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whorecrux
Posted: Monday, March 7, 2011 9:16:41 AM

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Why or why not? I find it way easier for some reason, and I'm a girl.

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SweetPenny
Posted: Monday, March 7, 2011 9:22:24 AM

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That's interesting. I find it easier to write from the female perspective. I am a woman and I think and feel like a woman.
Dancing_Doll
Posted: Monday, March 7, 2011 10:23:55 AM

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I haven't attempted writing from a male perspective with erotica yet, although this is in the works in the very near future. I'm not sure how easy or difficult its going to be. So far all my erotica writing has been in a first person female perspective since I find that's what works most naturally for me and provides a level of intimacy (both to myself and the reader).

In non-erotic fiction, the novel that I'm working on is actually from a male perspective (third person point of view though) and I have really enjoyed it and found creating that character and giving him a voice to be very natural.

I definitely think that it's an interesting experience or exercise to try to write from the opposite sex point of view. You'll learn a lot about yourself too in terms of what kinds of emotions, motives and preferences you assign to them, potentially becoming a reflection of how you perceive that gender as a whole.


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Posted: Monday, March 7, 2011 10:28:09 AM

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I find it much easier to write from a man's point of view. But hey, that's just me. lol





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Posted: Monday, March 7, 2011 11:04:58 AM

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lafayettemister wrote:
I find it much easier to write from a man's point of view. But hey, that's just me. lol


LOL...I'll second that...icon_smile

I did actually write a story from a female perspective when a couple of other male authors I know did it back in '09...it was rather tongue in cheek and somewhat "over the top" and for various reasons will never be posted here on Lush...

As far as anything "serious" though...I'd have to stick to the POV of my own sex...


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Posted: Monday, March 7, 2011 12:43:35 PM

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I have written from both male POV, female POV, and third person. As a woman, I love getting into the head space of a male character, and I think I have done it adequately, if not well.

For me, it isn't so much the point of view that is difficult, but to work out the other details of the story, and make sure that all things work as they should.

So few words, so much behind them. Writing isn't a formula, and it isn't easy. What works for one person does not work for another, regardless of the voice or point or view.
DirtyMartini
Posted: Monday, March 7, 2011 1:00:15 PM

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gypsymoth wrote:
but to work out the other details of the story, and make sure that all things work as they should.



You know if your male POV character is having difficulty with things "working as they should"...they make pills for that now...

Just saying...


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DirtyMartini
Posted: Monday, March 7, 2011 1:04:27 PM

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Sorry, double post...how can I get rid of this???


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Jillicious
Posted: Monday, March 7, 2011 1:09:42 PM

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DirtyMartini wrote:
Sorry, double post...how can I get rid of this???


Maybe we could make a pill for it.

I'm currently trying to write a story from the male's POV. I'm not sure if I can perv it up enough to pull it off so it may never get published here.

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KillianRussell
Posted: Wednesday, March 9, 2011 5:38:09 PM

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Kinda like working out at the gym , gender bending as a writer is great exercise if nothing else
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Posted: Sunday, April 10, 2011 3:47:15 PM

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Agree,

I tend to want the girl the have awesome sex, so I think of what she wants. THen I can write from that perspective. If I were to want it for myself, I'll write it for my needs in mind, Wldnt I. Like above sys. and I guess, if you are not naturally inclined to have a theory of mind for the other, then excersise it....In other words, actually put yourself in the others shoes, and youll probably expand your tallents...

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Posted: Thursday, May 26, 2011 2:02:50 PM

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Posted: Saturday, May 28, 2011 2:35:26 PM

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I'm writing a story now that is from the males POV. It's pretty much the first time. I began in the female's voice but the story just wasn't working for me. I had great elements but they would not gel in a way that I found exciting. But then I started playing with the characters more and I realized the challenge of doing it from his perspective exciting me and so I think it will turn out well.

I'm trying to not make the fact that it's a guy intimidate me. I'm focusing on who HE is as a person and character and hoping the rest takes care of itself.

