I am Transsexual...I decided to write this to try to make sense of why I feel the way I do and why I have such a strong feminine side. I am not sure if what I say here could be considered reasons or contributing factors responsible for my feminine identity. I do know that there was a factory error and I should have been born a woman.I was born on Saturday, January 31, nineteen sixty something (winking) in New York City. My father was an immigrant from Spain that had only recently obtained citizenship after being an illegal for several years. My dad was the disciplinarian in the house. He had a stern personality and did not hesitate to hit my brother and me with a belt if he thought it was necessary. Though I don’t think I would ever hit a child the way he hit us, I’ve come to forgive him because of his tough childhood and adolescence. I guess you can’t be a perfect parent if you grew up without a mom and left your house at fifteen as he did. My dad did always make sure we were taken care of and always had the best, and for this, he worked very hard. I remember him teaching me to whistle at the pretty girls walking down the street but our bonding experience had a lot to be desired. There was something I did not understand, he would always be very attentive, affectionate and loving to my girl cousins that would come and visit but hardly ever showed us the same affection. I was convinced he liked them better. At the same time he would make me think that girls were some kind of inferior being by saying things, in a derogatory tone, like: “…don’t cry, crying is for girls” or making certain we knew he was the boss in the house and my mom was expected to do the specific stereotypical domestic chores of a woman. We never heard him say he loved or was proud of us until we were adults. He never showed any confidence in us. Though I loved my father with all my heart and I miss him dearly, during my adolescent years, we never saw eye to eye and were always butting heads on several topics, specifically the way he treated my mom. He never did hit her but, believe me, there are other ways to make a person feel inferior and not loved.I worked with my dad for a short while but it was impossible to put up with him. In his mind no one could do things better that him and if it wasn’t his idea it was a bad idea.My mother was a U.S. citizen from a small town in the south west of Puerto Rico, famous for their award winning coffee. I loved my mom more than words can describe. She was a funny, vibrant, kind and loving woman that everybody in the neighborhood adored. Mom was our protector from dad or the ‘go to person’ if we needed something. I am certain I don’t remember her agreeing with dad on the -...Don’t cry, crying is for girls issue - she was the reason I looked up to women and couldn’t understand what was wrong with being a girl in the first place. Unlike my dad people enjoyed being around my mom. Apart from her sense of humor, everyone loved the way she cooked. She had an un-exhausting energy displayed when she packed lunches for all of our friends in the neighborhood and took us to the pool in the Park for a picnic on hot summer days. My mom had no problem saying she loved us, in fact, sometimes it was annoying (smiling). I sometimes would help my mom around the house, as a matter of fact, my limited cooking skills I learned from her. I could always depend on her if I needed someone to talk to. She would give me her best advice but never judge me.For the first nine years of my life I lived in Queens New York. When I was about five we moved from Jackson Heights to a two bedroom apartment in Long Island City where my father had obtained a part time “super” job in a rent control building that came with an attractively low rent. Dad wouldn’t have to quit his dependable union job which provided us with excellent health insurance. It was in this building where I would acquire some lifelong friendships. It was also in this building where I first succumbed to the strong desire and need to feel what it’s like to indulge in what is normally reserved for the female gender, as in lingerie and makeup. My first memory I was about six or seven. A cousin of my mom’s came from Puerto Rico to stay with us. Since she was a young lady and we lived in a two bedroom apartment my brother and I shared a pullout sofa bed in the living room and our room was given to our guest for privacy. One day my mom and her cousin went out shopping and my brother wasn’t home. My father was in the living room watching TV and half asleep. I took this opportunity and entered my room where our guest was staying and going through her things. I recall trying on her lipstick and a pair of her nylon stockings (they were big in the ‘60’s), it was a gratifying and exhilarating experience to say the least and the beginning to a lifelong pursuit. I remember hiding under the bed when I heard my mom and her cousin coming home. I don’t recall how I got out of that one, but somehow I did.As a young boy I didn’t quite understand this behavior. I now know that over the years it has developed and progressed into something that has drastically affected my life and must be addressed. I want to believe that my parents didn’t know or they simply didn’t know how to deal with it. I believe that though it would be detrimental to me, my parents chose to ignore it and hoped it would go away. There is a possibility that they did try to help me, but without psychiatric expertise it would be an uphill battle.When I was in the second grade, I didn’t know why but I now suspect that, because of my aggressive behavior, the inability to stay focused or because of the way I related to female classmates and teachers, the school recommended I see a psychiatrist. I don’t remember how many visits I underwent. I do remember my parents telling me that the doctor said that the teachers were crazier than me. I always ask myself, did they simply refuse to accept the diagnosis because of their lack of understanding? When I moved up to the 3rd grade I was assigned to a special classroom with two teachers for 9 kids. Shortly into the 3rd grade, both my brother and I were taken