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Topic Toy Review: The SIRI 2 ~ LELO's new Music Vibrator
Posted 05 Feb 2015 13:22

For those that are curious about the Vocal Training Capabilities:

University of Alberta’s David Ley demonstrates how to place a small, hand-held vibrator on various parts of the head and neck to improve vocal power, tone and range.

Topic Toy Review: The SIRI 2 ~ LELO's new Music Vibrator
Posted 05 Feb 2015 13:21

The SIRI™ 2: LELO’s Second Generation Music Vibrator

Bringing the DJ into the Bedroom!

LELO has just released a new and improved version of one of their most popular hand-held vibrators. The original SIRI™ gained fame in unexpected places, finding its way not only into bedrooms, but also gaining cult status as a device for vocal training and speech pathologist therapy.

Yes, you read that right, and it’s a fun fact to be aware of.

This device is so multi-functional that you can actually leave it out in the open, on your kitchen table or office desk and tell curious visitors that it’s actually for your vocal training classes, and not to make you hit those upper octaves when it plays your clit like a world-class DJ at 3am… because… trust me, it will do that too!

What is SIRI™ 2?

SIRI™ 2 is a small palm-held external clitoral stimulator that boasts an ultra powerful yet extremely quiet motor. It’s also rechargeable and fully waterproof.

Fun Fact #2:

You may be more familiar with the name ‘SIRI’ as APPLE’s famed ‘Personal Assistant’, however a year before it was released, LELO actually introduced the ‘Original Personal Assistant’ by the same name. *wink wink*

The second generation, SIRI™ 2 has several notable upgrades, including a 100% more powerful motor and fully waterproof design, with 8 stimulation modes and a unique music setting where vibrations respond to ambient noise.

This model also builds on the popularity this palm-held massager has with the music community at large. Not only are the 8 vibration patterns inspired by musical genres like classical, reggae, rumba and techno, the all-new ‘sound-activated’ setting allows SIRI™ 2 to pulse in rhythm with any sound, whether it’s your favourite playlist or your lover’s voice.

It has huge “fun” potential, if you enjoy teasing a partner in bed, bursting into impromptu serenades, getting loud and creative with the dirty talk, or being a bed-side DJ with the tunes when you want to set the mood.

It’s also an Expert Vocal Training Tool

Providing targeted massages with a silky silicone tip, the original SIRI™ became famous as a voice training device, and has since gained viral appeal for training the vocal chords of stage actors, singers and performers alike through vocal massage.

Now, granted most people reading this particular review probably aren’t planning to use this device for such purposes, however it does open up the mind to interesting possibilities if you do know someone in the performing arts or someone who has struggled with losing their voice through illness, injury or ageing.

The Review

I do not have the original SIRI™, so I can’t do a direct comparison between the two, but I’ve long been a fan of this kind of hand-held clit-vibrator. My first toy purchase ever was an ‘el cheapo’ special – a utilitarian battery-operated Pocket Rocket favoured by toy-newbies and college girls that don’t want to spend more than $10 on a sex toy. Make no mistake, there’s no comparison between the two. While there are certainly a wide variety of interesting vibrator models that now fall within my preferred price range, I still have a great fondness for vibrators like this.

Clit-vibes tend to be the ones you reach for the most when you’re after a quickie, and they’re perfect for using with a partner because they fit snugly into the palm of the hand and can be used discreetly on the clit during sex. As we all know, around 75% of women can’t orgasm with penetration alone, so integrating a small clit-vibe into the mix can often be just the thing to help a woman reach climax with a partner.

f you’re a girl that’s ambivalent about anal, a clit-vibe can be invaluable for both relaxing the body during initial penetration, as well as an aid to achieving orgasm during anal sex. This style of vibrator is probably going to be in high rotation in your toy box, so it’s more than worth investing in something that’s going to last, be visually appealing, and will also be as quiet as possible.

The SIRI™ 2 has a classic design that’s perfectly contoured to the hand. The four-button interface is easy to understand and operate, with two buttons that increase and decrease intensity and two arrow buttons that will cycle through the stimulation-modes. The tip is made of smooth body-safe silicone and this toy is fully waterproof and rechargeable.

