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Posted: Thursday, April 17, 2014 9:40:51 PM

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I speak my mind only when I feel it has any value to the listener. I don't do it for my ego, and only if I'm asked.

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Posted: Thursday, April 17, 2014 10:31:47 PM

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why keep your mouth shut why not get it out in the open if you can't be honest with someone why even be friends with the person it is pointless


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Posted: Friday, April 18, 2014 8:39:49 PM

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I speak my mind more than I keep my mouth shut.
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Posted: Tuesday, April 22, 2014 3:42:05 PM

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Dreamer90 wrote:
I tend to speak my mind very clearly. It actually is hard for me to bite my tongue and not say anything. It's something I'm still learning.

I'm the same but I wasn't always. As I got to my latn 20's, early 30's I became more direct but I did learn to be tactful along the way.
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Posted: Tuesday, April 22, 2014 3:49:27 PM

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The older I get, the more value I see in saying nothing. How often does one need to get their fingers burned before one learns the wisdom of just letting the cook worry about his own, damn pot.

Surely silence can sometimes be the most eloquent of replies
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Posted: Tuesday, April 22, 2014 4:54:57 PM

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My instant urge is to share how I feel or my view. But, I've learned to use discernment--specifically if it could hurt someone. I will guestion my motives. Is it really necessary? Who is benefitting here? Have a heart. It's a totally different thing when it comes to protecting myself or my son. Now for that, I will cut a bitch down, slowly and watch them bleed out with no problem or hesitation. I can be pretty cold when it comes to my money too.

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Posted: Tuesday, April 22, 2014 7:47:38 PM

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I agree with avgblkgrl. If it has to do with someone I love or my money I am a ..uh .. well check my profile you'll see. LOL Otherwise my schmartz convince my badass to STFU
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Posted: Thursday, May 29, 2014 6:00:47 PM

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I spent years keeping my mouth shut and all it ever got me was worlds and worlds of pain and sadness, so now, I just let shit fly. If people don't like what I have to say, they don't have to talk to me or listen to what I have to say. Life is too short to spend it censoring myself simply to please others.
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Posted: Thursday, May 29, 2014 6:17:01 PM

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When I am at work I am outspoken and speak my mind but in a tactful way.

In my every day to day life. I tend to bite my tongue. I don't like to make
people feel bad (even if they deserve it.)
Leigh65
Posted: Thursday, May 29, 2014 6:24:10 PM

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There is a time and a place. I am not shy about speaking my mind but I am also respectful of other's feelings.
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Posted: Friday, May 30, 2014 6:07:51 AM

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I rarely speak up. I prefer to hold my feelings locked inside until those stored-up feelings slip out in a sarcastic remark.

I'm quite shy and reserved and usually do as I'm told in most situations and try to accept whatever happens with good grace.
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Posted: Saturday, May 31, 2014 12:11:38 PM

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I have always felt it is best to speak the truth and hopefully help make things better with what I say. Of course, the trick is always to find a tactful and appropriate way to say things at the time (to be effective) so that they are heard but do not make others stop listening.
But recently I have been finding that those who want to know what I think, and seem to respect my judgement, I will try to respond to.
But I am not often going to try to save the world lately. Not many people care to try to save mine......

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Posted: Sunday, June 1, 2014 1:08:22 PM

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Sometimes it's not about keeping your mouth shut, but making sure when it opens that the right words in the right tone come out of it.
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Posted: Sunday, June 1, 2014 1:22:33 PM

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LittleLuce wrote:
Sometimes it's not about keeping your mouth shut, but making sure when it opens that the right words in the right tone come out of it.

