Cynical optimist. Uppity bitch. Rump shaker. Money maker. Enigma extraordinaire. Penguin enthusiast. Sleep connoisseur. Food evangelist. Lipstick extremist. Titty fanatic. Motorboat champion. Easily distracted. Not easily impressed. Certified potty mouth. Unapologetically vulgar. Classy as fuck.I'm here to read and have fun. You're more than welcome to be a part of that if you'd like. But please be aware that I'm unavailable for anything more than friendly chat. Camp out in my friend zone at your own risk...just make sure you're good at rationing your resources. Seriously...if you wanna be my friend just be my friend. But that 'friend with ulterior motives' bullshit is for the birds. If you say what you mean and mean what you say, then you're fine in my book (with exceptions, of course).*Disclaimer: Whatever my current avatar may be is NOT me. It's NEVER me. Most likely it's some gorgeous girl with amazing hair, or Beyoncé in a pair of chaps and a sexy white bodysuit wrangling a conspicuous looking penguin. It may even be a pair of flashy panties. Whatever the case may be, the avatar most definitely is not me.*
My front teeth were licked...several times. It was so fucking bizarre.
Great job! Congratulations!!
Got a few complaints about this thread.General consensus: Nothing's amusing about stalkers. Closing shop.
It really pains me to have to say this in a thread such as this, but this is a place promoting positivity in relation to breast cancer awareness and research.As such, any rude commentary in regards to anything anyone wants to share in support of the nature of this thread is callous, rude and unnecessary. If you've nothing nice or positive to share, I suggest you keep it moving.Please and thank you.Side note: If you come in here purposefully looking for an avenue to be rude or otherwise cause drama, you should seriously consider some introspection, because that's just beyond fucked up.
Regardless though, it starts with society believing those women and men deserve to be protected. As long as the perception remains that they are somehow bad people for being involved in it in the first place, those protections will be ineffective, as you pointed out. And on this, we agree.My only issue is with the way in which you approached the subject.
While I understand your point that the industry is flawed, and controlled by men, it does not mitigate the point I was making. Indeed, the reason it is still in such nefarious hands, at least in the States and other forward thinking countries, is BECAUSE the industry is forced into the shadows. At one time, many industries were much the same. Exploitive, uncaring and damaging to those who actually did the work. The 1911 Triangle fire in New York is a case in point. Those women were abused, mistreated and forced into an almost slave like labor situation. The resulting fire, and a door locked by management to keep the women in, led to horrific deaths. That's an extreme case, but in 'respectable' industries protections are put into place that end such victimization. I suggest that if the adult entertainment industry were allowed the respect that it's financial impact on the economy demands, there would be adaquate protection under the law to protect the women and men who work in the industry. So, with that in mind, my feeling is that the very points you bring up are not because of the work they do, but rather, because of how we the people refuse to treat them with the respect that they deserve as adults and human beings. Further, it will no doubt be pointed out that the sex industry is inherently dangerous. It is. So is crab fishing, and I think it self-evident that we need sex more than we need crab legs. That's the thing, the law does call for adequate protection for those involved in the porn industry. To demand the protection that goes with those laws is to be blackballed in the porn industry.Much like the stigmatization and blackballing that occurs when a woman files a sexual harassment/discrimination suit at her job. The laws exist, and they work, but usually at the detriment of one's career unless you can garner the right amount of support from the right people, and that's where the true battle lies.In regards to your Triangle Fire example, the results weren't something to necessarily advance the treatment of women...but to advance workplace conditions in general. Even the resulting (and now all but defunct) women's union that formed in light of that tragedy (putting it lightly) was more focused on general workplace conditions and not necessarily the treatment of women.
My feeling is that this entire discussion is missing the point. We ask if porn makes the male viewer think more highly of women, as if the insinuation is that it should not. It's been brought up that porn is addictive, or that it might in some way harm the young men who watch it.What a shame. The entire discussion is sexist. We should be asking, why don't we show more respect for those women who are in porn? By insinuating that it is somehow shameful, or harming to the viewer, we once again put social pressure on women to feel shame for being sexual. For owning their bodies. In short, for being as free to enjoy their lives as men are able to do. This conversation hasn't really delved into the men who are in porn. It hasn't asked if the gay genre is harmful, has it? No, it's about the girls. Well, my gosh, how dare they get naked and have sex where our sons can see it. Oh, my stars! Personally, I have great respect for women who are willing to tell society to shove off and do what they want to do. Many of these women have genius IQ's. They are smart enough to know they can turn their natural looks and open minds into somthing that can enrich their lives. This argument is like the one against prostitution. Trying to tell women how they use thier bodies is inherently sexist. While I appreciate your take on women in regards to porn, it's not as simple as women being liberated and using their bodies any way they please. Men control the porn industry, so that in and of itself should be enough to know that its focus isn't on the sexual liberation of women. If you watch any number of documentaries involving porn stars, you'll find that it's not as clear cut as stripping down and fucking on camera. Women show up on set for a scene expecting one thing, and being forced to do another. Countless women are forced to participate in scenes without condoms in an industry where people are encouraged 'off the record' to deny STD's and STI's for as long as possible. So to paint porn as this liberating 'women take the reins' industry is a bit misguided. Yes, women choose to partake in porn. But they often participate in situations where personal choice isn't all that involved. Is that always the case, no? But it's not black and white, either. I said it earlier in this thread, and I'll say it again: Most of the degrading shit that happens to women in porn occurs behind the scenes.As a woman/participant in this discussion, I didn't pick up any overall insinuations that women in porn are somehow less worthy of respect...or that any problems involving porn are the fault of the women involved in porn. It was a simple (albeit not very thorough) study to explore IF porn watchers regarded women with more respect than those who don't watch porn. It in no way implied, from what I gathered, whether or not women in porn deserve respect. The notion that porn ruins lives was introduced, and it was disputed. That was about as close as it came to porn being ridiculed...and in turn, as close as it came to women being ridiculed in regards to porn...well other than the fact that porn is degrading to women, which it can be.The only thing that's been repeatedly ridiculed was this study itself, which, ironically, was manipulated to prove that porn watchers think highly of women. Any good research divulges its findings while simultaneously introducing more questions, which this study did not. And perhaps this conversation could have evolved had the study on which it was based allowed for that. But that in no way implies that everyone who's participated in the conversation thus far hold women who participate in porn in low regard, which is what you seem to be implying. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong.
I have salmon and I have capers. Enough said.
Full details here: http://talkingpointsmemo.com/muckraker/alabama-drivers-licenses-voter-idMore information in this regard can be found online.In a nutshell: Alabama recently enacted a law that all voters show a State ID, which can only be obtained at the DMV. Almost immediately after the enactment of the law, the state of Alabama moved to close down 31 DMV locations, all of which are predominantly populated by Blacks. Is this a mere coincidence, or are minority voters being targeted?
This was one study, one snapshot. By no means is it the definitive end-all on this topic. Will I search for more on this topic... probably not. HS shared it to allow people to SHARE THEIR OPINIONS! Even Dani said that's what this was about... people sharing their opinions on this particular topic. I also said that said shared opinions would probably be debated, especially since this is the Think Tank.You left that part out.
I feel them in my chest, Clawing their way through my throat Until they finally reach the tip of my tongue And that's where they stay. Don't ask me what they are Let me show you. Take the kisses from my lips And wrap them around you Let them sip from your cup Until it runs dry. The pounding in your ears Is the song of my soul. You won't hear it in whispered words, But in every gasp...
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