A water-based lube is recommended, and a sample packet of LELO’s lube comes with the box. I tend not to need lube for clit-vibes, but it’s really up to personal preference.

SIRI™ 2 has 8 non-sound stimulation modes you can cycle through that are based on various musical styles: classical, reggae, rumba, folk, hip hop, soul, techno, and jazz. They’re all fun if you like variety, but the real fun comes with mode number 9. You hold the two arrow symbols down for three seconds to activate it ‘on’ and ‘off’. The setting is sound-responsive and it will vibrate to the tone or beat of any kind of noise that’s nearby.

It’s actually far more responsive than I expected and it surges to life with talking, laughter, music, TV and even dog barking. In fact, when I first took it out of the box and was experimenting with the number-9 setting, my rambunctious retriever took notice and challenged it to a bark-off duel. I held SIRI™ out and it perfectly mimicked every bark-pattern in response, making my pup go a little nutty with excitement and she became rather eager to teach SIRI™ a lesson in who was boss. Note to self: don’t leave SIRI™ 2 lying around or it’s apt to permanently become someone else’s toy!

Anyway, once the dog was ushered out of the room and I had some alone-time with my new vibrator, I was able to properly experiment with Mode-9. No doubt this vibrator shines when it comes to responding to music. As a long-time EDM fan (house, dubstep, trance), this was my immediate musical go-to. In my opinion, SIRI™ 2 is a perfect match for these kinds of beats and a little Tiesto, Avicii, Skrillex, Oakenfold or classic Armin van Buuren will have your toes curling and pelvis moving. This little vibe packs some serious power! Your experience with SIRI™ 2 will probably result in a few giggles too, because vibrating is rarely this much fun!

I used it with my boyfriend as well and if you’re the dirty-talking, verbally creative type or someone who just likes to moan, get loud and have fun together, this is a hugely entertaining toy to play around with together. It’s made for the tease, and don’t forget – you’re both in control. Unless you’re artfully gagged, of course, which makes for even more fun.

Sexual Communication

I think this is a great toy for inspiring more interaction between couples in general. If things are getting a little boring and predictable in the bedroom, this could be a fantastic way to inject some energy into sex again. This would especially be useful for couples that maybe aren’t all that creative together or where sex is typically a quieter affair.

The SIRI™2 takes the lead and focus, thereby taking some of the pressure off, and helping to loosen up the tongue because you’ll want to see it surge to various sounds. You might even find yourselves moaning, dirty talking, growling, shouting, singing and creating a real power duet together.

PS. You get two full hours of use on a single-charge, so make the most of it!

My Final Thoughts

I really love the SIRI™ 2. I think LELO has come up with another excellent second generation model. Let’s face it, there’s no need for sex to be serious all the time, even for you BDSM types. This is a great device to bring back some fun into the bedroom.

Even without the addition of Mode Number 9, you really have a universally well-loved and classic vibrator design in this model. It’s something that you can use for solo play if you’re after a quick clitoral orgasm, and it’s also something that you can use with a partner, in a variety of positions, during both vaginal and anal sex. If you’re one of the infamous 75% that can’t orgasm through penetration alone, a clit-vibe is a must.

And, of course, if you’re into music, have a ‘sex playlist’ or two, or are a couple that thrives on having some beats on in the background, this is probably one to put on your wish-list.

I can’t directly compare the strength of the original SIRI™ to the SIRI™ 2, but i can say that this is an extremely powerful and intense little vibe. It’s comfortable to hold, easy to use and it’s also exceptionally quiet. It’s the standard you’ve come to expect with the LELO brand and their original set of best-sellers. There are no scary surprises here. SIRI™ 2 is another winner, and an easy one to recommend.

SIRI™ 2 comes in Cerise, Purple, and Black and is currently retailing for $129 USD.

* Includes a recharger, sample package of lube, authenticity card, instruction booklet and 1-Year Warranty.

Topic Toy Review: LELO's new MONA Wave and INA Wave
Posted 05 Feb 2015 13:13

LELO’s new MONA Wave™ and INA Wave™

Two Iconic Bestsellers in Motion

Does anyone remember that scene from Sex and the City, where Samantha is confessing all the new things she learned from her new lesbian relationship to the girls over breakfast? Specifically when she says, “this…,” while simulating two rigid thrusting fingers with a sour look, “is not the same as this,” as she switches her unsexy finger-thrust into a more fluid ‘come-hither’ motion with a knowing smile.

