Forum posts made by dancing_doll

Topic Today in Pictures (post a picture representing your mood)
Posted 31 Oct 2011 13:07

Topic How to know when you're too picky?
Posted 30 Oct 2011 12:19

I actually don't think most people are picky enough.

I've always been very much like you in that regard. I have never been the type to date someone just for the sake of dating. I've always been of the mindset that I'd rather be single than faking it just for the sake of having a boyfriend. I've been called too picky many times as well, but quite honestly when you look at the trends to relationship disasters, broken marriages and cheating, I think people are too quick to settle or buy into the whole "you're nobody until you're part of a couple" mentality. Plus a lot of people don't feel comfortable being "alone", so they have their token boyfriend or girlfriend until something better comes along and then jump ship or start cheating.

Really feeling a connection with someone has always been a very rare thing for me, but I've always been comfortable not having 'fillers' in between the real deal. I actually wish more people were like this. It would probably cut down on a lot of divorces and broken hearts along the way.

My feeling is... if you're not feeling those butterflies or excitement to see someone, or if on the day of the date you start itching to cancel or wish you were going out with the girls instead or staying home with popcorn and a good movie, then he's not the guy for you. I used to give guys a second date sometimes "just to make sure" I wasn't into them but there hasn't been a single time that I can think of where that second date made me like a guy anymore than I did after the first one.

Topic Happy Birthday to the ONE and ONLY .. Magical_Felix
Posted 28 Oct 2011 13:22

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"Happy Birthday To You!" (pssst... I can't sing, that's why I always do these things half-naked)

Hope you're enjoying a deliciously dirty day! Mwah! XO

Topic Dudelicious Birthday!!! (Yesterday) CUM wish him Well, or Roast him
Posted 28 Oct 2011 09:30

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Happy Birthday Dude! Hope you have a deliciously kinky one!

Topic Young boy wants to join Girl Scouts
Posted 27 Oct 2011 09:27

If they're just a normal boy whose parents are putting them in girl scouts for the hell of it

That is a pretty scary thought! LOL

On the topic, I watched a documentary on transgendered kids recently that was pretty interesting. It turns out that children who are born intersexed are more common than we think and gender is often assigned at birth according to suggestions/decision made by parents and the doctor often based on the way the genitalia looks, rather than DNA/medical tests. Then the kids end up deeply psychologically confused later when they feel like they are in the wrong body.

I'd say if a child is truly transgendered and dressing/living as a girl the majority of the time, then parents and girl scouts should be supportive and, as Xuani pointed out, take this as an opportunity to teach tolerance to students. Tolerance is a much more valuable life lesson than anything they'll learn in Scouts.

These situations are pretty rare overall, so I don't see what the big deal is to make exceptions in special circumstances. Kids this age that are willing/wanting to identify as another gender are pretty brave souls to endure social backlash as it is. We all know how mean kids can be to other kids that don't 'conform', and that's to say nothing about the judgemental adults out there. I don't think this is the type of thing that would be abused by kids/families that aren't taking this absolutely seriously.

Topic footwear
Posted 27 Oct 2011 07:22

Honestly? Flip flops, Uggs, and free-run trainers.

But I stiletto-it-up when I'm out at night.

Topic Featured Members
Posted 27 Oct 2011 06:19

If you post stories, you will greatly increase how often you appear on the list. Most people who read an interesting story will want to check out the profile of the author.

If your story is recently posted, chances are high that you will have an accumulated number of views in a shorter period of time.

If you don't post stories and want to appear on this list more often, then try posting more in the forum or creating a photo album on your profile. When people see that you've posted new pics in their status feed, they are more likely to click on your profile to check them out.

Never forget... if you pimp your profile, they will come. 3601

Topic A huge SHOUT OUT to GAV for completing the server switch
Posted 27 Oct 2011 06:02

Thank you for all your tireless work on this Gav! It's lightning fast and smooth as silk. You've made this site an even greater pleasure to use... 3601

Topic Lush V2 Bug List
Posted 26 Oct 2011 19:43

After nearly 36 hours, Lush V2 is finally here.

