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Posted: Friday, September 20, 2013 8:57:43 PM

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Have known someone for 4 years from another site and have considered him a friend. But now have this feeling he is lying to me and know I shouldn't let it bother me but it does. I feel even though just friends I think the honesty should be there. Hang in or say goodbye?
mal0003
Posted: Friday, September 20, 2013 9:12:21 PM

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I would love to give you the advise most would probably recommend to say goodbye, but I'm a hanger in there!
Guest
Posted: Friday, September 20, 2013 9:29:01 PM

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Well, I would think it matters what the lie was. If there is no emotional connection and the lie was superficial crap, why not hang in there? If there is more to it than superficial crap or just a little white lie...well that kinda spins the head and the trust...no?
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Posted: Friday, September 20, 2013 11:02:14 PM

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well I always trust my instincts but a friend of 4 yrs likely deserves the benefit of the doubt...if he IS lying..walk away..
Guest
Posted: Saturday, September 21, 2013 4:54:06 AM

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It is impossible to give any useful advice or opinions using such limited and vague information to begin with concerning your actual situation. You may want to explain the situation a bit better.
She
Posted: Saturday, September 21, 2013 5:32:07 AM

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I always say goodbye. There is no reason and no room in my life for people that make me or could make me feel bad. Life in itself can be shity without all unnecessary drama and it will become drama if you have bad feelings. Trust your instinct what it tells you, not your emotions.
Good luck!
Guest
Posted: Saturday, September 21, 2013 6:57:22 AM

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dont like lyers and would say goodbye and give them the reason why. give them a chance to explain themselves.
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Posted: Saturday, September 21, 2013 1:49:18 PM

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Open communicate will be the only way for you to decide to stay or flee. Talk to your friend and ask the hard questions. that is the only way.




sweetaz
Posted: Sunday, September 22, 2013 3:45:56 AM

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If your asking then you should be doing ... say goodbye
Guest
Posted: Thursday, September 26, 2013 7:10:39 AM

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I once hung in there for more than a couple of days. Now, I walk away and don't look back. Be upfront with me, or take the highway out.
We have all had our sad stories. That is the nature of humanity. We have to take risks. So when you take a risk with someone, give it your best shot and let the chips fall where they may.
OldGeezer
Posted: Thursday, September 26, 2013 11:29:18 AM

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What's worst? The pain of having walked away, or the continuing uncertainty and mental anguish?
I'd probably walk. Plenty of fish in the sea, tra-la.
Guest
Posted: Saturday, October 12, 2013 1:02:06 PM

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We are humans, we make mistakes. If he is lying maybe he has a good reason to. Ask him. But if your gut tells you something still is not right, then why hang in? I dont see the point. :) I dont think good relationships are built if either person has a shaky feeling against the other.
buttercup2u
Posted: Wednesday, October 16, 2013 10:43:31 PM

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If this person is just a friend, then I say hang in there. Keep that person as a friend, you don't know what they are going through that makes them feel the need to lie.
Weavindreams
Posted: Wednesday, November 20, 2013 1:55:31 PM

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Not enough info for one thing. For another; regardless of what ANYONE else says only you can make the decision. For ME, it would be entirely dependent upon the nature and severity of the dishonesty; as you never KNOW what's behind it. If it's relatively harmless, and might be caused by insecurity or something akin to it; then let it go. BUT, if it involves important and possibly harmful matters, GET GONE FAST!


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Posted: Tuesday, December 10, 2013 6:26:28 PM

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