I remember watching that scene at the time and nodding along with her. Haven’t we all had guys take a page from a bad porn flick, and do the rigid two (or three) finger thrust, speedily pistoning them in and out like a rod, and stabbing into soft tissue that shouldn’t be stabbed into. The more you tried to squirm and writhe away from the College Casanova, the more he assumed that he must have been hitting the right spot and the faster he would go.


Sometimes it takes time for guys to figure out where a woman’s G-spot is located. And let’s face it – some guys never figure it out.

It never hurts to take things into your own hands when it comes to exploring pleasure zones, and there are some great new toys on the market right now.

LELO has introduced some new tricks into their iconic bestsellers of years past, the INA and the MONA. WaveMotion™ technology is supposed to be a game-changer when it comes to G-spot orgasms. I haven’t seen this kind of technology before in a sex toy, so needless to say I was intrigued about Wave Motion and was eager to find out whether it stands up to the hype.

What is WaveMotion™ Technology?

LELO has always been known for paying attention to anatomy and designing toys that are female-friendly and work with the body to create orgasms to remember.

WaveMotion™ Technology is engineered to replicate the stroking caress of a lover’s fingers inside you, fingers that know what they’re doing by providing optimal G-spot stimulation. Instead of just vibrating or swirling like you’re stirring a pot, this motion moves back and forth against the g-spot and puts the pressure where it counts.

It rises and falls and the vibrations surge exactly where you would want them to.


I knew right away that this was going to be my favourite. In fact, my very first LELO toy was the INA, purchased when I finally started making real money and was ready to graduate from my thrifty college girl $15 pocket rockets and cheap plastic dildo to a real bonafide sex toy. It was purple and it was glorious – a proper ‘Rabbit Vibe’ that didn’t involve batteries, a plasticky smell or a weird rigid and impeccably straight design with a creepy little bunny attachment for a clit-vibe. The INA was luxe, rechargeable and pretty enough to use in front of a partner, or to utilize as a visual tease while sexting. I was hooked on the brand from that moment on.

The new INA Wave™ has the same familiar contoured design that I liked in the original but now LELO says that it features a stimulator arm that is both strong enough to ‘squeeze’ the front wall of your vagina when undulating, but also flexible enough to be adjusted and reach you in every spot you need.

Let’s see about that!

My Review:

The INA Wave™ is similar to all LELO toys in that it features the same body-safe smooth silicone, it’s waterproof and rechargeable (2 hours of use on a single charge), and it provides ten vibration patterns with adjustable speed. It’s curved and very contoured to hit the g-spot, and internally, it provides maximal ‘fullness’.

While it’s comfortable, I would not want to go bigger with a toy like this. If you’re concerned it’s going to feel too slim or small to make a difference, you can put that worry to rest. This will hit your g-spot and fill you up quite nicely. The clitoral arm is flexible and you can adjust it to your body so that it feels best.

It’s a little different than other LELO toys when it comes to turning it on because it’s working with a dual mechanism when it comes to 1. The WaveMotion™ and 2. The vibrations. If you’re used to just holding down the ‘+’ to turn it on and get it up to speed, you may have a moment like me and think, ‘omg, it’s broken!’. Not the case. You have to press the middle (unmarked) button to turn it on. This will start the waves going. Then you can use the ‘+’ and ‘-’ button to increase and decrease the vibrations, and the up and down arrows to circle through the stimulation patterns. One of the stimulation patterns will also allow you to use this as a regular vibrating INA without the WaveMotion™.

Instead of thrusting or ‘revolving’ inside, it has a rise-and-fall style motion. Once it’s turned on at full speed – wow. It’s actually pretty fantastic! There’s a lot going on and it really does move, so it takes a few moments to fully appreciate the sensations. It actually compelled me to begin moving my hips and rolling my pelvis in tandem, very much a feeling of wanting to ‘ride the waves,’ and fully commit to them. It almost feels ‘alive’ inside you, and the pressure it puts on the G-spot is very different than the typical G-spot vibe where you’re just manually pressing a vibrating head against your sweet spot. The INA Wave™ massages and teases and rolls you to a pretty spectacular climax. When combined with the stimulation from the vibrating clitoral arm, it’s powerful and results in something that has it’s own term – a ‘Blended Orgasm’.

