of ego in even making this statement. That being that you think you are this great catch and it's all the women out there that the idiots for not recognizing this. Kind of like a passive-aggressive approach to the whole "nice guy's finish last" argument. Yes, some men are assholes. But they clearly have some traits that women find attractive if they continue to be with them. Same as how there are plenty of dim-witted bitches with hot bodies that guys salivate over as they ignore the size 12 'nice girl' in glasses with sweet, nurturing personalities. Yet you rarely hear the 'nice girl's complaining about why the captain of the football team won't give them the time of day. In fact I don't think I can recall a single post like this made by a female on the Lush forums compared to a staggering collection of 'nice guy' vs 'bad boy' threads. Or maybe that's just because Lush appears to be over-run with babes and supermodels who have never encountered such problems. happy8

Looks matter (to a certain degree) for both sexes. As long as people are realistic about their prospects, it really shouldn't be that hard to date and mate.

Topic Dealing with Rejection
Posted 09 Sep 2011 07:52

Finding your partner is like searching for a needle in a haystack. That needle can not be found if your using a pitch fork to look through the pile. You have to look at each strand of straw before you find the needle, otherwise you risk throwing away that one person who may be the perfect match. This is why I said in my previous post to honor all potential partners with a conversation. That shy guy may be the perfect guy even though he doesn't know what to say when he approaches you.

I agree with your entire post, except for this line (in the general sense). A lot of men on the singles scene judge women as snobby/bitchy or too 'high on herself' because she is dismissive or selective with who she talks to when approached. I totally appreciate that fear of rejection is very much a part of a guy's psyche when he makes the first approach. But... Guys don't know what it's like to be a woman in a bar or club where you get hit on every 5 minutes and have strange men trying to stop you or grab your arm as you move through a packed dancefloor trying to get to the bathroom. If a woman stopped to acknowledge/talk to every guy that hit on her, her entire night would be blitzed by trying to be polite and give every "potential partner" a chance. That's why a lot of girls end up going to gay clubs when they just want to dance and not be bothered by guys. I'm going to stick up for the girls at the bar who are getting judged as vain, egotistical bitches because they are ignoring 90% of the guys that hit on them. That's not to say that being rude is justified either, but in general women tend to have their guard up in social situations. There might be a 'perfect' shy/introverted guy in the crowd but there is a very tiny window of opportunity to make an impression on that scene.

Having said that, the introvert/anti-social type guys are probably going to do better outside the typical meet market places. And they are probably going to be better suited to a girl that matches their social style to some general degree.

Topic Dealing with Rejection
Posted 08 Sep 2011 13:17

I have heard this in the past and have no clue if it is true or not. Some women simply won't take that chance with a guy if no other woman has or will. If they see or know you are always alone that tends to chase some away, no clue why.(were not diseased, ladies) Whether they see you as broken and there must be something wrong with you or they just aren't interested.

I don't have a problem with this one at all. I've always thought more highly of the guy that is comfortable with the status of being single and doing his own thing versus the chronic relationship-jumpers. If a guy always has to be in a relationship and tends to jump from one to the next within the same week, there is definitely something wrong with him. That whole 'fear of being alone' thing is a huge turn-off (and red flag). I would much prefer a guy that has been single for two years versus the guy that was in a relationship for two years and just broke up with her the week before I met him. I see it as more that the guy is confident and independent and enjoying life without needing the girlfriend-crutch.

Now if the guy is staying single because he's anti-social, a loner/weirdo/loser and hasn't gotten laid in all the years he's been single, then yeah, I'd think something was 'off'.

As for the guy that works the singles scene like he's on a tunnel-visioned mission to hook up with anything that has a pussy, yeah that's a turn-off. If I'm watching him get turned down at a bar all night long and he doesn't seem phased at all and just goes onward to the next girl, I will be walking away too. Not because he's been rejected so many times, but more because I think his intentions are pretty obvious (and weak). No girl wants to be another number on the list of eligible chicks he's hitting on on a party. I'd say, after a guy has been shot-down by three girls at a bar, it's time to move to another bar for the rest of the evening. It's best not to keep fishing in the same pond.

