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BallChinian
Posted: Saturday, February 09, 2013 7:00:06 AM

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Through high school and college it seemed like every gal I took a fancy to was one I couldn't have for one reason or another. It was quite painful. During those years I was a hopeless romantic.

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Guest
Posted: Saturday, February 09, 2013 8:33:00 AM

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Yes, and it is quite painful..
ajm45
Posted: Sunday, February 10, 2013 1:00:13 PM

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Welcome to my life. Haha.

No, I'm being a bit melodramatic. But I've been in love with people I couldn't have before, and it does suck. Eventually you realize there's nothing you can do to make them want to be with you or love you back, or you realize you truly can't have them, and you move on. It always helps me to remember that there's someone better out there for me.

[And when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.]
Guest
Posted: Sunday, February 10, 2013 2:27:51 PM

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Oh hell yeah. She is still part of my life but is married now. I see her on occasion but she has no idea I still have feelings for her. There are times I wish something would happen to her husband so we can be together. But it is what it is. She plays an integral part in my fantasies to this day.
Leiza350
Posted: Sunday, February 10, 2013 2:52:50 PM

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Im in love with ....love..... so yes i have fallen several times with some one i couldnt have .....hurts then you get over it and go on .....then do it again...dontknow
oldhound
Posted: Monday, February 11, 2013 7:05:25 AM

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Nope, dont have to do it again, shouldnt have to, not over and over. Its not fair for some to have it so easy and others to bleed out time and again because they are not the norm. Time to change it.
Magical_felix
Posted: Wednesday, February 13, 2013 9:41:31 PM

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cheeseball
Posted: Thursday, February 14, 2013 10:06:17 PM

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Yes , many years ago. We met in 5th grade and she always could always make me laugh. There was something about her sense of humor that was just spot on with mine. We weren't close friends, just classmates. In junior high (now they call it Middle school) we didn't have any classes in common, so we kind of lost touch. I had a girlfriend when we got to high school. I would see her in the hallways and we would chat and, of course, I would laugh like crazy. She hung out with the really popular kids, which I wasn't part of in any way, shape or form. How could I ask her out? I thought she'd never go out with someone as plain as me.

She went away to college, I went to a diffenent one and I got married. After college I would run into her in town now and then, and sure enough she would make me laugh. Sadly, within 10 years of graduating high school she was gone. She died from complications from anorexia. I have often wondered what life might have been like if I wasn't so shy about asking her out for a date back in high school. I still think of her and how much I enjoyed school back in 5th grade because of her. I wonder how painful her life must have been battling anorexia. She deserved better.
Guest
Posted: Friday, February 15, 2013 9:41:40 AM

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I think everyone has at one point or another....

Mine was kinda weird in how it all played out. See, we hadn't talked in years (I moved a lot growing up) so when I found her online to see if she remembered me, I was surprised that she did, and just as clearly as I remembered her.
Turns out, we both had feelings for each other that had lasted since before I had moved away. But she was married. So we just talked.
I am not sure what it was about her that changed, but whatever it was, it did a hell of a job of it. She was an entirely different person, and little of it was good.
She is in the process of divorce now and I am single. And truth be told, I think I'd rather stay single.
Guest
Posted: Tuesday, February 19, 2013 5:49:42 PM

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Yes, with my ex-fiance. Her dad hated me cause I was black and made her choose. I did not want her to lose her family so I left. 5 years, I still cry myself to sleep missing her.
UserKim
Posted: Tuesday, February 19, 2013 11:55:15 PM

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i am now.
littlebitnaughty
Posted: Friday, February 22, 2013 6:15:31 PM

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fallen in love know, wanted them for my self yes. several times
we could never be together, even if it was something we both wanted.
i have a tendency to only want what i cant have!
KatR
Posted: Friday, February 22, 2013 7:08:32 PM

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Yes, we were together for 15 amazing and HOT months but his circumstances and mine made it impossible. I still love him and miss him.
WhiskeyTango
Posted: Friday, February 22, 2013 7:53:26 PM