A Blended Orgasm is one that results from simultaneous stimulation of the clit and G-spot. It’s considered the gateway to multiple orgasms and is four times more likely to result in female ejaculation, compared to a clitoral orgasm alone.


You can count me as one of the 76%, for sure.

A lot of women rely on basic clit orgasms because they are easy to achieve and many women can’t climax through penetration alone. Most women have experimented (to some degree) with G-spot stimulation and have chased after the novelty of ‘squirting’ and becoming multi-orgasmic, but unless you (and/or your partner) are well-coordinated and know how to include multiple sources of stimulation, either manually or during sex, you may not quite get there without a toy or device.

The INA Wave™ is a great option for exploring clitoral, blended and G-spot pleasure. Even after climax, you’ll find that it continues to keep the pleasure rolling and the body humming in a kind of post-orgasmic euphoria. I found my orgasm to be far more intense and I was able to maintain the sensations at a higher and sustained plateau for a surprisingly longer amount of time.


The original MONA was (and still is) one of LELO’s most popular products of all time. It’s similar to the INA, except it doesn’t have the secondary ‘Rabbit style’ clitoral arm vibe. Now why would someone forgo dual-stimulation and get this more classic model instead? I have a friend who bought the MONA as her first vibrator and says, “that’s all I really need,” and she is perfectly happy with it. Another benefit to this model is that it’s more interactive with a partner. He can use this inside you and give you oral at the same time, so for those that are looking for a more diverse toy or something to use as a couple, this might be a good option.

The WAVE technology of the MONA gives you an internal massaging motion that will rise and fall against your G-spot, which should make this far superior to the original.

My Review:

The MONA is a nice little powerhouse when it comes to WaveMotion™ technology. It’s the same size and shape as the INA, minus the clitoral attachment. You’ll feel more freedom to manipulate the angles that it’s hitting without worrying about chasing that clit-buzz. You can twist and turn it and allow all the intensity to work toward your G-spot climax.

If you’re a pure ‘thruster’ when it comes to G-spot toys, this might not be the ideal toy for you. It works with grinding and ‘rocking’ but if you love that rough in-and-out plunge and prefer a very firm and flat surface area for your G-spot or a more petite toy, there are other models (eg. the GIGI) that would be better suited for those purposes. If that’s your natural style of G-spot stimulation, you probably wouldn’t be seriously looking at this toy anyway.

There’s a refinement to the MONA Wave™, not to be confused with ‘subtlety’ – you will definitely be feeling those waves to the max – but there’s no guesswork with this. If you just want to hold on and let it work its magic, it really does the work for you. At the same time, if you prefer to get more involved, this will allow you that as well. As I mentioned earlier, if you’re playing with a partner, this gives you more room than the INA to get interactive with a tongue. You can also just leave it turned off and use it as a manual G-spot stimulator. There’s a great curve to this toy, and the tip is tapered and will really hit that G-spot nicely if you want to have total control over your climax, or if prefer to switch to a steady grind.

If you’ve never tried the MONA and are wondering if you should get the MONA 2 or the MONA Wave™, then I’d highly recommend this one. One of the ten stimulation modes will allow this to work as a pure vibrating G-spot toy, without the WaveMotion™. You can enjoy the best of both worlds!

The Final Verdict: Is WaveMotion™ Technology Worth the Hype?

I really love the WaveMotion™ technology on both of these toys, and I think it’s a brilliant addition to the world of pleasure toys because I haven’t come across anything like this before. I love that it’s not just a ‘subtle’ difference to the original models and therefore you really are getting something that feels completely different and unique and might justify getting the WaveMotion™ version as well, if you’re already a fan of the standard INA or MONA.

If you’re a ‘Rabbit Vibe’ kind of girl, like I am, then the INA would be the best choice, and it’s easily my pick between the two. You get more ‘bang for the buck’, so to speak because the INA is essentially the same as the MONA but with the addition of the clitoral stimulation arm. In my opinion, it makes a huge difference and it’s hard for me to imagine bypassing this option, unless you prefer a more classic design or want to combine this with oral sex.