Posted 01 Sep 2011 09:17

Love you, girl! Hope you're having a wicked and wild 21st birthday! XO

Topic Difference in Male or Female writers?
Posted 30 Aug 2011 09:21

I don't like to generalize on this one. I think people have different styles of writing but I don't think it is dependent on their gender. I think the stereotypes of women writing more flowery, emotional love-stories is a bit dated. The most hardcore/raunchy porn out there today is actually made by female producers (a little known but surprising fact).

I think writing style is dependent on a lot of factors... personal experience and point of view are probably the greatest influencers.

Topic Slut
Posted 29 Aug 2011 17:27

It's all in the tone and context, and it also depends on who is saying it.

I really enjoy it as an aspect of dirty talk, being sexually playful, growled into my ear at the right moment. And it's great for rough sex and role-play. I find it a little more urgent and raw than "naughty girl" (which to me sounds a little more polite.. and british).

If it's a friend and the term is used in jest, I will totally laugh right along with them.

I'd get pissed off if the person was using it in a purposely negative or malicious way... more because of the intention behind it though. Not because of the word itself.

Topic Fingers in Ass
Posted 23 Aug 2011 16:32

I have once and the guy asked me to, so I knew he liked it. Not sure if it would creep a guy out to try it. How do you know if they like it or if they even know that they would?

While you're massaging his balls, let your fingers move upward slowly. Tease the outer ring first. When he moans and moves his asshole back onto your finger, then you know he likes it. Most guys get very enthusiastic and aroused when you're hitting a pleasure zone.

If he clenches up and bats your finger away, then it's safe to say that he's a 'vanilla on a wafer cone' kind of guy.

Topic Missionary Position
Posted 22 Aug 2011 16:02

It's definitely one of my favourites, but I actually get quite active on the bottom. I don't see it as 'female passive' at all. I guess I have an enthusiastic pelvis... glasses8

I like it because you're face to face, and it can be very hot to have a man dominant over you, growling into your ear, wet kissing, tongue against the curve of your neck, and making you take every inch of cock, hard, rough and deep, especially with your legs over his shoulders. It's a great position for intense communication and dirty talk.

Missionary really depends on how you're doing it and who you're doing it with... as most sexual positions do. Even doggy can be boring with an unimaginative partner.

Topic High School Mistake
Posted 21 Aug 2011 14:08

No regrets what-so-ever. I never really got hung up on anyone in high school.

I always thought high school was far too young to take dating seriously... I certainly wouldn't have been read to meet Mr Right at that age, no matter how fabulous he might have been (or turned out later).

Topic Where is the Casey Anthony treatment? Man decapitates son.
Posted 21 Aug 2011 13:30

People tend to do a double-take when stories involve the vulnerable or the privileged.

I do believe that the media does drive the public interest though. The media generates hype over certain news stories and the more we hear about them, the more invested we becoming in them.

Stuff like the Casey Anthony tragedy goes on all the time, but if Nancy Grace hadn't spent the last 3 years talking about this case every single day non-stop, do you think people would have obsessed over it as much? Now they have moved onto another favourite "beautiful blonde american goes missing in Aruba". While Aruba appears to be getting a name as the Bermuda Triangle for blondes, how many people go missing all the time.

The media feeds us a story and once we hear it enough, we become hooked like the drama-addicts we all are.

Topic Selfish guys
Posted 21 Aug 2011 12:45

I won't get truly kinky wild if the guy is a selfish lover.

You've got to earn the right to enjoy that side of me.

There is definitely a correlation between the two.

Topic So, getting over someone? Want to help?
Posted 21 Aug 2011 12:41

MMonroe named all the best points.

Avoid all contact with this person until you have perspective. Never attempt to do the "let's be friends" thing until time has passed and there are no residual feelings left there at all. Everyone needs a cooling-off period because most break-ups are not mutual decisions that both people are totally ok with right from the beginning.

I usually indulge in going out a lot, alcohol, hanging with friends, taking a vacation (mainly escapist things) until I have things better sorted out in my head.

As MMonroe said... distractions are great... start a new hobby, get a new pet, write that book you always wanted to, take up kickboxing...

The point is to just distract yourself enough until you feel normal again.

Topic Points of Interest in Vancouver, B.C.
Posted 21 Aug 2011 12:36

It looks like the main points have all been covered... but... if you need the name of a great after-hours club that you have to be 'in the know' to find, send me a PM for details... Shhh

Topic Forum pet peeves
Posted 18 Aug 2011 13:23

Looks like a South American version of Jeff! laughing9

Are we absolutely certain it isn't Jeff?

