Forum posts made by dancing_doll

Topic New story announcements
Posted 17 May 2011 07:33

I've seen many different methods used for new story announcements. I am curious as to what readers prefer.

I was always under the impression that the point of the "follow the author" option was to allow individual readers to decide whether they wanted to be alerted when someone specific published a new story. I'm noticing more and more people are now choosing to PM their entire friend list whenever they post something, which often results in multiple-announcements if you're already following them.

Outside of the "follow the author" option that every reader has, how do you prefer that writers 'market' a new story?
Do any of these tactics annoy you or do you feel that the more attention an author can draw to their own story, the better.

Topic The Right to Eat Peanut Butter
Posted 16 May 2011 19:48

People will have severe allergies should carry the epinephrine and take precautions to limit their exposure to peanuts.

This affects a little more than 1% of the population. I assume the percentage of people that would immediately drop dead by coming within 20 feet of peanuts to be even smaller.

Society has become over-sanitized and over-paranoid about everything whether its germs or peanut allergies.

Next on the list of "we must ban it!" crusade is fragrances.

We can't live in a bubble or force everyone else to accommodate all of our allergies, sensitivities and issues when you are making up a ridiculously small 1% minority.

Topic Going Anal
Posted 12 May 2011 13:56

And I'll be the blonde in the corner working the videocamera...

Pleeease can I watch? I'll give ya both $10 if you let me! Make that $20 if you let me upload it to Youporn! icon_biggrin

Topic Cowboys or Rockers
Posted 12 May 2011 13:50

If I have to choose between those two options, then it's rockstars all the way!

I love the depth and edge and artistic unconventional mind. I don't mind a bit of arrogance if it's combined with an entertaining and outgoing personality.

I've never been into the cowboy thing...

Topic Why
Posted 12 May 2011 13:39

Actually I've known a lot of conservative guys. A lot of guys think they are sooo dirty but once they get past the typical "ultimate fantasy" of a MFF threesome, the sense of adventure quickly dries up.

I've known more truly kinky girls than truly kinky guys. Guys may watch more porn or be more fixated on sex, but that doesn't mean they are perverts in the true sense of the word.

I think perversion is an evolving trait as well. It's something you either embrace and nurture or avoid and hide from.

Topic male writer writing female protagonist
Posted 12 May 2011 13:29

I don't mind at all, as long as it's well written and I can believe in the authenticity of the character to some degree.

Topic do you write for the reader? or yourself?
Posted 12 May 2011 13:28

Hmm... not sure about this. A lot of the top writers on this site (and by top writers, I mean some of the 'most followed', with consistently high scoring stories) are men. If I look at that echelon of writers, I see it fairly balanced between men and women.

If you're just talking about getting a ton of votes, then the edge probably goes to women (especially those with naked photos of themselves). It's a social site, and a lot of guys will read the stories written by women they are attracted to and/or hoping to chat with. I think quantity of votes isn't necessarily a great way of assessing the "quality" of writing. Incest stories and female writers will typically be more popular that way. But... does the reader care about the rest of that author's portfolio? Do they favourite that story or choose to 'follow them' as an author? Something like that takes a little more commitment than a random vote in my opinion, so guys shouldn't be discouraged.

For me, I write to tell an entertaining story, but I'm aware of what my readers want/expect. The audience definitely affects what I write or how I write it. I've pushed the envelope before with mixed results. Some people might be willing to stay with a story I've written, even though the dirty factor might be way past what they are comfortable with, but I try to balance things out with stories that are more 'mainstream' as well.

I recently wrote a story (for someone) that won't be published online because it's a personalized fantasy with no limits/rules and is probably too dirty for most readers. When you take away the idea of an audience, it really takes you to a different level of erotica. It's an interesting exercise for a writer... I definitely learned a few things about myself... Embarassed

Topic Ladies ...Can you cum with out touching yourself ?
Posted 11 May 2011 14:58

Yes, and I can do it quite easily in public without anyone knowing (eg. university lecture halls, small classrooms, movie theatres, airplanes). I've been doing it since I was first able to orgasm, and sort of kept it up as something kinky to do when bored in a roomful of people. I think I've kind of perfected it over the years... to my knowledge nobody has ever noticed. I did in an airplane once sitting next to my boyfriend at the time, and then asked him later, and he had no clue I had just orgasmed. I find the orgasms fairly intense (they are all kegal related). And the mind is the biggest sex organ, right?