The only con with WaveMotion™ technology is that it’s a bit noisier than traditional LELO toys. The vibrating is very quiet but the mechanical arm movement doesn’t make this the most discreet toy if you’re worried about that sort of the thing. The volume level is about the same as the original ORA model, so it’s not as off-putting as many other toys on the market that feature movement rather than just basic vibrating. As I said, it’s certainly not unbearable or overly bothersome, but it’s something worth pointing out, in case you’re in a living situation where you need to masturbate with total stealth.

As I mentioned in my reviews, one of the positives is that both models have a ‘stimulation mode’ where you can just use this as a traditional vibrating INA or MONA (ie. with no WaveMotion™), and in this mode it’s practically silent and similar to LELO’s other vibrating toys. If you don’t own the originals, you’re basically getting a two-in-one, so it only makes sense to buy the WaveMotion™ versions to enjoy the versatility.

What I love about these toys (aside from the powerful orgasms) is that they really hit all the important erogenous sweet spots and they really do create the sensation of internal waves of pleasure and gorgeous G-spot pressure as you build up to climax. It also keeps you there for an extended period of time, so it becomes a fantastic full-body experience that’ll leave you humming long after the last wave comes ashore.

To learn more about different kinds of orgasms, fun facts, and how WaveMotion™ Technology can help you achieve this, take a look at LELO’s Orgasm Guide:

Disclaimer: products were provided to me for my honest feedback and review.

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Topic tablets vs. laptops
Posted 05 Feb 2015 09:25

If I could only have one, I'd pick a laptop. I have a big (older) heavier laptop at home and an iPad for the on the go, but I tend to spend most of my time on my MacBook Air these days. I love how light and portable it is.

Topic Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue features its first-ever plus-size model
Posted 05 Feb 2015 08:26

Sports Illustrated is featuring its first plus-sized model in its new issue (as paid advertising though).

Most agree that it represents a step forward in celebrating curvy, confident women who can be sexy on the beach in a little bikini rather than the swimwear industry taking its usual approach in trying to find 'artful' ways to cover up and hide body flaws or thicker curves.

Critics are pointing out that model Ashley Graham looks more "normal/average" than plus-sized and she doesn't represent the plus-sized demographic, so this doesn't really have much impact at all.

As well, the SI cover predictably features a typical fit/slim model - Derek Jeter's girlfriend, Hannah Davis.

Would you rather see magazines like Sports Illustrated, or even Maxim or Playboy featuring more of a range of body types or do you think it's still better to cater to the 'aspirational' or fitness 'inspirational/motivational' images the industry has always favoured, while keeping 'plus-sized' or 'normal sized' images to a niche ad here or there or in non-mainstream skin magazines.

It still surprises me how - despite a decade of consumers wanting 'real women' images - the industries are either:
a) slow to implement this or ignoring changing social trends altogether
b) have implemented it as a trial, only to find real-women images aren't selling the magazine covers or products, even when they are mags/ads geared toward women.

Is society not quite as evolved as it thinks it is when it comes to beauty/body acceptance?

Topic New Boxers
Posted 03 Feb 2015 10:28

Generally, I like boxer-briefs - or some variation of this (either a bit longer in the leg but not shorter than the pic below). It's sexy to show off the bulge.

Topic Announcing the Winners of our "Some Like it Hot" Story Competition
Posted 03 Feb 2015 08:13

I still need to read a lot of these. Congrats to the winners for their exceptional entries and everyone who placed and tried to give this comp theme a go! 3601

Topic Firm breasts
Posted 03 Feb 2015 07:47

Great! I just received my membership card! Dancing

Yep, that's the one! Nice place. Guys are always offering to let me play with their medicine balls.

Topic Firm breasts
Posted 03 Feb 2015 07:40

But does it improve their shape?

They're like torpedos. In fact, they're so firm now that when a guy ejaculates onto my breasts, the jizz stream bounces right off them (in slow-motion).

Topic Firm breasts
Posted 02 Feb 2015 04:39

anyone that tells you otherwise is trying to sell you something.