Mmmm... I don't know if it is, but I'll tell ya... If Jeff had that sexy unibrow and angora gerbil nesting on his upper lip, I totally would have swooned. Shhh

Topic Caption This PART II
Posted 17 Aug 2011 00:43

"They tried to make me go to rehab, I said no, no, no..." Boo hoo!

from Kung Fu Panda 3: Coked-out & Cuddly

Topic Rules for the Friend Zone
Posted 16 Aug 2011 10:29

I had a male friend that tried three times (once every six weeks) before he finally said "ohhhh I get it now."

We would usually be talking about random things at his place when all of a sudden he would dim the lights, put on the sex tunes and sit a little too close to me on the sofa. A lot of times I would actually be talking about other men, hoping I could divert things from going there. But nope... he'd slowly move in for the kill... ugh!!!

The whole "I don't see you like that. We are just buddies" was awkward the first time. But when he tried two more times after that I got pissed off. When I asked "what part of 'I don't see you like that' didn't you get?" he just replied. "Oh, I thought you just needed more time."

With every male friend I've had, I always make it a point to talk about other guys I'm interested in or find hot. I've always hoped that they would be able to understand that I wouldn't be crushing and gushing about other guys if I was the slightest bit interested in them. But... some guys are totally clueless.

Topic Ladies turn: a woman comes up and kisses you on the street...
Posted 11 Aug 2011 08:46

If I was drunk and she was hot, I'd probably roll with it. I've had this happen in a nightclub (and especially a nightclub bathroom) on a couple of occasions. The street would definitely be a bit more bizarre but if I was in the right mood who knows.

Being sober... No, I'd stop her before she got close enough. I don't like strangers unexpectedly invading my personal space in a non-party atmosphere.

Topic The Perfect Pussy?
Posted 10 Aug 2011 20:33

I want my pussy to glow in the dark and taste like bubblegum.


If you do your kegels regularly, you might be able to chew gum down there in a few weeks, maybe that's a start?

Sorry Olivia, couldn't resist.

And then soon enough I'll be able to blow bubbles! drunken

Re the designer pussy specs listed above, I'm still catching up on all these new options. I think I'm ok with the idea of a labiaplasty in extreme situations and maybe the rejuvenation surgery if a woman has had tons of kids or somehow she was just born with a loose vagina (if such things are possible) and feels extremely self-conscious about it. I'm all for self-improvements if it makes a woman more confident. It's all personal choice. But... the mints are just embarrassing, especially if a woman is popping one in there before sex and thinking the guy is supposed to think she just tastes 'refreshing' in a natural way. Actually, I think they need to reverse this trend and start making Pussy-Flavoured Mints! thumbup

Topic Today in Pictures (post a picture representing your mood)
Posted 10 Aug 2011 20:19

Topic The Perfect Pussy?
Posted 10 Aug 2011 20:06

I want my pussy to glow in the dark and taste like bubblegum.

Topic When is the best time to submit?
Posted 09 Aug 2011 13:35

I agree with everything that Lisa said. It takes time to establish yourself as an author and actually get a loyal following.

I think developing an online presence where you show a bit of your personality will often make new readers curious enough to want to sample one of your stories. Hopefully when they do, the quality of your writing stands for itself. Some easy ways to do this are to properly fill out and pimp your profile. Make it an interesting page to visit. The photo album options are a great way to do this. Show people what you think is sexy in a visual way. Posting more often in the forums will also draw in new readers as they get to know you through your opinions and answers on certain topics. The idea is to make people curious enough to want to know more about you.

One can argue that writers with 'hot avatars' or cyber-friendly profiles will get more reads and votes. Yet a lot of those are throw-away votes so don't get discouraged. I've always found that it's better to check out who is following you (ie. the people that read a story you write and actually want to be alerted when you post a new one). I just checked my own stats and see that I have 246 people following me right now. I would say that I have never talked to 95% of them and probably 50% of them aren't on my friend list. So it's definitely not all about cliques or friends. Once you've established yourself on the site and have written enough of a collection of stories, the fan base will often create itself.

