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Guest
Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 8:46:22 AM

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I have been invited to six Lush weddings in the last few weeks and attended two. They all had the trappings; limos, bridesmaids, music, flowers, cake, champagne....and even had the faux minister, and exchanged vows. I suppose those that are in claimed relationships are looking to make a stronger commitment. Your thoughts?

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Mazza
Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 9:11:47 AM

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Do you mean virtual, online weddings or weddings in real life?

I've attended one online ceremony here... Must be just about a year ago...
LadyX
Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 9:15:57 AM

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My only thoughts are further questions:

If you're online-married, is it a pre-requisite that you be real-life single?
Can you get online-anulled after you've cyber-consummated the marriage?
How lengthy is the online-divorce process?
Has anyone ever had online-kids? (if so, don't comment...actually, just forget I asked that)
Are there online honeymoons?

Those are all serious questions.

Okay, one more:

Is there online-marriage counseling?
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Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 9:20:49 AM

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I love LadyX's questions.

I am not one to have no opinion on most topics but would simply say that lush is supposed to be fun and without drama so if the online marriage can stay in the realm of lush and be non judgemental then go for it. I see many posts in forums where everything becomes confused and blended together so I can see many issues arising.

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Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 9:24:24 AM

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Lady X brings up some very interesting things about this topic.

I would hope that the people getting married are not really married in real life.

I would think if the real life wife found out she might be pretty ticked off or vice versa.

To Each is Own.

Nikki703
Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 9:39:11 AM

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LadyX wrote:
My only thoughts are further questions:

If you're online-married, is it a pre-requisite that you be real-life single?
Can you get online-anulled after you've cyber-consummated the marriage?
How lengthy is the online-divorce process?
Has anyone ever had online-kids? (if so, don't comment...actually, just forget I asked that)
Are there online honeymoons?

Those are all serious questions.

Okay, one more:

Is there online-marriage counseling?


All Great Points!!

And do you have to pay alimony? And what about Pre-nups? If I got married on-line and we shared pics, I would want them back if we broke up!! Also is on-line polygamy allowed? Would being married on-line and IRL be Polygamy?
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Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 9:41:25 AM

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Nikki703 wrote:


All Great Points!!

And do you have to pay alimony? And what about Pre-nups? If I got married on-line and we shared pics, I would want them back if we broke up!! Also is on-line polygamy allowed? Would being married on-line and IRL be Polygamy?


I'm not online-marrying anyone without polyamory being part of the deal. Just throwing that out there.
kiera
Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 9:43:15 AM

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Ok in all honesty I think it is a ridiculous, I attended a mating ceremony here once and spent the whole time and the next few days in borderline hysterics. That being said i'm sure the divorce process is much faster and cheaper kekekegay and generally occurs once someone new or old tickles one or the others fancy, there are just too many options here on Lush.

Reality people, although I don't deny you can form love and attachments on here, I have some friends I would dearly love to meet, its unlikely to happen though. Online marriage though nope, example is said mated couple are no longer a couple and the ceremony was what...2 months ago and I know at least one of them is now with someone else and the other admitted they had had several previous mates on here, so I ask you what was the point in the first place?? Best to keep these things private in my view but that's just my humble opinion for what its worth.
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Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 9:46:01 AM

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I've attended and officiated at one Lush wedding. However, they were and still are an actual real life couple. They met first in real life, and he asked her to join Lush, which is a bit different than the usual Lush relationships.

It's not really my thing, but whatever if it works for them. I have noticed that there seems to be a lot of marriage and relationship hopping going on, but I guess it's all just a fantasy world here, right? The fantasies keep changing. dontknow



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Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 9:49:46 AM

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I think it is strange. As said above, you can form relationships and bonds, but come on...... nope, sorry, not for me at all.
Nikki703
Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 9:52:00 AM

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LadyX wrote:


I'm not online-marrying anyone without polyamory being part of the deal. Just throwing that out there.


Yeah, I would only cyber marry if it can be an open relationship.

