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MyLifeIsBro17
Posted: Friday, June 03, 2011 10:01:47 PM

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Every girl I have talked to this year practically wants to destroy the existence of anal sex why do yall hate it so much?
bsexy19
Posted: Friday, June 03, 2011 10:45:12 PM

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Look, I don't HATE it personally...but you try shoving something like a cucumber up your ass and tell me how much you like it? lol
Guest
Posted: Friday, June 03, 2011 10:45:51 PM

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hi! im a girl and i really would be very very sad if the existence of anal were destroyed!

*edit* wait!! godd! that wasnt what the rapture was about was it??!
Beckey
Posted: Saturday, June 04, 2011 4:02:12 AM

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It can be great but it must be done very gently wilth lots of lube. Very gently..
AllieMac
Posted: Saturday, June 04, 2011 4:43:44 AM

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bsexy19 wrote:
Look, I don't HATE it personally...but you try shoving something like a cucumber up your ass and tell me how much you like it? lol




Lfunny

Agreed completely.............
carmen_has36
Posted: Saturday, June 04, 2011 5:03:59 AM

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A naive statement to say everybody hates it and 'wants to destroy it'.
You have obviously NOT talked to very many girls.

If you think anal sex will hurt; it will.
The girl HAS to want to try it & the guy has to not think the girl is a porn star.
It takes trust, patience, relaxation & lube.
Lush stories treat anal sex as if it is easy & it is not.
kinkitten
Posted: Saturday, June 04, 2011 5:09:15 AM

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not all girls hate anal. it is actually extremely pleasurable if done gently with lube. i suggest to try something like a finger in there first if the girl has never tried anal to get her used to the feeling.

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sweetconcubine
Posted: Saturday, June 04, 2011 5:50:27 AM

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I think some women who say that are afraid of it. Or they may have had a partner that was rough. The ladies above are right. When first starting out with anal it CANNOT be done roughly. The partner, I will say the man, has to be slow and gentle. The tissues are delicate and does not self lubricate like the vagina.

The first time I had anal, my partner was rough and inconsiderate. It took me a long time to want to try it again. My next anal partner was slow and patient. Every step was done in super slo-mo until I felt comfortable, it was amazing. As a consequence I enjoy anal to this day.

I wish my first partner wasn't such a totally selfish prick, I would have been enjoying anal for many more years.

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flytoomuch
Posted: Saturday, June 04, 2011 6:58:44 AM

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Beckey is spot on. Your partner needs to be very patient. You need to use lots and lots of lubricant and keep getting more. Start small with a finger or thin vibrator and RELAX her....make sure everything is ok before you go any further. You need to be very patient and not expect the first time to be a home run. This takes practice and the key is lubrication and relaxation in my experience. If she is relaxed and the lubrication is there things can work out quite well. Combining a talented tongue on her clit with a finger or thin vibrator in the bum can result in explosive orgasms the likes of which I don't think you can really get many other ways.
Guest
Posted: Saturday, June 04, 2011 7:14:00 AM

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Each to there own ... some girls don't like giving oral to there guy, some guys don't like giving oral to there woman ...

Really no big deal ... I except we are who we r and to expect is not a good way to be in a relationship.

From past experience, I'd have to suggest the comments above by the ladies are spot on ... slowly, gently and lube but done correctly many woman enjoy anal and include a rabbit/vib for the extra pleasure, but this is a womans decision ... not a mans!

Swollen
Posted: Saturday, June 04, 2011 8:04:49 AM

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Thanks to Lush !! Anal is a relatively new experience for me.

I can't imagine 'giving' myself in a more intimate way, and the closeness resulting from it, is in itself is a major turn on in my opinion. I agree, total trust in your partner is key, but if you can get it right together, it's mind-blowing.
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Posted: Saturday, June 04, 2011 10:26:02 AM

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I don't "hate" it but I really have to be in the mood. I have had guy's beg for it and I have said no. Also, I have demanded it and of course the guy complied. Anal sex is pure raw sex. There is nothing romantic about it. I have no problem giving a guy instructions to make sure I enjoy it and he better follow them.
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Posted: Saturday, June 04, 2011 12:58:19 PM

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One partner was rough with me, and I got turned off to anal completely.