Topic What would you done to guy who would cum in your eye(s)?
Posted 09 Aug 2011 06:57

I actually watched some porn once where the whole point was for the guy to come in the girl's eye (she actually held it open for him with her fingers). I guess this is some kind of new fetish thing?

I'm going to assume that in most cases with normal people that the cum landed there accidentally, so I'm not going to saw his balls off or anything. If I got the feeling that he did it on purpose, we'd have an issue though. purposefully watch some super freaky stuff, don't you? I knew there was a reason I liked you.

Actually I found the toilet head-dunking scene far more shock-worthy than the eyeball jizz.

Yeah, I guess I've watched some weird porn. Embarassed

Topic What would you done to guy who would cum in your eye(s)?
Posted 09 Aug 2011 04:45

I actually watched some porn once where the whole point was for the guy to come in the girl's eye (she actually held it open for him with her fingers). I guess this is some kind of new fetish thing?

I'm going to assume that in most cases with normal people that the cum landed there accidentally, so I'm not going to saw his balls off or anything. If I got the feeling that he did it on purpose, we'd have an issue though.

Topic Today in Pictures (post a picture representing your mood)
Posted 08 Aug 2011 20:39

Topic Olivia's Corner... Welcome!
Posted 08 Aug 2011 10:35

Welcome Olivia!

It sounds like you'll be a fun addition to the mix! Pour Wine

Topic I have a predicament and need serious advice
Posted 07 Aug 2011 13:00

You are in the friend-zone. And the girl you are chasing is gay.

Any fondness or cute-flirty comments she makes to you are purely in jest and part of your friendship. Do not read into them or try to decode things that aren't there.

If a girl is into you, it will become very obvious.

Be a buddy to all of them (as you have been in the past) and move on to the next letter of the alphabet. thumbup

Topic boobs vs. ass
Posted 06 Aug 2011 11:01

boobs vs ass... ok, i so have this picture of them in a cage match now... i'm putting my money on ass, no questions asked drunken

This match-up definitely has potential for fight of the night honours. Boobs has good defence skills but my prediction is Ass for the win via rear naked choke. thumbup

Note: yes, that is an actual legitimate term.

Topic Born Free?
Posted 06 Aug 2011 10:17

I agree with many of the posters above... I am ok with modern, humane zoos near major cities (I would do away with the sketchy ones in small, hick towns that don't have the proper facilities and professional handlers). This is mainly because there are many wild animals that end up injured or lose their mothers at a young age to hunting/poaching and would die if left alone in the wild. I do prefer a more 'sanctuary' style layout. Obviously these kinds of zoos are more expensive, but I would rather see fewer "quality" zoos and sanctuaries. Otherwise, yes, HDTV is like your own personal zoo. There is an incredible array of nature shows available now that are far more awe-inspiring than anything you'll likely see in person.

I am against circuses that use live animals. Human circuses (like Cirque de Soleil) are far more entertaining anyway. I really don't like the concept of performing wild animals. That also includes marine parks. I remember loving these as a kid when I didn't know any better. Unfortunately they have created a trainwreck situation where there is nowhere for these large marine animals to go to once they've had they've been kept in captivity for long periods of time. That's to say nothing of the breeding programs of creating more babies destined for a life of performing and then otherwise being corralled in a small watery cage at night. These animals are not going to find any life contentment living in a pool and having to perform tricks in order to get fed.

I have read so many horror stories of marine-park disasters where trainers get killed or the animals end up killing themselves accidentally due to miscalculations of pool walls when performing or swimming, often right in front of a shocked crowd. I certainly don't blame the animals for handler deaths, but I do blame the idiocy of believing that by humanizing them (with cute names and crowd-pleasing antics) that we can delude ourselves into thinking that they are not ticking time-bombs and in constant anxiety/depression due to the day-to-day stressors of that environment.

I saw the video of the whale-trainer (pictured above) in her last moments.
It's a sobering reminder that the concept of "performing wild animals" is what needs to go extinct.

Topic What 5 consumable tastes do you savor the most?
Posted 06 Aug 2011 08:59

Ripe Cherries
Tiger Shrimp
Fresh avocado drizzled with olive oil and balsamic.
Dark Chocolate
Aged cheddar

Topic Best reaction when you first tried to push it in ...?
Posted 06 Aug 2011 08:50

Sometimes he looks scared. But that's what the ball-gag and the industrial-sized bottle of lube is for. thumbup