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story of my life in high school, and even now sometimes in college.
TuhttttouchMe
Posted: Saturday, February 23, 2013 4:26:07 AM

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I have...and am still in love with him honestly. It sucks because I knew from the start that it would never happen, yet my heart wants what my heart wants. Every time I see him it's always a little bittersweet.
Guest
Posted: Thursday, March 21, 2013 6:49:00 PM

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Geez.... Haven't we all?
Guest
Posted: Thursday, April 11, 2013 9:30:55 PM

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Yes, you cant choose who you fall in love with
David04
Posted: Thursday, April 11, 2013 9:39:44 PM

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Many people like to think that somewhere there is the perfect person for them, and if they only find that person they will be happy for the rest of their lives.

Unfortunately, the perfect person is likely to be considered perfect by many people, and to have many choices. If he or she chooses you that is great, and it may happen, but do not expect it.

It is a good idea to restrain your emotions until you have reason to believe to an extent at least, that they are returned.

I have learned all of this through painful experience.

Guest
Posted: Thursday, April 11, 2013 11:06:46 PM

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Yes, a celebrity and a manga character. Fml
Guest
Posted: Thursday, April 11, 2013 11:16:39 PM

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OH MY GOD YES. I hope and pray that we can be together one day, but I have lived long enough to know that reality is a very viscious bitch. But I will take what i can get, for as long as I can get it.
Up4AlmostAnything
Posted: Friday, April 12, 2013 12:23:25 AM

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yes....
bill11
Posted: Sunday, April 14, 2013 8:04:18 AM

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Yes, but know we can not have everything we want and had to deal with it
doug711
Posted: Sunday, April 14, 2013 9:47:55 AM

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yes, and still am....
Guest
Posted: Sunday, April 14, 2013 2:51:19 PM

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Yes. I have fallen for someone I can't have and I know he'll never love me.
I have also fell hard for someone I shouldn't of because it has cause grief and misery x
Guest
Posted: Sunday, April 14, 2013 3:01:24 PM

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My first love was a girl i couldn't have, as was my second love.
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Posted: Tuesday, April 16, 2013 3:06:21 AM

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I'm sure almost everyone has fallen in love at least once with someone they couldn't have. Currently I've been in love with a celebrity since I was little, he was my first love, and I know I'll always feel the same way about him, and if I ever had the chance, I would be with him for the rest of my life. But since that's an unrealistic goal, I'll focus on a different love.

Being in love with someone you can't have is very difficult. More so being in love with someone who has commitment issues, or someone who is too scared of being hurt to get back into any kind of serious relationship.

Frankly, I don't know how to get through it. I've been trying so hard not to fall in love with him because I don't want to get hurt, but I fell hard and there's absolutely no reason for me to not love him. He doesn't want a relationship, he has his reasons and I understand. It still hurts, and it's extremely hard to deal with. I'm not pushing for a relationship because I don't want to lose him as a friend. Just because I can't have him, doesn't mean I shouldn't try to keep him in my life. He's a great person and I feel honored to know him. Who knows? Maybe I'll get him one day. The future is uncertain, and I'm not going to toy with fate. If it's written in the stars, I'll let the universe lead me to where I need to be.
Urbabygirl_1978
Posted: Tuesday, April 16, 2013 3:42:17 PM

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Yes, it was the worst experience. I hope it never happens again.
crazydiamond
Posted: Tuesday, April 16, 2013 3:46:29 PM

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Yeah... Myself... But she is so fucking hard to get! bunny

musikboy
Posted: Wednesday, April 17, 2013 11:11:26 AM

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Looks like i always do. lol.. Gotta stop doing that, it hurts ><.
musikboy
Posted: Wednesday, April 17, 2013 11:20:15 AM

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EmoQueen wrote:
Yes. I have fallen for someone I can't have and I know he'll never love me.
I have also fell hard for someone I shouldn't of because it has cause grief and misery x


I know that feeling .. it sucks :(
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