Forum posts made by dontholien

Topic New to the idea of ownership
Posted 30 Apr 2012 13:19

Thanks for the suggestions, Im really hoping to have a talk with him about it all and tell him id like to go the extra step, its exciting to think where this could go. Ive been thinking maybe a suggestion that we have a "play night" through the week after discussing roles and terms and stuff, punishments would be new to us but im sure they wouldnt have to be dished out too often, id be a good sub angel7 lol

Topic New to the idea of ownership
Posted 29 Apr 2012 11:50

Ive only recently discovered bdsm and only explored it lightly with my partner. Ive always thought that the slave/master thing is just not my thing so never really thought about it but im currently reading 50 Shades of Gray and ive found its actually exciting me in ways i never have been before mainly because i never thought about it properly like i am now. Iknow it sounds silly but i think its just the term "slave" im not keen on.
Im in a happy relationship and so far weve always been sexually compatible, i always have been the more submissive one, letting him take control and i know he really enjoys it that way but now im starting to think i would like to have some more serious Dom/Sub roleplay. We have kids and opposite working patterns so it couldnt be a full time lifestyle thing but saying that it would be a new thing to both of us so its not something we could just switch to like that.

If you dont mind me asking how did everyone else get into the lifestyle thing? Did you find it with a partner who was also new to the idea or was it something youve always wanted and you found someone to suit your wants? Forgive me if i sound ignorant at all, id just love some insight. T be honest i wouldnt know how to start the conversation with my partner or if he just wouldnt be into it or realise exactly what i mean if i were to talk to him about it, maybe i need to get him to read the book too?

Topic Irrefutable Proof...that a good woman can bring balance and stability to a man's life...
Posted 20 Apr 2012 13:18

evil4 I had to do a double take twice! lol

Topic make love or get fucked
Posted 19 Apr 2012 10:23

I really do enjoy it hard and rough but sometimes im in the type of mood where i need my guy to just take me in his arms and be tender and gentle with me but what i like the most is that my guy can tell from my mood how i want or need it

Topic Come introduce yourself and tell us a lil about you.
Posted 12 Apr 2012 13:31

Hi everyone, im Dontholien and i think im into BDSM. Ive always known i like my man to be rough with me but i think im now realising its me wanting him to have power over me. Im quite a submissive person and that definatly comes through in the bedroom but im not too sure if the whole master/ slave thing is for me. I am a total novice at all things bdsm so i found (now this sounds really nerdy) a score sheet type thingy online with lots of suggestions on it that your ment to score on a 1 to 5 to kinda get an idea of your own likes, what you would like to try and whats an absolute no no. Ive found that i like restraints though its the strength of a mans arms that turns me on more than hand cuffs and i found out im curious about spanking & whips Embarassed
I can say that bdsm really isnt a lifestyle thing for me atm, im more at the point where im learning about myself and im learning more about bdsm and that there is more to it than whips and chains

Topic Ever fallen in love with someone you can't have?
Posted 12 Apr 2012 13:21

I havent but my partner did crybaby and the person he couldnt have wasnt me, i was the reason he couldnt have her.............

Anyhoo, verrrrrry long story short, we all ended up hurt, there were lots of tears but somhow out of all that craziness we got a happy ending. Mental when you think about it

Topic What's your hobby....??
Posted 09 Apr 2012 15:34

Im a baker, its what i do for a living but i love it, unfortunatly due to it costing less to buy in frozen mass produced baked goods that can be just defrosted, dated and stuck on the shelf there are only a handful of breads that i make from scratch at work. When i get home my passion for cake baking and decorating has turned from a hobby to a business. Theres nothing i love more than starting the day with some flour, eggs, butter an sugar and ending the day with a beautifully decorated cake that makes people go "wow". Thats my hobby

Topic Refusing Cunnilingus
Posted 03 Apr 2012 04:58

To be honest its not my favorate thing either, i love eye contact and skin contact so i find having him disapear down there leaves me feeling a bit lonely.