out of schools and sent to Spain to a catholic boarding school. I believe now this move was probably my parents attempt to help me.I was nine years old when we were sent to Spain to live in a boarding school. It would be approximately seven years before returning to the United States to the same apartment in Queens, NY. At the time, Spain was a country that embraced corporal punishment to an extent that today, it would be considered felony child abuse in this country. I saw my parents maybe for 5 months out of the whole time I was there. I was terribly sad and depressed for the first year and cried myself to sleep in more than one occasion. The school we were attending was coed. Though I displayed a tough personality, was in the wrestling team and soccer team, my secret desire to explore femininity didn’t go away and resurfaced once again. Though I was attracted to females I secretly wanted to be like them, I felt I had more to admire in their gender that I had to admire in my own. A girl could be gentle, sensitive and didn’t have to hide her emotions. They were colorful and much more expressive than boysOnce I found a tube of lipstick and kept it. I tried it on and it made feel good about myself, kind of relieved. Another time I stole a pair of pantyhose form a desk drawer and wore them to class under my pants. These are only a few of the things I did to indulge my need to feel like a girl. I knew this behavior was socially unacceptable so I did my best to keep it secret. Though I found myself sexually attracted to women, I fantasized that my female teachers, in fact any adult woman, would dismissed this attraction as silly and were there to teach me to accept my femininity and how to act accordingly. I began looking at women as role models and would secretly mimic them. I envied everything about them. How they carried themselves and socialized. They way they dressed and groomed themselves. I suppose that like any young adolescent girl I wanted to wear high heels and lipstick, I wanted to be pretty.Sometimes I was allowed to spend a few days at my aunt’s house (my father’s sister). I believe that she either knew or suspected my secret. I remember one time she made me try on a girl’s bathing suit on the pretense that she was fixing it for her daughter. It made me feel good, but in an attempt to keep my secret, I protested until she agreed to let me take it off. Still in Spain, at age thirteen or fourteen I began to experiment with masturbation. At the time my most common fantasy was visualizing a beautiful woman forcing me to serve her. She would instruct me to dress like her, kiss her feet and perform sexual acts on her for long periods of time. Though I never was attracted to boys, eventually the fantasy evolved into a woman teaching me, by example, how to perform sexually as a woman. After ejaculation though, I felt ashamed, embarrassed and scared. I would do my best to suppress these fantasies and hoped they would go away. But as time would tell they only progress and evolved.My first sexual experience was with a prostitute in Puerto Rico, I was sixteen. Though exciting it wasn’t a very memorable experience.At age seventeen I inadvertently had sex with a man for the first time. I had a gay cousin that use to come visit my mom often with his boyfriend. They were both in their mid to late twenties. Having socially unacceptable fantasies of my own, I felt I had no right to judge them. So I thought I would play the cool cousin that understood and accepted them. One time, on a Friday night, they invited me to go to a dance club with them to have a drink. Though hesitant, I didn’t want to appear to be a prude. After a little convincing from them, I agreed to go. On the way there they confessed to me that we were going to a gay club. I felt very uncomfortable but hid my feelings; after all, I was supposed to be the cool cousin. Once there, they lit up a marijuana cigarette, convinced me to smoke and bought me several drinks. I was feeling a little loose when a man came up to me and asked me to dance. I nervously laughed and declined. Between my cousin and his boyfriend suggesting it was just a dance, no harm would be done and the way I felt, I agreed. It was an awkward and uncomfortable feeling. After the dance I gathered all the will I had and convinced my cousin to leave. In the car they suggested I stay at their house because he didn’t want my mom to see me in my condition. When we arrived they lit up another funny cigarette and shared it with me. We had more drinks and talked for what seemed like hours, I eventually confided in them my secret.At some point they began to make out in front of me. They took off their clothes and proceeded to have sex on the pullout sofa bed while I sat there in front of them on a living room chair. They invited me to join them. I felt cornered and confused so I told them that I couldn’t do that unless I had a picture of a woman doing it and I was dressed like a woman. My cousin, seemingly upset, got up, went to his room and returned with a pair of high heel shoes, a tube of lipstick and a pornographic magazine. In what seemed like a demanding tone, he told me to put the shoes on. He grabbed me by my cheeks and applied lipstick to my lips. He turned to a page on the magazine where a woman was engaged in fellatio. In a friendlier but stern voice he told me to get on the bed look at the woman on the picture and try doing that to his boyfriend. I hesitated but felt almost forced to comply with his request. I looked at the pictures and fantasized about the woman ordering me to do as she does. I began to feel excited. I don’t know why but it made me feel good that he was enjoying what I was doing. I continued until he was finished and came in my mouth. I was strongly coerced into swallowing every drop and licking his belly for any spills.I remember the next morning I was ashamed and disgusted. I went to the bathroom and vomited for several minutes. I threatened my cousin. I told him what I did was a mistake and if he ever told anyone I would kill him. I never spent another night in their house.My fantasies remained the same as before that experience. I