Topic Alright, spill...
Posted 10 May 2011 19:59

My favourite drink is an extra dirty vodka martini with blue-cheese stuffed olives (if I'm out in a lounge). In a busy bar or club I'm a vodka-soda girl (preferably pear-vodka) with a twist of lime... or vodka/water for the healthiest option. I usually end my drinking nights when I'm out with vodka sodas because they are easy to shout and order at the bar and they are good to help sober up (nightclubs make vodka soda notoriously weak).

I do like wine (red in the winter and dry white in the summer). I hate sweet wines.

Corona is the only beer I'll drink, and I love it in the summer (and yes, it's because I can put a lime in it).

I'm not big into the fruity drinks unless I'm on holiday... I do love mojitos and a good margarita though.

My favourite splurge is champagne though (the real stuff, not sparkling wine)... I love a good rose.

Hmm... looks like I'm a fan of most alcohol now that I read this. As for ordering different things with different people. No, I just order what I want, but my preferences are more based on the season (summer vs winter drinks) and how drunk I want to get that night.

Topic How to have a great 1st time
Posted 09 May 2011 21:09

OK, this is my first time so help me guide this baseball bat into your ass, ok? That's just EVIL!!!!!!

Yes, but Porn Rule #17 clearly states: "When in doubt, bring a couple of buddies along on the date and have them cum on the baseball bat first to provide extra lube."

No problem! thumbup

Topic How to have a great 1st time
Posted 09 May 2011 20:22

I think Doll is 100% wrong.

I think you should for sure re-enact a Sasha Grey video for your first time, you'll be guaranteed to have a second time, that's for sure :)

For the second round, I suggest a Sasha Knox video.

It's best to work your way through all the Porno-Sashas during the explorative years... occasion5

Topic How to have a great 1st time
Posted 09 May 2011 20:07

Also what would be a good 'fuck tune' ?

Closer by Nine Inch Nails! hehe

Then again, I am the girl that suggested you watch porn for tips and tricks.

I actually watched a lot of porn before losing my V, and I personally think that it was helpful. You just take what you want and leave the hardcore stuff until you're more experienced. Nobody is suggesting you re-enact a Sasha Grey video, but in some ways I think it made me more adventurous. I just assumed that if the girls in the porn vids were doing certain things, then every girl must be doing those things. Plus I have a bit of a competitive side so I wanted to at least be on par with what I saw.

But yeah, porn research might be better for girls. Nobody will complain about a girl that acts like a porn star in the bedroom, but if a guy attempts some of those moves on his first try, it might not go over that well. So... it's probably best to leave the piledriver and ass-licking-69 positions until after you've got some experience under your belt... icon_biggrin

Topic Your opinion on women that play mind games and or toy with men they know like them for kicks.
Posted 09 May 2011 15:35

I think this is just called dating .

In the beginning someone might like you (or think that they do)... then somewhere down the road they realize they're not into you anymore.

Dating isn't like signing a contract with a promise for total emotional consistency. Maybe these women are handling the way they break-up with you badly, but who hasn't dealt with a fucked up, messy breakup filled with 'mind games' before?

Topic How to have a great 1st time
Posted 09 May 2011 15:27

Jerk-off just before "the big date" so that you last longer (ie. drain thyself so that you aren't trigger-happy when the critical moment arrives).

Avoid being totally drunk/wasted.

Pay more attention to her than to yourself.

Watch some porn for tips and tricks.

Maybe rent a hotel room or wait until you have the house to yourself so that you aren't doing contortions in the back seat. You can make it all seductive and 'romanticle' with candles and music if that's your style.

Just because you had an orgasm doesn't mean the 'sexual session' is over. Get back into the foreplay until you are hard again.