Topic Breasts Loving Breasts
Posted 03 Apr 2012 04:46

I like that one!! Very sexy

Topic men masturbating for women
Posted 02 Apr 2012 13:18

I love it! Esp when i get splashed free-sexy-smileys-947

Topic Gift for the Person Above You Based on Their AVATAR
Posted 02 Apr 2012 13:00

Guitar lessons

Topic Avatar above you
Posted 02 Apr 2012 12:58

Stiff nipples, brrrrr

Topic Last Two Letters ....
Posted 02 Apr 2012 12:57


Topic Be Careful What You Wish For.........
Posted 02 Apr 2012 12:54

Granted, but noone else can find time to log on leaving you here all alone crybaby

I wish someone would take me out for a romantic dinner

Topic Hug, kiss or ????? the person above you.
Posted 02 Apr 2012 12:48

A big friendly "hi, im Dontholien" hug

Topic Fuck or Pass
Posted 02 Apr 2012 12:47

Just a quick fuck lol

Topic Fuck or Pass
Posted 30 Mar 2012 13:13


Topic Would you ever be the one girl in a bukakke?
Posted 30 Mar 2012 13:05

I love cum so yes, bring it on!

Topic do all guys have
Posted 19 Jul 2011 11:50

My Mr has a ring of scar just under the head, i wouldnt say its obviously a different colour but you can see its a scar and its not half way down! lol

Topic My heart is broken
Posted 16 Mar 2011 13:25

My partner cheated on me with his ex who is also mother of his 1st child.

I found out when i was 6 months pregnant that it had started before i even fell pregnant, he swore he would end it. 2 weeks before i was due to have our baby i found an email from her explaining to him how much she loved him and that she felt so down because she had suffered a miscarrage and couldnt have him there with her. He swore the affair wasnt still going on but aadmitted that he did still love her and said i couldnt expect him to just fall out of love with her just because i had found out about them. When our baby was 7 weeks old i discovered that the affair was 100% still going on and that it had never really stopped and i threw him out. It was the worst pain i had ever felt in my life, i was an emotionl wreck, couldnt eat for weeks and couldnt see the end of the dark tunnel.

We were apart for 3 months but after only 2 he admitted to me that he had realised he had made the biggest mistake of his life and that he would do anything to have me back so after long talks and big decisions i decided to give it one last shot. That was 7 months ago and now we are stronger than weve ever been, things have changed so much, theres no more of him sitting with the laptop at an angle so i cant see it, no more deleting every text, and no more excuses why he had to nip down to her house after work.

As good as it is now though even 7 months down the line i struggle to come to terms with him cheating on me. I struggle with knowing that he betrayed me, that he could lie to me so easily, that he spent so long living a lie and loving someone else too and mostly that he got someone else pregnant. Its all something you dont just one day get over, its something you need to work on day by day. Sometimes you will have good days, sometimes you will have bad days, sometimes even bad weeks but unfortunatly there is no miricle cure to just help you get over it. And if she is pregnant you need to either learn to accept the love child or walk away.

Topic It's been a nice ride...
Posted 04 Feb 2011 06:01

Ohhh, mini panic! I saw the title of this topic and that Nicola had started it and in the 2 seconds it took for the page to load up my mind went through about a million thoughts about what if you were going or if you had decided it was time to finish Lush....

Shouldnt this kinda thing be saved for April 1st?!

Topic does it bother you to know about your partners previous lovers?
Posted 02 Feb 2011 08:09

I don't care about any other woman he slept with but the girl a cheated on me with

Im the same. My partner has had a LOT more sexual partners than i have, some of whom i now know but the only one that bothers me is the ex he had an affair with

Topic Fantasy VS. REality
Posted 02 Feb 2011 07:58

Well just for the record, im a guy with a huge, massive 10 inch..... No wait, sorry. My bad, thats on a different site angel7

Topic Worst chat lines
Posted 27 Jan 2011 06:03

Him: Hey
Me: Hi
Him: So whats up?

