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Poll Question : How do you behave the first time?
Choice Votes Statistics
I'm a slut and don't try to hide it in any way 3 18 %
I'm quite dirty, but expose my sexuality gradually 2 12 %
I usually wait for my partner to unfold my kinks 3 18 %
I'm quite prude and don't have much to hide anyway 0 0 %
It really depends on my partner 8 50 %
It really depends on my level of alcohol 0 0 %
Other (please discuss) 0 0 %

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SereneProdigy
Posted: Wednesday, June 04, 2014 7:28:36 PM

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First Time Fuck


When you have sex for the very first time with a man, do you usually handle it differently?

- Do you play it safe and keep some of your kinky practices to yourself (eg. dirty talk, anal, cumplay, rough sex, etc.)? Or are you just as uninhibited as with a partner you're comfortable with?

- After how many sessions do you usually feel completely comfortable with a partner (considering you might be sexually compatible with this partner in the first place)?

- Does the overall level of nervousness/novelty keep you from enjoying the sex fully? Do you expect to enjoy the sex at full capacity, or perceive it more as an opportunity to get to know your partner sexually before things really start to get intense with subsequent fucks?

Personally, I generally play it safe with girls when I'm fucking them for the very first time. I'm not that hard to please, and don't really have that many 'weird' fetishes/practices anyway (well, aside from pouring fake cum all over them and fucking them with my 8,5-inch penis extension). I actually behave that way more for them (to keep them comfortable), than for me; I'm not exactly 'ashamed' of my sexual practices.

Usually for me, the first session is essentially meant to expose our respective sexual behaviors. I do find the sex quite pleasurable, but things really start to get more hot/intense after a few sessions (which varies), especially when both partners can behave freely without any fear of displeasing the other person.

Unless they really ask for something specific or give obvious hints, I usually only expect to fuck their vagina in many different positions with moderate dirty talk. I even often cum right in the condom; unless, as I've said, the girl gives me obvious hints to shoot my load elsewhere.

What I generally like to do is 'test' the girl with many different moves, and see how she reacts. For example, when I'm thrusting inside her pussy and I'm about to cum, I'll usually say something like "Oh fuck, I'm gonna shoot a huge load very soon!", to see if the girl will hopefully respond with something like "Fuck yeah, please cum all over my stomach!". Or I can lick her asshole or rub my dick against it to see if that will provoke a "Oh yes! Fuck my sweet little ass!" reaction.

I'm asking mainly because I've seen women react very differently, and often times the girl's behavior wasn't related to her personality/sexuality in any way. I met extroverted/cheerful girls who played it rather safe during the first few fucks, but then I also met quiet/modest girls who were pretty upfront when I first fucked them. I also met girls who were quite 'adventurous' and 'nasty', but exposed their practices very gradually. I also wonder if the way we meet or they perceive me might have an influence on their overall behavior.

Just last week I slept with a girl who has a rather sweet/agreeable/innocent personality, and yet she was strikingly nasty, with a rather bold 'bring it on' sexual attitude. I even got to fuck her ass and cum all over it the very first time.

I think I'm in love. Embarassed


So, how do you handle the situation yourself?

Thanks for sharing!
SereneProdigy
Posted: Wednesday, June 04, 2014 7:43:46 PM

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Here's an interesting graph I found:





I wonder if this is really accurate; the percentages seem rather low to me. Can you relate to this graph somehow?

Please discuss!
1LovelyKinkyKitsune
Posted: Wednesday, June 04, 2014 8:54:30 PM

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Why does this graph seem low to you? Only about that 65% of all women have orgasms or have had... not all women even have had a climax.

Not every person watches porn and is so open-minded in the bedroom, even if they try to be.

I am a combination of things in the poll... so it was hard to choose.
I think the first time is a testing of the waters, like a warm-up.
Opinions I have encountered differ. I think of myself as more allowing to follow and go with the flow, open up more gradual and let them discover. Then I am more aggressive, though some might already think that. It may not take long to warm up, even round two. Some people are just more shy, reserved, or testing.


I do not think it has anything to do with you at all, I think it is all about what they are comfortable with and how they are.

Metilda
Posted: Wednesday, June 04, 2014 10:12:10 PM

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SereneProdigy wrote:


First Time Fuck


When you have sex for the very first time with a man, do you usually handle it differently?

- Do you play it safe and keep some of your kinky practices to yourself (eg. dirty talk, anal, cumplay, rough sex, etc.)? Or are you just as uninhibited as with a partner you're comfortable with?

- After how many sessions do you usually feel completely comfortable with a partner (considering you might be sexually compatible with this partner in the first place)?

- Does the overall level of nervousness/novelty keep you from enjoying the sex fully? Do you expect to enjoy the sex at full capacity, or perceive it more as an opportunity to get to know your partner sexually before things really start to get intense with subsequent fucks?

Personally, I generally play it safe with girls when I'm fucking them for the very first time. I'm not that hard to please, and don't really have that many 'weird' fetishes/practices anyway (well, aside from pouring fake cum all over them and fucking them with my 8,5-inch penis extension). I actually behave that way more for them (to keep them comfortable), than for me; I'm not exactly 'ashamed' of my sexual practices.