Cyber Marriage could be fun, but with my marriage history, he would probably figure out a way to give me a cyber beating leading to a virtual restraining order ending up in an on-line divorce!!
LadyX
Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 9:59:17 AM

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Nikki703 wrote:


Yeah, I would only cyber marry if it can be an open relationship.

Cyber Marriage could be fun, but with my marriage history, he would probably figure out a way to give me a cyber beating leading to a virtual restraining order ending up in an on-line divorce!!


It's telling that out of all possible interpersonal functions, the one that's built into the site already is the restraining order (block member) evil4

I really, really need a 'block member' option in real life.
Dancing_Doll
Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 10:06:05 AM

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It's funny that on a site that's supposed to be about sex and exploration and fun, some people still go to huge lengths to be as traditional and conservative as humanly possible. Somehow it still comes down to marriage and and commitment and monogamy and rules.

Having said that - it's really no different than any other kind of role-playing, so if holding a cyber-bouquet and having a make-believe ceremony really floats your boat, go for it. But please god - no angsty barrage of wailing divorce poems when your cyber-spouse hits the 'delete account' button one day.


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Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 10:06:45 AM

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I have been very curious about this subject. It took Jeremiah and I while to figure out that these were only online marriages. I asked the same questions as you Lady X and many more.. The whole idea is beyond my realm of thinking.
But that said, Jeremiah and I going on 10 months.. I think it took me 7 months to actually put in a relationship on my bio. Not because I wanted to hide it, but because I felt silly.. Then I realized it was an affirmation of the bond we share and it felt right.
Someone else may think what we do is beyond their realm of thinking.
So I guess my "vote" is.... whatever floats your boat, baby. If it makes you happy, who am I to judge.

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Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 10:09:01 AM

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Maybe?
CurlyGirly
Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 10:10:00 AM

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Nikki703 wrote:


Yeah, I would only cyber marry if it can be an open relationship.

Cyber Marriage could be fun, but with my marriage history, he would probably figure out a way to give me a cyber beating leading to a virtual restraining order ending up in an on-line divorce!!


Good point! Should they have to file for a Lush divorce? Wait a certain amount of time until they can Lush marry again?

I think I'm pretty much done with marriage, IRL or online. evil4



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Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 10:23:41 AM

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Have you heard of the term "carney marriage"? That's what it reminds me of. A vague intention of staying kind of monogamous, for a while.

Out of interest how many of those six weddings are still in blissful online union? Most of the ones I end up hearing about turn quickly into car crashes.



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Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 10:24:17 AM

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They're entertaining, to say the least.

And they do make way for a lucrative career as a divorce lawyer.

With that being said, I'm Danielle Something and I fight for you!





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Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 10:26:04 AM

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I say do what makes your life bearable, happy, content and feels good to you. You do not have to answer for, explain or defend your choices. Now is it for me? No but I don't judge, I will even be the wedding planner if need be.
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Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 10:28:21 AM

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I'm Counselor X- The Lush Hammer!

Danielle Something might make them pay, but I make them hurt!

Your online husband done you wrong? I'll HAMMER them for all they've got!
Your online wife fooling around in the chat rooms? I'll HAMMER her image.
I'll get your .gifs back!
I'll get your friends to side with you!
I'll make sure those vote-bombs are taken care of as well.

Come to the best, jilted Lush-spouses: Counselor X, the LUSH HAMMER!
Soleillalune
Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 10:32:25 AM

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LadyX wrote:
I'm Counselor X- The Lush Hammer!

Danielle Something might make them pay, but I make them hurt!

Your online husband done you wrong? I'll HAMMER them for all they've got!
Your online wife fooling around in the chat rooms? I'll HAMMER her image.
I'll get your .gifs back!
I'll get your friends to side with you!
I'll make sure those vote-bombs are taken care of as well.

Come to the best, jilted Lush-spouses: Counselor X, the LUSH HAMMER!


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Dani
Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 10:32:45 AM

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LadyX wrote:
I'm Counselor X- The Lush Hammer!

Danielle Something might make them pay, but I make them hurt!