How do you even reply to that last one?! Birds? Helicopters? Drug users? Clouds? Is there actually a correct answer to this question? lol

Hard-ons and helicopters. If you only have the 1st one, beat it.

I have just used this reply on a guy who has for 2 days on the run opened a chat to me and started

"hi, its John, whats up?"

On day 1 he just left the conersation and just now he used this one: "dang it fire pager going off gotta go"....... Crazy fool!! Does he not learn?

Topic Say something nice about the profile of the person above you
Posted 26 Jan 2011 09:28

Sexy avatar and a beautiful profile background

Topic Happy Australia Day to all the other Aussies here on Lush...
Posted 26 Jan 2011 09:19

Australia day?! Excuse my ignorance but what does that do?? We dont have anything like a UK day

Topic Your thoughts on holding a Lush gathering?
Posted 26 Jan 2011 09:16

you could have some of our rain, too, if you want!

I have plenty of rain to share too lol

This is the type of thing that in my head seems so cool to do and id love to meet some members but as was mentioned before i wouldnt want anyone thinking of it as a meet and fuck type of thing, sooo not my scene. Plus im just so so shy in RL that i would be a constant shade of bright red knowing that these real people around me know that such a sweet innocent girl like me writes dirty stories Anxious

Topic Sex Education Called an “Attack on Religious Freedom”
Posted 25 Jan 2011 07:27

Right, if i knew that my boys were going to a school where sex ed was not on the cards but they were teaching them to be "good catholics" instead they would be out that school so fast with a one fingered salute from me.

Now between us me and my partner have 3 boys all within 3 years of each other so when puberty hits this house it will hit hard! 3 randy teenage boys? Im not deluded, i dont think for 1 moment that they WONT try to get their leg over at every given chance and i know there is nothing i can do to stop them if thats what they really want to do so id rather them know as much about sex and methods of protection as they can and know less about this "God"

Imagine if you had a teenage daughter, can you imagine how scary it would be as her and as a parent to have no sex education? That just means she would be more likely to be "taught" by other teens who would be just as clueless unless they had an older brother/sister, never the best option.

Topic Cheats
Posted 24 Jan 2011 10:42

Just wanted to know a few opinions on this, weve all heard the phrase "once a cheat always a cheat" but in your experiance is it true?

Has anyone been in a relationship with someone who has been a serial cheater no matter what you did to keep the relationship going or no matter how happy you were? Or have you been the one to tame the serial cheat?

Is there anyone who is the type who has never been faithful no matter how much you have loved a partner? Have you ever managed to stop and break the cycle or is it true that a leopard never changes their spots?

My partner has never been faithful, to me included. He had an affair that lasted over a year but after a break we decided to try again and he swore things would be different but recently while drunk he messaged a girl he 'kinda' knows on facebook saying how there must have been something wrong with her ex because he never had sex with her and that if he could he would give her a good fucking and show her a thing or two. Although nothing actually came of this, he didnt sleep with her and that was as far as the conversation went i still feel betrayed and am left wondering if there really is any hope or if he will always be looking for that thrill of doing something he shouldnt

Topic Put one of yours here...
Posted 24 Jan 2011 10:08

Another Mistake

We work, we work, we work,
We build up things that we lost before,
We make things better,
We smile and laugh,
We love and live again,
Things are better than ever before,
We create new happy memories,
Then one night you drink.

You drink, you slip and you unravel what weve done.
You drink and do something stupid,
With someone so not even worth losing me for,
Its easy as that to ruin our hard work.

So now what?
We put a lid on it,
Start again and pretend it didnt happen,
I add it to the box of other mistakes,
Try not to let it take over,
While at the sametime making a note to keep an eye on her.
I try to forget and just carry on,
Hoping there wont be yet another 'next time'