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Posted: Saturday, June 04, 2011 1:06:08 PM

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I've found it to be reeeeally uncomfortable, even when my partner was gentle. It's not something i'd really want to try again, maybe with the right person i would. It was just a really unusual feeling, and quite off putting, like it was only for my partner's pleasure and not mine.

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Posted: Saturday, June 04, 2011 2:10:47 PM

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bsexy19 wrote:
Look, I don't HATE it personally...but you try shoving something like a cucumber up your ass and tell me how much you like it? lol


The girl has a point. A lot of guys (no, not all) will expect girls to be willing to try anal sex...but a lot of guys (again, not all) would throw an absolute paddy if you suggested sticking something up their asses.

But yeah, it's naive to say that all girls hate it. Maybe you're just going about it wrong evil4
MMonroe
Posted: Saturday, June 04, 2011 3:02:02 PM

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LittleBambi wrote:
bsexy19 wrote:
Look, I don't HATE it personally...but you try shoving something like a cucumber up your ass and tell me how much you like it? lol


The girl has a point. A lot of guys (no, not all) will expect girls to be willing to try anal sex...but a lot of guys (again, not all) would throw an absolute paddy if you suggested sticking something up their asses.


Never a truer word spoken. Same as guys expecting you to swallow yet look at you repulsed at the suggestion he tastes himself



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Guest
Posted: Saturday, June 04, 2011 3:37:10 PM

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I don't think anal is very romantic
but it is very primal and not for every woman...
Swollen
Posted: Saturday, June 04, 2011 3:46:06 PM

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allenfreed wrote:
I don't think anal is very romantic
but it is very primal and not for every woman...


Well I must be lucky, cause I've certainly found the romance in it!
Nikki703
Posted: Saturday, June 04, 2011 4:39:13 PM

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You should get the facts before you make such a broad statement!!

I happen to love anal. I will admit at first it was a little painful but once I got used to it and the guy was gentle and not just "pile driving" my ass, it became very pleasurable. The key is be very lubed and relaxed, to first use fingers and toys to get used to the feeling and to be with someone who excites you very much. I enjoy it with men and especially with women. Nothing like getting fucked anally with a strap-on while she also plays with my clit. Or having my pussy licked while I am filled anally with a dildo or anal beads!! My best orgasms have cum while also getting some type of anal stimulation.
Marley11
Posted: Saturday, June 04, 2011 5:17:53 PM

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Don't hate it but I have to be in the mood for it & it has to be with the right person or should I say with a person who knows how to do it right.

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thesilkyknot
Posted: Saturday, June 04, 2011 8:11:36 PM

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i think its not the 'anal sex she hates'.............its the way a guy is giving...that she might hate
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Posted: Saturday, June 04, 2011 10:42:04 PM

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MMonroe wrote:
LittleBambi wrote:
bsexy19 wrote:
Look, I don't HATE it personally...but you try shoving something like a cucumber up your ass and tell me how much you like it? lol


The girl has a point. A lot of guys (no, not all) will expect girls to be willing to try anal sex...but a lot of guys (again, not all) would throw an absolute paddy if you suggested sticking something up their asses.


Never a truer word spoken. Same as guys expecting you to swallow yet look at you repulsed at the suggestion he tastes himself


YES. That gets right on my nerves. Or even better, they decide they want to cum somewhere on you (usually over your front) and then won't touch you?? angry7
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Posted: Saturday, June 04, 2011 10:46:07 PM

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LittleBambi wrote:
MMonroe wrote:
LittleBambi wrote:
bsexy19 wrote:
Look, I don't HATE it personally...but you try shoving something like a cucumber up your ass and tell me how much you like it? lol


The girl has a point. A lot of guys (no, not all) will expect girls to be willing to try anal sex...but a lot of guys (again, not all) would throw an absolute paddy if you suggested sticking something up their asses.