You're so wrong. I take a special Titty Toning class at my gym on Fridays (my gym is very progressive). At this point, I can lift 5 pound kettlebell weights with my nipples alone. :)

Topic Creating a Forum Signature Banner to Advertise your New Story!
Posted 29 Jan 2015 12:35

A great way to advertise a new story or eBook is to create a forum signature banner.

Check out these helpful guides on how to create your own, including a size-template as well as a list of easy-to-use banner creator sites. You can also find step-by-step instructions on how to add this to your forum signature on Lush and properly link it to your story or your eBook on Amazon.

Please note that the maximum forum signature size for your banner should not exceed 728px (width) x 150px (height).

Other than that - get creative and have fun with pimping your writing or showing off your Lush personality with a cool signature or your favourite quote!

Please read these threads to get started!

Topic How effective is story spamming to friends?
Posted 29 Jan 2015 11:49

Important Note re Forum Signatures

Forum signatures have been in discussion behind the scenes recently and Dani wrote up and posted this very helpful guide just yesterday.

Forum signature styles are all up to personal taste and preference (we all have different capabilities when it comes to creating banners, although bannerfans and other easy-use banner sites are good options).

Liz also created a great template (also posted on the link above) to help people understand what the maximum allowed size of a forum banner is. Sometimes it helps to have a visual comparison. Forum mods will be removing banners that are outside this max, starting this weekend, so if everyone can have a quick look at this guide and make sure they're correctly sized, it would be very appreciated.


And... to answer the OP - I'm not sure how effective story spamming is, but I don't use it personally. I may send out one all-friends spam once a year, but that's about it. To advertise stories/eBooks, I use my profile and my forum signature. I figure if people are interested in what I write and want to be the first to know when I post something, they'll follow me as an author. That's what it's there for, after all.

When I receive them - it doesn't really affect how likely I am to read or not read someone's work. When I see all-friends spam asking for help reaching a minimum # of votes on a contest or a rare request for feedback because they wrote something meaningful, I'll jump right on it and give it a read straight away. Otherwise... I get to my reading queue when I can - sometimes it takes me a while to get caught up.

Topic Apple Cider Vinegar, Have you tried it?
Posted 27 Jan 2015 06:00

This is a great article on the benefits of drinking ACV and using it for other household/beauty uses. The comments section gives some good tips and uses as well.

I actually tried one of the suggestions on how to drink it. I boiled water in the kettle and let it cool down to being just shy of hot, then added the ACV and a teaspoon of pure Maple Syrup. It's not bad at all - almost feels like you're drinking a tea.

There's another suggestion of adding it to grapefruit juice to hide the taste - going to try that one next.

Topic Apple Cider Vinegar, Have you tried it?
Posted 23 Jan 2015 10:29

I'm going to try some of the 'hide the taste' tips in this thread. It's my go-to with salad or with a bit of olive oil over sliced tomatoes and cucumbers, but I'm having trouble with the daily-intake bit if I'm not eating salad. I've tried it in a glass of water... but blechh... I hate prolonging the taste. Then I've tried it straight-up in a shot-glass on an empty stomach and that was a pretty bad idea too. Even though it went down fast, I feel like the after-effects were pretty gag-worthy for a while.

Agree on the brand though - Bragg's is tops!

Topic Guys... yes or no
Posted 20 Jan 2015 14:40

'Annoying' on Lush definitely comes in both genders.

Think of it like a pyramid. At the base of it you get the tons of generic friend-adds, dick pics, cyber offers, and 'hey baby' PMs from guys, guys pretending to be lesbians, and maybe a few aggressive girls (although my radar with genders is pretty bang on).

Then you have the quality guys (and girls) that you'll meet in the forums, doing story verifying, sending you nice PMs that aren't about dick and jizz. They're great.

And then you have a much smaller subsection of guys that you'll probably go out of your way to friend yourself because you like their stories, their posts, their vibe. They may have crush-worthy potential, if that's your thing. Or they may end up as great friends.

My fave people on Lush are pretty evenly split by gender - 50:50.

