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Posted: Saturday, April 14, 2012 1:27:33 PM

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One of the things that makes it really hard (no pun intended, I assure you) to write a sex story is being extremely aroused. I think this is especially because the topics of the sex stories I write are passionate fantasies of mine or simply topics that I find sexually invigorating.

I'm a new writer to the erotica genre. I've been writing sex stories off and on since 2007-2008, but only in Word documents. I've not submitted a story yet, but I think I'm finally going to either tonight or tomorrow.

Back to the thread's question: Do you get aroused physically when you write sex scenes? Is it possible to avoid albeit the writer having a high sex drive? Is it necessary? Have you ever wrote an extremely dirty, fantastical story of yours where you didn't get physically aroused?

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Posted: Saturday, April 14, 2012 2:14:23 PM

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I get somewhat aroused when I write, half-hard and that warm tingling under my balls. Am right now, as I just posted as new story. I am planning to get together sexually later today with my lover. I will ask her to get her sketchpad and draw my balls & cock. I think that will help her with her warming.
Posted: Saturday, April 14, 2012 4:37:07 PM

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Been here done that, now I just get twitchy at the thought of being romantic by someone who makes my heart beat fast and makes my facial cheeks glow!
Posted: Saturday, April 14, 2012 5:46:57 PM

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I get totally aroused, thats why I write!
Posted: Saturday, April 14, 2012 5:54:53 PM

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I normally feel the same as the character I identify with...
Physically and emotionally.

But there was a similar question asked that you might find some insight.

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Posted: Saturday, April 14, 2012 6:27:29 PM

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I think it's necessary in order to feel what the character feels,I just can't write without feeling
Posted: Saturday, April 14, 2012 7:10:42 PM

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I try not to it distracts me from the story
Posted: Sunday, April 15, 2012 6:37:08 AM

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When I'm actually writing, not very. I'm concentrating on trying to make it sound good. But when I get the ideas, or think about it in detail, I do tend to get aroused. You obviously want to feel hot about the sex parts because otherwise no-one else will and you end up with a failure.

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Posted: Monday, April 16, 2012 10:56:33 PM

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I'm more of a reader than a writer, but I'm (slowly but surely) working on a story now, and I'm constantly aroused. It's almost distracting, but I think it's beneficial to the story.
Posted: Wednesday, April 18, 2012 5:54:56 AM

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When I'm fleshing out characters and doing descriptive stuff (in erotica mode) it is universally better if I am not aroused!

My standard method of writing intimate descriptive stuff or the actual meat of a sex scene is fast, with my cock jammed against the underside of the desk and grinding against it!

The best stuff comes (!) that way.

However, once I've calmed down, rereading, rewriting and improving upon what I banged out in the heat of having the horn is totally essential!
Posted: Wednesday, April 18, 2012 7:19:21 AM

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For me there is a slow burning erotic charge that builds up and seems to go on and on, rather than full arousal (although that happens as well). Having said that each story is different.

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Posted: Wednesday, April 18, 2012 7:28:21 AM

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When writing the sex scenes in my stories I write about the sex that I like so yes I get turned on when writing it.

My latest story:

Posted: Wednesday, April 18, 2012 7:45:42 AM

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Yes, my panties are always soaked while writing sex scenes. It's hard to imagine this not happening, unless the scenes are quick and more conceptual in driving the plot... kind of like "erotique-lite"...

My stuff is pretty explicit and I take my time with the sex scenes, so I'm obviously very aroused. And, I write what turns me on. That always helps. :)

Posted: Wednesday, April 18, 2012 9:14:26 AM

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Posted: Wednesday, April 18, 2012 10:46:12 AM

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The first things I wrote (not posted on here) had me so turned on, I could do little to relieve it despite repeated attempts. Though I still get aroused to varying degrees depending on the story, it does still occur.

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Posted: Friday, April 20, 2012 1:08:16 PM

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Yeah, if I don't find it arousing, I don't write it. 99% of my stories are written for me alone, so it makes sense I guess.

The only thing, that is a problem with that, is writing down your thoughts, when the eroticism of the story takes you over. I find that I miss a bunch of stuff, and it is less well written. I have to go back and edit, when I am less aroused ;)
Posted: Friday, April 20, 2012 1:57:17 PM

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Omg! Extremely aroused. If you don't then what good is your story?
Posted: Friday, April 20, 2012 2:28:38 PM

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I wish I could say I do...I really don't. I think it's like any time I'm trying to create something (i.e. sewing, building, painting, etc.). I am so caught up in getting it right that by the time I get it done, I rarely even get to enjoy the finished product lol. But I write for other people's enjoyment, so I don't think that's such a bad thing.


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Posted: Wednesday, May 02, 2012 3:36:55 PM

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I get aroused when I write and I write to get aroused. By biggest issue with getting aroused is that the story sometimes goes off at a tangent and the participants in the story get way more perverted than I originally intended when I got the idea. I often have to cut portions of sex out of the story when I edit it and save the snippets for the sequel!

Posted: Monday, January 07, 2013 7:49:07 AM

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I definitely get aroused, anywhere from "nice erotic charge" to "can't help but touch myself" (if I have to finish the story later to take care of things, so be it)...my stories start as fantasies I've had, so it only makes sense that writing them out would turn me on. I feel like if I'm getting hot while writing it I'm on the right track.
Posted: Monday, January 07, 2013 9:28:59 AM

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Sometimes I do, other times not. More so when writing stories that have some true confessions in them.
Posted: Monday, January 07, 2013 9:33:23 AM

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I need to be very aroused to start with, but as I write I tend to start concentrating on spelling, grammar and if it actually makes any sense...so the feeling fades....then I start to struggle for inspiration, so I find a friend to chat to and the cycle starts again!
Posted: Monday, January 07, 2013 10:56:42 AM

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I have been writing and I've become very aroused and jerked off to my own work before.... So very yes
Posted: Monday, January 07, 2013 2:38:09 PM

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I usually start writing from a fantasy that aroused me and that I got off to. However, when I actually write it, I don't necessarily get as aroused unless I start going in new directions with the story. Novelty seems to be part of what arouses me and a fantasy that's already aroused me to orgasm won't necessarily do it again even if/when I write it.

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Posted: Monday, January 07, 2013 3:08:45 PM

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I get very aroused. It causes me problems in editing as well because I get so into the story and then suddenly my pants are down and I'm in heaven.

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Do I get turned on while writing? It all depends on whose body I'm writing on. ;)


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Posted: Tuesday, January 22, 2013 5:39:27 PM

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I do. If I don't find it arousing while writing it, why should I expect others to become aroused while reading it? That's just my thoughts on it.

Posted: Tuesday, January 22, 2013 7:55:34 PM

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Oh yeah, no question. I'll proof read it a couple extra times just to keep the heat flowing.

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Posted: Tuesday, January 22, 2013 8:02:57 PM

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I do get aroused when writing a sex scene. I especially get aroused when writing about one that I really experienced and the images of my memory are flashing in my mind.

Posted: Tuesday, January 22, 2013 10:27:41 PM

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Mmmm! OMG. . .I get aroused something fierce when I'm writing erotica. Hell, just recently when I got done writing a steamy tale I took my impassioned state to my fiancé (much to her liking). As for writing anything extremely dirty, I don't think I've taken a story to an extreme.
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