If you find anything odd,

I guess it's just different, so I'll point it out...when I go to my page, all my comments are showing, back to 2009...I used to have to click on "Older Comments"...

Just thought I'd mention biggie...

Yeah, I was going to mention that for people with a massive quantity of wall-posts, it takes a loooong time to load a profile page in the current format. lol

Kudos to you though Gav, things are looking good!

I've limited this to the last 20 (I think), good enough?

Perfecto! Mwah! XO

Topic How do you pick which story on Lush to read?
Posted 26 Oct 2011 19:08

I typically read stories written by the authors I am following, my friends, and stories from the Editor's Pick selections to check out new talent. I know I'm missing a lot of talent along the way but with time limitations, I tend to default to the established authors whose writing style I already love.

As well, if I see someone making interesting and/or intelligent posts in the forum, I'll often be tempted into reading one of their stories.

Topic Lush V2 Bug List
Posted 26 Oct 2011 18:37

After nearly 36 hours, Lush V2 is finally here.

If you find anything odd,

I guess it's just different, so I'll point it out...when I go to my page, all my comments are showing, back to 2009...I used to have to click on "Older Comments"...

Just thought I'd mention biggie...

Yeah, I was going to mention that for people with a massive quantity of wall-posts, it takes a loooong time to load a profile page in the current format. lol

Kudos to you though Gav, things are looking good!

Topic I Phone
Posted 25 Oct 2011 10:35

I assume you're talking about a spin off of this 'study'...

I wouldn't put much stock into it. OkCupid isn't exactly the New England Journal of Medicine.

iPhone and Sex ] Dating site OkCupid has completed a study about its users’ smartphones and sexual history and has determined that among people who use smartphones, iPhone users have the most sexual partners, followed by BlackBerry users and finally Android users.

OkCupid looked at the data hidden in the images that users uploaded as profile pictures to see which cameras were used to take them — including smartphone cameras. With many of the site’s users also having taken personality tests like “The Dating Persona Test” or “The Slut Test,” which ask for a count of sexual partners, the site was able to cross-reference that data to complete the study.

In one approach, the survey sample was restricted to people aged 30. That way, differences in the usual ages of users of one smartphone type or another couldn’t affect the results. Among Android users aged 30, the average man had accumulated six sexual partners in his lifetime, while the average woman had accumulated 6.1. Among BlackBerry users, the number was 8.1 for men and 8.8 for women. Male iPhone users had 10 sexual partners and female iPhone users had 12.3

We’ve included OkCupid’s chart for that data below. We’ve also included another chart in which OkCupid mapped out and compared smartphone owners by age from 18 up through 40. While the sizes of the gaps varied, the iPhone, BlackBerry and Android rankings remained the same.

This data was tagged on as a bonus on a blog post about which cameras, camera settings and photography techniques resulted in the most attractive profile pictures. As you might have guessed, the higher the camera quality, the better the result in many cases.

The post is just the latest in a series of fascinating studies by OkCupid based on user data. In the past, the OkCupid blog debunked several of the biggest dating profile picture myths and found the ideal first message length for would-be lovers.

Topic Today in Pictures (post a picture representing your mood)
Posted 24 Oct 2011 12:54

Topic Erotic Stories Dos or Do Nots?
Posted 24 Oct 2011 12:07

When I want to have a male as my main character, I write the entire story in third person but tell the story from the male character's perspective.

I have started a story that is male-first person but I haven't completed it yet (definitely more of a challenge to get just right).

For me, it's definitely a bit more awkward writing as a man. Even for my male-perspective third-person stories, I have to get into the right frame of mind to take into account how a guy would react to and interpret certain situations. Sometimes I will do a bit of research and ask a guy first, especially if it involves certain sex acts that I can't experience myself because of my gender.

I think everyone has an "inner guy" or "inner girl" that they can channel when writing for the most part... as long as you've had enough life experience with social situations. You can also base the character on someone you know in real life (something I've often done for my male characters).