Your online husband done you wrong? I'll HAMMER them for all they've got!
Your online wife fooling around in the chat rooms? I'll HAMMER her image.
I'll get your .gifs back!
I'll get your friends to side with you!
I'll make sure those vote-bombs are taken care of as well.

Come to the best, jilted Lush-spouses: Counselor X, the LUSH HAMMER!


GODDAMMIT!

I can't compete with this shit. Wanna be partners?

Double the trouble...double the profit.



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Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 10:36:37 AM

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LadyX wrote:
I'm Counselor X- The Lush Hammer!

Danielle Something might make them pay, but I make them hurt!

Your online husband done you wrong? I'll HAMMER them for all they've got!
Your online wife fooling around in the chat rooms? I'll HAMMER her image.
I'll get your .gifs back!
I'll get your friends to side with you!
I'll make sure those vote-bombs are taken care of as well.

Come to the best, jilted Lush-spouses: Counselor X, the LUSH HAMMER!


I have her on retainer. Potential husbands beware evil5
Soleillalune
Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 10:36:48 AM

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slipperywhenwet2012 wrote:


GODDAMMIT!

I can't compete with this shit. Wanna be partners?

Double the trouble...double the profit.


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Guest
Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 10:38:15 AM

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Wow! I have no clue! From the things I've heard as bar tender! Marriage is scarey. :)
LadyX
Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 10:39:23 AM

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slipperywhenwet2012 wrote:


GODDAMMIT!

I can't compete with this shit. Wanna be partners?

Double the trouble...double the profit.


I'm here to make this deal.

You cyber-philanderers don't stand a chance.
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Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 12:11:43 PM

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LMAO!!! Oh damn... One of the best threads I have read in a while... I love the humor of lushies, you always keep me laughing!... As far as a cyber wedding?? Well... It comes down to the people involved... Is it something they just want to do to pass the time and have fun? Or is it that they truly are committing themselves to their partner? I totally get adding "In a relationship" to your status, as you are proud and want everyone to know how much another means to you... Making it a marriage? I dont know... definitely not for me... But as others have said... To each their own and hope everyone has happiness and drama free fun in Lush!!... :)

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Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 2:00:54 PM

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overmykneenow wrote:
Have you heard of the term "carney marriage"? That's what it reminds me of. A vague intention of staying kind of monogamous, for a while.

Out of interest how many of those six weddings are still in blissful online union? Most of the ones I end up hearing about turn quickly into car crashes.



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Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 2:48:36 PM

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Hello people, I was walking my cyber-dog and came across this thread.

I take things here one step at a time. Cyber-marriage is still too early for me. First, I'm planning to rent a cyber-apartment here on Lush. There's a nice one that has been offered to me ; it's a nice cozy place just between Art & Entertainment and En Vogue, which I think is practical since it's pretty much located in the trendiest part of Lush-City. It fits my cyber-lifestyle. I'll have to check my cyber-budget though, as my current cyber-career (polling in the Ask the Gals neighborhood) is not that lucrative. I thought about offering my services as a cyber stand-up comedian in The Pub as a sideline job. Worst case scenario I'll be the cyber-janitor in the Hardcore section for a while.

But seriously...

I just don't understand the phenomenon. In general, I just browse the forums rapidly and create on average 2-10 posts per day, and I'm already starting to think that I'm investing too much of my real-life time on Lush. I mean, the interactions with people here are very limited ; you can't cuddle, kiss or fuck, let alone 'build' something together (eg. living together, having children, etc). Hell, you can't even have dinner or watch a movie together. The only things you can do is exchange words, opinions, ideas and vague feelings (and maybe offer visual stimulation through Skype), so why not just call it intimate friendship?

Sorry to those who actually participate in those things, but personally I just don't get it.
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Posted: Wednesday, November 13, 2013 4:11:37 PM

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Mazza wrote:
Do you mean virtual, online weddings or weddings in real life?

I've attended one online ceremony here... Must be just about a year ago...


An online wedding. One of fantasy.
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