Forum posts made by espresso

Topic How do you handle not having sex for a long time?
Posted 30 Nov 2011 21:59

Thanks all! Keep the answers coming....

Sorry guys I got to say as far as not having sex; I have experience with that///////////////I find other ways to enjoy myself and I don't take it out on the other person in my life. The reasons we don't are do what you gotta do to make your life work. Hey my friend!

Yes, you have to keep your own fire lit haha!

It's so funny to have more women than guys respond. I hope they aren't scared. I know similar questions have been asked but I just got a unique perspective on it. I want to see the answers I get before I share more.

Topic How did you get started writing erotica?
Posted 30 Nov 2011 15:13

Hmm...let's see...I think I have mentally been thinking up naughty stories since...forever. I wanted to write and many of my stories were romantic with a supernatural bent and always, always sex reared it's stubborn head. In my teens and late 20s I was very religious and I kept trying to write without the sex. That basically, plugged up my creative juices all together and I didn't write much but poetry for years. (great creative outlet but not a story!)

Fast forward a few years: I get laid off from a high-powered, high-stressed job, making the most money I'd made at that time, and I realized that there were no guarantees in life. At least, I could do something I wanted or enjoyed for once. So I gave myself permission to write...and to write whatever. The first story I finally finished was a fan fiction story and I let the sex happen and it was good...I shared it with some other fans and they really seemed to enjoy it. It came so naturally for me and I enjoyed it.

That whole religious period has been featured in a couple of my erotic stories, by the way! It's been an interesting ride lol.

Topic On the Topic of Editing Already Approved Stories
Posted 30 Nov 2011 15:01

I often wish the mods would edit my stories more... Gawd, I hate finding stupid errors the next day, I keep banging my head against the wall... "How did I miss that?" Oh I have so been there! I hate that.

I have noticed that the system lets you make small changes without sending it back to the mods. I think it depends on how much you change. A couple of words are okay but a whole sentence will trigger the "mode return" action thingie...and annoyance lol.

Topic Clearing Writer's Block....
Posted 30 Nov 2011 14:55

I just went through an awful case of writer's block. It helps to know why you are blocked - know yourself and be honest. Some things that helped me:

1. Know you are not alone or weird or doomed to never write again.

2. I need to write daily or I lose connection with it and doubt sets in and I forget what I loved about writing and I stop having fun. That's not a good thing!

3. If your write's block is connected to life stresses or insecurities - put it into your story. Make your character an insecure person who fights and wins, for example.

4. You have to separate creative brain from the editor brain. The editor's job is to check the grammar, pick the write word, check spelling, make it as perfect as can be...That is totally not productive when you are writing a story. The creative/muse is fun and along for the ride, the editor is serious and meant to enforce rules. Just write and worry about the proofreading stuff later. There is always time to make it "right".

5. Getting Ideas etc: The creative two-step: I just found this technique for tricking your Muse/creative brain to give up the to speak. The article is below and it has been such a godsend for me...the ideas were there, I just didn't have days to wait for them. I get to frustrated and this helps me get some fresh ideas to keep me excited.

Tricking the Muse: The Creative Two-Step:

I hope this helps!

Topic How do you handle not having sex for a long time?
Posted 30 Nov 2011 14:31

Good point, Yahtzee! I guess it does matter WHY they are not doing the horizontal mumbo? Mentioning that reason would help also.

I'm asking this question for an important reason. And in the situation I'm thinking of...there is no one, clear answer and both people have their reasons.

Topic How do you handle not having sex for a long time?
Posted 30 Nov 2011 14:17

Real talk! Cheating is talked about a lot and do share that also. But what are other things that has happened to you? Like do you treat them different? Has anything surprising happen that you can trace back to that? You become more jealous? Do you no longer find them attractive after awhile or they become hotter to you??

Do share, please! And thank you in advanced!