I don't think there is anything wrong with writing as the opposite gender as long as you can pull it off, and make the character more than a two-dimensional stereotype of their gender.

Topic Does body type really matter?
Posted 24 Oct 2011 08:27

If they're in my 'bed' and we're having sex, I assume they've already passed the test when it comes to a body type that I find attractive. In that respect, it does matter. If you're talking about little flaws that were not noticeable while they were clothed, then no, it's not that big of a deal. I think it also depends on how 'into them' you are. If you have a real connection, then you're way more likely to overlook physical imperfections, whereas if it's just casual dating or a random hook up, you might be more inclined to be critical or pass them over if the attraction level is mediocre.

On the topic, one of my friends back in university was always concerned about this because when she went out to pick up guys she would wear a padded push-up bra and some industrial-strength spanx body-shaper under her outfit that totally made her body look different than it did when her clothes came off. The illusion was like a firm-bodied, size 6, DD-cup when in reality she was more like a soft-bodied, size 10, B-cup. The guys didn't seem to mind that much but then again they were usually drunk when she went home with them anyway.

Topic What's the first memorable book cover you remember?
Posted 23 Oct 2011 13:36

Oh Doll, you have no idea! there was a cartoon! Freaky!

Hmm... I need to smoke up and watch that clip again... Regaeman Man

More proof that drugs helped create many a children's tale or fable.

Of course the cartoon makes it look all cutesy and whimsical...

These are the bunnies I remember from the book illustrations... confused1

For a while I was convinced that my pet rabbits turned into bloodthirsty zombies after I went to sleep.

Topic What's the first memorable book cover you remember?
Posted 23 Oct 2011 11:53

I can't find the exact book cover, but it looked something like this.

I got it as a little girl for Christmas one year because I had two bunny rabbits as pets and my grandma thought that I would love the book just because it had a rabbit on the cover. Uhmm... as it turned out, not so much.

It scared the living shit out of me and made me cry. The illustrations inside of bloody bunny rabbits attacking each other were totally traumatic to me. I remember it sitting on my book shelf and sort of terrorizing me every time I glanced at the cover. Even now it can produce a bit of anxiety when I see anything to do with this story.

But for that reason... technically it's the most 'memorable' book cover that I can remember. hiding

Topic Your man tells you he is gay
Posted 23 Oct 2011 11:17

I would be accepting in the same way that I would be accepting if the partner I was with chose to break-up with me for whatever reason. I think what it boils down to is mutual respect. When someone wants out of a relationship, they need to be able to dissolve the relationship in a respectful way.

There is a huge difference between a conflicted or bisexual guy finally being brave enough to 'come out' and live the life he really wants and telling his wife/girlfriend versus a gay guy that is purposely using a girl as a 'beard' for family and society and totally disrespecting her along the way.

I work with a women those husband's conservative background seemed to pressure him to pretend to be straight. So he married this girl and then basically just treated her like a child-incubator and roommate while he carried on with his long-term boyfriend on the sly. She had no idea until she caught them... 10 years later! I think it's unfair for a guy to fuck up someone else's life knowing that they have no real interest in being with them other than to sign the marriage certificate and procreate. Some women might be accepting of the situation (eg. maybe they are lesbian and unable to come out or women who just want to marry their best friend) but I think it should be arranged up front.

I know many gay men that have been married and genuinely tried to make it work but realized later in life that they would prefer to be with a guy. Personally I wouldn't have a problem with it as long as I felt like he was being respectful about the break-up and the situation. When it comes down to it, cheating is cheating. If he realized he was gay and we went through a prolonged period where he was withholding sex while fucking around with guys on the side, I'd be just as pissed as if it was with another girl.

Topic could you ever get in a relationship with someone who shared a parent's 1st name?
Posted 21 Oct 2011 06:25

It's not ideal but it wouldn't bother me that much. How many people really think of their parents as anything other than "mom" and "dad" anyway.

