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Chloeee__xx
Posted: Sunday, September 11, 2011 2:31:41 PM

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right, i've already told my boyfriend that i like it when he's in control and we dabble in a bit of light bondage now and again, but i really like the idea of him being in complete control of me, as in the kind of 'Master/slave' thing. i'm just too embarrassed to tell him, plus i wouldn't know how to suggest it. :/ i just wanna try it out with him (if he's willing) but like i said, i don't know how to go about doing it. :( helppppp? xx

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Guest
Posted: Monday, September 12, 2011 10:53:52 AM

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well you can try slipping the word "master" in while you are engaged...you know, sort of start planting the seed..
WellMadeMale
Posted: Tuesday, September 13, 2011 7:44:33 AM

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You might think about selecting a story or four from the Lush library. There are several fine tales here.

Something with the general theme which turns you on greatly...and email your man the web link or the actual story via email.

If he reads it and likes it...you'll probably know. Likewise, if you freak him out...well, there ya have it.

Most intelligent people are introspective and doubt themselves while many fucktards are proudly over-confident. - a tip of the hat to Charles Bukowski
Jingle
Posted: Tuesday, September 13, 2011 2:11:48 PM

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In keeping with the 'testing the water' theme, bring home some porn on the subject to watch together. If he seems to like it, feel free to show how much it turns you on. And, too, if he sees that you like it, he might be more willing to try it.

I understand your shyness in coming out and telling him. If you're finding it hard to say it in words, sounds and reactions are good for giving him a clue. Bring some of the stuff into your environment, be it stories, porn, or some new gear, and let him see how it excites you. If it turns you on, he'll most likely want to join in. :)

sassycheergirl
Posted: Tuesday, September 13, 2011 5:06:16 PM

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Just be up front and totally honest with him...You would want him to be honest with you right? If he is unsure have him look online about it to get more information. Hope it turns out well for you! Good Luck!!


*smiles, hugs, and lollipops*



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SubTiggy
Posted: Wednesday, September 14, 2011 10:25:33 PM

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Little things, riffing on what others have said...

Even simpler than 'Master'....use the word 'Sir'. It allows for a bit more freedom and, from my experience, isn't as threatening to a person who is unfamiliar with D/s scenes and lifestyle.

Besides, if you're not 100% about his reactions and you want to try this out...starting small with stories and videos is a great idea. Getting him to read up on some of the simpler aspects of D/s culture, and read along with him. Always be opento questions and concerns that he might have. and start out nice and slow.

Good luck =)

So this is what is feels like to like the idea and act of writing. Awesome!

If interested, check out my stories....especially proud of my new series...
Buz
Posted: Thursday, September 15, 2011 5:49:44 PM

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I am not into sexual domination but would rather have domination in football.





beinggood
Posted: Tuesday, October 04, 2011 2:27:37 AM

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I love being dominated by my Master. However there is no abuse in our relationship. but to have a man protect me and tell me no...mmmmmm awesome

doing my best to be good..
lottatush
Posted: Thursday, October 06, 2011 11:54:05 AM

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Just as you finish and are comming down from the euphoria, say something like "wow, that was great, I want to do that a lot more"
Devon83
Posted: Friday, March 16, 2012 3:04:40 AM

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I am sure he will not complain!!!!!
Ravyn
Posted: Friday, March 16, 2012 5:18:43 PM

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Buz wrote:
I am not into sexual domination but would rather have domination in football.


And yet you post in a BDSM thread and a subject entitled domination.....Hmm.....

Guest
Posted: Friday, March 16, 2012 7:53:52 PM

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sassycheergirl wrote:
Just be up front and totally honest with him...You would want him to be honest with you right? If he is unsure have him look online about it to get more information. Hope it turns out well for you! Good Luck!!


I think you should go with this. Very well put sassycheergirl
Guest
Posted: Monday, March 26, 2012 12:11:38 PM

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i love a man to dominate me-always-the way it SHOULD be.
Duralex87
Posted: Monday, March 26, 2012 7:07:34 PM

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there's a lot sense in the "subtle moves" posted higher. But what if he's just a "normal guy" more prone to alternated or reverse roleplay? May you please keep updating your progress.

Trying to sound cool. Too much work left.
Guest
Posted: Monday, April 09, 2012 6:54:48 AM

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True and natural dominants (male or female) demonstrate their personality through actions and words. The "natural-born leader" shows it when called upon. The "control" needn't be enforced with sadism or brutality, however. Many subs/slaves talk about "The Look" -- there's something in the eyes, the voice, the sheer expression of a dominant that most people recognize as "Obey!" or simply "Don't mess with this person". It doesn't have to be fear necessarily, but it is total respect.

There's also a lot of talk, especially from newcomers, about "How can I become a Dominant?" I believe either you have it or you don't. Strength of character is important, too, but it's not about being a "control freak", rather it's being in control of yourself and easily confident. Submissives are crafty and can tell in a heartbeat if someone is dominant or not.
TJRogue
Posted: Monday, April 09, 2012 8:48:57 AM

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You already play with some light bondage, so during one of those great bondage fuck sessions, when he is really worked up and pounding you hard, start to talk dirty to him. Say things to him like “My body belongs to you; use my body; You own me; that’s it, fuck me like a slut; fuck me hard; fuck me like your slave” It may intensify his excitement and open the door to a conversation after where you tell him exactly what you want.
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