Communicate with your partner... if you aren't comfortable with dirty talk, then just use simple things like "Mmm does that feel good, baby?" and listen to her responses.

Figure out 'protection' ahead of time. Know how to use a condom (practice!).

Don't rush the experience to 'get in there'... take your time.

Cuddle and ice-cream afterwards. thumbup

Topic How long does it take for uterus injury to heal?
Posted 08 May 2011 19:59

Double Post

Topic How long does it take for uterus injury to heal?
Posted 08 May 2011 19:59

You might have a prolapsed uterus. That's the only thing I can think of that might cause bleeding after rough sex.
Definitely check with a physician.

Topic Chafing
Posted 08 May 2011 07:32

If we've been having sex all day (especially intense or rough sex), then yeah I can definitely feel it the next day but not in a really uncomfortable way or anything. I actually kind of like the kinkyness of being a bit sore in the aftermath. And... I definitely have no lube issues.

And of course there have been cases where my cervix has been sore for up to a day (or two) afterwards if the guy had a really big cock, but I guess that's not quite the same as 'chafing'.

Topic When is Assassination Justified? Is it Ever?
Posted 07 May 2011 11:31

Since someone besides Cassidy brought up Biblical verse read thisIn Exodus 20:13 we have the Fifth Commandment “Thou Shalt Not Kill”. Take a good look at that word “Kill”. In the Hebrew Manuscript the word is “Ratsach” which means: Murder; ie - to Murder, a Murderer; to dash to pieces. Thus, Exodus 20:13 Actually reads “Thou Shalt Not MURDER”. Many people make the mistake of reading what the Bible says in Exodus 20:13, “You shall not kill,” and then seeking to apply this command to war. However, the Hebrew word literally means “the intentional, premeditated killing of another person with malice; murder.” God often ordered the Israelites to go to war with other nations (1 Samuel 15:3; Joshua 4:13). God ordered the death penalty for numerous crimes (Exodus 21:12, 15; 22:19; Leviticus 20:11). So, God is not against killing in all circumstances, but only murder. War is never a good thing, but sometimes it is a necessary thing. In a world filled with sinful people (Romans 3:10-18), war is inevitable. Sometimes the only way to keep sinful people from doing great harm to the innocent is by going to war.

In the Old Testament, God ordered the Israelites to “take vengeance on the Midianites for the Israelites” (Numbers 31:2). Deuteronomy 20:16-17 declares, “However, in the cities of the nations the LORD your God is giving you as an inheritance, do not leave alive anything that breathes. Completely destroy them…as the LORD your God has commanded you.” Also, 1 Samuel 15:18 says, “Go and completely destroy those wicked people, the Amalekites; make war on them until you have wiped them out.”

This was a war time action directed against an enemy combatent.

Yep, if you take out the biblical quotes, that is exactly what al-Qaeda and Jihadists thought that Islam was justifying as well.

"Destroy the wicked people" and "Make war on them until you have wiped them out" and "take vengeance" and "Completely destroy then as your God commanded you"... Uhmm...Anyone see a commonality there? So who determines who these "wicked people" are?

If you're looking at religious texts to justify a cause, it's easy enough to find the semantic loopholes to alleviate the conscience... regardless of whatever religion you happen to adhere to.

Edit: And let's assume that people understand that a radical fringe group didn't just wake up one day and say "we hate America's freedom and democracy, let's attack them"...

Topic Need a pen name
Posted 07 May 2011 10:25

Monique is sexier than Mona... My 2 cents

I agree, it's best to pick something that has some personal meaning to you. I chose to use my first name and then took an 'altered' form of a last name from my family tree.

Topic us geeks and nerds need love to
Posted 07 May 2011 08:33

If we are defining a geek as 'a person who is single-minded or accomplished in scientific or technical pursuits but is felt to be socially inept'... then yeah, I'm going to take a pass.

I don't dislike geeks but when it comes to dating it's all about compatibility. I love a brilliant mind but I also need someone who is outgoing, confident and socially with-it, otherwise I'd get bored fast.