Usually for me, the first session is essentially meant to expose our respective sexual behaviors. I do find the sex quite pleasurable, but things really start to get more hot/intense after a few sessions (which varies), especially when both partners can behave freely without any fear of displeasing the other person.

Unless they really ask for something specific or give obvious hints, I usually only expect to fuck their vagina in many different positions with moderate dirty talk. I even often cum right in the condom; unless, as I've said, the girl gives me obvious hints to shoot my load elsewhere.

What I generally like to do is 'test' the girl with many different moves, and see how she reacts. For example, when I'm thrusting inside her pussy and I'm about to cum, I'll usually say something like "Oh fuck, I'm gonna shoot a huge load very soon!", to see if the girl will hopefully respond with something like "Fuck yeah, please cum all over my stomach!". Or I can lick her asshole or rub my dick against it to see if that will provoke a "Oh yes! Fuck my sweet little ass!" reaction.

I'm asking mainly because I've seen women react very differently, and often times the girl's behavior wasn't related to her personality/sexuality in any way. I met extroverted/cheerful girls who played it rather safe during the first few fucks, but then I also met quiet/modest girls who were pretty upfront when I first fucked them. I also met girls who were quite 'adventurous' and 'nasty', but exposed their practices very gradually. I also wonder if the way we meet or they perceive me might have an influence on their overall behavior.

Just last week I slept with a girl who has a rather sweet/agreeable/innocent personality, and yet she was strikingly nasty, with a rather bold 'bring it on' sexual attitude. I even got to fuck her ass and cum all over it the very first time.

I think I'm in love. Embarassed


So, how do you handle the situation yourself?

Thanks for sharing!


First time sex in a relationship for me is usually focused on relief - I can't go forever without sex. "Fuck me, please," has come from me quite a few times. Then - after a few rough, wild sessions, things can become more focused and mutual.

I've found that I don't need any of my fixes, my kinks, my fetishes at all in order to thoroughly enjoy sex for the first god knows how many times. The newness, the excitement, the brand new experience with a new person is enough to really carry me through for a long time.

Some relationships end far before the sexual excitement wears off in the slightest.

I think it took years for things to slowly taper with my husband and even then he surprises me (we've been married for 11 years now). He was military until just last year so we really kept reliving a lot of 'new' experiences (each time he'd return from deployment - for example).

I tend to go to my kinks and thrills when he's not around - or when we're in a seasonal funk and sex just isn't happening as much. With the development of certain health issues on his part we still have fabulous sex - just not quite as often as we used to. I use erotica as a substitute.

But then there are some interests of mine he just has never shared - and never will - like my fisting and extreme-size thrills.

As far as things like anal sex and such goes - I've always been very slow to bring that up. Though I love it extremely, a lot of the guys I've been with do not. And when it came to my husband - well - he's got a huge cock. It was like starting all over from 0 with having to figure out how to handle so much - oral, anal - all that was a new challenge for me. But I'm a good student :) I earned an A anyway.

And then there's my dark side - and as far as I'm concerned he will never know how depraved my thoughts can get sometimes when he gets me off - etc. Yet, because things are still overall quite satisfying, I don't' feel like these sex secrets hurt or deny us of anything.

Now before my husband - as far as new experiences go - I don't know what to say. My ex boyfriend just before I met my husband was a prude. HE didn't even like kissing in public. Sex wasn't much more adventurous. I thought he had a thrilling side because he'd go out of his 'Okay - missionary' mode time to time. But when I encouraged him to let go of his anxiety and be himself he actually stopped being adventurous all together. Apparently he was truly prudish and those efforts to 'do something new' were him going outside of his comfort zone. When I encouraged him to be himself I thought he'd open up more - become more honest with his wants and interests. Nope. Nope. Nope.

Before that - well - with my ex husband I was the one with the experience. He was a virgin. Sex was never all that wow.

Before that - more virgins, most likely. I was always the one with experience and it just irritated me to no end. Sex sucked for the most part and first times were mostly him figure out how to put a condom on. confused5

And before that - well - can't talk about that.

Dancing_Doll
Posted: Friday, June 06, 2014 5:58:15 AM

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It really depends on the guy. With some, it's had a more sexual vibe right from the beginning and especially if I know the attraction is mainly physical/sexual, I've gone in as a total dirty cum-slut and the sex has been off the hook right from the beginning. If there's already been sexting or sex talk before hooking up and we both have a feel for what each other wants, there's really no need to take things slow.

In other cases, it's been more of a slow-burn and getting to know the person in a non-sexual way, so when things turn physical, I probably do hold back a bit at first. The first time can be exploratory too... but shifts in energy and intensity and reciprocated dirty talk can turn things up fast... I am somewhat sexually aggressive, so I do tend to push things to a certain degree pretty early on but at the same time, I've been with certain guys where I've always held back somewhat - mainly because when I tried to make things dirtier and get the dirty talk going, I basically hit a brick wall. Not everyone is going to be an ideal 'sexual match'...

Twofish1way
Posted: Friday, June 06, 2014 8:37:51 AM

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Depends on the man, and how comfortable he makes me feel. When comfortable, anything goes!
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