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Guest
Posted: Wednesday, June 8, 2011 3:53:06 PM

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It's difficult for me to answer this question in terms of 'easier' versus 'more difficult'. To me it's just as easy to write from a woman's or a man's POV, but the real question that I ask myself is 'how credible is the result?' That's a question that women readers can answer, not one that I can answer myself.
Jezziebelle
Posted: Sunday, June 12, 2011 3:08:41 PM

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I always find it easiest and best to write from my own perspective. My most popular stories are always the ones that are my deep dark desires worked out on paper, just thinking about what I want and how I want to feel...

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Posted: Tuesday, June 14, 2011 12:29:31 AM

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I believe I can write reasonably well from the male perspective, but naturally I lean toward the female perspective.

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Posted: Sunday, October 4, 2015 4:23:27 PM

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Not easier but more challenging. I need to use my experience with men to try and think like a man. I have three men FWB and I often refer to them for their opinion of how they would act or perform in the situation I am writing about.
The female aspect comes naturally through experience. Being bisexual helps enormously.
Mysteria27
Posted: Sunday, October 4, 2015 5:57:58 PM

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I love writing from the man's point of view. I think I'm rather good at it.

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Well, you should feel that way since, imo, you are. I've had luck with the female POV, including my contest winner many long years ago.

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I've struggled with it. I guess I'm always afraid I'll make the man sound to feminine. I think male POV stories are great when the are well written... but then again... that's true with any story.

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Posted: Monday, October 5, 2015 12:19:02 PM

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Possibly the reverse of this?


(Okay, I'm kidding... don't hurt me)

I've written from both perspectives. I don't know that my female characters are very believable - well, they're probably on par with most female porn characters, which is to say, they're probably not very believable. For that matter, my male characters probably aren't that great either. Thank God for suspension of disbelief.

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sexual41
Posted: Tuesday, October 6, 2015 7:52:28 PM

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I think it might be harder to write from a woman's perspective. Her feelings, and little nuances could be tough to get right. Would be interesting to collaborate, though.
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I write true stories and when I got his permission to write Residue, it was with the understanding that he'd assist me with filling in the blanks. I wish I could take credit for being so creative, but the reality is that those are his true thoughts, actions, and words, and I was just transcribing.
HeraTeleia
Posted: Wednesday, October 7, 2015 9:15:29 AM

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I don't know. It's a challenge, to be sure, to write well from a male POV when you're female (and I'd imagine vice versa, for male writers).

The only story I've posted written from the male protagonist's POV is "Silken Smoke", which has done okay in the year or so it's been up. It was a piece written for a male friend with a fetish for women smoking. I didn't have any real input from him on the story, but what helped substantially in writing it was that I am intimately familiar with the Hotel Sorrento, where the story is set. Thus, pretty much everything in the story, except for the actual characters and the actual sex parts, is nonfiction, right down to the description of the Hunt Club's chairs and the hotel room itself.

Of course, all of my stories with the exception of one--"Falling"--are set in real places that I've actually spent substantial time in, so there's that. I'm not terribly imaginative about settings--for proof, go read "Neighbours", which describes my yard and house in meticulous detail; even the year and vineyard that produced the Riesling the female protagonist serves her guest is what I actually had in the fridge at the time. I should really break out of the habit of using familiar places as settings for my pieces, I know, but it's just so much easier to describe convincingly places and things that I am familiar with than to create a setting out of whole cloth.

I'd like to try my hand at writing another story written from the male POV, but just haven't been able to make the time--it certainly takes me more time and effort to write well from the POV of the opposite sex. In particular, editing the story and checking for continuity (making quite sure, for instance, that I didn't accidentally slip into the female POV at any point in the story) is much more time consuming than editing and checking for continuity in pieces written from the female POV.

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Posted: Wednesday, October 7, 2015 7:09:17 PM

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What is that point of view, huh ? lol

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