I would never sacrifice on requiring intelligence in a potential mate though. That is always a must, but for me, there has to be a balance between the academic and social side.

Topic Ladies...... Does it ruin the experience if you DON'T come?
Posted 07 May 2011 08:21

Unless I am exceptionally tired, too drunk/high, or I'm not really into the guy or the sex... I kinda need and want that orgasm. Embarassed

As a 'one-off' occurrence or an occasional "I just didn't get there" despite a guy's best efforts situation, I really wouldn't worry though.

If it keeps happening with the same partner, a conversation is definitely warranted. Maybe she's in that percentage that can't come, or maybe she needs a different kind of stimulation that she's too shy to verbally suggest or direct, or she might just be too uncomfortable with a new partner to really just 'let go' enough to have an orgasm. If it's a new partner, it might take time for her to get into her sexual groove and open up.

Topic When is Assassination Justified? Is it Ever?
Posted 06 May 2011 23:25

Assination: Murder committed by a perpetrator without the personal provocation of the victim, who is usually a government official. Don't think Bin Laden fell under the terms of the definition. His taking down was no different than that of any other combatent. He declared war on the US. He recieved justice carried out by the skilled operators of Team Six.

Based on this argument, would the 'assassination' of Bush be considered fair justice by those he 'declared war on' if they had taken such an opportunity?

Topic When is Assassination Justified? Is it Ever?
Posted 06 May 2011 20:02

Back to the original question... is assassination justified? Yes. But it's all in the eye of the beholder. As someone else correctly mentioned, an easy case could be made for Bush to be seen as a war criminal too. As someone who believes in capital punishment, I don't have an issue with it if the situation is warranted. War is war. People die.

Assassination is never justified, Ash. To say that and mean it, are you implying that
Lincoln, Sadat, Malcom X, MLK, jr., both Kennedys, Gandhi, Bhutto and Reagan all had 'it' coming to 'em?

I don't think that civilian casualties have it coming to them either but it's a reality of politics and war. I just don't see their lives (the guys you named) as fundamentally any more special than the mom, dad and kids that get blown up in air strikes. Yes, they are figureheads but human life is human life. At least they have chosen in part to assume the public stage and potentially incur the risk of assassination (however wrong or unjustified it might be). The kid that happened to be living on the wrong side of the bombing zone did not. It's just the risks and reality of the situation.

Topic When is Assassination Justified? Is it Ever?
Posted 06 May 2011 17:13

Bin Laden was assassinated because they no longer had the need to have the 'poster-boy/puppet/scapegoat' of global terrorism around... so they decided to take him out.

In this instance, doesn't it seem a bit suspicious that he was living in a multi-million dollar heavily fortified compound right next door to the Pakistani Military Academy. Like don't you think it would occur to them to want to know who the fuck was setting up camp right next door in a massive compound with high walls and surrounded by barbed wire... even as a basic security measure?

Come on, there are no 'surprises' when you are living in a barricade in an affluent area right next door to a military academy.

Bin Laden was useful to keep alive as the international boogeyman of terrorism and to continue the incentive and motivation to continue the war(s).

Back to the original question... is assassination justified? Yes. But it's all in the eye of the beholder. As someone else correctly mentioned, an easy case could be made for Bush to be seen as a war criminal too. As someone who believes in capital punishment, I don't have an issue with it if the situation is warranted. War is war. People die.

Topic I'm all yours
Posted 05 May 2011 12:06

Topic Club Zafia....
Posted 04 May 2011 18:36

Pure magic...

Topic do you find this emasculating?
Posted 04 May 2011 17:04

I have no problem buying drinks or dinner for a guy that I'm into as the relationship progresses. We aren't living in the dark ages here. LOL

Topic Today in Pictures (post a picture representing your mood)
Posted 04 May 2011 16:36

Too dirty... love7

Topic Club Zafia....
Posted 04 May 2011 12:59

Always loved this cover... so sexy.

Topic This Might Be Of Interest To Some...My Soulmate...A New Reality TV Show in development...
Posted 04 May 2011 09:28

But if they aren't already on Facebook, are they really worth finding and getting to know again? geek