Topic Lush V2
Posted 22 Oct 2011 03:12

First off, Some (genuinely felt) Ass (or other body parts) Kissing woo hoo!- - Thank you Nicola & Gav for this site & all the hard work it takes to keep it running :)

Secondly, Gav can't wait to see the new site when it rolls and the fruits of your labor.

Topic Hug, kiss or ????? the person above you.
Posted 04 Oct 2011 16:48

All three my dear.

Topic Fuck or Pass
Posted 04 Oct 2011 16:47

Hmmm...not sure if I believe in BOATstiality. glasses8

Topic What tv/movie character did you crush on as a kid?
Posted 04 Oct 2011 16:45

David/Kiefer Sutherland - the lost boys

Theo Huxtable!!

Patrick Swazye - Johnny Castle!


Topic Do you ever feel a bit harrassed or annoyed at some people on lush?
Posted 04 Oct 2011 16:40

Funny, I deleted and blocked someone who started as a friend but did something hurtful. They responding by blocking me, telling mutual friends to block me, calling me names in the forums, and then complaining about me to the admins when I responded.

Unfortunately, I'm one of those people that will forget 100 compliments because of 1 negative comment. So it was clusterfuck that SOURED my lush experience, even though the nicest, sweetest supporters were telling me to "furgettaboutit". lol.

Topic Three words said about the person above you
Posted 07 Sep 2011 17:20

makes me smile!

Topic How many of you actually post nudes?
Posted 31 Aug 2011 02:11

All my pics are me. Boob/ some full body teasers... Had a special "birthday suit album" for only my friends on my birthday. But that is closed for business and won't be seeing the light of day again...Totally a crazy challenge to myself.

Topic How do men feel about red headed women?
Posted 27 Aug 2011 03:18

Personally, I covet red hair and think that redheads are beautiful, sexy, etc. Natural is best, but I hope to find THE right shade of red that I can pull off with my cocoa skin.

I also think freckles are beautiful.

Topic Guys: What body shape do you prefer?
Posted 24 Aug 2011 16:29

Well this was an interesting read. glasses8 book Regaeman Man

Topic Cheer up a lush friend with a picture
Posted 21 Aug 2011 21:14

For MNP:

Topic Cheer up a lush friend with a picture
Posted 21 Aug 2011 21:00

Am I the only one who feels insecure sometimes? LOL

Topic Cheer up a lush friend with a picture
Posted 21 Aug 2011 20:44

Since I accidentally started a new topic (??)dontknow

Use this post to cheer-up a lush friend who is having a bad day/month/year/life with a funny or encouraging picture.

(let's see how long this goes before it's closed haha)

Topic Post your favorite Demotivational posters here.
Posted 21 Aug 2011 20:42

Topic Post your favorite Demotivational posters here.
Posted 21 Aug 2011 13:13

Topic Why ask why? (inexplicable picture marathon)
Posted 21 Aug 2011 13:08

Topic Why ask why? (inexplicable picture marathon)
Posted 21 Aug 2011 13:05

Topic Today in Pictures (post a picture representing your mood)
Posted 21 Aug 2011 13:02

Topic Hug, kiss or ????? the person above you.
Posted 21 Aug 2011 13:00

all the above with shotgun
(wait are you passing me along??! :))

Topic Post groundless lies about the person above
Posted 21 Aug 2011 12:58

Shotgun's gun only pumps you full of water...

Topic Today in Pictures (post a picture representing your mood)
Posted 19 Aug 2011 23:57

Topic married but looking for friendship in IL
Posted 19 Aug 2011 15:56

Can you make change for this? There's plenty more where this came from...

Topic Lush ice cream flavours
Posted 19 Aug 2011 14:19

Cocky Road.
Chocolate Nips...

Topic Tell Me More
Posted 10 Aug 2011 16:53

Thank you so much Clum, easy_rider75, DirtyMartini and She ! Really appreciate it!Hugs

Topic Tell Me More
Posted 04 Aug 2011 17:20

I like that Espresso. Thank you so much!

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