If you filter properly, you'll find that there are plenty of wonderful people of both genders, and you'll learn the tricks for keeping the 'super-annoying' ones away. :)

Topic Silicone dildo with suction cup??
Posted 15 Jan 2015 11:57

You can try the Lush Store:

The Lush Store

Or since you're in Canada, you should check out Pink Cherry, if you haven't already:

Pink Cherry

And, here are some reviews by Lushies on Suction Cup Dildos (Doc Johnson and Nasstoys brands):

A word of advice - it's difficult to really be certain of size unless seeing them yourself. When I went browsing in-store, they all seemed much larger than I would have otherwise guessed based on an online pic. If you're thinking of these for anal, you should probably look for something specifically tagged as "slim" or "small". The 'realskin' dildo I reviewed by Doc Johnson was pretty thick, even for being a 6-inch model. Not impossible, but just something to be aware of if you're specifically looking for something on the smaller side to start.

Posted 15 Jan 2015 06:27

occasion7 occasion6 occasion6 occasion7

Yay! Happy Birthday, Buz!

Hope you have a truly fantastic day! xx

Topic Femal cheerleaders that cheer with male cheerleaders. Do you get touched in private places (boobs, crotch, butt)??
Posted 14 Jan 2015 04:23

I wasn't a cheerleader, but I have experience with being partnered for lifts. Sometimes it happens, hands do slip. It's not a big deal as long as you respect the intentions of your partner and are being professional about it - you kind of disassociate - it becomes a non-sexual thing. I've never had it happen where I felt like it was pervy or intentional. And... when it come down to it - I would rather get accidentally 'groped' than dropped.

Topic Tan Lines
Posted 10 Jan 2015 07:32

It's no so much about the tan lines as the fact that she's way over-tanned. A light sun-kissed tan is attractive and faint tan-lines are fine - but going from ivory white skin to shoe-polish bronze is not sexy, nor is it very healthy.

Maybe she just overdid it on a beach vacay, but maintaining that... ouch.

Topic 12 People killed at Satirical Magazine Publishers
Posted 10 Jan 2015 06:27

I agree wholeheartedly.

What sickens me the most are the people adopting a 'they had it coming' attitude about all of this.

You can believe that Charlie Hebdo's publications were vile and bigoted but still acknowledge that the shootings were a tragedy that no one deserved.

Exactly. It was good to see things like this coming up on Twitter from other Muslims.

Topic Lie or not
Posted 08 Jan 2015 17:15

I'm the same way, to an extent.

I need time to cool off and collect myself and my thoughts. Otherwise, if I'm not left alone or made to talk before I'm ready, I explode. I don't yell, but I get sarcastic, passive aggressive, and dismissive, which just causes more damage.

If you want productive conflict resolution from me, it's just best to give me my space until I'm ready. It's not the silent treatment, per se. I try my best to make it clear that I'm upset and why, but I just need time and space.

*High Five* Exactly! You're like my conflict-twin! :)

Topic Bad Boys
Posted 08 Jan 2015 17:09

Yeah, I've been known to have a weakness for bad boys. Not full-fledged assholes though - there *is* a difference.

Why? - I guess I like a challenge and the relationship has a bit of an adrenaline rush quality. There are usually highs and lows and often the highs are more exciting than the steady lull of being with a steadfast 'nice guy'. The sex tends to be pretty crazy too. Bad boys are best enjoyed in small doses as fuckbuddies, flings or short-term relationships though. Long-term or getting your heart seriously invested can be draining.

And... I guess I should qualify because someone will inevitably bring it up - when I say 'nice guy' - I don't mean that I dislike guys that are nice and that I enjoy being treated badly - I'm just using 'nice guy' as the social term for more vanilla types that tend to take a more conservative approach to life/love.

Ideally I do best with a guy that's somewhere in between. I like a guy with a bit of edge but if I'm thinking about relationship longevity, it can't be over the top.

Topic First time for anal, what would you suggest she do and what do u recommend he should do to help?
Posted 08 Jan 2015 16:54

Well here's a first, I disagree. Without doubt the best position for the first time is on top. It gives total control to the person getting inserted, that sounds so lame, I mean fucked. You go at your own pace and feel more relaxed because you are in control.
Also, use anal eeze as well as lube, it will help a lot.

I guess it depends on personal preference. Sometimes if a woman just wants to concentrate on trying to relax her muscles during the process of the initial penetration or if she's overly stressed/nervous about it being her first time, being in a more passive (bottom) position is easier - you can kind of zone out and get into some good 'Anal-Zen'. Plus it's a good gateway position to proper Doggy.