Never a truer word spoken. Same as guys expecting you to swallow yet look at you repulsed at the suggestion he tastes himself


YES. That gets right on my nerves. Or even better, they decide they want to cum somewhere on you (usually over your front) and then won't touch you?? angry7

agreed. unless a guy is willing to try something himself (or the equivalent of it) he shouldn't expect a girl to let him do it to her.
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LittleBambi wrote:
MMonroe wrote:
LittleBambi wrote:
bsexy19 wrote:
Look, I don't HATE it personally...but you try shoving something like a cucumber up your ass and tell me how much you like it? lol


The girl has a point. A lot of guys (no, not all) will expect girls to be willing to try anal sex...but a lot of guys (again, not all) would throw an absolute paddy if you suggested sticking something up their asses.


Never a truer word spoken. Same as guys expecting you to swallow yet look at you repulsed at the suggestion he tastes himself


YES. That gets right on my nerves. Or even better, they decide they want to cum somewhere on you (usually over your front) and then won't touch you?? angry7


Wow, where are you girls finding such lame guys? geek

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Dancing_Doll wrote:
LittleBambi wrote:
MMonroe wrote:
LittleBambi wrote:
bsexy19 wrote:
Look, I don't HATE it personally...but you try shoving something like a cucumber up your ass and tell me how much you like it? lol


The girl has a point. A lot of guys (no, not all) will expect girls to be willing to try anal sex...but a lot of guys (again, not all) would throw an absolute paddy if you suggested sticking something up their asses.


Never a truer word spoken. Same as guys expecting you to swallow yet look at you repulsed at the suggestion he tastes himself


YES. That gets right on my nerves. Or even better, they decide they want to cum somewhere on you (usually over your front) and then won't touch you?? angry7


Wow, where are you girls finding such lame guys? geek


angry7

This again...

Cum is gross to most guys, it's because it's cum. Whether it's his or not. It's cum, from a penis, attached to a man... With balls. Do you really want to see your man fucking eating his own cum or playing with it or some shit? Is that sexy now?

Some girls don't like licking a guy's butt-hole even thought they like having theirs licked... Is she lame? Or does she just not like man ass? How about ass to mouth? If I'm willing to lick a dildo that's been in a girls ass does it make the girl lame if she won't suck on my cock after anal sex? Same shit...






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Posted: Sunday, June 05, 2011 1:00:51 AM

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in my case, i have admitted emotional issues that keep me from enjoying it - wouldn't be surprised if i'm the only one - something to consider, guys, before you get too bent out of shape about a girl being "gun shy" :)

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Posted: Sunday, June 05, 2011 1:28:16 AM

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Like most things sexual, given the right partner and the right circumstance, I find myself trying things I thought I'd never do. Some have worked and some haven't, some things I liked with 1 partner, didn't work with others. I have had bad, good and better anal sex, not amazing, but I'm still open to the opportunity. icon_smile

Vita
Posted: Sunday, June 05, 2011 1:38:48 AM

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Well, in general, I think the basic premise here (that women don't like anal) is a bit faulty to begin with, but beyond that, I generally agree with the sentiments expressed here. To paraphrase and expand:

You can't expect to shove your cock into a girl's ass right away if she's never tried anal before. You have to build up to that point. I generally suggest starting with other forms of anal stimulation, especially rimming and gentle digital stimulation (without insertion). If she responds positively to this over several sessions, try proceeding up to the insertion of a (well lubed) finger or other small (and I do mean small) object into her ass. It should be noted that while the initial penetration of the anus can be accomplished with just a bit of pressure, the interior muscles will tend to tighten reflexively at this intrusion (even for a practiced receiver of anal sex). Giving these muscles a chance to relax is vital to proceeding without undue force (and therefore possible pain). If she is still enjoying things after several sessions of this, gradually increase the diameter of the penetrating object, ideally until it is at least as big as your penis. Even after you progress to putting your cock inside her, but sure to proceed gently until you know how she will respond to more vigorous activity.