I would have a much bigger problem with someone that shared the same name as my 'evil' long-term ex-bf. That name is ruined forever as far as I'm concerned.

Topic Gav - congratulations on 10 years of marriage!!
Posted 20 Oct 2011 20:17

Happy anniversary!

May the love, romance and kinky times continue...

Topic What are your Halloween plans & costume?
Posted 20 Oct 2011 11:00

I agreed to be a body-paint model at a charity event so I have no idea what I will be painted as yet.

I've been a carb-free gym-rat all month in preparation though.

Topic Favorite sunrise / sunset shots you have taken or found
Posted 18 Oct 2011 19:17

Topic Today in Pictures (post a picture representing your mood)
Posted 18 Oct 2011 18:58

Topic Favourite (non-hardcore) Profile Images
Posted 18 Oct 2011 18:11

Topic FAIL Thread
Posted 17 Oct 2011 20:42

Topic Viagra
Posted 17 Oct 2011 19:40

You can buy it over the counter in Mexico so my ex-bf and I played with it experimentally about three times. Two times was after we'd already partied on X and the first time he took it and didn't tell me.

Yes, there is definitely a difference. The cock seems harder than normal, almost like it's made of marble. The fucking is more enthusiastic and vigorous (although this might also be because the guy knows he can fuck for days and not get tired or worry about coming too fast).

It's a lot of fun... but... in reality, there is only so much fucking you really want to experience in one session, right? Like hours later, you do get kind of sore (and bored). You (as the female) will want to rest, sleep or go do some other activity, and he will have a perma-hard-on for 8 hours. It's almost like too much of a good thing.

Of course this was with a guy that didn't need viagra in the first place. If a guy does need it, maybe the effects just even out to a more normal sexual experience. If your guy is young and experimental, I'd recommend splitting it in half for the first try so he knows what to expect at a lower dose.

I also tried a half viagra once, but there is some debate on whether this drug works on women. I felt super horny, but then I was super horny to begin with, so I can't say for sure if it made a huge difference for me. Plus I had already been rolling on X all night, so there might have been a different kind of effect.

Topic What do you do on this date
Posted 17 Oct 2011 19:25

Well... unless there was something super freaky in the box like a giant rubber fist or a buttplug the size of a bowling ball.

Can you please drop this...... Let it go Doll........ IT WAS A BOWLING BALL!!!!! A REAL BOWLING BALL, FOR BOWLING..... IT WAS NOT A BUTT PLUG!!!!!

xx SF

Let's be honest now... that bowling ball was really an anal bead that had broken off the chain, wasn't it. The bowling pins were the butt-plugs. I gotta get my toy shapes right! Plus when I hear you saying "stretch" from the other room, I know you aren't just watching another one of your work-out videos. evil4

Hehe... ok, I have now traumatized myself with these images. Must. Cleanse. Mind. clown

Topic What do you do on this date
Posted 17 Oct 2011 17:15

I probably wouldn't mention anything (unless I was very drunk or we were already having kinky convo), but I'd be secretly excited and looking forward to our eventual playtime with the toybox.

Well... unless there was something super freaky in the box like a giant rubber fist or a buttplug the size of a bowling ball.

Topic Top Chefs
Posted 17 Oct 2011 15:42

I'm not that well versed on Chefs and exotic cooking, but.... I would like to spend 'quality time' with naked Chef Brian.

Okay, okay, so he might not be particularly skilled in the advanced culinary department, but at the very least, I'll bet he would be good at tossing my salad.

Topic just fantasy? or can it happen?
Posted 14 Oct 2011 05:45

I don't think orgasms work the same as Pavlov's dogs.

Although, perhaps if every time I had an orgasm, I was rewarded with $1000 cash, I could be trained to cum on command.

I think for most people though, a person would have to turned on by the entire concept of orgasm denial and command orders for it to work... especially if you're talking about the hands-free, voice-command concept of orgasm. It might be a bit easier with the hitachi magic wand and a command, but I still think you have to be into that scene in general.