Spooning on the side is also a good one to start with. Being on top can sometimes cause involuntary tightening up with anal as a starter-position - or at least it can with me. It probably just depends on the individual person though - if one position doesn't work or feel right, then time to try another.

Topic USA opening diplomatic relations with Cuba
Posted 08 Jan 2015 10:49

You're on with chicks, Buz. But you can keep the cigar (I don't smoke). My favorite Cuban product comes in a glassPint Drunk . I don't drink much but had a few rum and Cokes when I was there and have acquired a bit of a taste for it.

I don't smoke either, but I was all over the Cohibas when I was there (just the skinny ones though). With a nice Mojito, of course.

I do hope it doesn't veer to becoming a mini-Vegas or 'Cancun-ified' as things open up. There's a beauty and charm to it just as it is. And there's really no city like Havana.

Topic First time for anal, what would you suggest she do and what do u recommend he should do to help?
Posted 08 Jan 2015 08:35

Honestly, if someone is anxious about it, I think the best position is lying flat on your stomach or with a small pillow under the pelvis. It's a more shallow entry and you won't feel as vulnerable as being totally opened up on your knees or with your legs up in the air. This position still gives you a bit of control to sink down (avoid) or rise up (deepen the penetration) and generally squirm or shift away completely if it gets to be too much or you need to stop.

So... basically - as everyone says - use lots of lube, relax... try to have a regular orgasm first if you can. Make sure to use fingers or even a small toy so you can get a feeling for what it feels like to receive anal penetration.

When the guy inserts, after the head goes in, it's best if he pauses for a bit to allow your sphincter muscle to relax. The first instinct may be to tighten up and force his dick out. After maybe 5-10 seconds, it relaxes and then you're basically home free and it starts to feel good. Let him know to wait for your signal that you're ready. Then he can slide in all the way and start thrusting. If the thrusting gets to be too much, he can also vary it bit by moving his hips in a circle or grinding - it doesn't have to be all 'in and out'. You may even want to have your own hand between your legs or use a little clit-vibe on yourself at the same time.

And most importantly - make sure he knows that 'stop' means 'stop' - just incase things get too intense or you need to slow down at some point.

If any of this is freaking you out - don't worry. Many people who do first-time anal don't even talk about it beforehand. I didn't. Everything went fine.

Topic Diphallic penis... what would your reaction be?
Posted 08 Jan 2015 06:18

I think it means he gets to legit add the two total dick-inches together to brag about having 14 inches erect.

What would my reaction be... hmm... totally not sure. I've been with a guy that had two working holes on a single penis before. I guess this penis anomaly could be worked around if you were really into him. You could always just look at it as having a bonus penis.

I wonder if there's an angle that would work for a DP. Hey, DiphallicDude could be fun! :p

Topic 12 People killed at Satirical Magazine Publishers
Posted 08 Jan 2015 06:09

They had a right to draw, to satirize, to lampoon, and to provoke.

Readers have a right to laugh, to agree, to be offended, to feel angry.

Nobody has a right to kill.

Following the coverage since early yesterday... it just makes me feel sick.

Topic Picture your favorite perfume
Posted 07 Jan 2015 18:46

Things I've added to the perfume collection recently:

I am loving the 'Replica' line by Maison Martin Margiela. They are all supposed to evoke memories of certain happy places like the beach, a funfair, sunday morning, a flower market etc.

I got the Beach Walk one... and Funfair Evening is on my wish list for the future.

I also snagged random mini-bottles from Sephora of Balenciaga's Rosabotanica, which I totally didn't expect to like, but I think it's quite an interesting scent and I'm really into it at the moment.

And... I got a mini-bottle of Guerlain's La Petite Robe Noire, which is one I've been wanting to try forever because of it's black cherry notes. Love it.

Topic Short winter skirts and stockings
Posted 07 Jan 2015 17:57

I love knit stockings or opaque thigh-high tights with skirts. Especially with long boots. I'm not into the patterned ones though.

Topic What was the first movie you saw in a theater?
Posted 07 Jan 2015 17:53

The Little Mermaid.