hid them and felt that I could control them to a point by repressing them as often as possible. I lead my life acting like a tough guy. I got stereotypical tough guy jobs i.e.: police officer, truck driver etc. I dated girls every chance I got, I did enjoy their company. I secretly still had to fantasize about being forced to sexually serve them and dressed like a girl in order to have sex with them. I did manage to keep these fantasies to myself for a long time. However, except for my two eventual marriages, none of my relationships ever lasted long.When I was 26 years old I secretly started building a feminine wardrobe. I would buy makeup, clothes and especially high heel shoes through mail order catalogs. I would have them delivered to a post office box I set up.In a pornographic publication I found transsexuals advertising their services. They had pictures posted on the ads and some of them were really beautiful. Before long I incorporated them into my fantasies. I began fantasizing that they were teaching me to be a woman and forcing me to accept my femininity. I decided I had to meet one. Maybe I could learn about myself through them. After all, how could they possibly judge me? One day I gathered all the courage I could and called one of the ads. She was really friendly and we arranged for a meeting at her place. I didn’t want to hide my secret with her, so I made sure I shaved my body and I wore pantyhose and a bra under my clothes. When I arrived at her place I was impressed at how attractive she was. She was talking to a girlfriend that was visiting her and suggested I go in her bedroom and wait. Within a minute or so she entered the room and asked me what I liked. I acted like an embarrassed and speechless school girl. She took charged and ordered me to take my clothes off. When she discovered what I was wearing underneath she started laughing, opened the bedroom door and allowed her still present girlfriend to see me like that. I was embarrassed beyond belief but totally helpless. She told her girlfriend she’ll call her later and closed the bedroom door. She took off her clothes except for her sexy high heel shoes and her panties. She assumed a dominant role and forced me to have sex with her as a girl. I was forced to worship her cock with my mouth by licking it, smelling it and sucking it. She got on top of me and fucked my face. When she started to cum she ordered me to swallow every drop and enjoy it. I complied with all off her orders and it was extremely pleasurable. At the end she said: “well, how do you like being a girl?” “Fun huh?”I had many more similar experiences while carrying a normal male life on an everyday basis. I always managed to keep my secret life secret. At age thirty I met this incredibly beautiful topless dancer. We had a lot in common and enjoyed each other’s company. After dating for a while we became engaged. I realized that though it may end our relationship, I had to confess to her the truth about myself. To my surprised, she found it kinky and it didn’t deter her at all. I thought this was it. I would be able to have a normal life while keeping my secret in the bedroom. She taught me about makeup, dressing and things like being brand conscious. We had great sex because I was able to be myself and dress in my preferred gender. We would fulfill each other’s fantasies. She would call me and order me to dress up all pretty. She demanded I wear makeup, a pretty dress and heels so we could go out to the clubs. She would teach me how to walk and act feminine and I was simply expected to follow her lead. The relationship ended in divorce after three years when I discovered she cheated on me. I was devastated but we did remain friends for a long time. I returned to my old ways. Seeking out transsexuals for acceptance, I met a pretty one in a club I patronized. After seeing each other in the club a couple of times and hours of conversation, she learned about me. I confess to her that I secretly envied her gorgeous breast. She smile and said: “anyone can get these honey” One time after several drinks she invited me to her house. Once there, she asked me into her room to show me her wardrobe. She insisted I try on one of her tight fitting dresses that had a leopard print design she also had me put on a pair of high heel pumps. I did, she complemented me on the way I looked. It felt good to me to be complemented. Before I knew it we were kissing and feeling each other up. She suggested I take some pills. I asked her what they were and she told me they were hormones. I immediately refused. She insisted and assured me there is nothing to worry about because breasts don’t grow overnight. However, the thought of what I was taking and her being so insisting, excited me. She had me sit down in front of her and had me inhale something from a small bottle which I later learn was a type of amyl nitrite commonly used in the gay community for its aphrodisiac effect. After inhaling this product I became unexplainably and extremely excited. She laughed at me, exposed herself in front of my face and ordered me to open my mouth. She forcibly grabbed me by my hair and ordered me to satisfy her. Because of the inhaler, my excitement was beyond explanation. I labored like a pro. I occasionally would look up at her sinisterly smiling face for approval and compliments on the job I was doing. I felt I could not get enough; I closed my eyes in extreme passion and anxiously waited for her to finish in my willing mouth. I remember occasionally looking at pictures of famous female movie stars on her bedroom wall and fantasizing they were encouraging me to submit to my feminine desires. It was this transsexual that, in the pretense of the (teacher/ student relationship we had), convince me to start taking hormones in a regular basis. She taught me how to inject them and became my supplier. She was probably the one person that, for the first time, made me feel and treated me like a real woman. Today my sexual fantasies are not much different that most woman fantasies are including the ones of having sex with other women.
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