That being said, some women really don't like anal sex. They may not like the way it feels, or they may think that it's dirty or in some case even unnatural. In the case of actual physical discomfort, you might be able to sooth some of that with a lot of good lube, but if she’s uncomfortable or even indifferent to having something in her ass, you should probably just forget it, since she will not be receiving any pleasure from the act, and may in fact be turned off or even hurt by it. In general, unless your partner is a sexual masochist, sex should be mutually pleasurable.

If the issue is a mental or a moral one, you can try talking about it, but be sensitive to the fact that sometimes all the rational arguments in the world are not going to change a girl’s mind. If you do manage to convince her to give it a try, proceed as above and do your best to minimize discomfort and maximize her pleasure during all stages of the process. Combining anal stimulation with simultaneous vaginal or clitoral stimulation can sometime be a big help there.

So if all of this seems like a huge amount of work, it is. True, you might get lucky and find a girl (like me, for example) who loves anal sex. I knew from the first time my husband touched my ass that I was eventually going to want him inside it. However, the best advice I can give is that if anal sex is important to you, discuss the subject before you ever reach the bedroom. It might feel awkward, but finding out how she feels about the subject right from the very beginning may save you from a lot of unsatisfied longing.

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Magical_felix wrote:
Dancing_Doll wrote:
LittleBambi wrote:
MMonroe wrote:
LittleBambi wrote:
bsexy19 wrote:
Look, I don't HATE it personally...but you try shoving something like a cucumber up your ass and tell me how much you like it? lol


The girl has a point. A lot of guys (no, not all) will expect girls to be willing to try anal sex...but a lot of guys (again, not all) would throw an absolute paddy if you suggested sticking something up their asses.


Never a truer word spoken. Same as guys expecting you to swallow yet look at you repulsed at the suggestion he tastes himself


YES. That gets right on my nerves. Or even better, they decide they want to cum somewhere on you (usually over your front) and then won't touch you?? angry7


Wow, where are you girls finding such lame guys? geek


angry7

This again...


Excellent questions... I'll try to answer them carefully and honestly. icon_biggrin

Magical_felix wrote:

Cum is gross to most guys, it's because it's cum. Whether it's his or not. It's cum, from a penis, attached to a man... With balls. Do you really want to see your man fucking eating his own cum or playing with it or some shit? Is that sexy now?

... Yes!


Magical_felix wrote:

Some girls don't like licking a guy's butt-hole even thought they like having theirs licked... Is she lame?

... Yes!


Magical_felix wrote:

How about ass to mouth? If I'm willing to lick a dildo that's been in a girls ass does it make the girl lame if she won't suck on my cock after anal sex?

... Yes!




Magical_felix
Posted: Sunday, June 05, 2011 9:19:23 AM

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Dancing_Doll wrote:


Excellent questions... I'll try to answer them carefully and honestly. icon_biggrin

Magical_felix wrote:

Cum is gross to most guys, it's because it's cum. Whether it's his or not. It's cum, from a penis, attached to a man... With balls. Do you really want to see your man fucking eating his own cum or playing with it or some shit? Is that sexy now?

... Yes!


Magical_felix wrote:

Some girls don't like licking a guy's butt-hole even thought they like having theirs licked... Is she lame?

... Yes!


Magical_felix wrote:

How about ass to mouth? If I'm willing to lick a dildo that's been in a girls ass does it make the girl lame if she won't suck on my cock after anal sex?

... Yes!




Was I surprised by Dancing_Doll's answers? ...NOlaughing8

But do the rest of you girls feel the same way? Does everything about sex have to be equal?

If a guy wants to fuck a girl in the ass must he be willing to have the girl shove a cucumber in his brown eye???

Must a guy swallow his own cum if he expects his girl too???

THESE are the pressing issues of the day!!!



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