Perfectly put.
Even then, some people just don't understand what you say.
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Posted: Sunday, June 1, 2014 1:34:51 PM

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Eh, I wish more people would shush their mouth or at least thought it through before speaking. If it is not crystal clear what you want to say in your mind, for sure others will not understand you. That being said, I am all pro for expressing yourself.
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Posted: Monday, June 2, 2014 1:23:05 PM

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I am a very much say what you think kind of girl. It sometimes gets me into trouble, but I'd rather be honest than quiet.
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Posted: Monday, June 2, 2014 1:51:37 PM

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I speak my mind most of the time. Depending on what the situation is, sometimes when I'm hurt I regress and keep to myself. But I speak when I feel it's effective or important.
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Posted: Tuesday, June 3, 2014 7:46:00 AM

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There was a time when if I thought it I said it, but after having children and being around other children and parents I realized that you must pick what is said carefully.
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Posted: Tuesday, June 3, 2014 8:20:56 AM

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Posted: Tuesday, June 3, 2014 9:07:53 AM

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Its good to speak your mind and be honest but sometimes that can be tricky. I think its all about how you say what's on your mind
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Posted: Tuesday, June 3, 2014 10:25:24 AM

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"It is better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to open one's mouth and remove all doubt".
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Posted: Tuesday, June 3, 2014 11:38:06 AM

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I always try to take time to think: "What would Poirot say?"
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Posted: Wednesday, June 4, 2014 12:04:18 PM

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LittleLuce wrote:
Sometimes it's not about keeping your mouth shut, but making sure when it opens that the right words in the right tone come out of it.


I agree with this ...

Plus sometimes when you bottle shit up and press it down, eventually you will be full of bitterness and will explode. So speak up if something is bothering you or doesn't feel right. Being honest and blunt doesn't necessarily have to be seen as a bad thing. It's all in HOW you say it and WHEN you say it. My 2 cents
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Posted: Saturday, September 6, 2014 2:04:51 PM

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I use to be a very quiet and reserved lady, but anymore I do tell it like it is...
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Posted: Monday, September 8, 2014 8:22:36 PM

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BLEHH.
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Posted: Saturday, September 13, 2014 4:02:46 PM

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I've always been a bit too outspoken, especially in the face of stupidity and injustice. But I am, at times, inclined to just sit back and watch a fool learn the hard way, unless someone else might get injured in the process.

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Posted: Saturday, September 13, 2014 4:39:47 PM

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I generally will speak my mind. I try to always be honest.
However, I do believe there are times when not saying anything is the better choice. If speaking my mind would hurt someone else unnecessarily I will not. Or if the situation is really none of my business or my opinion is not required then I likely will choose not too.
Sometimes though speaking your mind is needed, regardless of the situation or feelings involved. In these cases, it's best to choose your words wisely and think before you speak. My 2 cents
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Posted: Saturday, September 13, 2014 4:50:38 PM

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avrgblkgrl wrote:
My instant urge is to share how I feel or my view. But, I've learned to use discernment--specifically if it could hurt someone. I will guestion my motives. Is it really necessary? Who is benefitting here? Have a heart. It's a totally different thing when it comes to protecting myself or my son. Now for that, I will cut a bitch down, slowly and watch them bleed out with no problem or hesitation. I can be pretty cold when it comes to my money too.

violent3

Other than that, I'm a pretty happy, easy going person.Hugs



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Posted: Saturday, September 13, 2014 5:44:58 PM

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Great question. If I am with friends and company, I will usually be quiet. Don't really want to ruffle any feathers. If it's between me and my SO or someone else, and something is said that irks me then I will definitely speak my mind. Used to be a 'pushover' not anymore. I can be very stubborn. Which is a character trait I need to work on.


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Posted: Saturday, September 13, 2014 6:45:12 PM

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Guest wrote:
I typically all my life keep things bottled up.
Yesterday spoke my piece and now I am the bad guy.
So guess I go back to keeping things in. And get in trouble for doing that too.



Fuck that! Once you let it out stand your ground. People are just surprised you spoke up. No need to be an ass all the time, but you need to speak your mind, just find a better way to do it. Be nicer about it, speak softer, but get the point across and never be a pussy.
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